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Unread post by afagehi7 » Mon Jun 03, 2019 2:34 am

Zucker - I feel your strife brother...I think we are padding the same canoe.

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Unread post by bernieshar » Tue Jun 04, 2019 4:30 am

When you want your lover/FB/FWB to show up at your door with a hard-on, what do you do?

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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Tue Jun 04, 2019 5:34 am

bernieshar wrote:
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When you want your lover/FB/FWB to show up at your door with a hard-on, what do you do?
Oh that's an easy question :lol:
Well first our house is a no play zone so I meet my FWB at a hotel. But if I want him to be thinking about me and be hard and waiting? I'll just text him saying I can't decide if I should wear panties or not. He will of course say not and I will give him a vague answer letting him wonder if I am driving through town to see him with no panties on. Yep, that should do it!
Remember sex begins in the mind! ;)

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Unread post by SSQ » Tue Jun 04, 2019 8:31 am

bernieshar wrote:
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When you want your lover/FB/FWB to show up at your door with a hard-on, what do you do?
I wouldn't. He's not a walking sex toy, and I'm not just a waiting hole to be fucked.
It's all fun until someone gets hurt... and then it's more fun! :whip:

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Unread post by gandhhotspot » Wed Jun 05, 2019 6:26 am

My husband and I really do like professional porn and we have read that some people have live videos of the wife with another man and husband watches and listens. Do you have any suggestions where we might find some real people enjoying cuckold sex?

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Unread post by Martamlg » Wed Jun 05, 2019 9:23 am

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... I hint that it's because she's been mistreated by men most of her life she can now turn the tables a bit on me, with no repercussions. .....

I think it shows our wives the suffering proves we love them, and they want that most of all. Am I right hotwives?
That is not my point. I haven't been mistreated by men (maybe the opposite :D ) I can't explain but it could be related with the humilliation but... definetly, I don't know. I quitted from trying to undertand me long ago.
I'm excited by the suffering itself not because it proves love or whatever.
It's diffcult for me to explain because... I don't really understand it!
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Unread post by Craigthecuckold » Thu Jun 06, 2019 5:43 pm

So I have been reading up on this site and other about having the I want you to cuckold me conversation. Reading from multiple sources about how you should get her thinking about sleeping with other men by asking her who she would sleep with if she had a free pass. I need to know from you lovely ladies what the correct answer is for us guys when she asks “who would you sleep with?”

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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Thu Jun 06, 2019 8:57 pm

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So I have been reading up on this site and other about having the I want you to cuckold me conversation. Reading from multiple sources about how you should get her thinking about sleeping with other men by asking her who she would sleep with if she had a free pass. I need to know from you lovely ladies what the correct answer is for us guys when she asks “who would you sleep with?”
Did another man give you the advice that asking her "who she would sleep with if she had a free pass" would get her thinking about playing with other men? And are these men with active hotwives? Sorry for the sarcasm but I really don't see the correlation at all between those two things.

Typically that hypothetical hall pass conversation is not a serious one. (not by any of the women I know anyway) I have to say we joked about it for years in our house but it was never anyone we knew more like some celebrity, never to be taken seriously.

If you are really going to ask that question of each other then are you telling the truth? Or are you starting out the conversation with a lie? I'm not understanding how their could be any other correct answer other than the truth.
You either have a name in mind or you don't. If you don't have any interest in having sex with anyone else, no interest at all than that is what you would say. I would not advise playing games with your answer.
The importance of communication on this journey is huge.
Seriously it is fine to say that you don't have anyone in mind but that you think it is hot that she does. (if she does)

It also doesn't make a lot of sense to be talking about hall passes for the reason that it could lead to her to thinking that you are interested in having sex with other women ... unless your focus is on swinging instead of hotwifing/cuckolding - again I am missing the point of how the hall pass conversation would help?
That is what I would think if my husband brought it up - that it was his way of talking about who he was interested in having a hall pass for.

An honest open conversation may be a little difficult but in the long run being more direct might get you the actual answers you are looking for.

