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[WSCuck]

Hi. I have a question, sorry if it’s a little long winded, it’s hard to explain.

My wife an have been embarking on the hotwife journey for about 4 years. We’ve done quite a bit. Playing in a club, wife playing alone in a club, couple of gangbangs and a few one in ones. Usually do something once every 2-3 months. Hotwife is adamant that she only does it for me yet in the moment she really enjoys herself every single time, almost always finishing with the amazing afterglow I love so much.

I guess my question is…do any hot wives really only do it for their husbands despite their evident enjoyment. I’d also love to step it up a little and have my wife take a regular bull. How do I achieve this without her shutting down the already limited hotwifing that I get?

It’s worth noting that she’s had her name and stag horns tattooed near my nether regions, has a hw ankle tatt and wears an anklet.

Thanks in advance for answers, constructive criticism and ideas.

Considering how different each of us can be, I would say there can easily be women who enjoy Hotwifing but do it for their husbands. They might not have a desire or need for the added sexual interest in other men, but they overwhelmingly enjoy giving their husbands what they desire. This can be their driving force behind Hotwifing, even though they also very much enjoy each sexual encounter.
In a case like I described, she may never want a regular lover, FWB, or boyfriend. Then again, she might not have met the right one yet.

If you want more for her I would hope that you can openly talk to her about it at breakfast and see what she would like. She could have a direction she would like, but is worried about you. Or maybe she is happy with the way things are.
Communicate ; encourage, don't pester.

Thanks so much for your reply. I do pester sometimes, I know I do. I try so hard not to. But my wife’s a strong minded woman. I guess she will only do what she wants or is willing to do.

[WSCuck]

Hi WSCusk,

I'm not sure how to actually answer your question other than to tell you about my experience.

When I met my husband, we had sex all the time. And it was great, but I wanted more. I was afraid that he wouldn't respect me anymore. Or even worse he'd stop loving me. So, when hubby and I started our hotwifing experiences, I would tell him the same thing, "I'm only doing it for you.", which I truly meant. And, yet I always enjoyed myself and had an amazing feel about myself afterwards.

It took me a long time and lots of talks with my hubby for me to be able to accept myself as a hotwife. For me, the idea of being a hotwife was taboo, something that was only done by women that were "loose". I never realized what hotwife really meant. And that it was something that not only I could do, but was doing already.

I guess what I'm saying is that for me, it was a case of "brainwashing" that I had to undo. And, it was the love and total support from my husband that helped me to not only understand myself, but also accept myself.

Just keep talking with her, listen to her.

Thankyou very much for your experience.

[Peaks23]

Hi all VHW's

Me and my wife to be have discussed her having a lover for a few years and recently she agreed to meet up with an ex fling. They started texting and unfortunately have had a a couple of cancelled dates. She has now got frustrated so we are back to square one.

The reason she wanted to go with an ex is because it was comfortable for her to do so. She wasn't keen to meet a new person as she thinks it would be weird.

We have many fantasy bedtime sessions where she is totally turned on and excited by having a new lover but won't make the jump to reality. Even though I can tell she wants to. (I know, all us guys think that)

During this time we've also had many many long discussions about what itl mean for our relationship and we've talked so much more in genera since we started on this path and I'd love for this to develop further as I feel so much closer to her now and I don't want to lose that.. I also want her to experience this for herself and to realise the benefits for herself. We've been together for 10 years and just recently it's been like we are back in the infancy of our relationship.

I guess my question to you all is how do I show her the way forward because every time I try I seem to fuck it up!. I know everyone is different and has different triggers but what was the tipping point for you that made you decide to do it.

If you want our back story it's in the cuckolds forum under the title "two weeks to go" as I've tried to ask this question to you without making it an enormously long thread.

Happy to answer any questions if it'll help!

[Farmgirl]

Hi all VHW's

Me and my wife to be have discussed her having a lover for a few years and recently she agreed to meet up with an ex fling. They started texting and unfortunately have had a a couple of cancelled dates. She has now got frustrated so we are back to square one.

