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This may have been covered a number of times before but I was just curious how many couples like it when the wife goes on "dates" and then relays the details later (like we do) or if they prefer that the hubby is present and participates at the time.

My wife never plays alone, nor does she communicate with the other guy directly (unless I'm right there). We always have mmf style 3ways.

Wife sometimes fucks on her own but prefers I am there. How better to show a cuck who is in charge than by making him watch her be taken?!3

I think that when and if it ever happened, I'd prefer for my wife to meet a lover alone.

My sweetheart has told me, that if she was to ever do it with a guy. Then she would have to be alone.

My wife prefers mfm's where she the center of sexual attention with me and another guy. She loves being dp with one cock in her ass and the other cock in her pussy, she claims it gives her much more intense orgasms. But sometimes I like to sit by the side of the bed and watch the other guy cock go in and out of her wet pussy, and watch her reaction when the other guy shoots his hot cum deep in her pussy.

Tough choice when you do both !

I selected that we "like" that she plays alone, but honestly only she "likes" it.

I'd much prefer to be present, but early in our adventure she told me she plays alone or not at all.

I chose to take what I can get.

The two are not mutually exclusive. No one should conflate not being there with being a cuckold. There are times I do prefer she cuck me, but this applies to establishing a great hotwifing environment. Those that thing otherwise are in some serious denial and are basically insecure.

Last night she had a date without me to meet a guy she's been chatting with for several weeks. It was a resounding success. If I had been there it would not have permitted the two of them to establish the 'affair' like intimacy required to launch a successful relationship for her. Too many men are helicopter hubbies and hover; it makes most women and their suitors hold back. As a result, they had that instant connection, and, when they got in the car, enjoyed passionate kissing multiple times. She didn't have sex - never does on first meet as she only wants a match that is motivated for more than a quick hit.

This also extends to the bedroom. Next time they meet, he'll come to our home. When he arrives I will not greet him initially - she will, without me. I'll remain in my man cave for a bit while she greets him, and they get a few minutes to get a little intimate, kiss etc. Then she'll bring him to meet me; she is driving, and he'll sense that. After that she'll then take him to our bedroom where they'll get intimate, and enjoy foreplay. I'll wait until they are so into each other they'll be mostly oblivious that I am even there. He's already aware that's how she and I arrange it, and he liked it compared to one other experience he had where the husband was there the entire time. Sometimes, but not always, doing that is a subtle statement of control by the hubby who might not be totally secure. Yes, you miss a little, but this is about HER - the better it is for her, the more potent the intimate connection allowed to be established. Most women don't get off on just the physical like men do - its about the connection that stokes the physical for many. I'll be very close by, able to hear a little, and quietly pass by the bedroom to know when they are so into it I can slip in and watch they quietly. Believe me, every time we done it this way in the past, she and her lover wouldn't have noticed an earthquake when I later joined them.

If I am to join in for threesome action, she'll invite me to, or, I just wait my turn and fuck her after he's has had her. He can watch the two of us fuck - and wants to. If he fucks her without a condom and unloads into her, I'll not last but a few minutes before unloading into her silky cum-filled pussy anyway. After that, if he's going to stay and fuck her again, or, spend the night, I'll leave the two of them alone. I remain free to rejoin them anytime I want. When she wants me to join them, she has no reservation to call me in from another room when she wants me there. This isn't being submissive on my part; I am actually the dominant of the two of us and she is on the slightly submissive side, but the two of us are so incredibly secure as a couple that I don't need show him that I am the big swinging dick constantly present to prove it.

The connection they cultivate in my temporary and strategic absences creates a powerful bond, comfort, and intense desire between them. In fact, once the other male gets comfortable, they'll often agree that I can use my wireless night vision camera to observe them from another room when I leave them alone - allowing them more intimate time and allowing me to participate remotely when I want. That can be amazing too. If her lover comes over and stays all night, it is amazing watching them be super intimate in our bed, lights out (the infrared camera makes viewing them like daylight). I might even choose to sleep in another room from where I can watch them on a big screen.