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Unread post by feetuji » Fri Jun 07, 2019 3:56 am

QUESTION for VHW: I have a foot fetish, it started naturally in an era before internet. In my mind I was unique, thinking that at the eyes of others i could be a freak. Now i know that lots of men have it and its not a fashion thing like "hey guys, lets turn into foot fetish stuff". Its natural. What I was never able to understand is if there are women outthere with what i would call "reverse foot fetish", women who enjoy seeing men sucking their toes, playing with feet etc. So, i would like to ask you - hotwives that are on a relationship with submissive (not always) husbands - what is your relationship with feet and foot fetish lovers and what do you think about that? Do you take pleasure from the fact that you have a foot fetish lover? Or its an ugly fetish? Whats your toughts and feelings regarding all of this? Thanks!

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Unread post by mfm4bnc » Fri Jun 07, 2019 7:40 am

My cuckold fetish is quite strong, and I think about it every day. I am blessed with a wife I absolutely adore. I am also blessed with a wife who has off-the charts sex drive... sex usually lasts between one and two hours, and we have sex every night and all day on Sunday. (She is blessed with a body that starts to orgasm if you look at her wrong, and her refractory period gets shorter and shorter with each orgasm until she will just have one long continuous orgasm util she hyperventilates and passes out.) Before we we married, she had a stable of guys so she never had to go a night without sex, and on weekends she would often have a daytime date and then a night time date.

When I brought up cuckolding (six years ago) I botched the roll-out so to speak. I let out how consumed I am with the fantasy. We have role-played a lot, and done IRL play just enough so that when she calls me and teases me, I am not sure whether she is really on a date.

Here is the problem: I know that the fantasy is starting to make her feel objectified. A lot of her desire comes from the feeling of being desired. Feeling like a piece of my fantasy is not having the same effect on her. Her fantasy is to have me come home from work so hungry for her that I pin her to the wall when I come in, and then bend her over the couch on the way to the bedroom. I thought that the hotwife thing might give her that, as she is beautiful, fit, sassy, confident, and sexy... There are definitely people who would not be able to contain themselves if they had the chance... But she says she wants ME to be the one consumed with passion for her.

Here is my attempted solution: I have learned that there is really only about a week, mid-cycle, when she is aroused by hotwife role play or talk. I never bring it up anymore except during that week. I have the house clean when she gets home from work. I tell her how beautiful she is every day, and I compliment her mothering, how good she is at her job, how good she is at planning, how good she is to her parents, how much she makes me laugh, etc... etc... I bring her flowers, I write her cards, I text her that I am thinking of her... I pretty much treat her as I did when we were courting.

Here is the problem with my solution: I still get my best erections and best orgasms when she talks dirty to me. She is acutely aware of that. She knows me, and she knows that while I am not talking about it, I am still fantasizing about it.

So finally... The question: How can I meet her needs to feel passion directed at HER... Not passion related to a fantasy, but passion because I love her and find her sexy as fuck. I already spend the day making thoughtful gestures and making sure that she does not have to do any chores when she gets home from work. I am getting my needs met beautifully, but I want to make sure she is getting her needs met. What makes YOU feel valued for YOU and not for your role in a fantasy?

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Unread post by lifeisfun » Fri Jun 07, 2019 3:54 pm

QUESTION for VHW: Hi, I am 38 years old, new HotWife. This week I had my first experience as HotWife. It was good, we were connected well. It was our second meeting. From the first meeting, we found we were connecting well, and I decided to go with anything goes in the second meeting. Things went well but we both were kind of new to this concept so felt kind of mixed feeling. However, I was happy with the overall experience. I just felt that after this evening, our connection level dropped a little bit from his side. I am kind of distracted and mentally unstable, I want to see him again, talk to him little more. I can't stop thinking about him, I feel uneasy when I think what if he never contacts me again. This feeling is very disturbing me emotionally. What should I do to overcome this feeling or get him again?

