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Re: My story

Unread post by SSQ » Wed Feb 20, 2019 9:34 am

Mmm... I'm happy today. Charles called me last night and had to cancel our dinner plans because of an emergency at work, so I didn't think I was going to get to see him. But he showed up at my door four hours later with a slice of my favourite cheesecake and told me he came as soon as he could. We were only going to get a couple of hours together because he had to be back at work early in the morning, but it meant a lot that he showed me that I'm a priority to him.

And then Henry, being the sweetie he is, told Charles he was welcome to stay over so he didn't have to rush away and could just go to work from our house this morning. We stayed up a little too late with sex and cuddles and chatting... but it was worth every minute :)
It's all fun until someone gets hurt... and then it's more fun! :whip:

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Re: My story

Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Wed Feb 20, 2019 9:58 am

Ooh cheesecake and cuddles after sex? Wow now that's a perfect ending to any day!!

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Unread post by SSQ » Thu Apr 04, 2019 11:06 am

Poking my head back in... do I want to be back here yet? Or at all, perhaps?

My health hasn't been great lately and my tolerance for crap is at an all time low. But I do miss having an audience for my posts.

Things continue to go well with both Henry and Charles. My 1st anniversary (5 years together) with Henry is next month, and my 1st dating anniversary with Charles is in the summer. I'd like to do something fun with Charles, but budget and time is an issue. Still kinda thinking about that. I'd love to do 4 days in Cuba or something but I think it'll probably be out of reach financially. I want to figure something fun though, because Charles lives with roommates and I live with my family, so having total privacy and no responsibilities sounds pretty awesome to me.

Henry is making plans for ours ;) something low key, I think. We've been saving a nice bottle of champagne and I think we're going to do our usual cheese & charcuterie evening followed by some BDSM play and hot tub.

I'm not getting nearly as much sex as I'd like to, but I've also noticed that I'm having rather serious desensitization issues. I've been to see a specialist and we haven't solved it yet. Obviously it's not the usual issues with guilt or shame around sex, or issues with a partner! Even solo it's taking me much longer to reach orgasm and they're not as intense, nor can I keep going the way I used to. At 36, this shouldn't be an issue. They've given me some prescription sensitization cream, but I haven't tried it yet. The big issue for me is that my "new" situation is well within normal parameters. The problem is that I was way outside of normal before and now I know what I'm missing!!! I want my orgasmic body back!
It's all fun until someone gets hurt... and then it's more fun! :whip:

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Unread post by Whosbeensleeping » Thu Apr 04, 2019 7:08 pm

Hope you stick around, and hope you get to the root or should I say "the bottom" of things! Xo

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Unread post by Kentros » Sun Apr 07, 2019 6:37 am

Nice to see you back SSQ! And thanks for the update. You are always authentic.

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Re: My story

Unread post by SSQ » Sun Apr 07, 2019 10:56 am

Ares wrote:
Sun Apr 07, 2019 10:44 am
SSQ wrote:
Thu Apr 04, 2019 11:06 am
Poking my head back in... do I want to be back here yet? Or at all, perhaps?
Let me take some of the stress out of your life and answer this question for you. YES you do, damn it! I for one (and I know that I'm not alone) love your take on individual ownership of sexuality and handling non-vanilla relationships.

So glad to hear that your personal life is kickin' butt! I am truly happy for you. As far as orgasms? Pffft, welcome to my world! I've always had a difficult time. This lifestyle has seemed to help with that but I've still got to be in just the right headspace to get there.

Stick with us, SSQ , your input is valuable and appreciated.
Aww, thanks Ares. You're cool beans.

Honestly, I think something is wrong. The change has been pretty dramatic and incredibly frustrating. Even though I am still well within "normal", it's definitely not normal for me. It's now taking me 10-15 minutes of direct stimulation to get to orgasm, when before I was like 1-2 minutes. Even when I'm masturbating! And one isn't setting off a massive string of them the way it used to. I used to be pretty awesomely insane in my ability to come so I know what I'm missing!

