Actually, to take this further.. I have to say that I think this perspective is one of the single most damaging things that harms BOTH men and women. Mostly men.afagehi7 wrote: ↑Wed Nov 06, 2019 12:27 amI don't know how you do it. I can barely keep one partner emotionally fulfilled there is no way I could keep 2 women emotionally fulfilled. Sexually yes, emotionally no. I wonder if it's easier for you as a female as men generally don't require the same emotional levels as women as long as the sex is there. After reading, perhaps that isn't the case.
I can't even imagine how it must feel not to have an outlet for emotions. No one is made of stone; men have just been socialized that it's not okay to express those feelings. It's no wonder that the male rate of suicide is so high- imagine feeling hopeless or depressed and having no one to talk to about it because it's not "manly" to be sad or upset. It's a destructive and toxic trope. I don't believe for one single second that men feel less emotionally than women do; I believe they just suppress those emotions in a way that isn't healthy for anyone. It prevents them from connecting deeply in relationships, so men tend to have shallower support networks, and it harms emotional intimacy in romantic relationships because they don't connect as deeply to their romantic partners- or else go the other way and form an over the top codependent kind of connection since they don't get it anywhere else. I honestly believe that's why men are angry much of the time, or anger easily- because they don't have an outlet or experience in managing their feelings so all the negative ones just come out as rage. It is not a justification for bad choices, but I think it illustrates the harm caused to everyone by thinking this way.
So yes- men need emotional care in healthy relationships. Both my men do. Henry is much more experienced at dealing with his feelings and having open conversations about them. Charles is still figuring out what works for him, and that's okay. I am there for both of them. It's give and take, right? Some days I need them, some days they need me. That's what good relationships are all about.