The reason she wanted to go with an ex is because it was comfortable for her to do so. She wasn't keen to meet a new person as she thinks it would be weird.

We have many fantasy bedtime sessions where she is totally turned on and excited by having a new lover but won't make the jump to reality. Even though I can tell she wants to. (I know, all us guys think that)

During this time we've also had many many long discussions about what itl mean for our relationship and we've talked so much more in genera since we started on this path and I'd love for this to develop further as I feel so much closer to her now and I don't want to lose that.. I also want her to experience this for herself and to realise the benefits for herself. We've been together for 10 years and just recently it's been like we are back in the infancy of our relationship.

I guess my question to you all is how do I show her the way forward because every time I try I seem to fuck it up!. I know everyone is different and has different triggers but what was the tipping point for you that made you decide to do it.

If you want our back story it's in the cuckolds forum under the title "two weeks to go" as I've tried to ask this question to you without making it an enormously long thread.

Happy to answer any questions if it'll help!

Have you openly told her the part I highlighted?
When you say that you've had many long talks about the LS, were the talks during the light of day, like breakfast, lunch, etc.?
My final "tipping point" was when my husband finally found the courage to openly talk to me about it away from any sexual setting. Then I knew he really wanted it to happen. That made it real and I could become comfortable with our real talks instead of just thinking he had a fantasy.

[Peaks23]

Hi all VHW's

Me and my wife to be have discussed her having a lover for a few years and recently she agreed to meet up with an ex fling. They started texting and unfortunately have had a a couple of cancelled dates. She has now got frustrated so we are back to square one.

The reason she wanted to go with an ex is because it was comfortable for her to do so. She wasn't keen to meet a new person as she thinks it would be weird.

We have many fantasy bedtime sessions where she is totally turned on and excited by having a new lover but won't make the jump to reality. Even though I can tell she wants to. (I know, all us guys think that)

During this time we've also had many many long discussions about what itl mean for our relationship and we've talked so much more in genera since we started on this path and I'd love for this to develop further as I feel so much closer to her now and I don't want to lose that.. I also want her to experience this for herself and to realise the benefits for herself. We've been together for 10 years and just recently it's been like we are back in the infancy of our relationship.

I guess my question to you all is how do I show her the way forward because every time I try I seem to fuck it up!. I know everyone is different and has different triggers but what was the tipping point for you that made you decide to do it.

If you want our back story it's in the cuckolds forum under the title "two weeks to go" as I've tried to ask this question to you without making it an enormously long thread.

Happy to answer any questions if it'll help!

Have you openly told her the part I highlighted?
When you say that you've had many long talks about the LS, were the talks during the light of day, like breakfast, lunch, etc.?
My final "tipping point" was when my husband finally found the courage to openly talk to me about it away from any sexual setting. Then I knew he really wanted it to happen. That made it real and I could become comfortable with our real talks instead of just thinking he had a fantasy.

Thank for replying.

Yes we've had conversations outside of the bedroom. This is when she's said she's happy to go for it with a former fling, but says meeting anew person would feel weird and like a one night stand which she isn't into. I'm struggling to explain that the online sites that are out there, have guys in there that are genuine and are happy to be part of our adventure.

I'll definitely double down on making sure she knows that I feel so much closer to her, as I have said this as well, but there is no harm in making the point again.

[Sexy_AFCpl]

I (53) and my wife (36) are happily married and have dabbled in the Lifestyle for a while and have recently decided to move in the direction of the Hotwife lifestyle. We have both fantasized about and look forward to adding this to our lives.

We started with a sensual massage with me watching and it went great with multiple orgasms and her response later was, “he wants to fuck me!”. We were both very turned on and that story was added to some fun play later.

The next massage was solo and went just as well and with my HW getting up the courage to grab his cock and was pleasantly surprised, this made her extremely confident and eager to try more. I told her that I wish I could have been there to see all the excitement but she said that she felt like she wouldn’t be able to enjoy herself / let go if I were there – another downer.

