Wow, that sounds like a great introduction. I am glad your potential first extra partner focused on your pleasure. However you choose to do hotwifing, it is first and foremost about that -- your pleasure. As you get going in this lifestyle, should you guys choose to continue, you'll figure out more of what you want to get out of it.Husbands Kandi wrote:Update:
On Tuesday we met with the erotic massage therapist (we’ll refer to him as J). I must say, I don’t think I was truly excited till now! Not only is J easy on the eyes, but he seems very passionate. He talked about how he has sex differently than other people (what?) that he’ll make a spiritual/erotic connection with me, rather than fucking me (oh, oh I like that). I think this will be a most enjoyable first experience
He seemed more concerned about what I wanted to get out of this experience, other than “doing this for Husband.” Which was surprisingly harder to answer than I thought it was. I love how this turns Husband on… I love that we’re having more sex… I don’t want an emotional attachment to anyone other than Husband, it’s just sex… Ultimately, I’m not going to let anyone control my sexuality but me. And any woman who says she’s never fantasized about having sex w/ someone other than her partner is a liar. Same goes for women who say they’ve never fantasized about having sex w/ 2 men…liar. So by fulfilling Husband’s fantasy we’ll evolve into fulfilling mine.
After the meeting Husband was aroused and jealous (in a good way). And I took full advantage of him! I repeated what J described would be the basic flow of “the session” and added how I would feel and how I think J will feel. Once we got back to our room Husband felt the need to reclaim me. Again the next morning! And again the next evening! Basically we’ve been having amazing sex twice a day since. Gotta love vacation!
Also, realize, as you must as it's obvious you have read a lot on here, the transition from fantasy to reality may be quite jarring for your husband. Both of you should be prepared for this, and make sure you have time to process your feelings, and not just in bed. this is particularly true if there are some negative ones. But it sounds like you have a very strong marriage, so you should both be able to deal with whatever comes up.
And, please let us know how it goes!