"Maybe one day", one day at a time.

[Pufferfish]

Hi there, I recently found and joined this forum and hope I'll be around for a long time. To start, this may be a long post, so I'll apologize beforehand for the wall of text you're about to see. A lot has been happening in my marriage over the last 3 weeks. I felt it was best to share my story, maybe give some ideas to others in similar positions, but also to receive feedback and maybe a bit of advice from people more experienced than I.

My wife and I have been together for 13 years now, married for 8 of them. We don't have kids, and don't want them. We spend almost all of our time away from work together. We're both avid gamers and spend most of our free time playing PC games, but usually not together and not the same one, but sometimes we do. My wife is the shyest person I've ever met. To this day she's still uncomfortable exposing herself to me in certain positions. And she's never really been one to open up about something she wants. We hit a rough patch about 4 years ago when I noticed she wasn't saying "I love you" to me anymore and I snooped through her discord (gaming communication platform) and found out she was having an emotional affair. This hurt me quite deeply because she was always the "you better not ever cheat on me", "I'd never cheat on you" type of person, and with as shy (and jealous) as she was/is I never doubted it. It took some time and some difficult conversations but we worked through it all. It's also what lead me down this path self discovery. I found out that while I need to be the one person she loves unconditionally and has feelings for, I am remarkably turned on by and want her to physically be with other men (even though it wasn't that type of affair.) Our relationship is very much improved, and our love for each other is deep and genuine.

Cut to about 3 weeks ago: I was playing a game in my PC room. She had been drinking and was in hers (living room) playing her game. She plays online games with thousands of players at the same time. And she prefers to play with men, particularly men with deep voices and foreign accents. I told her, as long as she is honest with me and doesn't fall in love with any of these guys, I was ok with her flirting and stuff with them. She tells them she's single and apparently refers to me as her "roommate" in case they hear me on the voice chat or something. As I said, I was in my PC room, and I hear "moans". I wondered if she was watching a TV show which she does while she plays some times, but no she was not. Deciding I needed to verify, but knowing our floor squeaks, I knew I couldn't sneak out there, so I just barged out. Caught her with "her hand in her cookie jar" as she was chatting with one of her online friends. She's typically a very bad liar, and giggles when I ask her something and she's lying about it. I asked her if she was masturbating and having phone sex with another man and she had a bad lie. I continued to tease her about it and tried to keep it light. The next couple days she was overly affectionate and clearly thought that she had fucked up, and was going to be in trouble. But she refused to talk to me about it. I again decided to snoop through her discord (which I had told her years ago, I would do again if I had suspicions.). I found out that this was the first time she had done this. But that it had definitely happened. It also appeared this guy liked her a lot, but she was doing a great job at keeping things on the "friends with benefits" level, with no feelings involved. I was very proud. I was very excited.

I decided it was time for "the talk" and forced her to face the music. I explained that while I should be more upset with the sneaking around, I was proud of how she had been handling the friendship and feelings. I was also not mad at all about the phone sex, and was happy that she was having fun. And that I was excited and turned on to know more about it. She was very uncertain, and not very trusting that I wasn't going to get mad. She was quite certain she was in the dog house. I gave her an ultimatum of sorts. I provided several rules that she was going to have to follow, or her sexual flings would have to stop. Basically, that 1) she doesn't develop feelings or puts a stop to it. 2) Tells me everything. 3) I have a say and can put a stop to it. And 4) that she can do anything she wants, as long as the above rules are followed. And that if she wants to do something in person physically she has to talk to me beforehand. And, having read a lot of stuff about this, I also included a rule that 5) just because I've given her permission/consent to do these things, it doesn't mean I have permission to do them, and am still forbidden to do it unless she provides her permission or consent. That last one was very important actually, because she later voiced to me that she was initially very worried about that.

She told me that it was very difficult for her, because she's so shy, to talk to me about this stuff. She suggested that she keep a "sex diary" of sorts about this kind of thing with her thoughts and actions and stuff and that I would just read it. I told her that would be fine for a start, but that I wanted her to slowly work on talking to me about it, and eventually get to being able to just talk to me about it. She agreed. We are also in the process of moving and needed to show the house the next weekend to sell. She works nights/weekends and so I rented a hotel room for 2 days for her to stay in, alone, and be able to sleep and go to work, since she would be unable to sleep at home. I suggested that she has some fun, and use this time alone to seduce her online friend, but to remember the rules. And she did. She had some more phone sex and wrote me some very detailed and exciting information. We even started talking about it in the bedroom. And it was clearly getting both of us going. We had some very good sex together using this as foreplay.

