Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

[stonemtncouple]

A question for the ladies, (don't know if it's been asked before or not) -

What do you get out of the effects your sexual freedom has on your hubbies? Does it turn you ladies on knowing that your hubbies are home or elsewhere with aching balls and hard-ons thinking about your lovemaking with your FWB's? Do you enjoy causing that hot, lusty condition in your hubbies?

If a few of you ladies would please give us some insight as to what you think & feel about the effects you want to cause for your hubbies, we guys would surely appreciate it. Obviously, you're getting hot, steamy sexual fulfillment and satisfaction for yourselves, but most of you say you're in this together. Just wondering what you want your hubbies to "get" and experience from the LS.

Thank-you in advance, ladies !!

Our relationship is open on both sides. I enjoy teasing my husband and denying him at times, or making him work for it- but ultimately, I want him to enjoy the same freedoms that I have. At this time he doesn't have any other partners, but he knows he is always welcome to hook up casually or to start dating, as long as he also follows our agreements.

In most cases, HW husbands don't want that freedom- in fact, they are the ones driving the lifestyle I'm pretty sure that in most cases the husbands are very much taking care of their own needs and making sure they get what they want. I worry much more that the wives' wants and needs are being subsumed in the husband's detailed fantasies.

So well said!

[jackd5678]

Do you enjoy having sex with husband with your lover's cum still in you or do you want to clean up first? Does a husband wanting your sloppy seconds indicate he is highly emotionally attached to you loves you beyond compare?

[2inUPMichigan]

Do you enjoy having sex with husband with your lover's cum still in you or do you want to clean up first? Does a husband wanting your sloppy seconds indicate he is highly emotionally attached to you loves you beyond compare?

I always use condoms on play dates it is non-negotiable.
Your questions would only apply to those who allow bareback sex on play dates.

A man wanting sloppy seconds is an indicator......that he is turned on by sloppy seconds.
He might be grateful that she is onboard with his kink but I don't see how that indicates a highly emotional attachment.

[singlebuthopefull]

In fact, I often think about my husband thinking about me while I'm enjoying another dick.

Wow! Well said. Hot!

[early-kink]

^^^^ She sure IS hot!! Lots of heat there on the farm !!!! A very lucky Mr. Farmgirl !!! (Her number1)

[Dzs1653]

I have a question for those who play solo or sometimes do: Does your FB know that your husband knows (and approves of) what you are doing?

[2inUPMichigan]

I have a question for those who play solo or sometimes do: Does your FB know that your husband knows (and approves of) what you are doing?

Absolutely! It is in my profile on SLS and I make a point of stressing that point. I always say that I play solo with hubby's encouragement and approval. Always stress that he knows who I am with and where I am at for play dates. I never want there to be any misunderstanding or assuming that I am going behind hubby's back and cheating.

[Trixkat]

I have a question for those who play solo or sometimes do: Does your FB know that your husband knows (and approves of) what you are doing?

my long term boyfriend knows. he's also married and open and his wife knows about me too. there have been several times when I was with B that he grabbed my phone to take a picture of me or to type out a text to send to hubs.

[FWBinIndy]

Do you enjoy having sex with husband with your lover's cum still in you or do you want to clean up first? Does a husband wanting your sloppy seconds indicate he is highly emotionally attached to you loves you beyond compare?

I love getting filled and then going home and having my husband add his! We both like the taboo aspect of it and he enjoys the unique sensation.

[FWBinIndy]

I have a question for those who play solo or sometimes do: Does your FB know that your husband knows (and approves of) what you are doing?

Absolutely. It's in all of my online profiles. I don't facilitate cheating either.

[lifeisfun]

What are some of the best apps to find good and handsome guys (around 30 to 45) for fun? Ashley Madison is not that great and SA has most of the guys above 50. My wife is looking for some fun but it has been frustating a bit. Her last experience was more than 3 months back!

[2inUPMichigan]

What are some of the best apps to find good and handsome guys (around 30 to 45) for fun? Ashley Madison is not that great and SA has most of the guys above 50. My wife is looking for some fun but it has been frustating a bit. Her last experience was more than 3 months back!

