Her Plan to Dip Toe in Hotwife Water

[slenderfish]

CONTINUING BACK STORY

Second indicator: Personal Trainer

I'd also floated a trial balloon regarding perhaps a muscular trainer, even a black man, and had shifted to some BBC/IR porn. She seems to respond even more to this, in the heat of the orgasm, but otherwise says she has no interest and is not attracted.

She has from time to time knowingly played into my fantasy, for her benefit. Perhaps taking a bit of advantage. For example, about three years ago she joined a new workout place (one that's open day and night) and one day came home and noting offhand that she'd "met the most attractive black man" she'd ever seen. Not long after that, she asked me to support her doing two times a week private training with this man, and has continued since (COVID-19 shutdowns excepted). I've met him a few times, he's been over to the house once, but they have remained strictly platonic. He and his wife opened their own workout studio a couple of years ago, and my wife now drives 20 min each way for the private training. She has recently been bringing him lunch on Fridays, at his request, when she is attending their noon appointment. His wife watches him like a hawk and keeps my wife at a distance. My wife insists she is not sexually attracted to him, nor to black men in general. I tend to agree, based on what I've observed.

Not long after this time she indulged me a bit (as well as herself, it turns out) and was happy when I brought home a good-sized black vibrating penis toy. After some time she got attached to it and it became known as her "black baby" and now all vibrating toys are called her black baby even if not black and not a penis shape.

[BallSpanking]

I suggest you try to chill as much as possible the next 6 days, otherwise you'll be a wreck. Occupy yourself with useful chores around the house, take your mind off what is consuming you. When she calls/texts, be considerate, ask about how she is feeling and doing. She will likely tell you what you are dying to know, but will like it if you inquire after her wellbeing first. Be supportive, whatever she is going through. Remind her it is her call at all times, and you will accept it without question. It needs to be about her enjoyment.

Hearing this, she may choose to proceed anyway. We will know soon.

[slenderfish]

I suggest you try to chill as much as possible the next 6 days, otherwise you'll be a wreck. Occupy yourself with useful chores around the house, take your mind off what is consuming you. When she calls/texts, be considerate, ask about how she is feeling and doing. She will likely tell you what you are dying to know, but will like it if you inquire after her wellbeing first. Be supportive, whatever she is going through. Remind her it is her call at all times, and you will accept it without question. It needs to be about her enjoyment.

Hearing this, she may choose to proceed anyway. We will know soon.

Thanks for the proven advice. Good to read it again even though I should know and adhere to it already. She texted me that she landed safely and then there were some other basic texts about the dog, my dinner plans tonight, etc.

Yes, there are multiple projects here at the house to keep me busy. Changing out the smoke alarms for new ones, completing the installation of an additional sprinkler valve for the front yard, and completing some work on the drywall in a bathroom downstairs to prepare it for the base coat of paint.

I went out tonight with three single guy friends to a very scenic rooftop restaurant and was the wing-man in what appears to be love (lust?) connections for two of them, which came about after my befriending a table of women who were celebrating a birthday.

No text from Slenderwife after. Perhaps she is setting the expectations of limited communication? I suppose we will find out.

She has a hair appointment tomorrow afternoon to make it look just right, and then is supposed to meet up with Mr. S in the evening for drinks and to plan their date for Saturday night.

[KyGrappler80]

Agree you should give her some space. On the other hand, critical you keep us updated hourly with pics and discussion and any updates.

[kaskap79]

Is your wife travelling in the same time zone as you are in?

[slenderfish]

Agree you should give her some space. On the other hand, critical you keep us updated hourly with pics and discussion and any updates.

Yes and yes. I'll do my best. Productive and thought-provoking feedback will help on both of these.

[slenderfish]

Is your wife travelling in the same time zone as you are in?

She is two hours earlier vs. me at this time.

[KyGrappler80]

Ok, I was thinking about this, and the slight disconnect many couples have around this. Some hubbies want a lot of control over what happens and some wives like to be naughty and have a secret. While similar, the fantasies are slightly divergent. Wives can resent hubbies exerting control, if this is the dynamic desired by each. Not saying that is your situation, and communication seems strong. But curious to know whether you think she likes the idea of some of this being secret from you. So, for example, do you know what panties or lingerie she brought along for the trip? Or whether she might buy some there. It seems she is quite the clothes horse. I think it's hot to let her do her thing. And see where the Venn diagrams of desire overlap.

[slenderfish]

Kyg80, you summarize well. I follow your reasoning, and you may be correct. Either way, it's not like I have a real choice. If I push and it backfires, that's a bad result. So I'll chill. I mean, I've seen so many husbands trip over themselves in this situation so I'm determined not to fall into that trap.

