Leggysandy Stepping Out

[leggysandy]

Hi all,

I'm A (49M) and my wife is S (38F). I would dearly love for S to become a hotwife. She's a thin, petite, cute-sexy brunette who looks like a hot librarian in her glasses -- you know the type. She has a slender waist, a delightful ass, and even better legs (I'm a leg man). We've been married for 8 years and together for 10. I love her to bits and we have a strong marriage and active sex life, but only together. Young children have tapped the brakes on things somewhat, because of their energy-sapping tendencies.

It was only a handful of years ago that I even learned this kink of mine had a name, was a thing, came with anklets, etc. But I've had it for many years. I suppose I used to be 'normal' in terms of possessiveness and jealousy and whatnot, until some time in my early 20s something flipped -- possibly assisted by psychedelic drugs -- and I gradually realized that the thought of my partner openly pursuing sex with other guys was super hot, and that the jealous feelings are a turn-on for me.

Early in our relationship I shared with S that in my 2 previous long-term couplings, my girlfriends had had sex with other men.

The first was during the university years: after much brazen nudity and teasing, there occurred a fairly vanilla, brief (not *my* fault!) MMF threesome featuring me, my male roommate, and my then-girlfriend (wherein our hero discovers what it's like to enjoy your partner's freshly-creampied pussy).

My next long-term girlfriend had a brief fling with a co-worker, and I experienced what it's like to be sat at home, receiving the odd tantalizing late-night text message, unable to sleep from knowing for certain that she's naked in bed with another man. Awaiting her return in the morning with a pit-in-your-stomach mixture of fear and excitement, not knowing how much actually happened. Greeting her at the door with the question "did you get laid, baby?" Mostly her answers were oral sex only, but there was a little bit of intercourse on one occasion.

With another couple of girlfriends, things got to the planning/attempting stages, but never happened.

When I told S about these she responded with something like "oh no, you're not one of those group sex people, are you?" It was early in the relationship. She comes from a conservative background, and I think she still harbored a lingering suspicion that I was going to be another online-dating disappointment :-).

Still, I had hope. S has always been sex-positive, has a kinky side, enjoys porn (this was new for me), stays fit and attractive, and likes to get railed.

I've tried not to be a pest over the years, only raising the subject or dropping hints at what felt like appropriate opportunities. Mostly her responses have been of the soft-no, "I'll let you know if I want to" variety. I remember with near-crystal clarity every conversation we've had about the subject. Occasionally, during or after sex, we'd talk about it hypothetically. She's not a talker in bed, but one night she was lying on her tummy, and I had just finished riding her from behind, with my cock still inside her, and she said "I've been thinking more lately about your ideas, about sex with other guys". I remember feeling a kind of hot panic. Like: holy shit, it's going to happen -- she's my S, my wife -- do I really want it to happen? (Yes I do!) I think she had recently been enjoying a bit of MMF porn. I proposed a scenario where she gets surprised one evening by a knock on the door, and then I and the guy I've invited take her into the bedroom and fuck her. Or a reversed version, where she surprises me with someone she's invited. However, beyond a bit of talk, nothing came of it.

Despite all this, it was only about a year ago, when I think the penny fully dropped for S. She'd been away on a solo getaway and been getting checked out by a group of guys. I'd emailed that she should have invited them back to the bar at the hotel where she was staying, and it seemed like the idea got her horny. When she came home we were talking and she asked, "so, you actually really *want* me to have sex with other men?"

Personally, I have no desire to seek out other women. I look -- we both do, and comment about hot people to one another -- but it's not something I fantasize about. If I was allowed (I'm not) and I found myself in a sexy situation with someone, I'd probably want to do it. It seems like it's about the same for S. Like maybe if she tripped and fell on a hot guy, she'd go with it. I think in theory she likes the idea of fresh, exciting new dick, but she doesn't seem excited to look for it.