We then jumped on FEELD and had our profiles listed under HW and started to get some attention. We had set some ground rules as most newbies with the most important revolving around communication and complete transparency without judgment. She has sexted with a couple of guys and apparently came during one of the exchanges but did not tell me about until I asked if she had been on the site. Sort of a downer that she didn’t tell me – I am hopeful that this will be able to be a couple’s experience. We are still looking for connections, ironically the dick that was sexting with her ghosted us when we wanted to meet up, lesson learned in there.

The third massage – solo - was this week and it was no holds bare – PIV, lots of Oral, and squirting – that massage table is apparently pretty durable & waterproof. She came home shaking and we hopped into bed for story time … and it didn’t go that well. She struggled with telling me what went on or was maybe embarrassed as to how good it was, she kept mentioning that it was extremely hot, how he nailed her G-spot, and included face to face intense fucking looking into each others eyes. I made a promise to myself to be there for her and listen to how amazing it was for her but it didn’t flow that well. She was super sensitive to every facial expression and by that point, it wasn’t exciting for me. We didn’t reconnect – emotionally or physically and I just ended up apologizing for not listening well or enjoying it with her.

I am hopeful that we can keep this as a couple’s kink but I am feeling more and more like I am on the outside looking in and no matter how much we communicate it is just a Her experience. I want this and I want this as an enhancement to our sex life.

Any suggestions for a Hotwife Husband who is a little blocked from enjoying this lifestyle?

[2inUPMichigan]

I (53) and my wife (36) are happily married and have dabbled in the Lifestyle for a while and have recently decided to move in the direction of the Hotwife lifestyle. We have both fantasized about and look forward to adding this to our lives.

We started with a sensual massage with me watching and it went great with multiple orgasms and her response later was, “he wants to fuck me!”. We were both very turned on and that story was added to some fun play later.

The next massage was solo and went just as well and with my HW getting up the courage to grab his cock and was pleasantly surprised, this made her extremely confident and eager to try more. I told her that I wish I could have been there to see all the excitement but she said that she felt like she wouldn’t be able to enjoy herself / let go if I were there – another downer.

We then jumped on FEELD and had our profiles listed under HW and started to get some attention. We had set some ground rules as most newbies with the most important revolving around communication and complete transparency without judgment. She has sexted with a couple of guys and apparently came during one of the exchanges but did not tell me about until I asked if she had been on the site. Sort of a downer that she didn’t tell me – I am hopeful that this will be able to be a couple’s experience. We are still looking for connections, ironically the dick that was sexting with her ghosted us when we wanted to meet up, lesson learned in there.

The third massage – solo - was this week and it was no holds bare – PIV, lots of Oral, and squirting – that massage table is apparently pretty durable & waterproof. She came home shaking and we hopped into bed for story time … and it didn’t go that well. She struggled with telling me what went on or was maybe embarrassed as to how good it was, she kept mentioning that it was extremely hot, how he nailed her G-spot, and included face to face intense fucking looking into each others eyes. I made a promise to myself to be there for her and listen to how amazing it was for her but it didn’t flow that well. She was super sensitive to every facial expression and by that point, it wasn’t exciting for me. We didn’t reconnect – emotionally or physically and I just ended up apologizing for not listening well or enjoying it with her.

I am hopeful that we can keep this as a couple’s kink but I am feeling more and more like I am on the outside looking in and no matter how much we communicate it is just a Her experience. I want this and I want this as an enhancement to our sex life.

Any suggestions for a Hotwife Husband who is a little blocked from enjoying this lifestyle?

I read this several times before responding because I wanted to think about how I phrased my response.

It sounds to me as if you had a blueprint in your head of how each experience should go and when it didn't follow the script you were let down. I try to caution men that once this fantasy leaves their head and comes out into reality that they are no longer 100% in control of the narrative.

In other words, she may not be describing the events in the way you would prefer (a blow by blow, step by step account) but is instead describing them from her perspective. You can help her by asking questions about what she liked or enjoyed. (Keep in mind that we are participating in what is going on not observing so details that may be important to you might not be to us)

After her 1st play date she could have been feeling very vulnerable and looking to you to see how you were handling it (regardless of what you were saying). If your body language was closed off then she might not have been as comfortable sharing, I know I would not have been!