Thanks

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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Fri Jun 07, 2019 6:29 pm

lifeisfun wrote:
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QUESTION for VHW: Hi, I am 38 years old, new HotWife. This week I had my first experience as HotWife. It was good, we were connected well. It was our second meeting. From the first meeting, we found we were connecting well, and I decided to go with anything goes in the second meeting. Things went well but we both were kind of new to this concept so felt kind of mixed feeling. However, I was happy with the overall experience. I just felt that after this evening, our connection level dropped a little bit from his side. I am kind of distracted and mentally unstable, I want to see him again, talk to him little more. I can't stop thinking about him, I feel uneasy when I think what if he never contacts me again. This feeling is very disturbing me emotionally. What should I do to overcome this feeling or get him again?

Thanks
There are men out there that are "hit it and quit it" guys and some of them put up a really good front. After they get what they want you will suddenly not be hearing from them or they will be busy. I know it is difficult - it happened to me too. I thought I would still be seeing a particular man and he kept telling me he wanted to, but it didn't happen. Did I feel some loss over that? Yes, I did. I felt sad because I saw potential for fun and there was a good connection - or so I thought anyway.
I wondered if I did something wrong, but it wasn't me it was him all along, he just didn't have the (ahem) let's just say he didn't have the "maturity" to just tell me that he didn't want to see me again. I finally just let him fade away and ended up finding someone even better.
Do I regret my experience with him? No :) it really was good - but I wish I had known that it was going to be only one time, I might have made some different choices.
If it doesn't happen again with this man - please don't let it diminish your enjoyment of the memory. You had a good time! That's great. Now you have that after play date drop where you need to process a little and think about things before you look around and decide what your next move is. He isn't the only man out there and let me tell you something I have learned.......there really are plenty of men out there to choose from. Just open your eyes and see the possibilities. Don't settle for less than what you deserve. There is a really great guy out there just waiting to meet you.
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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Sat Jun 08, 2019 6:11 am

lifeisfun wrote:
Sat Jun 08, 2019 5:37 am
2inUPMichigan wrote:
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QUESTION for VHW: Hi, I am 38 years old, new HotWife. This week I had my first experience as HotWife. It was good, we were connected well. It was our second meeting. From the first meeting, we found we were connecting well, and I decided to go with anything goes in the second meeting. Things went well but we both were kind of new to this concept so felt kind of mixed feeling. However, I was happy with the overall experience. I just felt that after this evening, our connection level dropped a little bit from his side. I am kind of distracted and mentally unstable, I want to see him again, talk to him little more. I can't stop thinking about him, I feel uneasy when I think what if he never contacts me again. This feeling is very disturbing me emotionally. What should I do to overcome this feeling or get him again?

Thanks
There are men out there that are "hit it and quit it" guys and some of them put up a really good front. After they get what they want you will suddenly not be hearing from them or they will be busy. I know it is difficult - it happened to me too. I thought I would still be seeing a particular man and he kept telling me he wanted to, but it didn't happen. Did I feel some loss over that? Yes, I did. I felt sad because I saw potential for fun and there was a good connection - or so I thought anyway.
I wondered if I did something wrong, but it wasn't me it was him all along, he just didn't have the (ahem) let's just say he didn't have the "maturity" to just tell me that he didn't want to see me again. I finally just let him fade away and ended up finding someone even better.
Do I regret my experience with him? No :) it really was good - but I wish I had known that it was going to be only one time, I might have made some different choices.
If it doesn't happen again with this man - please don't let it diminish your enjoyment of the memory. You had a good time! That's great. Now you have that after play date drop where you need to process a little and think about things before you look around and decide what your next move is. He isn't the only man out there and let me tell you something I have learned.......there really are plenty of men out there to choose from. Just open your eyes and see the possibilities. Don't settle for less than what you deserve. There is a really great guy out there just waiting to meet you.
Good luck and if you decide to get verified you can join us in the hidden lounge area for hot wives. :mrgreen:
Thanks for the reply! I certainly feel something lost, but cant do anything about it. When it comes to that kind of connection, the loss is more painful to get over with. Anyways, what would you suggest or recommend for the better experience next time? I am kind of not ready to move ahead for the next one. I feel I dont like anyone else :(