One time, after I had fucked her after after her lover had fucked her, I left the room. He spent the entire night with her in our bed. Right after I left the bedroom, I watched them fuck again remotely. They went at it like animals without me hovering and not in the room - even knowing I might or might not be watching. Then it was even more amazing watching as they fell asleep in each other's arms in our own marital bed - only to awaken an hour later and fuck again, followed by really sensuous intimate lovemaking in the morning when they awoke. I was awakened by the sound from the TV monitor. I didn't interrupt them and waiting until he unloaded into her. I got my turn again later. Not always though. We've had times when her lover would show up late at night, come into our darkened bedroom where both of us were already in bed, and he'd get in bed with her and fuck her in the dark with me laying right next to them. Hot! I always get her at least once right after, but might choose to say while they fall asleep in a tight embrace with his cock still buried deep in my wife's pussy - smokin' hot.

For noobs and the insecure, that is often too much, but the rewards are amazing if one has the degree of trust and the depth of security in themselves and in their marriage that ought to exist in the first place if a couple is thinking about delving in this lifestyle. The more she is into her lover, the better. A woman needs to have total awareness of New Relationship Exuberance (NRE) to avoid such a connect from threatening the primary relationship - my wife does. Others might not have that much experience and trust, but if both of you do you both can have the best of all worlds.

TriangleTangle

We would vote C) All of the above

My wife definitely prefers to be alone. She's just a lot more comfortable when she doesn't feel 'on display'. We've done both, including same room swapping with other couples, but she likes to be alone where she feels she can relax more and be herself.

Not always easy for me... I'm not concerned about anything developing between her and her lovers, but safety is always something I cant help worrying about, even with the guys I'm friends with.


-Cray

We do both but 90% her solo with her lovers. She emphasizes relationship and I have no desire to be a third wheel in that dynamic. The occasional 3 way romp was nice but the last few years, I'd honestly rather be watching and masturbating than joining in the fucking of her.

I am always there, although we have thought about (and even tried once, unsuccessfully) for her to play alone. I think I would enjoy her doing it alone, but only with someone we knew very well, then of course she would have to run home to me with her pussy full of cum so I could reclaim her.

We've played 3 times together and she made out twice (but no sex) on her own. She's allowed to sleep with anyone alone only once. After that I would have to be present. This rule keeps feelings at bay.

torontobbwcouple wrote:We've played 3 times together and she made out twice (but no sex) on her own. She's allowed to sleep with anyone alone only once. After that I would have to be present. This rule keeps feelings at bay.

This is a smart way to do things.

It's always been alone with her lovers for us. That's how it started and that's the way she likes it.

TriangleTangle wrote:The two are not mutually exclusive. No one should conflate not being there with being a cuckold. There are times I do prefer she cuck me, but this applies to establishing a great hotwifing environment. Those that thing otherwise are in some serious denial and are basically insecure.

Last night she had a date without me to meet a guy she's been chatting with for several weeks. It was a resounding success. If I had been there it would not have permitted the two of them to establish the 'affair' like intimacy required to launch a successful relationship for her. Too many men are helicopter hubbies and hover; it makes most women and their suitors hold back. As a result, they had that instant connection, and, when they got in the car, enjoyed passionate kissing multiple times. She didn't have sex - never does on first meet as she only wants a match that is motivated for more than a quick hit.

This also extends to the bedroom. Next time they meet, he'll come to our home. When he arrives I will not greet him initially - she will, without me. I'll remain in my man cave for a bit while she greets him, and they get a few minutes to get a little intimate, kiss etc. Then she'll bring him to meet me; she is driving, and he'll sense that. After that she'll then take him to our bedroom where they'll get intimate, and enjoy foreplay. I'll wait until they are so into each other they'll be mostly oblivious that I am even there. He's already aware that's how she and I arrange it, and he liked it compared to one other experience he had where the husband was there the entire time. Sometimes, but not always, doing that is a subtle statement of control by the hubby who might not be totally secure. Yes, you miss a little, but this is about HER - the better it is for her, the more potent the intimate connection allowed to be established. Most women don't get off on just the physical like men do - its about the connection that stokes the physical for many. I'll be very close by, able to hear a little, and quietly pass by the bedroom to know when they are so into it I can slip in and watch they quietly. Believe me, every time we done it this way in the past, she and her lover wouldn't have noticed an earthquake when I later joined them.

