Our Hotwives

My wife prefers to meet guys randomly, like in a bar on vacation. It's more exciting to her. Plus then she doesn't have to worry about things being weird with a friend or co-worker if it doesn't work out. She is absolutely STUNNING, but it's surprising how often she strikes out. Guys just won't hit on a woman with her husband there. Even if she is putting out total fuck me vibes, and wearing her SLUT or HOTWIFE anklets, mini skirts etc.

When she is solo, she is much more likely to be hit on, but once they find out that I'm up in the hotel room or across the bar, most guys chicken out. It's super frustrating. What has been your experience, and how does your wife prefer to meet guys?

I'm terribly awkward in person, and rarely have someone approach me anyway. I don't go out, so that doesn't happen, and I prefer to vet someone beforehand, then meet them.

As fun as being casual and and off the cuff can be, for peace of mind, I choose the familiar path.

Most of KK’s encounters are planned, with encounter partners recruited from various on-line sites. KK prefers bare-back encounters; this route allows us to vet potential partners and do our health screening.

I am about 99% certain that KK would prefer to pick up random strangers at bars, clubs, hotels, etc. - that doesn’t allow us to screen the candidate, and our ‘rule’ is condoms for this kind of encounter. It is the most often broken rule, especially if KK is solo, drinking, or with her friends for ‘girls night out.’

So it’s a trade-off between the erotic experience of taking another man’s cum, or the excitement of being in the moment for a random, horny fuck, but with a condom.

jw_kk wrote: ↑

Wed Mar 04, 2020 11:32 am

Most of KK’s encounters are planned, with encounter partners recruited from various on-line sites. KK prefers bare-back encounters; this route allows us to vet potential partners and do our health screening.

I am about 99% certain that KK would prefer to pick up random strangers at bars, clubs, hotels, etc. - that doesn’t allow us to screen the candidate, and our ‘rule’ is condoms for this kind of encounter. It is the most often broken rule, especially if KK is solo, drinking, or with her friends for ‘girls night out.’

So it’s a trade-off between the erotic experience of taking another man’s cum, or the excitement of being in the moment for a random, horny fuck, but with a condom.

Condoms are the only bummer to random hookups. But my wife is really good about using them. We find that they don’t tend to slow things down too much either.

I hunt in the wild, locally mostly. I just flirt, it's natural for me, and see where it leads. Sometimes the flirting stays as such and sometimes I escalate it as I want. A few have sought me out, my flirting draws attention.

I (the husband) am the one that makes the initial on-line contacts on SLS. I winnow through all the crap, if I see someone I think will appeal to her I'll show her the profile, pictures and messages. She doesn't like browsing on-line because she hates rejection. If she likes what I present to her, she'll tell me to go ahead and set up a phone call (for voice verification, plus guys she talks to are much less likely to flake,) and then the actual date. In the past few years I've got so good at knowing what she likes that if she's in the mood I'll get a near 100% agreement that the guy is enticing.

Nekkid

My wife is a little bit of several choices, although I picked the last one about the gym and acquaintances. She always has the occasional stranger pick up, but she is more into acquaintances, friends of friends, a girlfriend's cousin, someone she meets at a party who knows the host from a different group of friends or work. Of course, she has also fucked plenty of bosses and coworkers, too.

It's changed over time. Her first extramarital partner was a coworker who was fucking her for three months without my knowledge. After I discovered it and she confessed, she broke off the relationship although I didn't feel that was necessary. She agreed to take out two successive personal ads, which worked out great.

After that, she preferred meeting men through her everyday life. She now has a few regular guys, including her boss at the bank where she works and two college roommates, the first of which she met at a night class at the community college where he was then attending. He and his roommate are now attending a local four-year school and have an off-campus apartment where they and she get together when they're not visiting our home.

She says she wouldn't again agree to sex with anyone where she works but her ongoing sex with her boss has been problem-free. A developing relationship is with the sensai at the jiu jitsu dojo where she trains periodically.

The story about that first time is the second entry on the first page of the link below.