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I agree it isn't easy and it can take a little time. Some people can have sex with strangers and not need any connection- some don't even want to know their names.
Everyone is different and if you are someone that needs to get to know the man and feel a connection with him before playing don't compromise that.
You will know when you are ready and until then try to concentrate on the actual time you spent together and remember it fondly. As far as going forward how long are you spending getting to know someone before you meet in person? Do you make it clear that you are looking for something long term - like a fwb situation? Did you talk about how often you might be able to see each other?
I try to be upfront with my expectations. There was a man I was very interested in but he was unable or unwilling to commit to the frequency or consistency of visits that I wanted so I told him it wouldn't work.
Be patient with yourself and know what you are going through is completely normal.

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Unread post by Liese » Sat Jun 08, 2019 7:01 am

2wheel wrote:
Sat Jun 08, 2019 2:24 am
lifeisfun wrote:
Fri Jun 07, 2019 3:54 pm
QUESTION for VHW: Hi, I am 38 years old, new HotWife. This week I had my first experience as HotWife. It was good, we were connected well. It was our second meeting. From the first meeting, we found we were connecting well, and I decided to go with anything goes in the second meeting. Things went well but we both were kind of new to this concept so felt kind of mixed feeling. However, I was happy with the overall experience. I just felt that after this evening, our connection level dropped a little bit from his side. I am kind of distracted and mentally unstable, I want to see him again, talk to him little more. I can't stop thinking about him, I feel uneasy when I think what if he never contacts me again. This feeling is very disturbing me emotionally. What should I do to overcome this feeling or get him again?

Thanks
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Unread post by coastalkid » Sat Jun 08, 2019 10:24 am

I'm curious as to if any of you Hot Wives have ever used the "Hard On Truth Detector" with your husband. You know, where the wife has her hand on her husbands cock and notices whether he gets a hard on from whatever it is she is saying or asking of him. I know moving from talk to reality would require more discussion but have you used it informally? Is it just in stories? Have you ever noticed it not work?
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Unread post by SSQ » Sat Jun 08, 2019 12:09 pm

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I'm curious as to if any of you Hot Wives have ever used the "Hard On Truth Detector" with your husband. You know, where the wife has her hand on her husbands cock and notices whether he gets a hard on from whatever it is she is saying or asking of him. I know moving from talk to reality would require more discussion but have you used it informally? Is it just in stories? Have you ever noticed it not work?
That's pretty ridiculous. Not to mention just because someone is aroused by something, doesn't mean they actually want to do it. Case in point- the poster above who says that he can only talk about hotwifing during a specific week? Yeah... chances are that means it's never going to be a thing.

When I'm ovulating, which I assume is said week they reference, I've masturbated to some pretty out there porn because it happens to be hot to me at the time. I'd never have the slightest desire to actually DO any of it.

Women get wet sometimes watching monkeys fuck, there have been studies done. I can assure you that they are very likely not interested in bonobo sex :P I suspect it's similar for men.
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Unread post by coastalkid » Sat Jun 08, 2019 4:08 pm

SSQ wrote:
Sat Jun 08, 2019 12:09 pm
coastalkid wrote:
Sat Jun 08, 2019 10:24 am
I'm curious as to if any of you Hot Wives have ever used the "Hard On Truth Detector" with your husband. You know, where the wife has her hand on her husbands cock and notices whether he gets a hard on from whatever it is she is saying or asking of him. I know moving from talk to reality would require more discussion but have you used it informally? Is it just in stories? Have you ever noticed it not work?
That's pretty ridiculous. Not to mention just because someone is aroused by something, doesn't mean they actually want to do it. Case in point- the poster above who says that he can only talk about hotwifing during a specific week? Yeah... chances are that means it's never going to be a thing.

When I'm ovulating, which I assume is said week they reference, I've masturbated to some pretty out there porn because it happens to be hot to me at the time. I'd never have the slightest desire to actually DO any of it.