As hotwives we need know our husbands can handle this, that they are supporting us and that this is a positive outcome for both.

You apologized for not enjoying it with her. Oh boy, so you essentially turned away from her instead of connecting? That doesn't sound good at all.

Throw away the script and enjoy what is happening
You can still enjoy this together

Reassure her that you are okay, that you are happy it was hot for her and if she remembers any more details you would love to hear about them

A 1st time does not always go perfectly. This isn't porn or erotica, this is real life. In a day or two talk with her about any concerns that you have without placing any blame. See if the two of you can come up with some solutions that will work for both of you if you both decide to move forward.

This is simply a matter of two different views of this journey that need to become one. You have a very specific idea in your head of what each step should look like. Her image is different. The two of you need to work together to negotiate a new image together

Rambling response but a simple answer communication and compromise/negotiation.

[Sexy_AFCpl]

Thank you, you are so right. Everything you said was point on. I need to drop the expectations and live in the moment - and support her. I will certainly take your suggestions and put the work in. She is my queen, TY.

[Sexy_AFCpl]

Thank you, you hit the mark. I need to let go of those expectations and be more in the moment. I will certainly take your suggestions and put in the work.

[Farmgirl]

Thank you, you are so right. Everything you said was point on. I need to drop the expectations and live in the moment - and support her. I will certainly take your suggestions and put the work in. She is my queen, TY.

I too, believe as 2inUP so nicely put it.
I applaud you for listening to what she was saying, and taking it to heart.

From how I read you, you wanted a Hotwife. Now, fully support her in her vision of being one. Her vision may not be your fantasy, but she can reward you with so much more in her reality.

[Sexy_AFCpl]

Thank you for the support. The advice I see here is so helpful for us treading into foreign land.

[steveb713]

Boy friend broke it off with my wife after two years. Wife had gotten hold of him to set up a date for later this week said no more dates. “ you’re married.” Of course he knew she was married and what the deal was when the theee of us met to describe the arrangement. My suspicion is he was growing more fond of her but knew she’d never leave me. They were very close.
I feel for him. I know he’s suffering as well as she.

When we first met he admitted he’d never heard of wife sharing or what a hotwife was but L and I explained it clearly. He was completely blown away. Initially he said he’d have to think it over which he did agreeing to become her FB.

L knew him socially and felt safe and comfortable selecting him. It worked out well for us.

Bottom line L is sad, hurt and feels a great loss. This is a big loss to her. While it’s a loss for me in the sense that I derived my sexual pleasure from her being with him. It’s a bigger loss to her.

I’m asking the women how can I help other than be here for her.and support her. When and if the time comes she’ll never ask my assistance in selecting a new FB. I know her well enough to guarantee that. Also she’s dead set against using on line sites. We don’t go to bars. If she found or knew the right guy she’d be up for it. I worry she won’t do what she’ll need to find a replacement for him. If that’s what she wants I’ll of course support her in that though I prefer not. Naturally that’s her call.

Thanks in advance for your comments and suggestions.

[steveb713]

Hi WSCusk,

I'm not sure how to actually answer your question other than to tell you about my experience.

When I met my husband, we had sex all the time. And it was great, but I wanted more. I was afraid that he wouldn't respect me anymore. Or even worse he'd stop loving me. So, when hubby and I started our hotwifing experiences, I would tell him the same thing, "I'm only doing it for you.", which I truly meant. And, yet I always enjoyed myself and had an amazing feel about myself afterwards.

It took me a long time and lots of talks with my hubby for me to be able to accept myself as a hotwife. For me, the idea of being a hotwife was taboo, something that was only done by women that were "loose". I never realized what hotwife really meant. And that it was something that not only I could do, but was doing already.

I guess what I'm saying is that for me, it was a case of "brainwashing" that I had to undo. And, it was the love and total support from my husband that helped me to not only understand myself, but also accept myself.

Just keep talking with her, listen to her.

