Our Hotwives

I am interested to know a bit more about how the marital sex life changes, from the perspective of hotwives, once they take the plunge.

The alternatives below are my attempt to suss out what marital sex was like for you and what it is like now that you are fucking other men besides (or instead of) your husband.

I am supposing here that "intensity" of sexual relationship is independent of the actual amount of fucking that a husband and wife do with each other: I am convinced, for example, that the sexual intensity of Paul Pines' marriage is very great, even though he and his wife have not fucked each other in years. On the other hand, I know (firsthand - ahem!) that for some of us, the sheer amount of fucking that occurs between us is a very good index of the intensity of our sex relations.

Accordingly, checking one of the top two alternatives would suggest that hotwifing has "improved" your marital sex life in such a way that you feel it is better than before. Also these two may not be completely distinct for some people and so I ask which of the two - intensity or balance - is more improved.

Checking one of the middle two would suggest that fucking other men may have improved lots of things for you, but one of them was not the marital sex relationship, which has remained pretty much as it was.

I don't think the fifth needs explanation.

Although I would like only the women to answer the Poll, I would very much welcome commentary from others on the questions.

None of the above...

I'm looking for the option that says "remained unchanged - our martial sex was great before, and still is."

So, no change?

Thanks for replying - I know I didn't think of everything!!

I would say even though the frequency is much less than in the beginning, the intensity is way higher than anything either one of us has ever experienced before. Interesting poll!

I don't know that the intensity of our sex has changed but the intimacy certainly has. For me there is a level of trust that has developed from what we had prior.

I answer the first choice but I not know if intensity really word for description of it. I say more erotic and fun. Maybe that add up to intense?

Before it good sex life but kind same routine usually for us. Either in shower or on couch or in bed but always oral on him then oral on me then him get on me. Sometimes me ride. But me usually trying not make so much noise or gush from shame of it. Very conservative.

Then Jason get hold of me and there no being quiet possible and gushing so much it just routine thing. It also go from like only making love and duty of wife to this is naughty and fun as fun can be. Not misunderstand please I enjoyed the duty but I think it just because I am him wife. After hotwife experience I see it just be fun.

The real fun and intense of it really happen when I learn erotic stories and start sharing experience each time in naughty way. At first Jason just share details with me not present. Then me share details but clinical. Then I learn erotica and WOW that do get intense for my husband. Me too! So I write this and think intense is right word now.

Adults Only: By far, our sex life has greatly improved since our choosing this lifestyle. We had been married 7 years at the time and we both knew that we had less erotic interests when together for some reason... However, once we started role playing, this was when I found out about my husband's fantasy of sharing me with other men and it turned me on also. I know that Jim has told me that he has learned a lot of ideas from watching certain men with me at the swinger clubs we attend...they were more experienced or skilled in it, because he could see how I reacted to them in bed. It's like my lovers were "coaching" my husband, like mentors for him about how to best sexually stimulate me. I have no complaints. However, the one thing that stands out for us is our enhanced level of open communication and trust. We definitely feel a stronger level of intimacy in our relationship.

Amy

We had a great sex life before, and it only improved further afterwards. I learned so much forum other men that I could incorporate into our marital sex. My husband seemed to be more excited knowing that I had been with other men, and was even more willing to make sure that he pleasured me right. We have gradually evolved to a more cuckolding type of situation. He no longer penetrates me, but we still make love in other ways, and I think that it is enormously erotic and satisfying for both of us.

My sex life has always been good. I can and do have sex with any one I want. I’m 45 and I’m having the best sex ever. I prefer younger men in their twenties or even 18 or 19. They have great stamina, cum three or even four times a session. And I’m at my sexual peak with an amazing sex drive. It’s the perfect combination!

Amazing result that hotwifing improved sex life for 92 % of couples. Same for us!

Fucking other men increased my wife's interest in fucking more men. It also translated into her wanting more sex at home as well. She just wanted a lot more. In addition to making sex better for both of us, we are also closer emotionally.

I should note that our relationship is continually strengthened and enhanced due to me being with other men. I have been asked if I’m going to get over this phase and stop seeing other men. I’m like why would I do that. This makes us both happy and we both have a great time participating. It’s not really a phase. It’s what makes us happy.
-Tammy

Including other people in our love life definitely enriches and excites it. There is also a wonderful effect of group sex that makes it more textured than 1-1 sex.