Women get wet sometimes watching monkeys fuck, there have been studies done. I can assure you that they are very likely not interested in bonobo sex :P I suspect it's similar for men.
Yeah me either! I get what you're saying! Just sifting fantasy from reality one crazy notion at a time. Thank you.
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Unread post by feetuji » Sun Jun 09, 2019 11:55 pm

QUESTION: Similar to other topics here, i would love too see hotwives speaking about the most exciting things ever done.

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Unread post by tunafish » Mon Jun 10, 2019 6:42 pm

I just happened on your reply to the gent that posed the
the question. Thank you. For us you’re spot on.

We’ve gone through most of the same scenario. My wife is willing to go Ali f with my HW fetish and even makes up guys we know she had dates with. They’re vivid and very sexy. She knows I know they’re fiction but we’re ok there.

Thanks for a great reply.

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pervo2 wrote:I know that I will probably be pilloried for asking this question, but I am honestly curious. Do many hotwives reach a point with their husbands where they just get so tired of hearing about this, being badgered, prodded, and pressured, that they act on their husbands desires just to shut them up?
I am sincere in my question. I think I came very close to having this happen with my wife and it took a long time to repair the damage.
There is a lot of talk about hotwifing in other kink communities, and this is the one thing that seems to separate hotwifing from them. Women post and say they feel like fetish dolls in their husbands' fantasies. That they don't believe that the men really think it's about their wives' sexual pleasure at all; that it's about the wives giving their husbands wank material.

For all the comments here about doing it as a team and such... there seems to be an awful lot of men who aren't doing it as part of a team, but for themselves, and just paying lip service to the concept that it's for the wife. Especially since after she does it, he tends to have a meltdown because she didn't do it exactly the way he fantasized about, or she enjoyed it too much, or maybe she wants to see the guy again.

But honestly, this is a thing that happens in vanilla sex, too. Men keep pestering and women eventually say yes because it's easier to say yes than to keep fending off someone pushy. But they don't actually WANT to. And who on earth wants to have sex with someone who actually doesn't want to have sex with you? Except maybe someone so self centred that they don't give a shit about anyone's desires but their own. And yes, this is applicable to hotwifing too. Why would you want to do something sexual with your wife that she doesn't want to do?

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Unread post by Cuck on the Rocks » Tue Jun 11, 2019 8:30 pm

Let me just say, I absolutely adore this thread. You are all very kind to take the time to weed through the fodder requests to answer legitimate questions. Thank you.

I haven't gone through the 41 pages to see if this question has ever been asked, so please pardon me if it's redundant. To me,
the value of experience (and, sometimes, the unfortunate part) is knowing the other side of uncertainty. In other words, you know now what you didn't know then. With that being said, what is the one experience you wish you could "do over" if you could and why?

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Unread post by NVhotwife86 » Mon Jun 17, 2019 9:51 am

HW seeking advice.. Sorry so lengthy! I am a 33 yo hot wife to my 38 yo husband/cuck (non-humiliate) for about a year strong now. We’ve had multiple bulls and at times have considered ending the lifestyle due to the stress and frustration in finding the right bull. It’s been about 5 months now and I’ve found the perfect bull in every way possible. He pleases me in ways I can’t even describe. He is a sex God and knows exactly what to say and do. He’s very large in size whereas my husband is smaller than average. My bull is built solid and has abs of steel where my husband has a bulging belly. My bull is a party-hard, adventurous kind of person where my husband works full-time and seems to have no time for hobbies. They are complete opposites and I’ve never compared my husband to anyone before now. Beside the insane sexual chemistry between us, my bull has made an unexpected impact on my life (beside the typical HW feelings of being a hot goddess!) and has shown me how to love and enjoy my life more. He’s a person of great magnitude and one of those people you meet in life that seem to have a purpose of enhancing the life of those they meet. I’ve always considered my husband and I’s relationship that of steel and being a HW/Cuck couple is something we are proud to say we can do together where people we know cringe at the idea. He’s always been turned on by the idea of being submissive and watching me get pleased by a bigger man; however, my husband has become uncomfortable with how pleased I am with my bull and notices how I’ve never screamed his name but yet I scream my bulls; he’s even told me he’s worried I will leave him for my bull no matter how much I reassure him I would never and that my bull is not my type. I’ve done well not letting personal feelings for him get between my husband and I but it’s becoming harder and harder. The magnitude of my attraction to my bull is decreasing the desire I’ve always had for my husband and I don’t know what to do. I love my husband so much and I’ve had normal feelings for bulls before, as expected, but they’ve never gotten in the way and has always been part of the play. This is becoming more than that and I know that cutting ties would bring my husband and I back together. I’m full of guilt that this is even an issue but the pleasure he brings me is overwhelming. My husband wont ask me to cut ties with him but he’s told me he’s worried and would like for me to step back from him. I want to be able and mend the attraction I had before to my husband and cut ties with my bull but he’s an addiction and I don’t know how to stop. I’ve never met or talked to another HW before and desperately seeking some advice; any is appreciated!

