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Unread post by dirtylavanya » Thu Nov 21, 2019 7:31 pm

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I am glad to hear he was respectful of your wife's preferences, and left without watching or participating. But in that they already fucked once before, did she go to his house? Or the car, again? Or was the whole date a total bust?
They spent the whole night at his house

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Unread post by Favordod » Fri Nov 22, 2019 4:37 pm

How to ask a co-worker to have an intimate encounter with you?

My wife and I have talked/played for quite some time about the lifestyle and she's almost there.

She has a co-worker that used to work in the same building as her, but now works in a different building (they also work in different departments, so it's not like she/he is going to see one another on a regular basis). She's mentioned several times that it would be her fantasy to fuck this guy, however she's not entirely sure she could go through with it as she's also mentioned she's never slept around and never had much experience growing up.

Anyways, I'm curious to know your recommendations on having her/me/us inquire with her co-worker about having sex (she would want a MFM rather than her on her own with him). She has mentioned that she has meetings back at her old building, so she could run into him, but what does she do? I can't see her straight out asking him to fuck her. I've thought that she should arrange a lunch with him and then suggest they go for dinner/drinks sometimes. Or maybe she could arrange a dinner out for the three of us, but even if we do that, how do you recommend we initiate something?

I'd love to hear your ideas on this one.

Thanks,

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Unread post by Farmgirl » Fri Nov 22, 2019 5:33 pm

Were I her, I would flirt with him and see if he's interested. Then I would take it from there as he might or might not be interested and even if interested he might not really follow through.
And then you throw in the MFM and that adds another big level for him to cross. Chances are, if he's interested in her, it will be without you there. So, those are the kind of things for her to talk to him about in the heavy flirting stage.

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Unread post by gayathris » Sat Nov 23, 2019 8:25 am

My wife and I ended things with her long term bull Rob recently. My wife needs connection/friendship outside bedroom and doesn't just want to fuck random guys. She tried a black bull who she felt was fun to hangout. She met him at a charity event. After hooking up with him and his friend, my wife felt he is fun but he may not be fun enough outside bedroom . Besides he is busy. So my wife hand an eye on this married man from our old neighborhood.

My wife (Sow) feels strong about not wanting to sleep with men who are married unless wife is on board. This guy is tall, well built and successful entrepreneur. My wife told me she had a crush on him. She confided in the other wife (Jess) that all was not well and that I am always busy. Now, Jess invited Sow for drinks and girls night out a few times. Jess told my wife that she and her husband (Mark) worked on making the marriage more interesting. She didn't go into details the first time. Later Jess told my wife that they opened their marriage. Mark joined the last time. My wife is almost certain that he is onboard. Now, she is not sure about the arrangement. The wife didn't directly ask. Her husband gave enough indication and flirted with my wife when Jess went to the restroom.

Last night they were supposed to meet for drinks but they asked to meet her at their home. My wife went. Mark and Jess told my wife over wine and dine that they are interested in playing with her. My wife told them she has never been with a girl before. Jess told her she too was like that but changed over time. They told her they are interested in fmf threesome. My wife told them she will let them know soon. Mark was very flirty and my wife and him made out when Jess went to arrange dinner. Later Mark and Jess talked her into spending night with Mark, with Jess sleeping alone. My wife took the offer because she definitely loved making out with Mark. She told me she had a very good time. They had sex for almost two hours.

Except watching porn, I must admit I have zero understanding of bisexuality. What exactly goes on in fmf threesome? Does the woman not touch each other or do they touch but don't make out / have an interest in each other?

My wife has almost decided to say yes and it may happen for this Thanksgiving.

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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Sat Nov 23, 2019 12:51 pm

gayathris wrote:
Sat Nov 23, 2019 8:25 am
My wife and I ended things with her long term bull Rob recently. My wife needs connection/friendship outside bedroom and doesn't just want to fuck random guys. She tried a black bull who she felt was fun to hangout. She met him at a charity event. After hooking up with him and his friend, my wife felt he is fun but he may not be fun enough outside bedroom . Besides he is busy. So my wife hand an eye on this married man from our old neighborhood.