Of course I wanted to take things a bit further. She had told me that she basically doesn't get a whole lot out of porn. And that this type of thing has really been getting her going. And that she loves romance novels for the imagination factor. She also has a very deep interest in the dom/sub lifestyle and really likes when guys talk about 'dom'ing her. I've tried a little, but I'm really not too good at the whole 'dom' thing yet. I decided since I write fairly well, to write her a short story of my own. And I think I did a pretty damn good job if I do say so myself. I wrote her a sex story, where she herself was the main character of the story. Everything was from her point of view. The story took place with me driving her to a hotel for a sexy weekend. And how it was a surprise. It started with me 'dom'ing her a bit and forcing her wear a blindfold until I told her to take it off, and that she would be disciplined if she removed it without permission. "Room service" came to the door, but "he left". And proceeded with her engaging in sexual acts while blindfolded. Again, focusing on only what she could see and hear and think. She noticed the dick seemed a bit larger than usual but thought it might have been due to being blindfolded and a little tipsy. Right before inserting the dick is when the character, and my wife in real life, learned that the dick was not mine and she was about to fuck a complete stranger while blindfolded, and I was going to watch. The character debated what she should do before deciding to go through with it. Had amazing sex. Wanted it deep and hard. Thought "what a slut" she was for doing it, but loving every second of it. I was quite proud of the story. Asking what my wife thought about the story, she said it was "surprising". I kept asking questions. She said that she didn't realize that the other guy, was the other guy, until the character revealed it. She thought the bigger dick was just "wishful thinking on my part" lol. I asked her what her favorite part was. And she replied that I did a fantastic job getting what she was thinking right. "Everything that the character was thinking, was exactly what she was thinking." I went into further description and asked "everything from the guilt and thinking you were a slut? Wondering what I was thinking/feeling? Deciding to go through with it anyway and wanting it deep and hard? And for him to cum inside of you?" And she did her nervous laugh and said "Yes, everything."

I told her that while my intention for the story was to write a story for her to enjoy, the story I wrote was also my biggest fantasy. And that not only would I hope that if she wanted to have sex with another man, that she would tell me so. But that my biggest fantasy is that she actually will, and that I want her to. I told her that I want to be there to watch, and to protect her if need be. That I want to be included and be there, be a part of it like in the story. We've continued talking about this. Everything has been exciting and amazing. Our love is deep and passionate. She has said that she loves this. But that she hopes it makes our relationship stronger and doesn't screw it up. She's also said that she's "not ready yet for anything to happen in real life." That she doesn't think she would have the stamina to keep up and would "pass out". I've told her that I won't push her to do it. That for right now I'm happy just letting the thought of it and the fantasy build. This has been a secret fantasy of mine for years. But if you asked me 5 weeks ago if I thought it could ever happen, I would have said "not in a million years." Now, we're fantasizing about it openly and we're at "not ready YET..." And that blows my mind!

Anyhoo, I'd love to hear some feedback, advice, opinions from those of you who made it through this great wall of text lol. Sorry about that. As we all know though, it's an exciting thing and prone to fixation.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Pufferfish.

[Lucky Dog]

Pufferfish, you seem like you love her a lot and really do understand her. Your story is exciting to read because you both seem excited. I hope this works out for you both and I hope you'll continue to share this with us.

[R_H_NC]

I really like the way you and your wife are handling this. When I had a GF years ago and we were dipping our toes in the HW lifestyle I basically picked her up and threw her in the deep end. I fucked up and have regretted it since then. Even though we are no longer together we remain friends and it bothers me that I hurt her.

Well, enough of my whining.

Be prepared for some push back on using the word 'rules'. It's a bit of a trigger around here. I understand you wanting to have agreements on what will be acceptable behavior on both your parts. Please, to save some comment hassle, ensure you emphasis that these 'rules' are negotiated and agreed on by both of you.

Also, keep in mind that your both may need to revisit the rules and renegotiate (assuming the play extends IRL).