I noted earlier that this is the first effort and I am clear on one thing, the she has asked me to keep a light touch. So that's the only real guidance I have, and will follow it to let it ride out as it may.

I do agree that she seems to like having a bit of a secret naughty side, kind of her own space for operating with a man (or men). This really showed itself in her interactions with Mr. M1 (in the back story) and also more currently with Mr. B. More on that today and tomorrow, if I can get that finalized and posted.

Thanks for the coaching.

[KyGrappler80]

What about the portion of my question about what underthings she brought along?

[slenderfish]

What about the portion of my question about what underthings she brought along?

Yes, sorry I jumped right over that.

When I was taking photos of her packing prep I did see a stack of bras but curiously no panties anywhere. I looked a bit but didn't want to be "that guy" getting so far into her stuff. I'm sure she brought panties but just not apparent at that time. Perhaps (and it's my hope) she kept some very sexy stuff set aside in a private place and then put them in at the last moment. Seems like it.

[KyGrappler80]

good to know.

[BallSpanking]

From the sounds of it, SlenderWife has every intention of moving forward with this as she and you agreed. From what you have written, you can probably take her at her word, and she will return to you a HW if the opportunity and spark are there for this to happen. Permission, she knows she has, and probably packed accordingly.

I think you are handling this in an exemplary way. She will keep you in the loop as much as she can, or feels you need to be. And it does sound like you trust her, so you can probably relax and savor her anticipation.

[slenderfish]

Enter Mr. B

We were on vacation abroad a couple of summers ago and we met some people who live not far from us in the same state, through mutual friends. One woman in this group was traveling with her grown son, and kind of hung out with us. She spoke of a husband, but not much said about him. Upon returning home, stayed in touch with her and she continued investing in the friendship, with some common business interests. Still no mention of husband, but of kids they have together and that they have to travel separately because of the brood. The following summer would be his turn.

We invited this woman to attend Slenderwife's birthday party (40+ people) in early 2019 and she RSVP'd yes for two. And she showed up with her husband, a hulking 6'8" former Division I basketball player (Ivy League). Hard not to see him. Friendly guy, seems like he and his wife got along well enough, but at the end of the night many of the girls said he was quite "handsy" and certainly not being loving to his wife. We concluded that they are together for the kids.

Life went along, and we did go abroad again in 2019 to the same event, and this time it was his turn to attend. He did so solo.

When Slenderwife saw him, she assumed he would come over and greet her, but about two days went by with no acknowledgement from him. He was paying a lot of attention to a youngish blonde bombshell who was rumored to have just split up with a longtime boyfriend who is a well-known actor/movie star (since confirmed). So she sent word via mutual friends a couple of days later that she is rankled he ignored her. After that, he was all over her with energy and interest for our final days in that location, and when we returned home Slenderwife continued to remain in touch with him via text message, etc.

I was, and remained, in touch with his wife, so we kept our and their lines from crossing in that manner. They live about a 40-minute drive away. As an example, I needed a favor of access to an event where his wife has influence, back in December of 2019, and she totally invited us and hooked us up. She was solo with her youngest kid and I was solo with my (grown) kids. No sexual energy between us.

Early in 2020 we were out with some friends at a wine tasting event, and Slenderwife was texting off and on as it got later and we were doing a bit of an after party in the hotel bar, kind of to let all the wine we'd imbibed clear out of our bodies before considering going home, etc. She was holding court with some guys at the bar and they were buying her more glasses of wine, and I was with our group in the lounge area. She suddenly told us that we were all going over to have a late dinner, because Mr. B had come back from out of state and that he was coming directly over from the airport. I noted at the time that she had established a very cozy texting relationship with him, completely outside of my view.

I'll also note she was, as usual, dressed in her personal style of fabulous, plus a tinge of sexy. I know I have a photo of this, will look for it. This all took place in one of the most upscale areas in the U.S. (think South Beach Miami, but it was not there).

When he arrived, she danced up to him, grabbed his hand, and led our group down the street to the restaurant, with virtually no attention to me. My radar went up (and something else) and she doted over him, sat next to him, and at the end of the dinner (about 12:30 a.m.) said that she had offered him to stay in our extra apartment (about three miles from our house) since it was unoccupied and that way he could avoid driving the 45 min home, opposite direction. Note that the drive to the apartment was 25 min. She insisted I drive her girlfriend home first, and that she should ride with Mr. B. to show him the way to the apartment and to let him in and be sure he was properly settled, etc. The extra driving for me would take at least 40 min (to girlfriend's place and back). I was happy to accommodate, thinking that perhaps this will be the night she takes a big step.