I’m finding (“ speculating” ) my wife has the same vulnerability. She’s always been the good girl. She started out for me so she initially said but later admitted it was for her also. The experience has been wonderful for her.

My question related to your last sentence. “‘Keep talking with her listen to her .” She’s resistant to say what she wants. Something holds her back. She is and has never been a talker.
I’ve learned to not push nor badger.
Do I let It go and wait? I do know badgering her never worked.

The reason it’s relevant now is that her FB / boyfriend of 2 years told her just this week he doesn’t want to have sex with her any longer because she’s married. My take. He’s falling in love with her. He wants her. He knows she’s not leaving me. So he’s out. ( see my posting previous ).

I’m hoping to have her share what she sees for the future. A new one? Call it quits? Etc. without pushing without badgering. Thanks

[Carlas husband]

A question about the “kid in the candystore” phenomenon.

Carla and I are still very new to the HW lifestyle: Two months have passed since we had the “let’s do it” talk.
Carla is enthusiasic to a level that neither she nor I expected. She gets so much response to her dating site profiles, and she loves it. I have lost count of her meet&greet dates, but it is about 10 guys. She has had solo dates with two of them, and wants to have dates with at least three more.

We have learned that this is called the “kid in the candystore” phenomenon

Carla’s question is: Have any of you experienced similar Early Days excitement, what happened later, where are you now in terms of ‘number and frequency’?

We know that all HWs are different and no one can tell what will happen to us, but we would appreciate if you would share your stories.

If you are wondering why I, and not Carla herself, am posting, the reason is that Carla’s English is very poor (her own assessment).

[Pixunine]

Hi everyone! I was hoping to be able to get answers by posting here and not create another thread.

My wife and I are ready to do this (she has a list of 4 to 5 guys she wants to try).

How does everyone go about verifying that the person is really clean of STI's? Flat out ask them to get the blood/urine test done just before we meet up?

Anything beyond that?

Sorry for the rambling. I am seriously overthinking due to nervousness which is something I'm prone to doing lol. This is our main hurdle right now.

Thanks!

[Farmgirl]

Carla’s question is: Have any of you experienced similar Early Days excitement, what happened later, where are you now in terms of ‘number and frequency’?

Many of us have links to our stories in our signature line that will answer many questions.
I have been in the LS for right at 30 years, but my overall numbers are low. I tend to have a couple of lovers at a time, but like all things it varies. For a few years now I've had a boyfriend and a FWB. I see my FWB now and then, and my boyfriend about twice a week.
As you said, we are all different and there is no right, wrong, or "normal".

[DCharles]

Carla’s question is: Have any of you experienced similar Early Days excitement, what happened later, where are you now in terms of ‘number and frequency’?

Many of us have links to our stories in our signature line that will answer many questions.
I have been in the LS for right at 30 years, but my overall numbers are low. I tend to have a couple of lovers at a time, but like all things it varies. For a few years now I've had a boyfriend and a FWB. I see my FWB now and then, and my boyfriend about twice a week.
As you said, we are all different and there is no right, wrong, or "normal".

I think one of the big turn ons for a husband when having a hotwife is the angst/jealousy of knowing what she is doing. At least it is for me. Does your husband still have any of those feelings of angst when you are with your boyfriend or has that worn off over time?

[lockedbybullsw]