I am wondering if even though my last Mirena IUD was fine, that my body is not handling this one well. I've noticed some differences and my doctor says that we don't always respond the same way oddly enough. I am starting to think my current sexual desires have been more in my head and less in my body- that I'm interested in sex because I WANT to have sex and not because I'm actually horny. But they tested my hormones and they were fine... so I don't know. If I get the Mirena removed though I don't have a lot of options. I fuck both my men bareback and since I have issues with condoms I don't want to go back to those. Take hormonal birth control off the table and the copper IUD is already a no go, and there isn't much left short of sterilization. And all that for something that only *might* be the issue :(
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Unread post by viking43 » Sun Apr 07, 2019 4:28 pm

This can also happen to males, I have had similar problems for the last couple of years, and I think you are onto something. It definitely has something to do with what goes on inside the head in relation to how your body reacts to it. I have noticed that on some days, the thoughts that make me really horny doesn't work as well as on other days, and even though I want to have sex and don't have any problems with getting and keeping an erection, it will be impossible for me to cum - the sensitivity is just not the same on those days. It's not a major problem for me, only an annoyment.

I think "more in my head and less in my body" is a good way of describing it or maybe "my brain and body's ability to process the signals is not at level with my wish to have sex".

I hope you find a solution or at least a good way around it.

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Unread post by SSQ » Mon Apr 15, 2019 4:29 pm

Things are still well here. Henry and I went to a BDSM party on Saturday and had a lovely time as usual. We brought a friend of ours and coTopped her which was a lot of fun. Just kink and not sex, but that's OK too.

Tomorrow is my usual date night with Charles. He's been working crazy hours lately so we've really only been seeing each other once per week, which I don't really like, but that's life, right? Our Tuesday night dates are sacrosanct, though- we've only missed two in the whole time we've been seeing each other, and once he was sick and once it was Christmas Day :)

When I'm in the mood I have some lovely stories from my hiatus to share, but we'll see how things go here.
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Unread post by Whosbeensleeping » Mon Apr 15, 2019 6:54 pm

Please, do tell! I am keen to hear more of your mouth-watering exploits! ;)

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Unread post by SSQ » Tue Apr 16, 2019 9:40 am

Whosbeensleeping wrote:
Mon Apr 15, 2019 6:54 pm
Please, do tell! I am keen to hear more of your mouth-watering exploits! ;)
Funny how appropriate that turn of phrase is. I will consider :)
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Unread post by SSQ » Wed Apr 17, 2019 5:24 pm

I just posted an update in my blog. Creampies are fun, wouldn't you say? ;)
It's all fun until someone gets hurt... and then it's more fun! :whip:

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Unread post by Whosbeensleeping » Wed Apr 17, 2019 6:01 pm

Lol, it does sound like there was some intense mouth-watering going on! It was a beautiful day today, and your words convey that you are a beautiful and sensual spirit!

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Unread post by SSQ » Sun Apr 21, 2019 10:00 am

Wonderful date day with my husband yesterday. All day long, kink and sex. We love doing a full day like this every once in a while when we can. It's very much a bonding thing.

And today I'll be going over to Charles' soon for a date. Happy me :)
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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Sun Apr 21, 2019 10:19 am

Hehe, I had to read that twice! The first time I thought it said "I'm going to be all over Charles soon"! LOL well that might be true too! :lol: :oops:

Two days in a row with two lucky guys. :up:

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Unread post by SSQ » Mon Apr 22, 2019 8:32 am

2inUPMichigan wrote:
Sun Apr 21, 2019 10:19 am
Hehe, I had to read that twice! The first time I thought it said "I'm going to be all over Charles soon"! LOL well that might be true too! :lol: :oops:

Two days in a row with two lucky guys. :up:
Oh, it most certainly was true! I've had a wonderful weekend.
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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Mon Apr 22, 2019 8:52 am

Well good for you!!

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Unread post by spongeworthy » Tue Apr 23, 2019 4:31 pm

Henry sounds like he gets it. So many guys treat their wives in this lifestyle like their personal porn stars and get all butt hurt if their wife doesn't play exactly according to his fantasy. She got attached to one guy (fell in love) and the only change I noticed from my perspective was that she was happier and hornier, so guess what? I was happy(er) and I never felt like I was being short changed.