To paraphrase an old military adage........"No plan survives first contact with real life"

Sincerest good luck to both of you.

[Pufferfish]

Thank you for the feedback thus far. I can see how a bunch of free-spirited individuals can get hung up on the word "rules". So I can see how people could react to that. But yes, we already agreed that we can change the rules at any time if one of us wishes to. It's just a required conversation we need to have with each other first. And right now we're both happy with the rules.

I really hope she eventually becomes an actual hotwife. But even if she doesn't I'm happy to be sharing this fantasy with her. And I'm over the moon that she's become a lot more horny and happy lately. Which bodes well for my hopes and dreams I think, but time will tell. I just can't believe where we're at now compared to a month ago. Talk about a total surprise. I just hope I don't make too many rookie mistakes and screw things up.

[sparky42]

Hi, my wife was very shy and still is occasionally and our adventures all started with me tying to make her fantasy of a mfm come true via a massage from another man with me present. Of course things have advanced quite a lot but from what I've experienced and read on here your wife will move forward if and when she's ready. Its good you're not rushing things with her and there are people on here that are far more experienced than me that can advise you better, enjoy the ride.

[Des 31]

In my view, you handled this just right. If I had been giving advice from our own experience when we began, it would have close to what you have done under your circumstances.

With your history so far, I'm pretty sure it won't be long before another man's dick will be inside your wife. Just a head's up: I'm serious when insisting the reality is nothing like the fantasy. When it happens, the likely outcome will be feelings of jealousy and insecurity for a while. I had not anticipated those feelings before it came to be. Those soon went away as my wife gained more experience and it became a normal way of life for us. I didn't then admit any of that out of concern she might quit altogether and am now glad I didn't. She later agreed she probably would have stopped to avoid making me uncomfortable.

In some ways, we have been through some of what you and your wife are experiencing. It took me about a year before she finally agreed. It finally came about for similar reasons (not computer games) as your wife is going through. In our circumstances, she instead had a covert affair with a coworker and admitted it after he had been fucking her for three months. Before realizing I didn't seem upset at hearing it, she said it was all my fault for encouraging her to have sex with someone else; in truth, it was a growing mutual attraction at work that eventually became too much for her to resist. Her reason for confessing was that, like you, I found out about it. She then immediately agreed to start dating others as I had long wanted. She admitted that after that extramarital experience, it would most likely be difficult to remain completely faithful.

She and her coworker at the time had some of the hottest sex of her life, but she broke it off after her confession and went on to others. I didn't want her to break up with him but it worked out better that way for the two of us in the long run. You and she should understand that for this to work out best, you will need to have good communication, sincerity, and mutual trust. My wife developed a way of thinking that allows her to keep a certain emotional distance between her and men with who she has sex. The way she describes it is that "It's just fun, not a romantic commitment with someone else."

Your wife should feel comfortable telling you about all she has done following her sexual experiences; those are great turn-ons for me when my wife and I are having sex. It's important to frequently express the depth of your love for her, your gratification for her extramarital sexual experiences, and gratitude for her having married you. And don't use crude language when discussing her sex life. Most women don't like that.

Please keep us posted on your journeys.

~ Des

[Parsifal]

In my view, you handled this just right. If I had been giving advice from our own experience when we began, it would have close to what you have done under your circumstances.

With your history so far, I'm pretty sure it won't be long before another man's dick will be inside your wife. Just a head's up: I'm serious when insisting the reality is nothing like the fantasy. When it happens, the likely outcome will be feelings of jealousy and insecurity for a while. I had not anticipated those feelings before it came to be. Those soon went away as my wife gained more experience and it became a normal way of life for us. I didn't then admit any of that out of concern she might quit altogether and am now glad I didn't. She later agreed she probably would have stopped to avoid making me uncomfortable.

In some ways, we have been through some of what you and your wife are experiencing. It took me about a year before she finally agreed. It finally came about for similar reasons (not computer games) as your wife is going through. In our circumstances, she instead had a covert affair with a coworker and admitted it after he had been fucking her for three months. Before realizing I didn't seem upset at hearing it, she said it was all my fault for encouraging her to have sex with someone else; in truth, it was a growing mutual attraction at work that eventually became too much for her to resist. Her reason for confessing was that, like you, I found out about it. She then immediately agreed to start dating others as I had long wanted. She admitted that after that extramarital experience, it would most likely be difficult to remain completely faithful.