My wife (Sow) feels strong about not wanting to sleep with men who are married unless wife is on board. This guy is tall, well built and successful entrepreneur. My wife told me she had a crush on him. She confided in the other wife (Jess) that all was not well and that I am always busy. Now, Jess invited Sow for drinks and girls night out a few times. Jess told my wife that she and her husband (Mark) worked on making the marriage more interesting. She didn't go into details the first time. Later Jess told my wife that they opened their marriage. Mark joined the last time. My wife is almost certain that he is onboard. Now, she is not sure about the arrangement. The wife didn't directly ask. Her husband gave enough indication and flirted with my wife when Jess went to the restroom.

Last night they were supposed to meet for drinks but they asked to meet her at their home. My wife went. Mark and Jess told my wife over wine and dine that they are interested in playing with her. My wife told them she has never been with a girl before. Jess told her she too was like that but changed over time. They told her they are interested in fmf threesome. My wife told them she will let them know soon. Mark was very flirty and my wife and him made out when Jess went to arrange dinner. Later Mark and Jess talked her into spending night with Mark, with Jess sleeping alone. My wife took the offer because she definitely loved making out with Mark. She told me she had a very good time. They had sex for almost two hours.

Except watching porn, I must admit I have zero understanding of bisexuality. What exactly goes on in fmf threesome? Does the woman not touch each other or do they touch but don't make out / have an interest in each other?

My wife has almost decided to say yes and it may happen for this Thanksgiving.
Just to clarify did they specifically say FMF threesome or just say a threesome? Because they could have a FFM in mind. If your wife is not prepared for that it could be a little awkward. The arrangement of the letters make a difference in the interaction between the women.
What happens depends on the interest and comfort level of everyone involved.
It sounds like Jess is of the opinion that if your wife just tries it she might change her mind. I could be wrong but that is the impression I am getting.
Your wife will have to be very clear about any hard limits and be confident enough to verbalize them in the moment.

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Unread post by gayathris » Sat Nov 23, 2019 1:04 pm

2inUPMichigan wrote:
Sat Nov 23, 2019 12:51 pm
Just to clarify did they specifically say FMF threesome or just say a threesome? Because they could have a FFM in mind. If your wife is not prepared for that it could be a little awkward. The arrangement of the letters make a difference in the interaction between the women.
What happens depends on the interest and comfort level of everyone involved.
It sounds like Jess is of the opinion that if your wife just tries it she might change her mind. I could be wrong but that is the impression I am getting.
Your wife will have to be very clear about any hard limits and be confident enough to verbalize them in the moment.
Yes, they said fmf. My wife trusts them and I have interacted with them a few times. We don't have concerns about safety. My wife at least initially doesn't want to play with Jess. She thinks Jess is hot ( I have seen her and I think she is quite attractive TBH), but she has never been attracted to a woman.

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Unread post by young_aussie_couple » Sat Nov 23, 2019 5:44 pm

Thanks ladies, I have a question about how to get into this lifestyle. I'm sorry if this has been asked and answered before. I'm new here.

I am 33m, my wife is 30f. She is very attractive, 5'8" 115lbs, D cup boobs and a great figure. She could easily pass for early 20's. I see how other guys check her out, especially in a bikini, and it turns me on. We would have absolutely no problem finding willing and attractive men for her. I'd really love to see her enjoy being pleasured by a well hung fit guy (or guys).

I am aching for us to delve into hotwifing and/or swinging, but I am afraid to bring it up. She is not very sexual and comes from a conservative upbringing. In saying that, she has also given me the impression that she may be up for mildly kinky stuff, and she has mentioned sexual interest in other women. So I think there is a possibility that she does have a kinky side that may be deeply repressed. I just don't know how to go about teasing that out without blowing it, especially in case I am wrong.

Any advice from the hotwives (or husbands for that matter) on how I could go about this would be appreciated. Would be fantastic to hear from those who have a similar background where the wife was conservative and sexually shy.

TIA.

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Unread post by sausageoflovers » Fri Nov 29, 2019 4:24 pm

Hey there!

i am very happy about this thread, Finally there is a space to share my thoughts with fellow hotwives.