Didn’t know how to search, so just throwing it out here.
My wife and I together for 17 years, married for 10 have had a hotwife relationship for approximately the last 12 years. I was the one to suggest it, I was the one who vetted and found a person, and I left it wide open for her to choose how and why we would enter this lifestyle. So she did end up finding the guy I found attractive, and started out with him, fucking on the first date.we have had a handful of threesomes, but she prefers to play alone and I allow it. He is still around sometimes 12 years later. He is our main bull. I’ll refer to him as F. Maybe her and F fuck once every 2-3 months. There have been 2 slight blips on the radar in the past who she fucked but they didn’t become long time FWB. Anyway. My wife approached the entire hotwife concept extremely cautiously. Was this a trick? Was this so I could cheat? And all the other normal questions were finally put to rest as time passed. She certainly does not hate hotwifing, but it’s not something she seeks. She does it for me because I think it’s hot but she enjoys what’s happening in the time as she should, and then moves on like it doesn’t happen.
Now F introduced us to mild cuckolding. He liked (and she did too) that his cock is bigger than mine. Which eventually led to me eating her creampies, no complaint on my end, and even as far as myself sucking cock from time to time. Now. I’m not gay, but it was very enjoyable to “ let go”. Relax and enjoy things with a third person in the confines of our own home.
My question for all the hot wives out there is, did you ever lose respect for your husband from these activities? It’s the one thing I’d like reassurance on. Now I’m not a sissy or weak… I provide well, I fuck her with absolution all the time, we really don’t talk about cuckolding when we aren’t in scene. However last 2 years or so she has seemed whithdrawn. We went through a very long sexless dry spell where she just wasn’t interested in me ( or anyone really). There is no doubt through time I might have slipped up and gotten comfortable at home as married couples often do, But I fixed myself and I feel like I almost restored our relationship to its former glory. I always wonder about her respect for me though. Asking her doesn’t produce answers of reassurance. They are just hollow “ of course I respect you” kind of answers. And now I’m asking you all. Have you looked down on your man, or lost respect for your man after cuckolding was introduced? Do you see your man differently after he has sucked a dick and eaten your creampie? Anxiously awaiting all your brutally honest comments and questions. Feel free to DM if necessary. Thanks hotwives! I don’t want to have a weak image in her eyes, but I do love cuckolding. I’m hoping the two concepts can coexist.

[Farmgirl]

I think one of the big turn ons for a husband when having a hotwife is the angst/jealousy of knowing what she is doing. At least it is for me. Does your husband still have any of those feelings of angst when you are with your boyfriend or has that worn off over time?

I asked my Number1 your question, here is his response:

" In the early days, I sometimes had angst, and I had some jealousy. Neither of those things was something I wanted or like, they are a form of stress brought on by a lack of trust. As I learned to really trust her those stressors went away. Now it's replaced by a deep feeling of excitement on one hand, and a feeling of knowing that all is right in my world on the other hand. Throw in that her being a Hotwife makes me feel very loved, such seeming contrasts make for a very heady experience. "

[Farmgirl]

Didn’t know how to search, so just throwing it out here.
My wife and I together for 17 years, married for 10 have had a hotwife relationship for approximately the last 12 years. I was the one to suggest it, I was the one who vetted and found a person, and I left it wide open for her to choose how and why we would enter this lifestyle. So she did end up finding the guy I found attractive, and started out with him, fucking on the first date.we have had a handful of threesomes, but she prefers to play alone and I allow it. He is still around sometimes 12 years later. He is our main bull. I’ll refer to him as F. Maybe her and F fuck once every 2-3 months. There have been 2 slight blips on the radar in the past who she fucked but they didn’t become long time FWB. Anyway. My wife approached the entire hotwife concept extremely cautiously. Was this a trick? Was this so I could cheat? And all the other normal questions were finally put to rest as time passed. She certainly does not hate hotwifing, but it’s not something she seeks. She does it for me because I think it’s hot but she enjoys what’s happening in the time as she should, and then moves on like it doesn’t happen.
Now F introduced us to mild cuckolding. He liked (and she did too) that his cock is bigger than mine. Which eventually led to me eating her creampies, no complaint on my end, and even as far as myself sucking cock from time to time. Now. I’m not gay, but it was very enjoyable to “ let go”. Relax and enjoy things with a third person in the confines of our own home.
My question for all the hot wives out there is, did you ever lose respect for your husband from these activities? It’s the one thing I’d like reassurance on. Now I’m not a sissy or weak… I provide well, I fuck her with absolution all the time, we really don’t talk about cuckolding when we aren’t in scene. However last 2 years or so she has seemed whithdrawn. We went through a very long sexless dry spell where she just wasn’t interested in me ( or anyone really). There is no doubt through time I might have slipped up and gotten comfortable at home as married couples often do, But I fixed myself and I feel like I almost restored our relationship to its former glory. I always wonder about her respect for me though. Asking her doesn’t produce answers of reassurance. They are just hollow “ of course I respect you” kind of answers. And now I’m asking you all. Have you looked down on your man, or lost respect for your man after cuckolding was introduced? Do you see your man differently after he has sucked a dick and eaten your creampie? Anxiously awaiting all your brutally honest comments and questions. Feel free to DM if necessary. Thanks hotwives! I don’t want to have a weak image in her eyes, but I do love cuckolding. I’m hoping the two concepts can coexist.