I only use SLS (swing lifestyle) and they recently put out an app too. There are men of all ages on there.
In fact I am texting a 45 year old right now
And was texting with a 40 year old this weekend.

Good luck finding quality men that are compatible can be a challenge!

[ckathrill]

What is SA and what is the website?

[Sinfulindywife]

My guy wants me to talk about how small his dick is in comparison to the bull's dick. I don't want to hurt him, but he says he loves it and I really do want to make him happy. I can't ask him, because he will just tell me that it's okay-he's fine. Any advice?

[HelloPeaches]

My guy wants me to talk about how small his dick is in comparison to the bull's dick. I don't want to hurt him, but he says he loves it and I really do want to make him happy. I can't ask him, because he will just tell me that it's okay-he's fine. Any advice?

My Husband loves this too! And I have felt like you in the past. I think it's important to remember that this is something that he IS asking for, and like all of us, he is responsible for his own internal emotions. I think you could preface with something like 'I'm going start talking dirty to you like you asked. If it becomes uncomfortable for you, I need you to tell me.' And then take him at his word. Don't put your emotions - how you would feel in the same situation - onto your guy.

[SteelRidge]

On hotwife and cucking porn I often see a position of a doggy style with the women over a pillow and pushed down on the back so that the ass is in the air and the back curved down lower.

Is this a position women find especially pleasurable?

[Des 31]

On hotwife and cucking porn I often see a position of a doggy style with the women over a pillow and pushed down on the back so that the ass is in the air and the back curved down lower.

Is this a position women find especially pleasurable?

Yeah, it is and my wife and I have talked about that a few times. She thinks certain positions in sex are indicative of the moment's psychological motive and the way she explains it to me, it makes sense.

When she is straddling a guy on top, she senses empowerment and that she's in control for a while. When on her knees and a guy is entering her from behind, the top of her head is often pressed against a pillow. She sees that as an inferior position, with the man controlling the fucking. When she is on her back and he is between her legs, if he isn't kissing her at the moment, each is looking at the other's facial expression, which she considers to be a position of equality between the two. I don't recall her mentioning anything about the specific position SteelRidge wrote, but the most obvious reason is that their groins are more level. Perhaps there's something psychological for the woman there as well but I can't imagine what that would be. Using Occam's Razor logic, it's probably more for convenience.

That isn't meant to be true for all women, but it's her opinion and that's the way it affects her.
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[Trixkat]

On hotwife and cucking porn I often see a position of a doggy style with the women over a pillow and pushed down on the back so that the ass is in the air and the back curved down lower.

Is this a position women find especially pleasurable?

Yeah, it is and my wife and I have talked about that a few times. She thinks certain positions in sex are indicative of the moment's psychological motive and the way she explains it to me, it makes sense.

When she is straddling a guy on top, she senses empowerment and that she's in control for a while. When on her knees and a guy is entering her from behind, the top of her head is often pressed against a pillow. She sees that as an inferior position, with the man controlling the fucking. When she is on her back and he is between her legs, if he isn't kissing her at the moment, each is looking at the other's facial expression, which she considers to be a position of equality between the two. I don't recall her mentioning anything about the specific position SteelRidge wrote, but the most obvious reason is that their groins are more level. Perhaps there's something psychological for the woman there as well but I can't imagine what that would be. Using Occam's Razor logic, it's probably more for convenience.

That isn't meant to be true for all women, but it's her opinion and that's the way it affects her.
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friendly reminder of the name of this thread.

[lifeisfun]

What is SA and what is the website?

Its Seeking Arrangement - www.seeking.com

[Pswings]

My hot wife and I have been playing with chastity for a few months now. She/I have decided that we would like to have me stay in chastity 24/7. I was wondering if any other HW couples are living chastity 24/7 and how long it took to make the transition from date chastity to full time wearing of the cage.

[ckathrill]

thanks for the SA clarification

[HelloPeaches]

On hotwife and cucking porn I often see a position of a doggy style with the women over a pillow and pushed down on the back so that the ass is in the air and the back curved down lower.

