Figuring it out

[Lookingforadventure]

Oh, yes! When I left active duty as a Marine, I worked construction, worked as a surveyor, and was a supervisor for highway construction/maintenence.
Glad I can hit most of your fantasy types
While in high school, I even worked road construction in the summer for a couple of years and as a logger for a couple, before Uncle Sam paid for my senior trip.

Tease!

[snoogaloo82]

Oh, yes! When I left active duty as a Marine, I worked construction, worked as a surveyor, and was a supervisor for highway construction/maintenence.
Glad I can hit most of your fantasy types
While in high school, I even worked road construction in the summer for a couple of years and as a logger for a couple, before Uncle Sam paid for my senior trip.

Tease!

It looks like you've found your perfect man!! <3<3

[Lookingforadventure]

It looks like you've found your perfect man!! <3<3

My husband is my perfect man As for Her Number 1, he belongs fully to Farmgirl. I just like to flirt with him.

I also read the P.S. in your post signature. I'm sorry to hear about you and Marion. I hope you heal from this loss quickly and that a new someone special will come into your life.

[Lookingforadventure]

Well, "anal only" weekend was an interesting test. I can confirm that I DID NOT make it the whole weekend. LOL. Let's just say that it was a very happy Easter Sunday when my pussy finally got to get in on the fun.

Good Friday and Saturday were enjoyable, especially for my butt. There was much anal play, all day, on both days, because our kids were away. Plus, I do love being the object of Adventurer's lust and desire, and the anal-only test was a great way to stay constantly on his mind.

I wore a butt plug to the extended family Easter meal on Friday, which is always fun for me (I enjoy having naughty secrets). And during sex play, itself, there was excellent warm up activities, trying out various toys, and, of course, being stretched around Adventurer's girth.

I also learned that some anal sex positions provide more clitoral stimulation than others. My favourite was laying on my stomach and being taken from behind. I do love how that feels in general (being surrounded by a lover), but the grinding into the mattress added extra stimulation to my clit that was much appreciated on anal-only weekend.

Yesterday, however, gave my pussy a chance to participate. Adventurer sent me a text asking if I would come upstairs to be tied to the bed and pleasured. I happily agreed. When I got there he had our squirt blanket across the mattress and satin ties ready on the headboard. I stripped naked and he secured my restraints. He then proceeded to kiss my entire body. He commented on how my labia were spreading wide and my clit was starting to poke out. As he continued to kiss and pleasure me, he noted that my pussy was opening even further and there were hints of wetness peeking out. I was arching my back and trying to get him to touch my pussy. He smiled at me and eventually gave in. "Heaven" would be too mild a description for how that felt.

After using his tongue expertly, he proceeded to pleasure my pussy for the next hour or so with his fingers, his tongue, and various toys. At some point, he slid a dildo into my butt and another into my pussy. I love that feeling of being stretched and full. When he added a vibrator to my clit, I came very hard.

And then he gave me what I really wanted, his cock....rock hard, and oh so ready to fuck me fully.

I guess my pussy was the big winner on anal-only weekend.

[rogerg]

Well, "anal only" weekend was an interesting test. I can confirm that I DID NOT make it the whole weekend. LOL. Let's just say that it was a very happy Easter Sunday when my pussy finally got to get in on the fun.

Good Friday and Saturday were enjoyable, especially for my butt. There was much anal play, all day, on both days, because our kids were away. Plus, I do love being the object of Adventurer's lust and desire, and the anal-only test was a great way to stay constantly on his mind.

I wore a butt plug to the extended family Easter meal on Friday, which is always fun for me (I enjoy having naughty secrets). And during sex play, itself, there was excellent warm up activities, trying out various toys, and, of course, being stretched around Adventurer's girth.

I also learned that some anal sex positions provide more clitoral stimulation than others. My favourite was laying on my stomach and being taken from behind. I do love how that feels in general (being surrounded by a lover), but the grinding into the mattress added extra stimulation to my clit that was much appreciated on anal-only weekend.

Yesterday, however, gave my pussy a chance to participate. Adventurer sent me a text asking if I would come upstairs to be tied to the bed and pleasured. I happily agreed. When I got there he had our squirt blanket across the mattress and satin ties ready on the headboard. I stripped naked and he secured my restraints. He then proceeded to kiss my entire body. He commented on how my labia were spreading wide and my clit was starting to poke out. As he continued to kiss and pleasure me, he noted that my pussy was opening even further and there were hints of wetness peeking out. I was arching my back and trying to get him to touch my pussy. He smiled at me and eventually gave in. "Heaven" would be too mild a description for how that felt.

After using his tongue expertly, he proceeded to pleasure my pussy for the next hour or so with his fingers, his tongue, and various toys. At some point, he slid a dildo into my butt and another into my pussy. I love that feeling of being stretched and full. When he added a vibrator to my clit, I came very hard.

And then he gave me what I really wanted, his cock....rock hard, and oh so ready to fuck me fully.

I guess my pussy was the big winner on anal-only weekend.

I can picture you laying there tied to the bed. Beautiful to imagine spreading your labia and more…

[venus-can99]

LFA and A - so all in all a very happy Easter Weekend eh

[regular3]

I really do hope some pictures will be forthcoming.