She and her coworker at the time had some of the hottest sex of her life, but she broke it off after her confession and went on to others. I didn't want her to break up with him but it worked out better that way for the two of us in the long run. You and she should understand that for this to work out best, you will need to have good communication, sincerity, and mutual trust. My wife developed a way of thinking that allows her to keep a certain emotional distance between her and men with who she has sex. The way she describes it is that "It's just fun, not a romantic commitment with someone else."

Your wife should feel comfortable telling you about all she has done following her sexual experiences; those are great turn-ons for me when my wife and I are having sex. It's important to frequently express the depth of your love for her, your gratification for her extramarital sexual experiences, and gratitude for her having married you. And don't use crude language when discussing her sex life. Most women don't like that.

Please keep us posted on your journeys.

~ Des

The boundaries set in Des's situation created an excuse that worked for them. I would much rather give my wife a lot of grey areas to play in so I'm not caught in the box of feeling deceived by her. He encouraged it, and she needed to see how it felt to be with someone else again before she was ready to share that feeling with Des. So she had to start the process of hotwifing by having what Des calls an "affair." But it's the type of an affair that the marriage can heal and even grow from. She did it to get where she needed to be in order to live out Des's fantasy. That's my take on it anyway...

[Pufferfish]

A little bit of an update to this, but not really much of one yet.

My wife and her online phone sex buddy had a bit of a falling out. She was really starting to get into it after I gave her the green light. But he became really jealous of her other friend. Became needy and whiny. And started issuing ultimatums. So she sadly told him to piss off. She's still talking to him a little and he's trying to get back in her good graces, but she really doesn't want to do anything sexual with him right now and I don't blame her.

As for me and her, we've continued talking and I've REALLY wanted to press the issue, but I've held back as I don't want to push too hard. But I have been trying to get some feedback from her. Last night she told me how happy she is that I want to make her happy and she's very excited about all this. But she "doesn't want to do anything in real life for a long time, at least the rest of the year." I've talked to her before about getting her back on birth control, but she didn't want to because I'm fixed (and didn't really have a reason to). And she says her blood pressure is too high. I'm hoping her plan is to start getting in better shape and lower her blood pressure a bit so she can... but who knows. She doesn't want to take meds to lower it. But she did say how much she loved the story I wrote her about how she was blindfolded and realized she was about to have sex with another man. She said "I love that story and I'd love for it to come true some day." Which is awesome! But like she said, she's not ready yet.

Which again brings me to the asking for advice stuff. She's shown a lot of interest in trying to find guys to be sexual with online, just chatting and phone sex and flirting and stuff for now. Does anyone know of a good site where she can do this and get good results? Obviously I don't mind paying for a subscription or something because this is opening a lot of doors for me. I just don't want to sign up to a bad one. And obviously any other advice would be helpful as to how I can continue to encourage, without being to pushy about it. Thanks.

[parklife]

Which again brings me to the asking for advice stuff. She's shown a lot of interest in trying to find guys to be sexual with online, just chatting and phone sex and flirting and stuff for now. Does anyone know of a good site where she can do this and get good results? Obviously I don't mind paying for a subscription or something because this is opening a lot of doors for me. I just don't want to sign up to a bad one. And obviously any other advice would be helpful as to how I can continue to encourage, without being to pushy about it. Thanks.

I’d suggest just continuing what she’s doing... if I remember being a “gamer” in my youth (Playing online MUDs in the mid 90s), gaming communities can attract other shy people that can come out of their shell and do some exploring with the safety of some veil of anonymity of the web. I think it’s far better that she explore flirting and such in that community (you said she’s playing games with thousands of others) and it’s clearly led her to at least a couple of guys that seem to take an interest... there’s plenty more fish in that sea I’m sure. Better that than having her exploring some of the more advanced sites that would likely do more harm than gold at this stage. Let her (encourage her) to explore now in a world she’s comfortable with rather than sign up for an adult site and have her inundated with cock pics and aggressive guys with little to no filter that may scare her off.

Chatting and phone sex and flirting are fine for now and for the foreseeable future... enjoy the rush that comes and don’t be so eager to move too quickly. The journey is just as good as the destination....

