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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Fri Mar 29, 2019 2:12 pm

spongeworthy wrote:
Fri Mar 29, 2019 1:56 pm
Hotwives, Which do you prefer when playing?
a) seeing your fellow alone?
b) hubby in the room watching
c) hubby on the bed with you and the guy
I have only played alone ....I don't have any experience with option b or c and we have no plans to change that.

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Unread post by trdd » Fri Mar 29, 2019 2:15 pm

2inUPMichigan wrote:
Fri Mar 29, 2019 2:12 pm
spongeworthy wrote:
Fri Mar 29, 2019 1:56 pm
Hotwives, Which do you prefer when playing?
a) seeing your fellow alone?
b) hubby in the room watching
c) hubby on the bed with you and the guy
I have only played alone ....I don't have any experience with option b or c and we have no plans to change that.
Was that your preference? How did you decide on it?

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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Fri Mar 29, 2019 2:26 pm

trdd wrote:
Fri Mar 29, 2019 2:15 pm
2inUPMichigan wrote:
Fri Mar 29, 2019 2:12 pm
spongeworthy wrote:
Fri Mar 29, 2019 1:56 pm
Hotwives, Which do you prefer when playing?
a) seeing your fellow alone?
b) hubby in the room watching
c) hubby on the bed with you and the guy
I have only played alone ....I don't have any experience with option b or c and we have no plans to change that.
Was that your preference? How did you decide on it?
It was actually something we decided together. We originally thought that hubby would be in the room watching but after our first meet and greet he sat me down and said that he wanted to talk.
He said that if it was him that he would be uncomfortable with me watching him and he thought that I would be more comfortable without him there watching. We gave it a couple days to each think about it and sat down a few days later to talk it through. He said he thought I should go by myself that he thought I would be more comfortable and I agreed.
I really gave it a lot of thought in those couple days and realized that I would probably feel embarrassed if he was there and self conscious as I'm not comfortable being the center of attention.

Our decision was right for us, but may not work for everyone.

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Unread post by Liese » Tue Apr 02, 2019 1:32 pm

spongeworthy wrote:
Fri Mar 29, 2019 1:56 pm
Hotwives, Which do you prefer when playing?
a) seeing your fellow alone?
b) hubby in the room watching
c) hubby on the bed with you and the guy
Hub's always present watching at the very least, and joins in when he chooses. I wouldn't have it any other way as his presence keeps me feeling safe, and I know he's always desirous of me.
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Unread post by coconspirators » Thu Apr 04, 2019 10:21 am

The perpetual question - how close is she? Here's where she's at - she is and has been attracted to black men. She watches and gets excited by interracial porn namely blacked.com. She gets really excited when the guy cums in the girl. She has great orgasms to interracial porn. She loves her dildo. This one -https://newyorktoycollective.com/product/leroy/. Can't get enough of it in either frequency or depth. She wants all of it but leaves about an inch behind. She cums like a freight train every time she uses it. She says she almost always fantasizes about black guys when she masturbates. On a trip to NYC we found ourselves in a bar with several well dressed black guys. Unbeknownst to me she was literally getting wet just looking at them. Needless to say she was horny as hell which turned into great sex for us in a bar bathroom. She says she's 100% desirous of having sex with a nice looking black guy. When asked whether its just a black guy or well-endowed black guy she says that if she did it she would want the whole package. The fear factor for her she says is at about 40% meaning that she's more than half way to having her desire outweigh her fear. All that being said, she says she won't do it. Feels that its best kept a fantasy. There are not a lot of prospects where we live so it's hard to test her resolve. When we talk about going to another city to more anonymously check out clubs/bars, she laughs and says sure but nothing is going to happen. Here's the thing, even though she says that, whether coming off an orgasm or not, her pussy gets really, really wet just talking about it. For the VHW's out there, how close do you think she is to the tipping point?