After dropping off her girlfriend, I texted her that fact and waited for a reply. When I got none, I decided not go directly to the apartment, but went home to let the dog out, etc. since home is exactly in between the locations. Time continued to pass and my curiosity got the better of me so I went ahead and started the 10-minute drive to the apartment. When I was close to there, I got a call from her asking me to retrieve her. I said "on my way" and figured the 10-minute clock was restarting. So I did get there with an extra five minutes to stall, in order to conform to her expectation of 10 minutes. Again, my curiosity was firing so I walked quietly up to the door and heard from the upstairs window a lot of giggling and carrying on. It's a one-bedroom apartment and the bottom level is the garage and entry, up one flight of stairs to the bedroom/bathroom and another flight to the kitchen/tv room/open area at top level. The giggling was drifting out from the bedroom; there is no other room on that level. It was dark at that level (no lights on). I was surprised because I'd assumed they would be at the top level based on the lights I saw from up there. But also gratified to hear they were in the dark, on the bed (there is no sitting area in there) and she obviously was having a happy time. All buttons fully pushed at this point.

I did feel like a bit of an idiot just standing outside our apartment in the dark at around 1:45 a.m. and enough time had passed, so I merely used my key and entered as if I owned the place (I suppose I do own the place), hoping for a treat.

Drumroll......

She heard me coming up the stairs almost at the last second and literally stumbled out of the (dark) bedroom to meet me before I reached the landing. She mumbled something like "you're here" and "what took you so long" and immediately led me upstairs to the top level, away from the bedroom. She said "shhh he's asleep" and continued to mumble that I'd left her there too long and that she had been waiting for me, that it was awkward alone with Mr. B etc. But of course I knew he was not asleep.

She also didn't notice that through the sheer of her dress her bra was down and her breast was clearly "out" and it was super obvious that someone had moved the bra out of the way in order to release the breast. That was it, I went into hormone overdrive and laid her down on the sofa right there and pulled up her dress, and we had vigorous sex right there within about 25 feet of Mr. B who I believe was feigning sleep behind a door that was ajar. She whispered "we should not do this because he might hear" but I said "he's asleep and we can do this quietly." She agreed to go forward and I did make just enough noise to be sure he could hear if he was not asleep (my preference), but that he would not hear if he was asleep (her preference).

[KyGrappler80]

Yummy, Love that she has such a crush on this guy. Fun story.

[afagehi7]

Has she fessed up to what happened? Obviously something happened...

[slenderfish]

I just posted an image of the bombshell woman who was taking the attention of Mr. B from Slenderwife while we were all at the same weekend event early Summer 2019 (in the third paragraph of the Enter Mr. B posting above). Also a bit of observations in that post.

[slenderfish]

Has she fessed up to what happened? Obviously something happened...

I'm not going to spoil it....

It gets better, I promise.

[slenderfish]

Present date and time commentary and suppositions:

It's 6:30 p.m. and Slenderwife is supposed to meet Mr. S (her selected candidate for becoming Hotwife) for a glass of wine or similar tonight. She is staying at a nice hotel on the lake in a nice part of town. I'm thinking unless they arranged for somewhere else, he might be smart enough to just suggest he swing by her hotel and they meet at the upscale bar.

I know Slenderwife had a hair appointment earlier today to look "just right" (she does have beautiful hair, part of her personal brand/image).

So she is probably at the last part of getting ready for him. She hasn't seen him since last November, when she and I ran into him and his girlfriend at a downtown upscale hotel in that city. We hung out with his group in that bar, where there was music and dancing, etc. She got his number that night because she wanted to introduce one of his single friends to one of her single friends.

More recently, and after some deep discussions about Mr. B (the balance of that story is yet to come), she acknowledged her openness to trying the hotwife experience and elected to find someone far away from our home court. Taking it slow, just to flirt, spend time with another man, perhaps get touchy and even some kissing if all goes well. At least, that's what she said.

She initally thought of the single friend of Mr. S whom she was attempting to introduce to her girlfriend, and contacted Mr. S to see if he could pull a group together and presumably invite this single guy. But Mr. S threw her a curve ball and suggested that rather than assisting getting a group together, perhaps they could just get together, him and her. She always found Mr. S very handsome and appropriately young(er), so she followed the lead and they are meeting up tonight (now?) to plan/discuss/set the stage for that date on Saturday night.

[whenwillshe]

Can't imagine you will sleep much tonight.
I think it likely that she is already a HW

[slenderfish]

Mr. B (continued)

This is late January or early February 2020.

