"Maybe one day", one day at a time.

[Pufferfish]

My posts can be a bit confusing at times, because our life is so backwards from most people. It's actually the graveyard shift that I desire to be on, and currently I'm working daytime banker's hours. And my work had been excited and yanking me about saying how they are going to train me and promote me and stick me on the graveyard shift I want, which currently I'm not trained to do yet. And they gave the promotion to someone else with more experience who didn't initially want it, but I guess he changed his mind. They're still talking about helping me get that spot, but we'll see how things develop. Right now, it's all just a lot of talk and no action. In the mean time, being on a completely different schedule than my wife is difficult. But we're trying to adapt as best we can.

Today I took the day off, as kind of a "F you" to my company for stringing me along so much lately and just needed a day to relax and de-stress a bit. And it was very nice. N came over yesterday and we had a wonderful routine hotwife night. I didn't mind staying up a bit late and got to sleep in a couple hours. Then they went from sleeping on the couch together back to the bedroom and snoozed a couple hours before having some morning sex before N left. And then I got to take my wife back to the bedroom and lick her again and re-claim her like I used to. It is definitely a happy and relaxing day. I'll go back to work tomorrow and then get a weekend to relax a bit more. Hopefully with a bit of a newer gameplan.

[CuriousHusband91941]

What a life. Sharing your wife is such a great routine.

[CuriousHusband91941]

What a life. Sharing your wife is such a great routine.

[Pufferfish]

Been a couple normal weeks of our new routine. My wife and N decided that they want to go camping together later this month. My wife sleeping over with another guy without me being there breaks a rule of ours, so I wasn't thrilled that she came to this conclusion without talking to me first... but I told her I was ok with it since it was N and trust that they'll be safe. But I also HATE camping, and have no desire to ever go again. So she's looking forward to that, they'll be staying 2 nights during my work week. Then she also took that weekend off, so she can spend that following weekend with me, so that'll be nice.

N and her also had a conversation about the rest of the summer. N decided that he's moving at the end of summer, but not sure where yet, either a town about an hour away or several states away. Either way, he decided that this summer will be the last they spend seeing each other. My wife took this news rather well, although I'm sure she'll be crying and stuff once the actual "break up" happens. But, she's been so grounded with keeping her feelings and expectations and all that in check so well that I'm really proud of her. I was always worried about her catching feelings for some guy and N has been in the picture for over 2 years now, but she's done really well. I know she still has feelings for him, but they are pretty reasonable and definitely different than what we share together.

Then I'm sure she'll try looking for a new guy, I just hope she finds a good one fairly quickly. But in the meantime, they'll continue enjoying the rest of the summer.

[parklife]

It’s those inbetween times that wind up being frustrating…. Really is difficult to find someone to fit any particular couples specific situation and wants/desires. It’s been amazing to follow these past couple years and hope her search is quick. My wife’s gaps have been 2-3 years though she’s never really ‘looking’, it either just happpens or it doesn’t.

Still plenty of summer to enjoy and people’s plans often change,.. heck, even an hour isn’t all that far away…. Maybe for weekly visits, but for a monthly get together it’s completely plausible,

Good luck on the multi-night thing… my wife has stayed overnight but just one evening at a time. She had plans to spent two nights at n Arizona with her last FWBs but plans changed and she never had the opportunity.

[sandy691196]

Puffer-
Have you ever thought of the oldie-goldie - bar scene?
Or vacation hotwifing?
Or other forms of organic pick ups?

This N thing- though nice otherwise- got to be more of a BF thing over 2 years.

All the nights spent spooning.. the post coital sweet nothings..
The dates.. now the camping..

When your wife gets to taste the thrill of the new hunt - all mushiness towards N will dissipate.

This forum has a rich collection of "how to" narratives where organic pick ups are converted..

[Pufferfish]

Puffer-
Have you ever thought of the oldie-goldie - bar scene?
Or vacation hotwifing?
Or other forms of organic pick ups?

Well of course I'm into whatever idea she has. But my wife is extremely shy and she hates being put "on the spot" so any encounter where she's randomly approached she shuts down rather than embraces it. I've tried many times to get her to have a hotwife adventure when on vacation, and she likes the idea, but in practice it's just too uncomfortable for her. One day hopefully she's more open to that meet a guy and fuck him idea, but for now that doesn't really work out.

She likes the internet dating thing. Gives her a few nights of talking/flirting etc to get somewhat comfortable with him first, then meets him at a bar and flirts, kisses, gropes, etc. But yes, I'm sure when she's back searching there will be quite a few exciting meet ups for her, but there will be far more disappointments if history has been any kind of teacher.

[sandy691196]

Puffer-
Have you ever thought of the oldie-goldie - bar scene?
Or vacation hotwifing?
Or other forms of organic pick ups?

Well of course I'm into whatever idea she has. But my wife is extremely shy and she hates being put "on the spot" so any encounter where she's randomly approached she shuts down rather than embraces it. I've tried many times to get her to have a hotwife adventure when on vacation, and she likes the idea, but in practice it's just too uncomfortable for her. One day hopefully she's more open to that meet a guy and fuck him idea, but for now that doesn't really work out.

She likes the internet dating thing. Gives her a few nights of talking/flirting etc to get somewhat comfortable with him first, then meets him at a bar and flirts, kisses, gropes, etc. But yes, I'm sure when she's back searching there will be quite a few exciting meet ups for her, but there will be far more disappointments if history has been any kind of teacher.

Internet dating can be frustrating and infuriating at worst.. But then random hook ups can be dangerous and full of uncertainties, if one cares to think of worst case scenarios..

All I am suggesting is that trying a new form of dating, approach and chase can break the N monopoly..

Ever though of any colleague or work place associate with whom a cheating game can be played.
The upside of that is "cheating", particularly if the other guy is married, can be controlled and regulated, as per her pace and convenience..

[sandy691196]

Puffer-
Have you ever thought of the oldie-goldie - bar scene?
Or vacation hotwifing?
Or other forms of organic pick ups?

Well of course I'm into whatever idea she has. But my wife is extremely shy and she hates being put "on the spot" so any encounter where she's randomly approached she shuts down rather than embraces it. I've tried many times to get her to have a hotwife adventure when on vacation, and she likes the idea, but in practice it's just too uncomfortable for her. One day hopefully she's more open to that meet a guy and fuck him idea, but for now that doesn't really work out.

She likes the internet dating thing. Gives her a few nights of talking/flirting etc to get somewhat comfortable with him first, then meets him at a bar and flirts, kisses, gropes, etc. But yes, I'm sure when she's back searching there will be quite a few exciting meet ups for her, but there will be far more disappointments if history has been any kind of teacher.

Internet dating can be frustrating and infuriating at worst.. But then random hook ups can be dangerous and full of uncertainties, if one cares to think of worst case scenarios..

All I am suggesting is that trying a new form of dating, approach and chase can break the N monopoly..

Ever though of any colleague or work place associate with whom a cheating game can be played?
The upside of that is "cheating", particularly if the other guy is married, can be controlled and regulated, as per her pace and convenience..