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Unread post by coastalkid » Mon Jun 17, 2019 1:54 pm

NVhotwife 86 I suspect the best thing would be to become a Verified Hot Wife (VHW) and get access to the VHW only section. I know they'll want to help. I so appreciate your honest way of telling your story. I hope we get to see the advice given here where non-VHW's can read it. I'm curious to see what they say! Thank you for your post!
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Unread post by sugarsweet8285 » Sun Jun 23, 2019 11:04 am

2inUPMichigan wrote:
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I'm new to the site. Hey hotwifes. We been in lifestyle for about ten years. My hotwife over the years, it seems to empower her with confidence an make her feel sexy. She has had same lover the whole time. I know what I get from it but I always wonder what it's like for hotwife on the other side. Maybe you wifes have some insight.
When I first started I thought my main reason for doing this was the sex. :roll:
Well okay that is ;) but that isn't the biggest benefit really. Of course the play time is awesome but the residual effects are what keeps me coming back. The play time is temporary but the feelings that stay with me aren't.

It's difficult for me to explain..... but during that time I am a woman and just a woman (if that makes sense). I'm not someone's wife, mother or grandmother. I'm not the neighbor the friend or the co-worker. I'm a woman and that is how this man sees me so that is all I am in that moment. I don't have to fulfill any other roles during that time together I can just be me. It's like I can peel off the layers of an onion and just be me.
He doesn't care if I let all the neighborhood children sleepover or cooked his favorite meal. Whether I worked overtime or burnt the cookies for the school bake sale.

He just sees me as a woman, and he thinks I'm sexy! And that i pretty damn cool!! He doesn't "have" to compliment me like my husband. (ok you guys don't have to but we don't always believe it as much as if someone else does it)
He looks forward to seeing me and is really enthusiastic about it. (seriously it is flattering!)

I found a piece of myself that I didn't know that I had buried when I started all this. I found me, that young exuberant full of energy young woman that had gotten lost a little along the way. I'm happy to have her back. :mrgreen: How could I explain that? That I unknowingly buried part of myself over the years. We women put so many other people in front of ourselves that it happens without our knowing it.

Maybe that confidence and sexiness that you are seeing in your wife is that same piece of herself that she had put away on a shelf and is now welcoming back out?

Wow that got a little more involved than I intended! :oops:
This. I'm glad I read this comment. It makes so much sense!! I didn't realize we really do "bury" ourselves in life.

I also find myself extra grateful for the time I get to spend with my mister. Remembering not to take his presence and love for me for granted. The outside guys like me for the fuck, but the inside guy likes me for me, the way I am when I wake up to when I fall asleep, day in day out. Could never replace that.

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Re: Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

Unread post by NVhotwife86 » Thu Jun 27, 2019 12:10 pm

Love this!!! Thank you :)

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Re: Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

Unread post by naughtycpl7778 » Mon Jul 01, 2019 4:25 am

Hello Hotwives!

We are interested on how the relationship dynamic (husband and wife) changes after the first encounter.

Thanks!

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