The hotwifing subject has come up a bit more often, recently. Mostly by me, but with an occasional question like "me having another man's dick in my mouth?" or "me giving my body to a stranger?" or "so should I start fucking other guys?" (reader, I actually begged) volunteered by S with only minor prompting.

I've asked her to tell me if I become a pest, or if she's feeling pressured. She knows I only want her to do this if she *wants* to do this, and has a great time doing it. She's talked about practicalities like protection/birth control, or catching feelings. She's said she'd prefer to fuck a stranger, maybe "every few months" -- echoing something I'd suggested to her years ago, which perked me right up.

I keep offering encouragement, cheekily suggesting ways to meet guys, even offering to pay for a (straight, attractive, single) personal trainer :-D. I've assured her that I'd love to greet her at the door when she comes home with a big smile on her face, cock on her breath, a freshly-fucked pussy ("you're weird!"), and dried cum on her skin, and take her straight to bed. All of these conversations give me fantasy material, so even if she just talks and leads me on, it's hot for me.

We got our first dildo, a fairly large, lifelike one we've named Brad. We're tried out a few 2-cock scenarios. I lean more to the not-being-present (though not cuckold) side of things, but of course I'd love to give her that MMF threesome, in a heartbeat.

But, we haven't crossed the "OK, let's do it" line yet. If ever.

I've only just discovered this forum (yay!) and S agreed to let me write this. Part of my motivation was to get all these thoughts written down, so she can read them.

And of course, any advice or encouragement you guys (particularly ladies) can offer her, might help!

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum leggysandy.

[PaNic]

Advice and encouragement...
You’ve come to the right place! Maybe S would join too and bring her thoughts/ queries on the matter to this conversation?
She could start with some flirting (here or irl) and see if you both enjoy it and want to take it further, there will be plenty of encouragement for her!

[leggysandy]

S has read my post, and I hope she'll join the conversation. We're sharing this account.

At this point she's still 'processing' it a bit. There aren't really any new facts here that S didn't already know, but she's never read it all put together in essay form like this before. Her reaction seems to be quite positive.

S did say tonight that, if we were still living our prior childless lifestyle, she probably would have joined the hotwife club by now. So, she seems to like the idea of it.

She loves sex. Sex with new men is fun and exciting. Her having sex with new men would be very exciting for her husband. Seems like a win/win.

A

[PaNic]

So, what plans / notions do the two of you have?

Sounds like S (Sandy?) is some way interested in sampling the Hotwife lifestyle. What does she want? What do you want?

Good luck and much excitement on your journey...

[Nothing2see]

Sounds like S (Sandy?)

I was going to say that having her name as part of the OP's username, then calling her S in the post was odd, but I did not want to be the one to call it out.

[leggysandy]

Sounds like S (Sandy?)

I was going to say that having her name as part of the OP's username, then calling her S in the post was odd, but I did not want to be the one to call it out.

Haha, good guess, but not quite Think of Sandy as something like Bennifer or Brangelina :-)

[leggysandy]

After another chat tonight, S's reactions, questions, etc gave me reason to think she's persuadable.

Maybe even inching closer to "ok, let's do it".

Have I got that right, honey?? (still hoping she'll feel like joining the convo)

She did allow me to upload an avatar, and to post a couple of beach pics from today in Hotties
(still needing moderator approval for posts)

A

[Farmgirl]

My advice for her would be to join the site, get verified, and then she could see how many of us women do things and why. Reading about real women who are Hotwives in real, loving, secure marriages would help her to see the normalcy of this. We're just real women in happy marriages!

[Just a Fantasy]

Sounds like you are in the same place we were a few years ago when it happened for us (story below).

[luvwives999]

Saw the pics you posted of S, I am sure she would have no problem attracting multiple suitors. My wife and I have been married 47 years this year. She has had 6 lovers over the years including my best friend. My 2 cents to S, if she reads this is, if you are going to indulge, pick someone you like and can trust. I am sure S has trepidation about A's reaction will be after her encounter. Just know from a long happily married man, that our sex life was always enhanced by my wife's dalliances.