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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Fri Apr 05, 2019 5:31 am

coconspirators wrote:
Thu Apr 04, 2019 10:21 am
The perpetual question - how close is she? Here's where she's at - she is and has been attracted to black men. She watches and gets excited by interracial porn namely blacked.com. She gets really excited when the guy cums in the girl. She has great orgasms to interracial porn. She loves her dildo. This one -https://newyorktoycollective.com/product/leroy/. Can't get enough of it in either frequency or depth. She wants all of it but leaves about an inch behind. She cums like a freight train every time she uses it. She says she almost always fantasizes about black guys when she masturbates. On a trip to NYC we found ourselves in a bar with several well dressed black guys. Unbeknownst to me she was literally getting wet just looking at them. Needless to say she was horny as hell which turned into great sex for us in a bar bathroom. She says she's 100% desirous of having sex with a nice looking black guy. When asked whether its just a black guy or well-endowed black guy she says that if she did it she would want the whole package. The fear factor for her she says is at about 40% meaning that she's more than half way to having her desire outweigh her fear. All that being said, she says she won't do it. Feels that its best kept a fantasy. There are not a lot of prospects where we live so it's hard to test her resolve. When we talk about going to another city to more anonymously check out clubs/bars, she laughs and says sure but nothing is going to happen. Here's the thing, even though she says that, whether coming off an orgasm or not, her pussy gets really, really wet just talking about it. For the VHW's out there, how close do you think she is to the tipping point?
Seems like this has been her go to fantasy for awhile so it makes sense that being in a situation where she could imagine it happening would trigger arousal (like in the bar). That would just add extra excitement!
However, she is telling you that it's never going to happen and that it is best to keep it just a fantasy. Sometimes there can be a fear that reality won't live up to the fantasy. If she has built up this fantasy for years in her head and then living it out it doesn't turn out as good .....what happens to her fantasy?
For me personally there are things that get me hot that I would never do in real life.....well I don't think so anyway. ;)

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Unread post by afagehi7 » Fri Apr 05, 2019 8:46 am

2inUPMichigan wrote:
Fri Apr 05, 2019 5:31 am
coconspirators wrote:
Thu Apr 04, 2019 10:21 am
The perpetual question - how close is she? Here's where she's at - she is and has been attracted to black men. She watches and gets excited by interracial porn namely blacked.com. She gets really excited when the guy cums in the girl. She has great orgasms to interracial porn. She loves her dildo. This one -https://newyorktoycollective.com/product/leroy/. Can't get enough of it in either frequency or depth. She wants all of it but leaves about an inch behind. She cums like a freight train every time she uses it. She says she almost always fantasizes about black guys when she masturbates. On a trip to NYC we found ourselves in a bar with several well dressed black guys. Unbeknownst to me she was literally getting wet just looking at them. Needless to say she was horny as hell which turned into great sex for us in a bar bathroom. She says she's 100% desirous of having sex with a nice looking black guy. When asked whether its just a black guy or well-endowed black guy she says that if she did it she would want the whole package. The fear factor for her she says is at about 40% meaning that she's more than half way to having her desire outweigh her fear. All that being said, she says she won't do it. Feels that its best kept a fantasy. There are not a lot of prospects where we live so it's hard to test her resolve. When we talk about going to another city to more anonymously check out clubs/bars, she laughs and says sure but nothing is going to happen. Here's the thing, even though she says that, whether coming off an orgasm or not, her pussy gets really, really wet just talking about it. For the VHW's out there, how close do you think she is to the tipping point?
Seems like this has been her go to fantasy for awhile so it makes sense that being in a situation where she could imagine it happening would trigger arousal (like in the bar). That would just add extra excitement!
However, she is telling you that it's never going to happen and that it is best to keep it just a fantasy. Sometimes there can be a fear that reality won't live up to the fantasy. If she has built up this fantasy for years in her head and then living it out it doesn't turn out as good .....what happens to her fantasy?
For me personally there are things that get me hot that I would never do in real life.....well I don't think so anyway. ;)
2up - I just don't understand the female mind and I have been really trying, more so than ever before. If it gets her that aroused and she has full support of her husband why wouldn't she give it a go? Second, you say " there are things that get me hot that I would never do in real life"...well, inquiring minds want to know! Also, why wouldn't you given support from the husband and assuming it is a safe environment (understandably if it was something that wasn't safe then it would make sense). As you know, I am at a similar situation with my wife although not as extreme. She can't explain her apprehensions and why she won't give it a try. Your insight is most valued.