[Pufferfish]

A fair point. However, she also spends so much of her day in that world, that she's afraid of developing a "reputation" and having people in that world judge her and treat her differently or bad. Ruining her gaming experience all together. So she's kind of scared of playing in that pond more than she already has, we're looking towards maybe a more neutral but fun way of going about it. She does like the anonymity factor though. I don't think she minds the dick pics and stuff. But I think she is looking for a more relaxed, having fun, kind of mood right now and not the hardcore "let's meet and do this" kind of vibe.

I think she'd rather have a bad experience with one of those sites, than to get a slutty reputation in the game she loves. Unless there's a 3rd option someone can think of?

[Pufferfish]

A bit of an update, as it appears to me progress is being made.

My wife and I have continued talking about *our* fantasy a bit now. The first story I had written her was a complete surprise for her in real life as well as in the story. After she read it came the conversations and revelations of how much I truly fantasized about it. And she began to open up about how much she wanted it too, and wanted to actually go through with it, but wasn't ready yet. I decided to write her a 2nd story. In the first story my wife was the main character, blindfolded, and realized she was about to have sex with another man just before it happened, and was all about the uncertainty and excitement of it all. In this new story, my wife was the main character still, but this time she knew she was going to have sex with another man while I watched, wanted to, and was as detailed, exciting, and adventurous an encounter as I could write. It included hard, dominating sex, ending with her begging him to cum in her pussy and he does. And then I do afterwards. This was far fetched in real life, simply because I'm sterile, and she hasn't been on birth control in years. I suggested a couple times that she should maybe get back on birth control to make her menstrual cycles lighter, but she didn't want the hormones, and said that she didn't want to go back on birth control since I got fixed.

She just read the 2nd story yesterday. I was concerned because I feared, maybe it would be too intense for her. Maybe scare her off the idea somewhat. But, she seems more into it than ever before. She says she loved the story. She said she was thinking about it for a long time after she read it at work, and it still made her nervous and excited thinking about it. THEN, she said 'if we do this she thinks she'd like the guy to be from out of town so she wouldn't run into him somewhere. Because she would be embarrassed.' But then said "I don't know, maybe not because going out of town often to meet him would be a pain." "OFTEN" is the word I immediately picked up on. AND, yesterday she made an appointment to see a doctor to talk about getting an IUD birth control inserted to help with periods and cramping, and "just in case" we decide to move forward with this. Her appointment is today. She might come home with an IUD. Maybe I'm reading too much into this... Or, maybe things are going VERY VERY WELL. She says she wishes she was less shy and more outgoing, flirty, and slutty acting. She says the more we talk about it, the more excited and comfortable it makes her.

I'm kind of getting my hopes up a little too high I think. Maybe reading into things more than I should? But god, it really seems like this is becoming more and more of a real possibility here in the not too distant future. And it's making me a little crazy.

Edit: Yep, came home with an IUD birth control inside her... So, that's awesome.

[superb101]

Better buckle up! She will be ready to go very soon!

[RetiredSnowbird]

She sure seems like she's very close to becoming a hotwife. Weeks? A few months? We'll see. All she needs is to find a suitable guy and things should move pretty quickly. It's been less than a month since you first posted and look at the progress she's made.

[RetiredSnowbird]

She sure seems like she's very close to becoming a hotwife. Weeks? A few months? We'll see. All she needs is to find a suitable guy and things should move pretty quickly. It's been less than a month since you first posted and look at the progress she's made.

[Pufferfish]

Thanks for the words of encouragement, I certainly hope you guys are right. Just a minor update, nothing really too major going on.

"Paused." Is really a more correct description of our status. She's a bit overwhelmed by our lives right now. We're going on a vacation next week for 4 nights. I would love to add some kinky sexual elements to it... but unfortunately we're taking my mother-in-law with us. She'll be staying in a separate hotel room thank god, but still... definitely not an element of the trip I'm looking forward to. So my wife won't be on naughty behavior. We also just sold our house, and are closing on a new one once we get back, then start the moving process, furniture, decorating, etc. She basically told me to cool it for a month and we'll pick back up on it once we're settled. I'll try my best to hold her to that lol.