Here is my share:

My hubby’s ultimate desire is that i have always fresh cum inside me and i do not wear the underwear while in public. From practical reasons i am cautious to behave this way, particularly leaving wet spots everywhere i sit and that feeling when fluids gets unexpectedly out of me down my legs to be spotted by cautious sight. I want to fulfill my hubby’s desires, but somehow wanted to be secure in feeling in the public.

Do anyone have idea how to achieve the this?

Thanks a lot !

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Unread post by armyguyot1 » Fri Nov 29, 2019 6:02 pm

Welcome to the forum sausageoflovers.

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Unread post by Newhotwife2418 » Fri Dec 06, 2019 4:01 am

i Am just wondering how you get verified

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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Fri Dec 06, 2019 12:32 pm

Newhotwife2418 wrote:
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i Am just wondering how you get verified
There is a thread called "verified hotwife requirements" in the hotwife forum. You will find what you need there :up:

It's a secret ;)

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Unread post by LuvMyFitWife » Wed Dec 11, 2019 12:45 am

First time posting on here, so apologies if this has been asked before. Have any hotwives gotten into this in their 50s ? If so, what got you into it?

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Unread post by armyguyot1 » Wed Dec 11, 2019 5:02 am

Welcome to the forum LuvMyWife.

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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Wed Dec 11, 2019 7:03 am

LuvMyFitWife wrote:
Wed Dec 11, 2019 12:45 am
First time posting on here, so apologies if this has been asked before. Have any hotwives gotten into this in their 50s ? If so, what got you into it?
Me! :D
I'm 55 now and just past my one year hotwife anniversary.
There are quite a few women that have started on this journey in their 50's. Age is just a number and women in their 50's are in demand (thankfully) :mrgreen: As mature women we don't play as many games and tend to know what we want.

What got me into this? I have a thread with my entire store but I'm not sure that you are asking for that or if you are asking if there was a deciding factor?

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Unread post by early-kink » Wed Dec 11, 2019 11:52 am

I didn't read all 47 pages of this thread, so forgive me if this has been asked before.

Do you verified hotwives get a kick out of making your hubbies hot & horny (maybe jealous/have angst) when you're out on playdates with your boyfriends/lovers?? What do you feel about this aspect of your being a hotwife?? Does it do anything for you??

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Unread post by Farmgirl » Wed Dec 11, 2019 6:14 pm

First, if I thought I was causing my husband any feelings of jealousy or anxiety, I would shut down my Hotwifing. I never want him having any ill feelings.
Now to the other part you asked about:
I absolutely love...... making my number1 hot and horny......making him want me.....making him happy.....being the woman he wants and desires. When I'm on a playdate being naughty, getting fucked and having a great time, I think about my number1 being turned on sitting at home 'telling on me' to all of you. I know I'm on his mind but, he is also on my mind. It turns me on to no end to be fucked while knowing he is thinking about me getting fucked and loving every minute of it.

Here's something I told him just last night that kinda fits here: " I love making you happy because it makes me happy so, therefore, I like making me happy. "

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Unread post by stonemtncouple » Thu Dec 12, 2019 11:43 am

Farmgirl wrote:
Wed Dec 11, 2019 6:14 pm
First, if I thought I was causing my husband any feelings of jealousy or anxiety, I would shut down my Hotwifing. I never want him having any ill feelings.
Now to the other part you asked about:
I absolutely love...... making my number1 hot and horny......making him want me.....making him happy.....being the woman he wants and desires. When I'm on a playdate being naughty, getting fucked and having a great time, I think about my number1 being turned on sitting at home 'telling on me' to all of you. I know I'm on his mind but, he is also on my mind. It turns me on to no end to be fucked while knowing he is thinking about me getting fucked and loving every minute of it.

Here's something I told him just last night that kinda fits here: " I love making you happy because it makes me happy so, therefore, I like making me happy. "
Thats such a beautiful attitude!! Love it! As the husband you have us figured out! So well said.

