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My wife’s favorite sexual encounter style is a gang-bang.

I’ve been fascinated by the psychology of this aspect of her personality, and it has been a frequent subject of discussion, in bed, and out of bed.

Her first gang-bang experiences occurred during our college years, during a time in which our engagement was broken off. KK’s first “confession” was an event that occurred while we were actually still engaged. She made an excuse that her parents were in town, a lie, to attend a fraternity party, which led to her first gang-bang experience, pulling a five-guy train.

The next experience she told me about occurred during a time when she was essentially hyper-sexual; engaged in nude modeling, lingerie modeling, and escorting. Gang-bang number two took place at a bachelor party event, in which the original intent was to dance for the group, give the groom-to-be a blow-job, and maybe fuck him - instead the event turned into a full-blown gang-bang, where KK was the center of attention.

My wife’s next series of gang / group experiences overlapped the aforementioned period, over the transition time when we were getting back together, and had resumed our engagement - she was still secretly sneaking off to attend fraternity parties, in which she was the center of three to ten man gang-bangs. She can’t accurately recall how many times this took place.

There was an eventual lull in that activity, and KK has described many times her lack of fulfillment of that need. The lull began a few months before we got married, and lasted through the first seven years of our marriage, until KK was in graduate school. During that time, my wife had a series of one-night stands and short-duration affairs. She also engaged in at least four gang-bang events. When this was going on, it was all in secret - I suspected her of cheating, but did not confront her about it. Twice in that period, I essentially “caught” her dead to rights, in a post-facto sense. One of those events involved her being picked up by the campus police, and I had to go retrieve her. Another involved her accidentally being locked out of her car, and a call from the cops. Both times, were after gang-bang events in which it was obvious that she’d been sexually active.

KK’s need to engage sexually with multiple men is fascinating. To the extent her needs drove her to engage in risky behavior, and to cheat is something we’ve discussed and come to understand.

In the course of marriage, and the transition to her hot wife lifestyle, I’ve supported her interest and need for gang-bang, multiple-male encounters.

We’ve experimented with different means of arranging these events for her, different styles, i.e. pulling a train, dog-pile, sensual gang-bangs, organized “greedy girl” nights at lifestyle clubs, self-arranged hotel/motel gang-bangs, and most recently, the “Eyes Wide Shut” New Year’s theme party.

The downside of my wife’s peculiar interest and need for group sex is the combination of logistical issues, and reducing health risks - she prefers bareback sex for a variety of reasons. Finding screened, low-risk healthy partners, and pulling off a successful gang-bang is non-trivial. This usually limits our ability to pull off more than a couple of events in a calendar year.

The two of us have often wondered about the human nature / human evolutionary aspects of gang-bangs. Together, we’ve read the thinly available literature on the topic, which is interesting.

There are odd things to consider, from the anatomy of the penis, specifically the glans and coronal ridge, which form an effective “tool” for removing sperm from a woman’s vagina. Other aspects are the physiological differences between male and female orgasm response; the refractory period in males, and the lack of refractory period in females - this combines in a strange way with the average time to achieve orgasm, from 2 - 5 minutes in males, and 10 - 40 minutes for females.

There is a strong argument that humans evolved for group sex, including “sperm competition,” and the notion of a single woman controlling a group of men sexually, as “goddess,” enjoying penetration from multiple partners, and multiple orgasms in a sexual encounter.

My wife often elaborates on that aspect, being the “center,” using multiple cocks for pleasure, as well as “being used” by multiple cocks as an object of pleasure. She describes it as a simultaneous giving and receiving experience, of being totally absorbed in a sexual state where every erogenous zone, every nerve ending, is being stimulated simultaneously.

What experiences do others have in this domain?

Interesting points that I've not fully considered.

L has one experience with multiple men, although I'm not sure if it fits the widely accepted definition. As part of an experiment with "being owned" by her Dom, during a week-long visit with her Dom in my absence, he arranged two small parties comprised of L, six other men and himself. He knew she was nervous, so the first night he dressed her in a semi-transparent bra and panty set which she wore when they arrived. It was more of a mixer where they met her, made her feel beautiful and sexy, and by the end of the night merely took turns fondling her. As reluctant as she was initially, she loved the attention and touching by the end of the evening. In a running diary kept that week (see "Owned for a Week" in the Library) she told me she was very wet for them but was still nervous.

