Why are you a Hotwife?
Posted: Sun Nov 15, 2015 9:33 pm
Why are you a Hotwife?
A place to discuss the hotwife lifestyle and all of it's ins and outs
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Ditto.Poptart wrote:Because I love everything about it.
My wife needs all of that. She puts everyone else first. She has never done things for herself and, I think, she has missed out on a lot because of it. Particularly exploring her sexuality.2inUPMichigan wrote: ↑Thu Aug 01, 2019 12:35 pmBeing a hotwife has uncovered a part of me that was hidden for years.
I'm able to put aside the every day stresses and just be me, a woman, for a period of time and explore my sexuality.
I am more comfortable with myself, more confident and more content with my life.
That was me too, always looking out for everyone else so much so that I forgot to look out for myself.iwish wrote: ↑Mon Aug 12, 2019 12:29 pmMy wife needs all of that. She puts everyone else first. She has never done things for herself and, I think, she has missed out on a lot because of it. Particularly exploring her sexuality.2inUPMichigan wrote: ↑Thu Aug 01, 2019 12:35 pmBeing a hotwife has uncovered a part of me that was hidden for years.
I'm able to put aside the every day stresses and just be me, a woman, for a period of time and explore my sexuality.
I am more comfortable with myself, more confident and more content with my life.
I did check off the turning on husband box, but it is not my primary reason by any means. My main reasons are that I love having a variety of sexual partners, and, perhaps this is shallow, but I enjoy being the object of attention and desire.D+D wrote: ↑Wed Aug 14, 2019 12:16 pmI hope that this doesn't come across bad, but I notice that the most response is, it turns my husband on. That is probably true for most of we cuckold husbands and probably why most wives do this to start with, but somehow it bothers me. I know my wife first did it because of me, but I hope that's not why she continues. I just wouldn't want her to keep it up just because she wants to make me happy. I would only want it if she really wants to because it makes her happy and she does it for herself. Otherwise, I want to stop. I've talked to her about this before, but I think we need to talk again. Hotwives you know more than we do and those who have responded clearly do it because you find great self satisfaction as well as pleasing your husband, but do others that you visit with and who don't respond, do it mostly to please their husband?
Thanks for replying and no, it's not shallow at all.ErikaPeter wrote: ↑Sat Sep 07, 2019 3:59 amI did check off the turning on husband box, but it is not my primary reason by any means. My main reasons are that I love having a variety of sexual partners, and, perhaps this is shallow, but I enjoy being the object of attention and desire.D+D wrote: ↑Wed Aug 14, 2019 12:16 pmI hope that this doesn't come across bad, but I notice that the most response is, it turns my husband on. That is probably true for most of we cuckold husbands and probably why most wives do this to start with, but somehow it bothers me. I know my wife first did it because of me, but I hope that's not why she continues. I just wouldn't want her to keep it up just because she wants to make me happy. I would only want it if she really wants to because it makes her happy and she does it for herself. Otherwise, I want to stop. I've talked to her about this before, but I think we need to talk again. Hotwives you know more than we do and those who have responded clearly do it because you find great self satisfaction as well as pleasing your husband, but do others that you visit with and who don't respond, do it mostly to please their husband?
I call BS. Yes, most hotwives (not all) get into it with the help/ support (pressure) of the hubby. It eases guilt and helps them feel "pure and selfless" by saying to please my husband. The fact is, they know it pleases hubby so that does give them permission. But the main reason a wife is a hotwife is because she loves having her pussy pounded by other men. A dick without drama (no kids, no bills, no dirty dishes), just fucking.D+D wrote: ↑Wed Aug 14, 2019 12:16 pmI hope that this doesn't come across bad, but I notice that the most response is, it turns my husband on. That is probably true for most of we cuckold husbands and probably why most wives do this to start with, but somehow it bothers me. I know my wife first did it because of me, but I hope that's not why she continues. I just wouldn't want her to keep it up just because she wants to make me happy. I would only want it if she really wants to because it makes her happy and she does it for herself. Otherwise, I want to stop. I've talked to her about this before, but I think we need to talk again. Hotwives you know more than we do and those who have responded clearly do it because you find great self satisfaction as well as pleasing your husband, but do others that you visit with and who don't respond, do it mostly to please their husband?
Thanks for your kindness. I just related what the poll showed. Otherwise I believe I said the same as you.NinaAndDaryl wrote: ↑Thu Nov 14, 2019 12:29 amI call BS. Yes, most hotwives (not all) get into it with the help/ support (pressure) of the hubby. It eases guilt and helps them feel "pure and selfless" by saying to please my husband. The fact is, they know it pleases hubby so that does give them permission. But the main reason a wife is a hotwife is because she loves having her pussy pounded by other men. A dick without drama (no kids, no bills, no dirty dishes), just fucking.D+D wrote: ↑Wed Aug 14, 2019 12:16 pmI hope that this doesn't come across bad, but I notice that the most response is, it turns my husband on. That is probably true for most of we cuckold husbands and probably why most wives do this to start with, but somehow it bothers me. I know my wife first did it because of me, but I hope that's not why she continues. I just wouldn't want her to keep it up just because she wants to make me happy. I would only want it if she really wants to because it makes her happy and she does it for herself. Otherwise, I want to stop. I've talked to her about this before, but I think we need to talk again. Hotwives you know more than we do and those who have responded clearly do it because you find great self satisfaction as well as pleasing your husband, but do others that you visit with and who don't respond, do it mostly to please their husband?
I agree. I think women view themselves as they view other women. They don't realize how simple us men are. If her manicure isn't the best a female will notice and possibly be critical whereas men probably wouldn't notice that she even had her nails painted.early-kink wrote: ↑Fri Nov 15, 2019 5:05 amAlthough not a hotwife yet,(and maybe never?) my wife is much the same as iwish described in the Aug. 12th post. She does nothing for herself - just for her - and I believe she would benefit from trying some new things. She has given to all, and she deserves more for herself. My efforts at pampering her are not enough in my estimation.
I wish my wife would soak in some of Erika Peter's view of wanting to be the source of desire for guys. My wife lacks confidence, despite all my positive support and affirmation. If my wife had a few guys trying to go out with her, I know she'd feel much better about herself. What woman wouldn't with guys chasing her??