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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Fri Apr 05, 2019 9:15 am

Ok say you have the same fantasy for years. It's the only thing that truly gets you off in your head. It's your go to erotic fantasy ......the thing that you count on to tip you over the edge when even what is happening with your body isn't doing it. (yeah I know but true)
So you decide to finally go for it and live it out in real life, take a chance ...... and it does not live up to the version in your head. Not even close!!! Now every time you try to go back to that fantasy it is ruined, replaced by the reality of what happened when you lived it out.
How frustrating to not have that go to fantasy anymore! That one thing that was a guaranteed turn on, that always worked to get you turned on. Take the chance that it could be lost? Some people may not want to take that chance.
*****
How many times do we hear the same thing from men on here that wanted this so badly and it didn't live up to their expectations? It's no different.

*******

Me? LOL
As many on the board know, I write erotica so my imagination is very vivid and active but there is no way I would attempt half of what goes on in my mind!! Some things I would prefer to just keep as naughty little fantasies and never live out. Other ideas..... yep, planning on it!! Sharing? LMAO I like to keep a little mystery :)

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Unread post by coconspirators » Fri Apr 05, 2019 9:58 am

Thanks 2up. It's an angle I hadn't thought about and makes sense. My thought has always been that it is about our relationship. We have a great one and i don't think she wants the possibility of harming it in exchange for her own sexual fulfillment. That and her Catholic upbringing;) She used to say that one of the things stopping her is that she would need an emotional connection with someone before she could sleep with them and she didn't want to go there. Since she's experienced being filled by and orgasming on a dildo that she says feels very much like the real thing she has backed off the emotional need. She has said that were she ever to crossover (which she again says she would never do), she would be more than happy with someone she has chemistry with but would do it mostly to get that same deep feeling inside her from a real person. So the dilemma is this. She has definitely put thought into this and as pillow talk moved her positions forward. What I've said to her is that if we lived in an area where there was more opportunity for her, I think her resolve would be a lot less. She never responds to that. I also am curious how a woman who self admittedly loves to be filled by a large dildo has the self-control not to want the real thing when her husband gives her the green light to have it. In some respects I really admire her discipline!

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Unread post by afagehi7 » Fri Apr 05, 2019 12:39 pm

2inUPMichigan wrote:
Fri Apr 05, 2019 9:15 am
Ok say you have the same fantasy for years. It's the only thing that truly gets you off in your head. It's your go to erotic fantasy ......the thing that you count on to tip you over the edge when even what is happening with your body isn't doing it. (yeah I know but true)
So you decide to finally go for it and live it out in real life, take a chance ...... and it does not live up to the version in your head. Not even close!!! Now every time you try to go back to that fantasy it is ruined, replaced by the reality of what happened when you lived it out.
How frustrating to not have that go to fantasy anymore! That one thing that was a guaranteed turn on, that always worked to get you turned on. Take the chance that it could be lost? Some people may not want to take that chance.
*****
How many times do we hear the same thing from men on here that wanted this so badly and it didn't live up to their expectations? It's no different.

*******

Me? LOL
As many on the board know, I write erotica so my imagination is very vivid and active but there is no way I would attempt half of what goes on in my mind!! Some things I would prefer to just keep as naughty little fantasies and never live out. Other ideas..... yep, planning on it!! Sharing? LMAO I like to keep a little mystery :)
2up - I am anxiously awaiting some female friendly erotica from you to hopefully share with Mrs.afagehi7!!! She gets warm then gets all freaked and goes cold. Yesterday she went cold but today I have her talking about a trip to the toy store this weekend...some good female friendly erotica may give us a bit of fire. Being a typical type A male, I am not good with telling a female friendly story. I know the build up is important.

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Unread post by coastalkid » Fri Apr 12, 2019 7:40 am

VHW's, what is your take on porn? There are multitudes of variations of pornography (videos, pictures, audio, erotica, webcams et al). I enjoy amateur videos and pictures because I like seeing "regular" people rather than professionals. It fuels my belief that regular people like me do this sort of thing and gives hope to the thoughts of being one of them. I really enjoy erotica the most. My mind always projects me into the stories and my imagination fills in those details that make it personal. I've even written a series and posted it on another site.