If I am to join in for threesome action, she'll invite me to, or, I just wait my turn and fuck her after he's has had her. He can watch the two of us fuck - and wants to. If he fucks her without a condom and unloads into her, I'll not last but a few minutes before unloading into her silky cum-filled pussy anyway. After that, if he's going to stay and fuck her again, or, spend the night, I'll leave the two of them alone. I remain free to rejoin them anytime I want. When she wants me to join them, she has no reservation to call me in from another room when she wants me there. This isn't being submissive on my part; I am actually the dominant of the two of us and she is on the slightly submissive side, but the two of us are so incredibly secure as a couple that I don't need show him that I am the big swinging dick constantly present to prove it.

The connection they cultivate in my temporary and strategic absences creates a powerful bond, comfort, and intense desire between them. In fact, once the other male gets comfortable, they'll often agree that I can use my wireless night vision camera to observe them from another room when I leave them alone - allowing them more intimate time and allowing me to participate remotely when I want. That can be amazing too. If her lover comes over and stays all night, it is amazing watching them be super intimate in our bed, lights out (the infrared camera makes viewing them like daylight). I might even choose to sleep in another room from where I can watch them on a big screen.

One time, after I had fucked her after after her lover had fucked her, I left the room. He spent the entire night with her in our bed. Right after I left the bedroom, I watched them fuck again remotely. They went at it like animals without me hovering and not in the room - even knowing I might or might not be watching. Then it was even more amazing watching as they fell asleep in each other's arms in our own marital bed - only to awaken an hour later and fuck again, followed by really sensuous intimate lovemaking in the morning when they awoke. I was awakened by the sound from the TV monitor. I didn't interrupt them and waiting until he unloaded into her. I got my turn again later. Not always though. We've had times when her lover would show up late at night, come into our darkened bedroom where both of us were already in bed, and he'd get in bed with her and fuck her in the dark with me laying right next to them. Hot! I always get her at least once right after, but might choose to say while they fall asleep in a tight embrace with his cock still buried deep in my wife's pussy - smokin' hot.

For noobs and the insecure, that is often too much, but the rewards are amazing if one has the degree of trust and the depth of security in themselves and in their marriage that ought to exist in the first place if a couple is thinking about delving in this lifestyle. The more she is into her lover, the better. A woman needs to have total awareness of New Relationship Exuberance (NRE) to avoid such a connect from threatening the primary relationship - my wife does. Others might not have that much experience and trust, but if both of you do you both can have the best of all worlds.

TriangleTangle

Bingo!

You might also be interested in this article I just wrote and posted here:

viewtopic.php?f=8&t=47129

TriangleTangle

We have done both...the last few times she finds the guy she wants be loaned to and I deliver her and he brings her home.

My wife has only ever been alone... she prefers it. Just this year started taking some short videos to share with me. She (and her FB) know that I'd like to be present someday, at least once, but we haven't gotten there yet.

Do her boyfriends think she is cheating (in which case it is doubtful that you will ever join them)... Or do they simply feel they are able to let go and better open up to each other without you there (which leaves hope that one day you will become part of their excitement) ??

Brad

One FB knows... the other doesn't.

The one that knows could happen, I think he feels like it would be uncomfortable... we'll see. It's not something I feel I must see, for now all parties are ok with the arrangement.

It’s strange - my fantasies started with me being there -mfm etc; but as I read more, I get more and more into her playing alone.

We do both. Sometimes, I watch at our home or remotely with our hidden cams with the guys' permission. But she also dates others as she feels the need or circumstances arise that lead to that. Some of her sex partners assume she's creating for the reason she isn't comfortable telling all guys that; it depends upon what she feels they need to know or can handle. A few who fucked her had problems getting erect when she told them her husband approved, so confessing that isn't always the best policy.

I just posted her date last night and continuing through this morning. She has freedom to do what she wants and makes good use of it: http://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=51629

I like them both, but cant imagine doing a MFM until I have had the man solo. Have to take them for a test drive to see if they are what I am looking for in MFM.