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Unread post by SSQ » Wed Apr 24, 2019 10:09 am

spongeworthy wrote:
Tue Apr 23, 2019 4:31 pm
Henry sounds like he gets it. So many guys treat their wives in this lifestyle like their personal porn stars and get all butt hurt if their wife doesn't play exactly according to his fantasy. She got attached to one guy (fell in love) and the only change I noticed from my perspective was that she was happier and hornier, so guess what? I was happy(er) and I never felt like I was being short changed.
Henry and I have been both open and poly from the beginning of our relationship. He most certainly does get it :) He's a wonderful husband. He made coffee for Charles this morning when they were on their way to work after Charles spent the night with me :)
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Unread post by SSQ » Thu Apr 25, 2019 1:59 pm

So Charles and I just booked a trip for our anniversary... I am so excited! I teased Henry that it's the perfect cuckold fantasy since he'll be driving us to the airport and then he'll be doing all the household jobs and taking care of kiddo while I'm lying on the beach with my boyfriend. He just laughed and said I could write it up any way I liked but we both know he's not a cuckold. I wouldn't want him to be, honestly- I like what we have together.

Henry is my submissive, but that isn't the same thing at all to us. We have a female led relationship, but one that recognizes and cares for his wants and needs. He just wants me to be happy, and he's pretty damn wonderful.

I am so, so lucky.

And OMG yes... 7 days on holiday with Charles! I can't wait :)
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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Thu Apr 25, 2019 2:27 pm

7 Days!! Oh how absolutely wonderful :up:

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Unread post by samlowen » Thu Apr 25, 2019 2:30 pm

After getting caught up on your postings here and your blog, all I can say is how happy I am for you, Henry and Charles! Have a wonderful anniversary!

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Unread post by Whosbeensleeping » Thu Apr 25, 2019 5:48 pm

That sounds pretty amazing! Thank you for sharing your journey.

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Unread post by SSQ » Wed May 08, 2019 1:44 pm

Things are still going well. Date night with Charles this week as usual, always good times :) And I posted some details in my blog today!

Not such great news on the hormonal issues front. Apparently I have a documented health condition which sucks, and there is a miracle drug that just came out that is designed specifically for women like me. But, it's not covered by my health plan and it's $400 a month which is totally out of reach for me. That's been a bit depressing.

It's like the cure is dangling right in front of me so I can go back to being my orgasmic self, but I can't get to it.
It's all fun until someone gets hurt... and then it's more fun! :whip:

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Unread post by SSQ » Sun May 12, 2019 9:13 am

Husbands Kandi wrote:
Sat May 11, 2019 11:36 pm
Regular date nights (or mornings) are wonderful! Hormonal issues on the other hand, not wonderful! Do you know if there are natural remedies that might work similar to the miracle drug (BS cost of prescriptions in this county) Naturopath? Herbalist? Flogging?
So far, I haven't looked into anything like that. I feel like there is some genuine physical issue going on and it just doesn't feel right. I'm hoping to try and exhaust potential medical remedies first and then go from there. What I need is a doctor or pharmacist to fuck and give me some samples :P Or maybe a sugar daddy?

Henry and I threw a party last night- just a regular thing for our friends, not a kink or a sex party or anything like that (although everyone is at least lifestyle friendly in our circle, generally, or at least aware). Chocolate martinis and Cards Against Humanity. It was a good night.

Charles came, too, and he wasn't planning to stay over since he had early morning plans with his family for Mother's Day, but he came up for a few minutes of cuddles and then wound up not being able to leave. Guess I am just irresistible :) We were both too tired to have sex but the cuddles were just wonderful. I really do love this man.

Henry has been wonderful too lately, especially since I have been feeling so out of sorts. He's been making all my favourite meals and pampering me so that I feel better.

How did I get so lucky again? Even when things aren't great, I still have Henry and Charles to be there for me :)
It's all fun until someone gets hurt... and then it's more fun! :whip:

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Unread post by SSQ » Thu May 16, 2019 3:09 pm

Such a lovely date night this week with Charles. Henry was home for the evening as well, and we drank chocolate martinis and talked about the upcoming trip. I am so excited to go away with Charles!

Lots of casual snuggles as well. Henry generally stays out of our way on date nights after dinner, if he's home, because he doesn't want to butt in on our date time. The two of them get along so well that sometimes it's easy for them to enjoy each other's company and lose track of me lol. But it was nice that when I got up for something, that I could go and put my arms around Henry, and Charles would often sidle up behind me. I enjoyed myself ;)

Charles always spends the night on one of our dates, and so after hanging out for a while we went upstairs and spent the next two hours having bedrocking sex. Charles and I share several kinks that Henry does not, and it's always fun to indulge ;)

And of course the cuddles and sweet nothings just make me melt...
It's all fun until someone gets hurt... and then it's more fun! :whip:

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