Is this a position women find especially pleasurable?

Yeah, it is and my wife and I have talked about that a few times. She thinks certain positions in sex are indicative of the moment's psychological motive and the way she explains it to me, it makes sense.

When she is straddling a guy on top, she senses empowerment and that she's in control for a while. When on her knees and a guy is entering her from behind, the top of her head is often pressed against a pillow. She sees that as an inferior position, with the man controlling the fucking. When she is on her back and he is between her legs, if he isn't kissing her at the moment, each is looking at the other's facial expression, which she considers to be a position of equality between the two. I don't recall her mentioning anything about the specific position SteelRidge wrote, but the most obvious reason is that their groins are more level. Perhaps there's something psychological for the woman there as well but I can't imagine what that would be. Using Occam's Razor logic, it's probably more for convenience.

That isn't meant to be true for all women, but it's her opinion and that's the way it affects her.
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friendly reminder of the name of this thread.

And yet, no VHW’s answered his question…

Yeah - I don't really dig that position. It doesn't do much for me, and is not the most comfortable way to do doggie. I was waiting to see if someone else likes it...

[early-kink]

Just my own question - Why the mental "inferior" thought process when it comes to positions? Why not just enjoy all the sensations? Do people really worry over things like that while sexually engaged?

Ex. - "I don't like this position because it makes me his inferior. And I'm NOT inferior!" - OR - "I like being on top because I'm in control and he's now MY inferior!" ?????????????

Why such head games I'm wondering? Do many women WORRY over things like that? Just really wondering.

Is there a FAVORITE "doggy" position for maximum pleasure?

[HelloPeaches]

Just my own question - Why the mental "inferior" thought process when it comes to positions? Why not just enjoy all the sensations? Do people really worry over things like that while sexually engaged?

Ex. - "I don't like this position because it makes me his inferior. And I'm NOT inferior!" - OR - "I like being on top because I'm in control and he's now MY inferior!" ?????????????

Why such head games I'm wondering? Do many women WORRY over things like that? Just really wondering.

Is there a FAVORITE "doggy" position for maximum pleasure?

That's not it for me. I enjoy submission, actually. I'm just saying the position describe is not an incredibly comfortable position, so while I have no problem experiencing that for a bit if my BF or husband wants, my preferences for comfort and pleasure, and frankly, climaxing are not that particular position. The OP asked: 'Is this a position women find especially pleasurable?' I'm just saying I don't find it especially pleasurable. It's not a head game; it's really just a preference. A dude gave the answer that included the bit about the empowerment/psychological aspect, so there you go.

PS @SteelRidge: I think it's a good question because obviously not everything represented in porn actually feels good, or maybe just doesn't feel good to everyone across the board, and it's hard to know. Communication with your partner is always important.

[afagehi7]

Just my own question - Why the mental "inferior" thought process when it comes to positions? Why not just enjoy all the sensations? Do people really worry over things like that while sexually engaged?

Ex. - "I don't like this position because it makes me his inferior. And I'm NOT inferior!" - OR - "I like being on top because I'm in control and he's now MY inferior!" ?????????????

Why such head games I'm wondering? Do many women WORRY over things like that? Just really wondering.

Is there a FAVORITE "doggy" position for maximum pleasure?

That's not it for me. I enjoy submission, actually. I'm just saying the position describe is not an incredibly comfortable position, so while I have no problem experiencing that for a bit if my BF or husband wants, my preferences for comfort and pleasure, and frankly, climaxing are not that particular position. The OP asked: 'Is this a position women find especially pleasurable?' I'm just saying I don't find it especially pleasurable. It's not a head game; it's really just a preference. A dude gave the answer that included the bit about the empowerment/psychological aspect, so there you go.

PS @SteelRidge: I think it's a good question because obviously not everything represented in porn actually feels good, or maybe just doesn't feel good to everyone across the board, and it's hard to know. Communication with your partner is always important.

Peaches - what is your favorite position? In my experience, I've found most women to prefer missionary or in some cases cowgirl so they can control the stimulation.

What position puts the syrup on your pancakes?