[leggysandy]

My advice for her would be to join the site, get verified, and then she could see how many of us women do things and why. Reading about real women who are Hotwives in real, loving, secure marriages would help her to see the normalcy of this. We're just real women in happy marriages!

Thanks Farmgirl. I hope she does; having other women to talk to safely - women with experience in this - I can only imagine that would be helpful.

Sounds like you are in the same place we were a few years ago when it happened for us (story below).

Thanks for that! I really enjoyed your story. You're a lucky man, I'm envious!

A

[leggysandy]

Saw the pics you posted of S, I am sure she would have no problem attracting multiple suitors. My wife and I have been married 47 years this year. She has had 6 lovers over the years including my best friend. My 2 cents to S, if she reads this is, if you are going to indulge, pick someone you like and can trust. I am sure S has trepidation about A's reaction will be after her encounter. Just know from a long happily married man, that our sex life was always enhanced by my wife's dalliances.

Cheers luvwives. S is reading and following along :-) She need not worry about my reaction (I do have some related experience). Indeed, as you say, I think from my perspective, it would only enhance our marriage and sex life. It would make me love and desire her all the more. And, I hope, vice-versa

A

[parklife]

I enjoy the long, slow journey stories as it typically indicates the two of you have talked about this a lot and both are stepping into it with eyes wide open. It’s also similar to my journey as my wife and I used the idea of another guy as hot bedroom fantasy for years and spoke about taking it further for 8 years or so before she had one final, “are you sure you’re ok with this” conversation.

I’ve always said, even if she doesn’t find a new FWB at some point and the play stops, the fact that both of us accept the idea that at anytime she can and that the door is never closed keeps the fantasy and hotness fresh in my mind. The possibility of a new lover often provides many of the mental benefits and we both know if the the right guy and right situation hits, she’s ‘cleared for takeoff’ so to speak.

[Bent_n_Twisted]

She did allow me to upload an avatar, and to post a couple of beach pics from today in Hotties

Oh, very nice legs.

[Just a Fantasy]

Thanks for that! I really enjoyed your story. You're a lucky man, I'm envious!

Glad you enjoyed the story because we enjoyed experiencing it

And yes I am a lucky man but I'm going to push back on your being envious. You have no reason to envy me because you are also very lucky. You have a gorgeous, sexy young wife who is taking your fantasy very seriously. No matter whether you guys follow through to make this a reality, you potentially have years of sexy, fun times together just exploring this fantasy. Take advantage of that!!!

I suggest over the next week or so that you each, individually and together, make a list of all the baby steps you can take that are short of her having sex with another man. There are literally dozens of separate steps that you can take in your journey and each of them can ratchet up the sexual excitement between you. How much fun is that?

[leggysandy]

Oh, very nice legs.

Right? Would you believe that when I met her, she didn't think her legs were one of her better physical attributes? "Trust me," I said. "I'm an expert."

You have no reason to envy me because you are also very lucky. You have a gorgeous, sexy young wife who is taking your fantasy very seriously. No matter whether you guys follow through to make this a reality, you potentially have years of sexy, fun times together just exploring this fantasy. Take advantage of that!!!

You're absolutely right, there :-) She makes me a very lucky man, in numerous ways.

The most amazing thing for me is that this has been top of mind for both of us the last few days, and we've talked about various aspects of (possibly) making it come true. And that, for me has been mind-blowing. Talking to her about fucking other men is one of my biggest turn-ons. We've both been extra randy. S wants to get verified, and she got her first unsolicited PM from a bull. She liked it :-D

A

[aztd]

Hi all,

I'm A (49M) and my wife is S (38F). I would dearly love for S to become a hotwife. She's a thin, petite, cute-sexy brunette who looks like a hot librarian in her glasses -- you know the type. She has a slender waist, a delightful ass, and even better legs (I'm a leg man). We've been married for 8 years and together for 10. I love her to bits and we have a strong marriage and active sex life, but only together. Young children have tapped the brakes on things somewhat, because of their energy-sapping tendencies.