I took her home and we slept it off. The next day I asked her if there was anything she wanted to tell me, because I was certain something had happened (obvi!). She was upset at me, embarrassed that I had jumped her bones right there and then, inappropriate with our friend so nearby. We clearly were on different pages and perspectives.

I ended up telling her that I saw her come out of the bedroom when I was walking up the stairs, that the room had no light coming out of it, and that when we got upstairs into some light I saw her disheveled outfit and her exposed breast. She was, in my eyes, a deer in the headlights.

But of course that's what I wanted to see through my fantasy eyes.

She said that it was not like that, she was waiting for me to retrieve her and as the time passed and I hadn't shown up nor called (remember I texted), it was awkward so he went downstairs to snooze while she waited upstairs. She said she was drunk and ended up babbling and followed him into the bedroom to make sure the bed was in good order and she also wanted to wash her face because she had her evening-look makeup on. After washing her face, they were in conversation and the subject of breasts came up (she was still pretty wined up) and she started talking about how she wants to get hers done within a few years. He said they were fine and beautiful and she said while talking about it her hands went into her bra and shifted them around naturally during the conversation, and she described different shape that she might prefer considering what is now available as implants. She said that was it, and that I came up right about that time and she stumbled out to greet me. She insisted that she likes him in the way a girl might like her brother, very comfortable. Or kind of like a gay friend. No sexuality, but very physically comfortable.

She was shocked that she exposed herself but also believes in the position she was in the room, and the very low light, that he probably didn't see anything.

Of course I said it is okay with me if she does have a desire and that she should fulfill that desire because it also corresponds with my fantasy. My only insistent request is that she be open and honest. She said she was being fully open and honest. I saw no benefit in pushing the issue, that it would backfire, and that I should just trust her and go with it. I figured it would all come out soon enough if there is such a desire, because we are continuing friends with him, socially. I made it a point to be sure he is around and invited, so that I may see the interactions and energy between them.

I do know him as a bit of a dog, he's showed me lingerie pics of a woman he went out with recently (hot!) and I showed him bikini pics of Slenderwife. I decided I would like him to make a move on Slenderwife if not already accomplished, and that I should not drive them underground but rather keep it all in the open. The sex while he was nearby was all part of this mindset; if they had been fooling around, then it was "reclaim" sex. If not, then it was a temptation to him that she is wild enough to have sex that close to where he lay in bed. She seemed to be pulling him in and I was determined to be the wingman.

Again, I decided not to fight about it because if true, it was my fantasy come true. If not, then it's clearly on the path to that. Either is a win to me. Best to honor my wife and our marriage and take her at her word. Win-win.

He obviously has excellent taste.

[kaskap79]

If your wife becomes a hotwife on this trip and all goes well.

Then there a big chance she later will tell what really happened on these occasions, if anything happened.

First time my wife was very reluctant to tell me anything else than "yes they did it". Later when she had more confidence in that everything was fine, she slowly told me more and more.
Today she tells everything right away when she is home and we are naked in the bed or where ever we are.

[slenderfish]

If your wife becomes a hotwife on this trip and all goes well.

Then there a big chance she later will tell what really happened on these occasions, if anything happened.

First time my wife was very reluctant to tell me anything else than "yes they did it". Later when she had more confidence in that everything was fine, she slowly told me more and more.
Today she tells everything right away when she is home and we are naked in the bed or where ever we are.

Thanks again for the encouragement. She did text me a couple of hours ago (midnight her time) and said she is cleaning off her makeup, etc., tired and heading directly to bed. Nothing about her social element and if she even met up with Mr. S at all. It's my thinking she did meet up with him, it took a lot of energy for her to gear up to it, they talked and spend time together, confirmed plans for Saturday night, and whatever else. Now she's tired and needs rest. It's obvious she knows I'll want to hear about it, but she also is taking it her way and will share with me (or not) when she is ready.

As you aptly noted.

[kaskap79]

When you read this, I hope you had a good night's sleep.

I know how difficult it can be to relax when the wife is out having fun.

[Eiluj57]

I lover this story but I am also very jealous for two reasons, one your story writing skills are second to none and two, you have a wife that is willing to to this. Mine was like that a few years back, I never knew what she was going to do when we had friends over. I would be playing music and the next thing, she would be flashing the guys there or dancing with a select few after most have left with her top off. It was some great times but it all kind of stopped for different reasons. I have found a new guy that we have become friends with as she is not very forward until she gets to know them and also has to have a few drinks in her but she always smiles when his name is brought up so maybe there is hope lol..... Best of luck to you both and again, I love this story !!