My wife has an ambivalent attitude towards porn. She has watched a video or two with me when I asked her to on rare occasions. I could tell it was not something that excited her. She does like to read, not erotic material however. Afagehi7's post made me think of "female friendly" erotica. Have you read any? Do you have any suggestions? Have your attitudes towards porn changed since being a hot wife? A familiar request from husbands is pictures or videos of their wives encounters. Isn't that porn in a form too, even if it is never intended to be public? Do any of your husbands like porn?
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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Fri Apr 12, 2019 8:44 am

coastalkid wrote:
Fri Apr 12, 2019 7:40 am
VHW's, what is your take on porn? There are multitudes of variations of pornography (videos, pictures, audio, erotica, webcams et al). I enjoy amateur videos and pictures because I like seeing "regular" people rather than professionals. It fuels my belief that regular people like me do this sort of thing and gives hope to the thoughts of being one of them. I really enjoy erotica the most. My mind always projects me into the stories and my imagination fills in those details that make it personal. I've even written a series and posted it on another site.

My wife has an ambivalent attitude towards porn. She has watched a video or two with me when I asked her to on rare occasions. I could tell it was not something that excited her. She does like to read, not erotic material however. Afagehi7's post made me think of "female friendly" erotica. Have you read any? Do you have any suggestions? Have your attitudes towards porn changed since being a hot wife? A familiar request from husbands is pictures or videos of their wives encounters. Isn't that porn in a form too, even if it is never intended to be public? Do any of your husbands like porn?
I believe in general men are more visual and a lot of movies tend to be slanted toward the male consumer. More women tend to read erotica than men so there is a growing market for stories that are female friendly.
I have mentioned a few times in passing that I am a published erotica author but at this time none of my titles online are in the hotwife or swinger genre. I plan on correcting that however. :)

As far as my own views .... I've never had an issue with porn in general some is better than others. And some of it is just plain bad and a turn off. LOL
I would never personally agree to make a videotape. My personal opinion is that pictures taken for you husband are not porn. Someone else may disagree but that is my take.

Have my views changed since starting down this path? About porn and erotica? No

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Unread post by coastalkid » Fri Apr 12, 2019 9:11 am

2inUPMichigan wrote:
Fri Apr 12, 2019 8:44 am
coastalkid wrote:
Fri Apr 12, 2019 7:40 am
VHW's, what is your take on porn? There are multitudes of variations of pornography (videos, pictures, audio, erotica, webcams et al). I enjoy amateur videos and pictures because I like seeing "regular" people rather than professionals. It fuels my belief that regular people like me do this sort of thing and gives hope to the thoughts of being one of them. I really enjoy erotica the most. My mind always projects me into the stories and my imagination fills in those details that make it personal. I've even written a series and posted it on another site.

My wife has an ambivalent attitude towards porn. She has watched a video or two with me when I asked her to on rare occasions. I could tell it was not something that excited her. She does like to read, not erotic material however. Afagehi7's post made me think of "female friendly" erotica. Have you read any? Do you have any suggestions? Have your attitudes towards porn changed since being a hot wife? A familiar request from husbands is pictures or videos of their wives encounters. Isn't that porn in a form too, even if it is never intended to be public? Do any of your husbands like porn?
I believe in general men are more visual and a lot of movies tend to be slanted toward the male consumer. More women tend to read erotica than men so there is a growing market for stories that are female friendly.
I have mentioned a few times in passing that I am a published erotica author but at this time none of my titles online are in the hotwife or swinger genre. I plan on correcting that however. :)

As far as my own views .... I've never had an issue with porn in general some is better than others. And some of it is just plain bad and a turn off. LOL
I would never personally agree to make a videotape. My personal opinion is that pictures taken for you husband are not porn. Someone else may disagree but that is my take.

Have my views changed since starting down this path? About porn and erotica? No
Thank you for your response! I value your opinion greatly and have followed your posts for a long while. Do you have any favorite stories or authors? Given my wife's joy of reading (mainly historical fiction) I've thought that she might be open to an appropriate erotic fiction. She has been teasing me of her own volition while having sex much more of late. If nothing else were to come (cum...sorry couldn't resist the pun) from it than to enhance her present teasing then that's still good! I believe reading makes you think and thinking about sex would promote discussion eventually. So, a good story might be less blatant and more effective in revealing her thoughts and feelings. Any suggestions? Thanks so much for your response!
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Unread post by EdwardTheBull » Sun Apr 21, 2019 7:28 am