~ Des

I didn't vote since we are not in the lifestyle. That said, I would chose the unplanned at a bar or on vacation option. I'd want a man to approach her so she would finally understand how attractive she is. I would want her to enjoy the whole seduction experience. And, I would want him to be successful enough that she would end up wanting him as much or more than he wants her.

Ideally, she would have this experience while on vacation somewhere. Away from her everyday worries. Somewhere she wouldn't know anyone and could let her hair down and really enjoy herself and him.

She's met them in multiple ways but I think our favorite is the rando from the bar

I meet new partners mostly online. Occasionally, I might flirt with and end up getting together with someone I have seen at the gym or while shopping. I generally avoid our social or work network because of the risk of complications, although I can’t say that it has never happened.

Farmgirl wrote: ↑

Wed Mar 04, 2020 6:00 pm

I hunt in the wild, locally mostly. I just flirt, it's natural for me, and see where it leads. Sometimes the flirting stays as such and sometimes I escalate it as I want. A few have sought me out, my flirting draws attention.

A woman after my own heart.. you go girl !!

Brad

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Brad

Lynn is very attractive, friendly very approachable.GETS HIT ON REGULARLY .iF ASKED FOR HER NUMBER WILL FIVE IT AND MEET FOR COFFFEE AND SEE WHERE IT GOES FROM THERE.uSUALLY NOWHERE LOL BECAUSE WE ARE VERY CAREFUL AND SHE IS VERY UPFRONT WITH THEM THAT i AM AWARE.

L loves being pursued, so it's all about when and where that happens and whether there's chemistry between them. I voted "at the gym or some other spot we frequent", but it has happened now and then on vacation or at her work. I don't think I've ever selected a lover for her. I'd be terrible at picking someone she'd want to have sex with - she often surprises me with her choice. I think she'd say it's mostly about chemistry and his body. These days it's frequently her longtime Dom or someone he invites to his parties with her in mind.

Don

It only allowed one option, but my wife is open to all opportunities, except swingers clubs or on line.

Most all of my HW’s encounters are while traveling. She gets hit on and if she’s feeling good energy she goes for it. It’s pretty hot when she texts me as it progresses. Still waiting for the unexpected vid or facetime phone call

Dharmadude wrote: ↑

Sat Mar 07, 2020 2:31 pm

Most all of my HW’s encounters are while traveling. She gets hit on and if she’s feeling good energy she goes for it. It’s pretty hot when she texts me as it progresses. Still waiting for the unexpected vid or facetime phone call

I wish my wife would do it on a work trip. She did a couple trips for training and I asked her to look at guys and let me know if she saw anyone hot. Nada..I know there had to be hot guys because this place does lots of training so I'm sure the hotel bar is packed in the evening. Didn't use the hall pass or even play along for fantasy. Ain't nobody getting that pussy...me included...

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Sun Mar 08, 2020 3:43 am

Dharmadude wrote: ↑

Sat Mar 07, 2020 2:31 pm

Most all of my HW’s encounters are while traveling. She gets hit on and if she’s feeling good energy she goes for it. It’s pretty hot when she texts me as it progresses. Still waiting for the unexpected vid or facetime phone call

I wish my wife would do it on a work trip. She did a couple trips for training and I asked her to look at guys and let me know if she saw anyone hot. Nada..I know there had to be hot guys because this place does lots of training so I'm sure the hotel bar is packed in the evening. Didn't use the hall pass or even play along for fantasy. Ain't nobody getting that pussy...me included...

I feel for you, brother. I lived that life for years with my ex. Tried everything to get her to even talk about it. Nothing. I’m not a go behind someone’s back type of guy so I eventually just gave up. Can’t believe how lucky I was to find my current wife.

I’m a very busy mom and business exec so I have neither the time nor the desire to flirt in bars, exchange endless messages with guys on line, or get to know someone. I want discrete sexual encounters with young, sane, handsome men. I travel a lot and will go to specific sex clubs or reliable swingers parties in certain cities. I belong to a swingers network where men are carefully vetted so I can meet them for sex, and only sex.

The first two guys she tried to become lovers with were already friends with her. It didn't work out too well, though.

Her current set of lovers, she met online, and that is working out great.