However, that being the case, we have of course continued talking. I told her how I found the timing of her suddenly wanting to be on birth control amusing, and she confirmed that my stories of having other men cum inside her is what drove her to get it. She knew she was going to lose her insurance when we move and she won't get more for a while after maybe. And knew it might screw up her cycle and stuff (Which it certainly has, and hopefully improves here shortly). So she wanted to get it done now, and be ready later. So that makes me very happy. And happy she seems to be putting in a lot of thought to everything as well.

She also told me that she would like a Friend with Benefits kind of situation where she knew and was more comfortable with the guy. Rather than random guys that she didn't know, because she "would feel less slutty." I've told her that I don't want her to feel slutty, unless it's a good kind of slutty. And that I find it to be the sexiest word I can think of, but I don't want her to feel negative about herself (she already has pretty bad self esteem). I told her that a FWB set up would be great and I fully support it. And that we will focus on making the first time happen before we get too carried away with plans of "a bunch of random guys." lol. (baby steps, although I can only hope.) To me though, she definitely seems to be giving this a lot of certainty. I just have to try to not push too hard too fast, and just find my rhythm and stick to it. And hopefully, I'll be in the cool club of guys married to a verified hotwife before too long.

[Whosbeensleeping]

Bravo on your progress to date.

[Pufferfish]

It was a busy almost 2 months for us. We sold our one house, bought another, moved, unpacked, decorated... all that stuff. My wife is about to start looking for a new job, which shouldn't be too hard for her. I mentioned it might be a good time to make that dating profile looking for a FWB. She agreed. So 2 days ago before bed she made her Ok Cupid profile and yesterday she had me help her finish it (add some innuendo and answer some questions she was struggling with). I was pretty impressed with it, she stated very plainly that she was looking for a FWB to have sex with and even posted a swimsuit pic of herself (no face). And the responses have been a lot more than she thought she would get (but I'm not surprised). For a free membership that doesn't let her do a whole lot yet she's already been chatting with a couple of guys with about 30 more messages to slowly sift through, with hundreds of likes already. Most are automatic "No"s, but she seems to be happy with a few decent ones so far.

She's definitely not showing too much hesitation besides wanting to wait until we were all done with the moving stuff, which was a lot more sensible than I wanted to be . I was afraid she might change her mind while we let this sit on the back burner for a while. She might struggle to actually go through with it, or maybe not, I haven't seen much hesitation from her yet which is amazing. Right now she's in the other room chatting with someone while I'm sitting here all excited to hear about her prospects. She's having fun and I'm enjoying her asking me questions like, "How good of friends should we be before we have sex?" To which I answered, "You have sex with whoever you're comfortable with, whenever you're comfortable with them."

So far, I really can't imagine how this could have gone better. And I hope the enthusiasm and excitement continues. I can't wait for further updates...

[realcucklife]

Explain and re-enforce now and regularly that there are a lot of dreamers on these sights.
Enjoy the chase, but be prepared that they may not show when it comes to the crunch.
This is not her, don’t fret and feel down it’s just guys looking for interaction and jerking off.
It will still be disappointing for her but try soften the blow early.

[Pufferfish]

Thanks for the tip. I will keep it in mind and talk to her about it soon.

[Pufferfish]

She's been a champ the last 3 days. She's gone through and looked at all the guys that sent her messages and decided whether she liked them or not. She has about 10 guys in her "like" list that she's been casually starting to talk to. She said she liked some just because they were nice and took the time to send a thoughtful message, but she is attracted to about 4 or 5. She's been enjoying answering the questions and stuff. Yesterday she said "I screwed up some questions, I answered them like I was dating. Like questions about 'would you have sex on the first date?' I put no... I should have put yes." lol I loved hearing that.

There is one guy though, that she's been talking to a lot. They've written messages to each other almost all day for the last 2 days, and today they're going to actually talk over the phone and virtually watch a movie together. My wife has been HORNY the last 3 days. I fully expect them to meet this weekend for coffee and from there... I don't expect it will be long before I'm getting a hotel room. Assuming everything continues to go good. Needless to say, I'm chomping at the bit here just enjoying the ride so far. It's been a great ride so far.