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Unread post by Althapoly » Sat Dec 21, 2019 11:42 am

Newbie here. I’m 42 she’s 41, I’m very overweight and she is between curvy and BBW, but loosing weight steadily. We’ve been together 9 years and sex was great early, but very rare now. Health/disability issues with both and especially for her (back fusions) definitely haven’t helped. I find her immensely attractive no matter her shape. She is my second wife I’m her 3rd husband, she has had some swinging experience with her 2nd. We have fantasized with toys for years, but about two months ago I came out to her as a cuck and having a penis/cum fetish. She was a bit taken aback, we have a very close relationship and she is always concerned about anything that could come between us. We do t like to be apart at all.

Fast forward two months, we have had many conversations and excellent communication. She says “the idea is there” in her mind, but is still trying to “wrap her head around it.” Last weekend she said she appreciates my patience. I’m trying hard to balance patience and persistence to keep the subject moving. I make sure to remind her I am her servant and submit to her completely, and she is starting to enjoy those benefits.

I guess what I am asking is what else can I do to reassure her of her freedom with other men does not threaten our fantastic marriage. I want her to chat up some guys online even if she does not meet anyone yet, but I’m not sure how to encourage that.

Thanks in advance for the input!

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Unread post by Newgirl11 » Mon Dec 23, 2019 7:49 am

Hi,
Just started this few months ago. New relationship and he has done this for many years. Initially he wanted me with one or two per week. Now he wants every day, we live in separate cities and travel, I am shy and feel nervous looking for and meeting new guys. We travel for work and I have some regulars in other cities they are great. He puts a lot of pressure on me to find one every night, that just doesnt seem realistic or do able and it is feeling not fun. Question is how often do hotwives hookup? I know everyone is different but I feel like one or two times per week is a good high number.

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Unread post by armyguyot1 » Mon Dec 23, 2019 8:21 am

Welcome to the forum Newgirl11.

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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Mon Dec 23, 2019 9:56 am

Newgirl11 wrote:
Mon Dec 23, 2019 7:49 am
Hi,
Just started this few months ago. New relationship and he has done this for many years. Initially he wanted me with one or two per week. Now he wants every day, we live in separate cities and travel, I am shy and feel nervous looking for and meeting new guys. We travel for work and I have some regulars in other cities they are great. He puts a lot of pressure on me to find one every night, that just doesnt seem realistic or do able and it is feeling not fun. Question is how often do hotwives hookup? I know everyone is different but I feel like one or two times per week is a good high number.
He can tell you what he would like but it is up to you to tell him what your comfort level is. If it isn't fun and starts to become a chore then what are you getting out of it?

I personally won't schedule more than one play date a week - that is what works for me and what feels comfortable.

Each couple has to make the decisions that work for them. You will read a lot of variety here but that doesn't mean that anyone else's way of doing things is right for you. Just because your boyfriend thinks more often is right for him does not mean that it is right for you.

Don't go against what feels right to you and be honest with him. Since you agreed to play with other men he could think that if he pushes you will agree to more frequently also. If you do agree.....what would be his next request?? The two of you need to have a clear and honest conversation the next time you are in the same place (outside the bedroom)

Good luck!!

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Unread post by gayathris » Fri Dec 27, 2019 7:09 am

If you are a hotwife and your husband asked you to show text messages you exchanged with your bull, will you be ok showing them?

Or do you think you have the right to share or not share?

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Unread post by ckathrill » Fri Dec 27, 2019 8:17 am

Are you kidding? A husband has the right to know where their relationship is going. How hot is it really getting?

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Unread post by Farmgirl » Fri Dec 27, 2019 8:39 am

ckathrill wrote:
Fri Dec 27, 2019 8:17 am
Are you kidding? A husband has the right to know where their relationship is going. How hot is it really getting?

You really should get the pretty blue nametag. It might help with reading comprehension. ;)

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Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Fri Dec 27, 2019 9:00 am

Please remember that this thread is here for the sole purpose of asking questions and getting answers from VHW'S.

If you are not a Verified hotwife please do not answer in this thread - there are plenty of other threads on this forum where you can share your advice and opinion.

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