After some time to talk and prepare with her Dom, a second party with the same guests led to her fucking each of the six men privately in a spare bedroom. She became comfortable enough to stay naked around all of them as they spent time together during the night. As an experiment, she found it exciting and interesting to compare the six men's bodies and techniques all in one night. Although it was an act of conquering her anxiety about an untried sexual experience, her immediate reaction was positive, an ego boost that they all wanted her and that she was brave enough to see it through. Unfortunately, she suffered some guilt for a while after she returned home. So, not all her inhibitions were completely erased that night.

Since then we've met a few of the men who were there that night at her Dom's parties. L has been especially warm warm and flirty with them, and has fucked one of them again upstairs during a party. She says she'd gladly do any of them again individually, but that the gang-bang scenario just isn't for her. But, she's changed her mind about such things before. Knowing how his parties go, I'd guess nothing is off the table.

Don

My wife discovered the gang bang at age 19. We were dating at that time but not married. She developed an interest in older men and with my blessings was dating a 50 something bachelor farmer. He lived a few miles out of town. She dated him often and was very into him.
Andy asked her if she would do his brother along with him which she was happy to to. Once that had been going on for a while he asked her if she would be willing to try a gang bang. She was nervous about it but also turned on and intrigued by the idea. After thinking about it for a while she decided to go ahead. She got in touch with And and he arranged it for two weeks later. She told me she had a date with Andy and Steve. Never mentioned the plan for a gang bang. I drove her out to Andy's and dropped her off like usual on their date nights. She was always happy and excited when she was going to see Andy but that night she was more excited than usual and even a bit anxious. I asked her about it and she said she was just really excited.
As she was getting out she said oh I'll probably be staying over night. I was to pick her up in the morning.
Andy was waiting for her with 7 other guys and a drink. There were introductions and a bit of chit chat then on to the main event. I don't have all the details except to say it was life changing for her. It started out with a guy fucking her and one rubbing his cock in her face. After that it got a bit fuzzy for her and turned into a cluster fucking.
She orgasms easily and it started for her with the first cock and went on and on and on. She said it started hard then after a while slowed off to a gentle tingle and then would build again. Each time it built up again it was more intense. She said there was a moment when the pleasure became pain and she almost stopped it. Then she said the pain was gone and she moved into an entirely different kind of orgasm.
She says it's a totally different kind of physical orgasm that then becomes a mind and body orgasm at the same time. She calls gang bangs spiritual fucking. From that point on she became a huge fan of the gang bang. We're older now and she doesn't do it as often or as many guys but she's still at it a couple times a year.

We were invited to a swingers party of some 40 participants although the hosts knew my wife didn't want me to participate. Several guys fucked her while wives and other husbands roamed in and out of the bedroom while the guys were fucking her. We joined a cuckold/hotwife club that now meets quarterly and have attended only two meetings so far. Up to four bulls fucked her but at separate times.

Almost all sex clubs in Europe have at least one night a week dedicated to gangbangs. In the UK they are often called greedy girl nights. Very often on those nights active couples are admitted for free or at least for a reduced entry cost.

how many guys require it to be a gang bang? Would three count? two?

I have been to a few swinger clubs and private sex parties where I have had several men serially, but not at the same time. The most I have done is a threesome. I am not sure that I would enjoy a gang bang, but I would be willing to try it some time.

hotsusan wrote:how many guys require it to be a gang bang? Would three count? two?

The consensus is three or more men, and at least one woman constitute a gang-bang.

Two men and at least one woman are generally considered a threesome, either MFM, or MMF depending on the labeling of bisexual activity between the male participants.

My wife has never been gangbanged, although, she has had several threesomes with other men, including ONE disastrous one with me and an ex-friend back in 2005.

She had a couple more spontaneous thressomes while we were broken up around ‘08 when she was very hyper sexual, fucking a different man or men, seemingly every weekend. This was a time that now, she says she regrets, as largely a time of “acting out” for revenge for my infidelity to her at the time.

It’s weird. She gets super defensive when I bring up her slut-years, especially since it’s such a huge turn on for me to remember how spectacular she was. We would still meet up even though we weren’t technically together and she would tell me, in great detail, the naughty things that she had been up to.