[Late]

Agreed. Pictures would be awesome!

Late

[Lookingforadventure]

I really do hope some pictures will be forthcoming.

Agreed. Pictures would be awesome!

Late

Sorry. No photos were taken this past weekend. In fact, we've deleted our photo thread in the Hotties section. I'm not saying that it won't ever come back, but it seemed like an appropriate step to take as we adjust back to monogamy. Posting a profile with some pics was the first step we took on our non monogamy journey (followed by chatting with some strangers, meeting some in person, sex with one, visiting a sex club, swinging, BDSM with a Dom, etc). I felt like we needed to go back to life before any of those activities and exist in that vanilla space for awhile before we talk about what (if any) we want to add back.

It wasn't intended as an ultimatum, just a period of adjustment. I think we need to figure out where the line is that feels good to both of us in terms of sexual adventures.

All of which is to say, sorry, no pics

[Late]

LFA:
Sometimes the right answer just isn't what we want to hear. But that was the right answer and we knew it. But, there was another rule in play here. The answer to a question never asked is always "no". So we just had to check.

Love you guys.

Late

[hoping_she_will_1day]

You're a very special couple, and it's an honor to have you as friends. Thank you for bringing us along on your thrill ride with all of it's ups and downs, excitement and teases.

[hoping_she_will_1day]

First thank you for you well wishes….reality is I am trying to process this loss as I just returned from my annual boys trip, it’s hitting home hard now as my reality has been turned around and I simply can’t go backwards.

Very early on in our relationship, I had said to lfa that this would end one day and we would never know when, how or why, who knew it turned out to be now.

This all been said, I absolutely have zero ill will for both Lfa and adventurer, I always felt welcomed and yes loved. I am very grateful that we have shared many amazing memories that will forever be with me.

These two are the poster child of what an amazing partnership is and will be forever humbled that they touched my life…..yes I am old and laughed about a old show called “ touched by a angel “, while cheesy it rings so true.

So for now, I will be focusing on my new reality and life going forward with a very special place being reserved for these two amazing people.

G

You sir, are the epitome of a gentleman. You have my utmost respect.

[Seekingmore12]

Thank you

G

[Lookingforadventure]

You sir, are the epitome of a gentleman. You have my utmost respect.

He really is

[Lookingforadventure]

You're a very special couple, and it's an honor to have you as friends. Thank you for bringing us along on your thrill ride with all of it's ups and downs, excitement and teases.

Thank you. And you two have been great friends right back. I'm excited to see your journey taking some positive turns and look forward to reading all about them

[venus-can99]

Thanks for the update LFA and hope things are well...

[Lookingforadventure]

Thanks for the update LFA and hope things are well...

Thanks Venus. Things over here are going well. It has been a little over a month since we stopped our ENM journey. If I'm being totally honest with you, I can tell it was the right decision. Adventurer seems lighter and happier. He says that he feels like a weight has been lifted. I hadn't realized he had been feeling a weight. It makes me feel guilty for making him feel that way, but also glad that we have taken steps to rectify it.

At the same time, it has been hard on me. I love my husband. I love our sex life. I'm very well satisfied. But I miss all of the thrills and emotions that came with being a hot wife. It really is rather addictive.

I miss flirting. I miss planning naughty adventures in semi-public spaces. I miss strangers commenting on my pictures and saying I'm beautiful. I miss having dates on the calendar when I can play hooky from work and family to just enjoy my sexuality. It isn't that I can't do those things with Adventurer, but when I was a hot wife they were a new constant that I could rely on. That is no longer the case and I miss it.

I don't want to give the impression that I'm moping around and being sad. I'm not. The hardship isn't a constant thing. The feelings of sadness come and go. I was chatting with an OHWs friend the other day and he mentioned playing with an estim machine with his wife. It reminded me of my play dates with "Sir" and I had a pang of knowing that would never happen again, but mostly it made me smile as I remembered how much fun we had. Similarly, lots of things remind me of G and it is bittersweet because I miss him, but also feel so grateful for all the great memories.

So that's where things are at right now. But, on the sexier side of things, Adventurer asked me for my submission this week. As a result we went on a walk yesterday where I wore a dress and a butt plug. At one point, he lifted my dress to expose my butt and gave it a grope. The exhibitionist in me loved it.

[shadowtantra]

Thank you LFA for such a thoughtful post. It seems that it's rare to hear how relationships can evolve into and out of this lifestyle and the one constant is change. I appreciate your sharing your sadness about what was and your appreciation for where you are with Adventurer. It seems as if you are embarking an a new adventure (pun intended) together. I wish you both all the best in this next chapter and that you can share your evolution with us when you have time!

[Restarting]

At the same time, it has been hard on me. I love my husband. I love our sex life. I'm very well satisfied. But I miss all of the thrills and emotions that came with being a hot wife. It really is rather addictive.

I miss flirting. I miss planning naughty adventures in semi-public spaces. I miss strangers commenting on my pictures and saying I'm beautiful. I miss having dates on the calendar when I can play hooky from work and family to just enjoy my sexuality. It isn't that I can't do those things with Adventurer, but when I was a hot wife they were a new constant that I could rely on. That is no longer the case and I miss it.