I've run into a situation I'm not used to. Most of the time I meet hotwife it is from online so we know or they just tell me because they can tell and it is a invite. A engaged couple just got hired at the same time at my job. The lady is interested in me, (goes out of her way to be around me, talks to me a lot/long time, sometimes just flat out stares, lots of flirting and even though she'll flirty with anyone I am her preferred target. I think because she loves attention and I avoid people like that. I also get the vibe that they are a cuckold couple because she does all of this in front of him and he seems to not care at all and they get along and she is much better looking than him. At least he seems to not want to know who she does. If it was a cuckold couple I wouldn't mind so much, still wouldn't do anything with people I work with but it would make it a lot less awkward to say, "Yeah, I'm a bull but not yours while we work together." Any signs to look for to tell if they are a cuckold couple?

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Unread post by Trixkat » Sun Apr 21, 2019 7:53 am

EdwardTheBull wrote:
Sun Apr 21, 2019 7:28 am
I've run into a situation I'm not used to. Most of the time I meet hotwife it is from online so we know or they just tell me because they can tell and it is a invite. A engaged couple just got hired at the same time at my job. The lady is interested in me, (goes out of her way to be around me, talks to me a lot/long time, sometimes just flat out stares, lots of flirting and even though she'll flirty with anyone I am her preferred target. I think because she loves attention and I avoid people like that. I also get the vibe that they are a cuckold couple because she does all of this in front of him and he seems to not care at all and they get along and she is much better looking than him. At least he seems to not want to know who she does. If it was a cuckold couple I wouldn't mind so much, still wouldn't do anything with people I work with but it would make it a lot less awkward to say, "Yeah, I'm a bull but not yours while we work together." Any signs to look for to tell if they are a cuckold couple?
that's one of those things you don't want to guess about. maybe approach the guy and say "your lady is very flirty with me, am i imagining things?" and then the conversation can be started.
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Unread post by markmy37 » Sun Apr 21, 2019 8:16 pm

Hey lovely people, this is just a question about the transition from swinging to hotwifing.
My wife and I had an experience with a couple we met online, we all ended up in the same bed, I wasn't sure how my wife would react but turned out while I was licking her she was playing with the other guys cock, we swapped partners but I wasn't feeling it with the other woman and couldn't really do much, on the other hand I could hear my wife moaning as he went down on her then I could hear her sucking him off and eventually fuck her, after they left the room I was hard as a rock and ready to reclaim my wife, it was a massive turn on.
My wife is keen to swing again but I think I'd rather watch her getting played with, we have talked about a threesome but not followed up on it yet. I just wondered if anyone else had made this transition as I'm not really bothered about fucking another wife, also if anyone had any advice on how to proceed, I would never try and force her to do something she didn't want to.
She's a hotty with a high sex drive and has flirted a bit with guys on kik sending pics etc.
Hope that wasn't too much info, any advice would be much appreciated.
Thank you 😘

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Unread post by EdwardTheBull » Sun Apr 21, 2019 8:56 pm

Trixkat wrote:
Sun Apr 21, 2019 7:53 am
that's one of those things you don't want to guess about. maybe approach the guy and say "your lady is very flirty with me, am i imagining things?" and then the conversation can be started.
I'm not too worried about it. I'm thinking about leaving anyway.

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Unread post by JMan409 » Mon Apr 22, 2019 12:13 pm