One particular night, she had been out ‘on The prowl’ but had come home alone. I happened to be at a bar downstairs from her apartment, literally seconds away from taking this woman, Callie, back to her place since her and I had come across each other’s profiles on Adult Friend Finder.

Long story longer, my now wife showed up looking DEAD SEXY, freshly shaven, smooth legs, tan, wearing super high, strappy heels, a denim labia-length mini skirt and a blue see through tank top. I blew Callie off and went upstairs, we got high as fuck, and I took a BUNCH of pics of her before we ended up having one of the nastiest, sexiest fuck sessions we’ve EVER had.

I only were to find out, very recently, that I was the third man to fuck her that day, as she actually hadn’t struck out. Rather, her and her FWB, Dave, had just had a threesome with another guy, Mike, who is an African-American fellow they were both friends with. She only recently told me, in the last couple of years, that I was the third man to cum in her pussy that might.

That’s the closest she’s ever been; fucking three different men within a few hours of one another.

One of my best memories of our long history.

Nowadays.... super vanilla. Not sure why, but, slutty, leggy, free spirit that I knew ten years ago seems to be gone forever.

My wife and I initially started hotwifing at private gang bang parties. We felt it was easier and less hang ups. The wife is a natural at them and really knows how to work a few guys at the same time. We have gone to about 6 hotel parties where she's been with up to 9 guys in a night.

We are now into doing smaller parties usually with a couple that we play with and 2-3 guys. The logistics are a pain in the ass. But this is still our favorite type of hotwifing.

maverik455 wrote:My wife and I initially started hotwifing at private gang bang parties. We felt it was easier and less hang ups. The wife is a natural at them and really knows how to work a few guys at the same time. We have gone to about 6 hotel parties where she's been with up to 9 guys in a night.

We are now into doing smaller parties usually with a couple that we play with and 2-3 guys. The logistics are a pain in the ass. But this is still our favorite type of hotwifing.

There are lots of gang-bang groups / organizers around - they can be found in sources like FetLife, and many lifestyle clubs have either theme nights (I believe one of the other posts refers to a common European/UK label, "greedy girl night") where the event is sort of "pre-organized."

We've tried both variations, looking to reduce the logistical and planning workload. The downside is interesting - KK likes to pick the men she interacts with. In the private gang-bang group / organizer, and club event, there were way more men, which solves one problem, but in the cases we went this route, several of the men were for one reason or another not attractive to KK. While the ground-rules support rejecting anything with an individual, it put a strain on my wife that she didn't really want to deal with. It was a situation to actively reject contact, or make the choice to engage with a partner she wasn't interested in.

jw_kk wrote:

maverik455 wrote:My wife and I initially started hotwifing at private gang bang parties. We felt it was easier and less hang ups. The wife is a natural at them and really knows how to work a few guys at the same time. We have gone to about 6 hotel parties where she's been with up to 9 guys in a night.

We are now into doing smaller parties usually with a couple that we play with and 2-3 guys. The logistics are a pain in the ass. But this is still our favorite type of hotwifing.

There are lots of gang-bang groups / organizers around - they can be found in sources like FetLife, and many lifestyle clubs have either theme nights (I believe one of the other posts refers to a common European/UK label, "greedy girl night") where the event is sort of "pre-organized."

We've tried both variations, looking to reduce the logistical and planning workload. The downside is interesting - KK likes to pick the men she interacts with. In the private gang-bang group / organizer, and club event, there were way more men, which solves one problem, but in the cases we went this route, several of the men were for one reason or another not attractive to KK. While the ground-rules support rejecting anything with an individual, it put a strain on my wife that she didn't really want to deal with. It was a situation to actively reject contact, or make the choice to engage with a partner she wasn't interested in.

We've had this problem as well and I had to essentially block the guys from my wife. At one party we took our gf with us and at the time she wasnt into bbc...guess how awkward it was to play bodyguard for her?

It's like anything in life there are pro's and cons to all. We think we are going to try and go the private route again so we can pick what she likes.

I'm of the belief that if a woman hasn't tried multiple partners she's missing out. Been involved in a few where it was the lady's first time with two or more men. They were apprehensive at first and then quickly got into it realizing the pleasure that comes for multiple cocks (when one is done next one is there and ready). My favorite experience was with a couple (her first time) and a MFM. I put 3 loads in her, her husband 2 more. There was cum everywhere. Wet and a lot of fun. I realized how much cum a pussy could hold (or not) that day. Her husband found out she was a cum slut.