My question to you is, why do you not believe your wife?

[lockedbybullsw]

Simply because they are blank and not as animated as hee normal day to day topics of discussion. Her colorful attitudes cover all ranges of emotion. I dont ask much. Hard let ever actually. I feel like it’s putting her on the spot asking such a question. Almost as if no matter what her answer, I’d always question it.

[Farmgirl]

Simply because they are blank and not as animated as hee normal day to day topics of discussion. Her colorful attitudes cover all ranges of emotion. I dont ask much. Hard let ever actually. I feel like it’s putting her on the spot asking such a question. Almost as if no matter what her answer, I’d always question it.

It sounds like you have trust issues that need to be worked on between the two of you.

[jane]

i'm also perplexed by the statement 'she edned up finding the guy i found attractive"

[cuck075]

Hello VHWs - My wife is very hot and sexy and we have had amazing sex for last 10 years, since last couple of months I have seen I rather ejaculate pretty soon and I can tell my wife wants more.. My dick is at 5.1" and okayish girth, but when we have sex she never makes the noises and moans she does with the 8" thick dildo I've got for her! We always roleplay mfm where I am talking to her that she is being fucked by a big penis and I have seen she gets horny and more wet then usual..

She is a very traditional wife and conservative but when her pussy is on fire, she just wants it badly and my 5" isnt gonna cut it. I have watched numerous videos on Cukcoldsporn and I always fantasize my wife banging a hard bbc or bwc but my doubt is.. My wife is very emotional and she always likes having sex with emotions - will this cause any kind of attraction towards a potential bull? What about STDs or any other sexual diseases and how do you protect her against it?

Finally, I just want your suggestions on how shall I take the fantasizing about mfm we both do to something real as I constantly think that my self-esteem (especially related to my penis) has gone very low and any attempts to have sex turns into a 2-3 mins session whereas my wife easily goes 30-45mins full blown if I use a male desensitization spray.. Whenver I ask her during sex if she likes a big dick she always says yes so I am thinking there may be an opportunity here to let her explore her sexual side!

[Farmgirl]

Hello VHWs - My wife is very hot and sexy and we have had amazing sex for last 10 years, since last couple of months I have seen I rather ejaculate pretty soon and I can tell my wife wants more.. My dick is at 5.1" and okayish girth, but when we have sex she never makes the noises and moans she does with the 8" thick dildo I've got for her! We always roleplay mfm where I am talking to her that she is being fucked by a big penis and I have seen she gets horny and more wet then usual..

She is a very traditional wife and conservative but when her pussy is on fire, she just wants it badly and my 5" isnt gonna cut it. I have watched numerous videos on Cukcoldsporn and I always fantasize my wife banging a hard bbc or bwc but my doubt is.. My wife is very emotional and she always likes having sex with emotions - will this cause any kind of attraction towards a potential bull? What about STDs or any other sexual diseases and how do you protect her against it?

Finally, I just want your suggestions on how shall I take the fantasizing about mfm we both do to something real as I constantly think that my self-esteem (especially related to my penis) has gone very low and any attempts to have sex turns into a 2-3 mins session whereas my wife easily goes 30-45mins full blown if I use a male desensitization spray.. Whenver I ask her during sex if she likes a big dick she always says yes so I am thinking there may be an opportunity here to let her explore her sexual side!

If you have real self-esteem issues, those need to be explored and fixed aside from Hotwifing. Hotwifing doesn't fix problems in a person or a marriage, it enhances an already good relationship. Work on yourself first, then you can talk to her openly about the LS.