So, I've been trolling around here the last few days as I stumbled across this thread in a search result.
And I've read this whole thread lol. And just want to post my 2cents and say thanks to everyone who have asked questions and those who replied on this thread, it pretty much took care and answered anything I could have wondered myself.
I knew nothing about "Hotwife" as a thing/lifestyle. So forgive me I'm still trying to learn all the abbreviations here.
However, I have always been into this apparently, lol and I'm really glad I found this site and read this thread, because now i know I'm not crazy.
I've always wanted my wife to have other lover (s), it was a turn on for me and her also kinda, I mean I know who I married and why I married her so with that being said, we've been married 18 years now, 3 kids, a life, and so on. She's been an excellent wife/mother you name it, but she was still that nympho freak i fell for. I always told her she needed a bf, and there was 3 or 4 times over 18 years where she had a couple, just some kissing and light foreplay, nothing serious, and only one or 2 times seeing them.She always dug the idea of 2men at once, me and another and we've always been into talking about it on n off. I've always encouraged her to be what's apparently called a "hotwife". She never cared to much for the idea, of her just finding a man and fucking him and whatever else she wished, it was just something during sex and a few jokes here and there, she actually got upset and we didn't even bring it up for about 2 or 3 years, said it made her feel like i didnt love her. Well she finally started really coming around to the idea, and started questioning me as to why i wanted it. That obviously helped because for the last 3 years she's been very open to the idea. So, she started a new job a couple years ago, and of course I started asking who was into her at work (she is a drop dead gorgeous woman also, truly, 34years old) she attracts guys from 18 to 80 so I knew there had to be somebody making passes. There was, but she wasn't really into him because he was a good looking guy and a coordinator, so he had the rep of being a lover, she's only been with me and I with her, So I passed it off, but I joked about him often, and they would talk occasionally. Then around Christmas last year it started getting more serious, he is also 17years married, kid so on. I told her to do whatever she wanted she deserved it, just tell me all the dirty details lol. Well she kept saying it would happen soon or getting closer, I didn't pry, or press her for info because I didn't want to fuck it up for her. Well, she fucked the guy, and I mean she entered this lifestyle with full force, she told me about it a couple days after, but I knew something was up cuz of that smile lol.
So long story short they fucked in his truck, at work, no condom and he came inside. She blew my mind!! Im very happy it happend, it was everything I hoped it would be, and more. So I guess I have a hw now lol. Just wanted to share that and say thanks again for the info on this thread, and letting me know we are not the only ones.

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Unread post by armyguyot1 » Mon Apr 22, 2019 12:36 pm

Welcome to the forum JMan409. I will remove you from the newly registered.

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Unread post by feetuji » Tue Apr 23, 2019 5:04 am

Question for hotwives: do you think that with the right aproach, any wife would want to fuck other men? My wife is low on sexual drive, how bad is that to Turn her on a hotwife and me in a cuck?

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Unread post by spongeworthy » Tue Apr 23, 2019 4:09 pm

Does anybody wear an anklet? If so has anyone commented about it?

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Re: Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Tue Apr 23, 2019 6:25 pm

feetuji wrote:
Tue Apr 23, 2019 5:04 am
Question for hotwives: do you think that with the right aproach, any wife would want to fuck other men? My wife is low on sexual drive, how bad is that to Turn her on a hotwife and me in a cuck?
First I wanted to address the low sex drive issue. If she has a hormonal imbalance that is causing this low sex drive she might want to talk this over with her doctor to see if there is something that can be done to balance out her hormones.
To answer the other part of your post. Do I think that ANY wife would, with the right approach would want to fuck other men? My answer would be no. This choice is not the right choice for everyone, but it can be a good choice for some people.

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Re: Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Tue Apr 23, 2019 6:30 pm