My wife has been gang banged several times. I love watching & cleaning the guys up afterwards. I'm queer & I love the feeling of having multiple cocks in my mouth.

I want my wife to have multiple loads of cum in her pussy. I don’t understand how, after having had so many different cocks, of all sizes, shapes and colors (several black lovers), how she is so vanilla now. She won’t even fuck me now, but once a month, if I’m lucky, and won’t do any talking about her slutty, sexy past life. Are there other men whose wives used to be sluts, that feel this way?

I know that she used to enjoy watching gangbangs and would say things like, “what woman wouldn’t want a bunch of big cocks taking turns on her” to barely even acknowledging that she was ever into slutty one nighters, spontaneous thressomes, and the thought of a gangbang with 5 or 6 huge black men.

It’s very frustrating. Does anyone else share this type of frustration?

I've watched my hot wife being gang banged several times. I always suck the guys before & after. Then I eat her cum filled snatch.

FiveInchLullaby wrote: ↑

Thu Feb 07, 2019 8:07 am

I want my wife to have multiple loads of cum in her pussy. I don’t understand how, after having had so many different cocks, of all sizes, shapes and colors (several black lovers), how she is so vanilla now. She won’t even fuck me now, but once a month, if I’m lucky, and won’t do any talking about her slutty, sexy past life. Are there other men whose wives used to be sluts, that feel this way?

I know that she used to enjoy watching gangbangs and would say things like, “what woman wouldn’t want a bunch of big cocks taking turns on her” to barely even acknowledging that she was ever into slutty one nighters, spontaneous thressomes, and the thought of a gangbang with 5 or 6 huge black men.

It’s very frustrating. Does anyone else share this type of frustration?

I call it buyers remorse, but yes. Mine started with hotwife/swinging being part of everything and then 14 years later she’s like yours. I’m totally an alpha, in shape guy with a long lasting big cock. So, it’s not that.

We/she have a guy (bartender) who has a 'stable' of men looking for hookups that we/she use. He asked about bringing a bunch of friends over. She and I had discussed it on the terms of gangbang vs. group.

My definition:
group = concurrently
gangbang = sequentially

We do 3-somes (group) often and (mini) gangbang (her partner and myself) more often.

Due to a medical issues we have put it on a back burner, yet to be discussed and decided, group or gang, and how many.

We are going to visit her Bf next weekend and we asked him if he knew any suitable candidates for joining him in fucking my wife I will not be joining in except getting her pussy ready to take cock.He told us he has friend with a nice girthy cock and he was up for it.She's really looking forward to the attention of two men and has said if she enjoys it she'd be interested in adding a 3rd or fourth guy.She loves the idea of having rotating cocks in her mouth and pussy at the same time.So no no gangbangs yet but we might be leading to them in the future.

I organized one for the wife a few years ago, it was awesome, 5 guys i still have a bit of video not lost, bloody computers.
a lot of work to setup though, I must of spent a couple of weeks 100s of messages countless guys, even on the day i think i had 20 or more organized expecting dropouts

When we first started in the lifestyle, gangbangs were one of our favorite fantasies. We often talked about them and our fantasy evolved over time and included lots of details. When the opportunity presented itself, neither of us hesitated. Although nothing really went wrong, we had spent too much time imagining it and because it didn’t go as we had fantasized, we didn’t make any attempt to repeat it. Then, a couple years later, a similar situation happened but this time, instead of multiple guys all playing at the same time, I was passed around- everyone was watching but I was playing with one guy at a time. We had never imagined it happening that way but we loved it. Everyone there loved it and we all wanted it to happen again and we got together again the following week. The second time was just as good and for the next three years was repeated many times.

My wife has done 2 gangbangs. The first was with 15 guys spread over about 6 hours. Up to 5 were with her at a time. It was incredible.

The second was impromptu with a bachelor party when they showed at a strip club we were visiting. Only 4 guys fucked her that time.

Details and pick are in her thread. If you enjoy leave her a comment.

We are starting to discover GB's and so far (see here) we both love it!

I think many girls/women and dream about this and me too but to actually do it is a different thing. At least we (my boyfriend and I) are far from here right now. But who knows what the future will bring