[Pufferfish]

Yep, the movie/webcam hangout went well and he asked her to get some coffee with him in a few days. And even though I told my wife to expect it, she's starting to freak out about it already. Even though the next meet is just a coffee greet, and that makes her nervous enough as it is, she knows what the next meeting after that would most likely entail and that talks/preparation of it will likely begin soon. So minor stages of panic, and doubt creeping in. I'm doing my best to console her and assure her that whatever her decision, I fully support her. And that while I might be a little disappointed if she backs out I won't be mad at her for it. And that I hope she doesn't back out just because she's nervous. So this is proving to be the biggest hurdle so far for someone so self conscious and shy. But she seems to want to power through her dread and experience it. So I'd say 100% nervous, 60% excited, 40% dread. I'm sure they'll spend some more time talking before the coffee date, and that should hopefully help. And I'm sure the coffee meet will go good. So... I'll just be here going insane with anticipation right along with her lol.

Again, just coffee stage, so I'm sure we'll go through all this again before the main event, only that will probably be 100x more intense.

[Mr1SexyGILF]

Exciting times are unfolding for you two right now.

Thanks for bringing us along on your journey.

Mr GILF

[Pufferfish]

Just a quick update. The coffee date is Tuesday after his meeting at work I guess, at a coffee shop right next to his work. My wife has been super nervous and excited. Today was a bit of a improvised "prep" day. We scoped out the coffee shop, to make sure we knew where it was. We went to look for a chair for the bedroom. I guess she read a story where the cuck had a special chair or something that he had to sit in to watch and she wants to add that to our bedroom as my special "wife watching chair". I'm not complaining. (The first couple meets will be in a hotel until we trust him more etc anyway.) We didn't find a good chair as of yet. After, we went to a make up store and she bought all new make up and perfume to wear to meet K. Then went to a clothing store and she picked out a couple new outfits. One of which is a completely see through shirt, which she is going to wear to meet him, wearing a sexy low cut bra underneath (My wife has D sized awesome breasts.) We also bought some new hair dye, which she wants to use tonight to make sure she looks her absolute best. All in all, I loved it. She's so excited and I love that she's doing such an AMAZING job keeping me included. We both can't wait for Tuesday and set a date for what comes after. (Although she is keeping in mind he may change his mind, no show, or have a 4 inch penis, all of which would be deal breakers, but hopeful that it goes smooth) They also had a pretty sexy chat yesterday about stuff he would do to her in the bedroom. So, we're loving life right now, the both of us.

[Pufferfish]

Kind of unsure if I should be updating this just yet or not.

Yesterday was the coffee date. My wife was excited, she wore the see-thru shirt with a small sexy bra underneath. She looked sexy as hell. I drove her close to the coffee shop and she didn't want me to park right outside so I parked a block and a half away. Gave her a kiss and off she went. I waited there in the car for her. Didn't know exactly how long she was going to be, but it didn't really matter as long as she was having fun, or I was close by if things didn't go well.

2 hours later she texted that he was walking her to the car. They had walked to a nearby park and spent some time there just walking around and talking and stuff. He couldn't believe that I was waiting the whole time lol. She said I didn't mind, and I truly didn't. What else would I have been doing? I would have been going crazy anywhere. I met the guy and we all got along, I took my wife home and she said how much fun she had, and hoped he liked her. I assured her that he did and that now, will be the stressful part of preparing to have sex soon. I told her that he'd probably ask for this weekend.

This weekend he has to go out of town and then has his kids for a week or so after that. But he said he'd like to meet Wed or Thurs if she's comfortable with it. My wife said, "Wednesday or Thursday huh... wait, what day is it? Tuesday. TOMORROW?!?! or the next day?!" "No no no..." So told him absolutely not on Wed (today) but that she was thinking about Thursday. And so am I, she has yet to fully decide what she wants to do. We've both told her the same thing, that it's totally fine whatever she chooses and we don't want to force her to make any kind of rash decision. Obviously we both want her to, but are trying our absolute best to not prod her in that direction more than we already have. I did remind her that IF just because she agrees to meet, that she's not obligated into anything specific. She could just kiss and stop there if she wanted, or suck his dick and stop at that. Or she could go as far as she wants and have sex if she chooses. Or, she could just decide it's too soon and not do anything at all, it's all up to her.

And... that's where we're at right now. We had great sex last night and I feel like she might want to get a hotel room and meet tomorrow... but I have no idea what my girl will decide yet. So, I'll just be over here in the corner... losing my shit all day wondering what she's going to decide, in case anyone needs me.