JMan409 wrote:
Mon Apr 22, 2019 12:13 pm
So, I've been trolling around here the last few days as I stumbled across this thread in a search result.
And I've read this whole thread lol. And just want to post my 2cents and say thanks to everyone who have asked questions and those who replied on this thread, it pretty much took care and answered anything I could have wondered myself.
I knew nothing about "Hotwife" as a thing/lifestyle. So forgive me I'm still trying to learn all the abbreviations here.
However, I have always been into this apparently, lol and I'm really glad I found this site and read this thread, because now i know I'm not crazy.
I've always wanted my wife to have other lover (s), it was a turn on for me and her also kinda, I mean I know who I married and why I married her so with that being said, we've been married 18 years now, 3 kids, a life, and so on. She's been an excellent wife/mother you name it, but she was still that nympho freak i fell for. I always told her she needed a bf, and there was 3 or 4 times over 18 years where she had a couple, just some kissing and light foreplay, nothing serious, and only one or 2 times seeing them.She always dug the idea of 2men at once, me and another and we've always been into talking about it on n off. I've always encouraged her to be what's apparently called a "hotwife". She never cared to much for the idea, of her just finding a man and fucking him and whatever else she wished, it was just something during sex and a few jokes here and there, she actually got upset and we didn't even bring it up for about 2 or 3 years, said it made her feel like i didnt love her. Well she finally started really coming around to the idea, and started questioning me as to why i wanted it. That obviously helped because for the last 3 years she's been very open to the idea. So, she started a new job a couple years ago, and of course I started asking who was into her at work (she is a drop dead gorgeous woman also, truly, 34years old) she attracts guys from 18 to 80 so I knew there had to be somebody making passes. There was, but she wasn't really into him because he was a good looking guy and a coordinator, so he had the rep of being a lover, she's only been with me and I with her, So I passed it off, but I joked about him often, and they would talk occasionally. Then around Christmas last year it started getting more serious, he is also 17years married, kid so on. I told her to do whatever she wanted she deserved it, just tell me all the dirty details lol. Well she kept saying it would happen soon or getting closer, I didn't pry, or press her for info because I didn't want to fuck it up for her. Well, she fucked the guy, and I mean she entered this lifestyle with full force, she told me about it a couple days after, but I knew something was up cuz of that smile lol.
So long story short they fucked in his truck, at work, no condom and he came inside. She blew my mind!! Im very happy it happend, it was everything I hoped it would be, and more. So I guess I have a hw now lol. Just wanted to share that and say thanks again for the info on this thread, and letting me know we are not the only ones.
So happy to hear that the "Ask a Hotwife thread" was helpful to you! :D
All the VHW's (Verified Hot Wives) try to help where we can by answering questions in this thread.
Good luck to both of you as you enjoy this journey together! :up: :mrgreen:

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Re: Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

Unread post by markmy37 » Wed Apr 24, 2019 6:01 pm

Ares wrote:
Tue Apr 23, 2019 6:39 am
markmy37 wrote:
Sun Apr 21, 2019 8:16 pm
Hey lovely people, this is just a question about the transition from swinging to hotwifing.
My wife and I had an experience with a couple we met online, we all ended up in the same bed, I wasn't sure how my wife would react but turned out while I was licking her she was playing with the other guys cock, we swapped partners but I wasn't feeling it with the other woman and couldn't really do much, on the other hand I could hear my wife moaning as he went down on her then I could hear her sucking him off and eventually fuck her, after they left the room I was hard as a rock and ready to reclaim my wife, it was a massive turn on.
My wife is keen to swing again but I think I'd rather watch her getting played with, we have talked about a threesome but not followed up on it yet. I just wondered if anyone else had made this transition as I'm not really bothered about fucking another wife, also if anyone had any advice on how to proceed, I would never try and force her to do something she didn't want to.
She's a hotty with a high sex drive and has flirted a bit with guys on kik sending pics etc.
Hope that wasn't too much info, any advice would be much appreciated.
Thank you 😘
All right, buster, I haven't tried tackling one of these in awhile so here goes (and thank you to all the other VHW's who do try to answer questions here -- you are truly awesome!). Crap, it is so cliche' but the big thing? Communicate. Yep, tell her how you're feeling! I'm not a great writer so just let me just form a sample statement :
"Babe, I really want to do the swing thing again too but, ya know what? What really gets me hot is seeing YOU enjoy yourself so much. I would really rather jump your bones afterwords then have another woman. Maybe we should consider just hooking up with another guy?"

Statements like that can be hard 'cause you're "supposed" to be a macho stud man and such a statement leaves you looking vulnerable. But however you can convey HONEST feelings about what excites you the better off you'll be. Just talk, be honest, be aware of her reactions and, where her reactions seem favorable, pursue that slant on things. Hope that makes sense. I warned ya that I wasn't much of a writer! :lol:
Thank you for your input.
I've taken the bull by the horns, well not literally, we've rejoined the singers site and we've been inundated with offers and we've spoken about it and she's hot to try a guy while I watch, getting exciting.

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Re: Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

Unread post by SSQ » Fri Apr 26, 2019 6:18 pm

feetuji wrote:
Tue Apr 23, 2019 5:04 am
Question for hotwives: do you think that with the right aproach, any wife would want to fuck other men? My wife is low on sexual drive, how bad is that to Turn her on a hotwife and me in a cuck?
No. Women aren't a hive mind. We don't all want the same thing and there is no magical approach that will make any woman want something.
It's all fun until someone gets hurt... and then it's more fun! :whip:

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