LFA
First, let me express my admiration for the way you, Adventurer and Seekingmore have handled this.

During an argument, I once asked my wife to stop, then reversed that about 5 minutes later. But the way your exit unfolded is how I expect ours would too. The heartache is predictable.

Mentioning hardship is a gut-wrenching reality check for me, though.

The hardship isn't a constant thing.

It's painful to consider that the lifestyle that generates so much happiness could/would produce hardship. It weighs on me and I feel it for you.

Regarding strangers commenting, I have little doubt your beauty will continue to attract attention, and I hope you take notice.

When that happens, would Adventurer object if you were to acknowledge an admirer in your current arrangement?

Consider me a fan. I hope that the enhanced level of trust and communication with Adventurer, that was at the foundation of your hotwife experience, will endure.

[hoping_she_will_1day]

There are so many things that we admire about you and your hubby, but one of the most endearing elements of your thread is how genuine and authentic it is. You have the ability to speak with clarity and you aren't afraid of keeping it real. Or raw, as it can be sometimes. Your sincerity is very humbly appreciated.

[Lookingforadventure]

Thank you LFA for such a thoughtful post. It seems that it's rare to hear how relationships can evolve into and out of this lifestyle and the one constant is change. I appreciate your sharing your sadness about what was and your appreciation for where you are with Adventurer. It seems as if you are embarking an a new adventure (pun intended) together. I wish you both all the best in this next chapter and that you can share your evolution with us when you have time!

Thank you.

[Lookingforadventure]

At the same time, it has been hard on me. I love my husband. I love our sex life. I'm very well satisfied. But I miss all of the thrills and emotions that came with being a hot wife. It really is rather addictive.

I miss flirting. I miss planning naughty adventures in semi-public spaces. I miss strangers commenting on my pictures and saying I'm beautiful. I miss having dates on the calendar when I can play hooky from work and family to just enjoy my sexuality. It isn't that I can't do those things with Adventurer, but when I was a hot wife they were a new constant that I could rely on. That is no longer the case and I miss it.

LFA
First, let me express my admiration for the way you, Adventurer and Seekingmore have handled this.

During an argument, I once asked my wife to stop, then reversed that about 5 minutes later. But the way your exit unfolded is how I expect ours would too. The heartache is predictable.

Mentioning hardship is a gut-wrenching reality check for me, though.

The hardship isn't a constant thing.

It's painful to consider that the lifestyle that generates so much happiness could/would produce hardship. It weighs on me and I feel it for you.

Regarding strangers commenting, I have little doubt your beauty will continue to attract attention, and I hope you take notice.

When that happens, would Adventurer object if you were to acknowledge an admirer in your current arrangement?

Consider me a fan. I hope that the enhanced level of trust and communication with Adventurer, that was at the foundation of your hotwife experience, will endure.

Thank you. I am sure Adventurer would not care if I took notice of a stranger's admiring glance. He wouldn't even mind if I smiled or winked back. I think I just need to find that confidence back in myself. I've been feeling kind of guilty for being a hot wife and how it made him feel, but I'm starting to move past that.

[Lookingforadventure]

There are so many things that we admire about you and your hubby, but one of the most endearing elements of your thread is how genuine and authentic it is. You have the ability to speak with clarity and you aren't afraid of keeping it real. Or raw, as it can be sometimes. Your sincerity is very humbly appreciated.

Thank you. I appreciate you and MC a lot.

[Restarting]

At the same time, it has been hard on me. I love my husband. I love our sex life. I'm very well satisfied. But I miss all of the thrills and emotions that came with being a hot wife. It really is rather addictive.

I miss flirting. I miss planning naughty adventures in semi-public spaces. I miss strangers commenting on my pictures and saying I'm beautiful. I miss having dates on the calendar when I can play hooky from work and family to just enjoy my sexuality. It isn't that I can't do those things with Adventurer, but when I was a hot wife they were a new constant that I could rely on. That is no longer the case and I miss it.

LFA
First, let me express my admiration for the way you, Adventurer and Seekingmore have handled this.

During an argument, I once asked my wife to stop, then reversed that about 5 minutes later. But the way your exit unfolded is how I expect ours would too. The heartache is predictable.

Mentioning hardship is a gut-wrenching reality check for me, though.

The hardship isn't a constant thing.

It's painful to consider that the lifestyle that generates so much happiness could/would produce hardship. It weighs on me and I feel it for you.

Regarding strangers commenting, I have little doubt your beauty will continue to attract attention, and I hope you take notice.

When that happens, would Adventurer object if you were to acknowledge an admirer in your current arrangement?

Consider me a fan. I hope that the enhanced level of trust and communication with Adventurer, that was at the foundation of your hotwife experience, will endure.

Thank you. I am sure Adventurer would not care if I took notice of a stranger's admiring glance. He wouldn't even mind if I smiled or winked back. I think I just need to find that confidence back in myself. I've been feeling kind of guilty for being a hot wife and how it made him feel, but I'm starting to move past that.

Love that!