It was only a handful of years ago that I even learned this kink of mine had a name, was a thing, came with anklets, etc. But I've had it for many years. I suppose I used to be 'normal' in terms of possessiveness and jealousy and whatnot, until some time in my early 20s something flipped -- possibly assisted by psychedelic drugs -- and I gradually realized that the thought of my partner openly pursuing sex with other guys was super hot, and that the jealous feelings are a turn-on for me.

Early in our relationship I shared with S that in my 2 previous long-term couplings, my girlfriends had had sex with other men.

The first was during the university years: after much brazen nudity and teasing, there occurred a fairly vanilla, brief (not *my* fault!) MMF threesome featuring me, my male roommate, and my then-girlfriend (wherein our hero discovers what it's like to enjoy your partner's freshly-creampied pussy).

My next long-term girlfriend had a brief fling with a co-worker, and I experienced what it's like to be sat at home, receiving the odd tantalizing late-night text message, unable to sleep from knowing for certain that she's naked in bed with another man. Awaiting her return in the morning with a pit-in-your-stomach mixture of fear and excitement, not knowing how much actually happened. Greeting her at the door with the question "did you get laid, baby?" Mostly her answers were oral sex only, but there was a little bit of intercourse on one occasion.

With another couple of girlfriends, things got to the planning/attempting stages, but never happened.

When I told S about these she responded with something like "oh no, you're not one of those group sex people, are you?" It was early in the relationship. She comes from a conservative background, and I think she still harbored a lingering suspicion that I was going to be another online-dating disappointment :-).

Still, I had hope. S has always been sex-positive, has a kinky side, enjoys porn (this was new for me), stays fit and attractive, and likes to get railed.

I've tried not to be a pest over the years, only raising the subject or dropping hints at what felt like appropriate opportunities. Mostly her responses have been of the soft-no, "I'll let you know if I want to" variety. I remember with near-crystal clarity every conversation we've had about the subject. Occasionally, during or after sex, we'd talk about it hypothetically. She's not a talker in bed, but one night she was lying on her tummy, and I had just finished riding her from behind, with my cock still inside her, and she said "I've been thinking more lately about your ideas, about sex with other guys". I remember feeling a kind of hot panic. Like: holy shit, it's going to happen -- she's my S, my wife -- do I really want it to happen? (Yes I do!) I think she had recently been enjoying a bit of MMF porn. I proposed a scenario where she gets surprised one evening by a knock on the door, and then I and the guy I've invited take her into the bedroom and fuck her. Or a reversed version, where she surprises me with someone she's invited. However, beyond a bit of talk, nothing came of it.

Despite all this, it was only about a year ago, when I think the penny fully dropped for S. She'd been away on a solo getaway and been getting checked out by a group of guys. I'd emailed that she should have invited them back to the bar at the hotel where she was staying, and it seemed like the idea got her horny. When she came home we were talking and she asked, "so, you actually really *want* me to have sex with other men?"

Personally, I have no desire to seek out other women. I look -- we both do, and comment about hot people to one another -- but it's not something I fantasize about. If I was allowed (I'm not) and I found myself in a sexy situation with someone, I'd probably want to do it. It seems like it's about the same for S. Like maybe if she tripped and fell on a hot guy, she'd go with it. I think in theory she likes the idea of fresh, exciting new dick, but she doesn't seem excited to look for it.

The hotwifing subject has come up a bit more often, recently. Mostly by me, but with an occasional question like "me having another man's dick in my mouth?" or "me giving my body to a stranger?" or "so should I start fucking other guys?" (reader, I actually begged) volunteered by S with only minor prompting.

I've asked her to tell me if I become a pest, or if she's feeling pressured. She knows I only want her to do this if she *wants* to do this, and has a great time doing it. She's talked about practicalities like protection/birth control, or catching feelings. She's said she'd prefer to fuck a stranger, maybe "every few months" -- echoing something I'd suggested to her years ago, which perked me right up.

I keep offering encouragement, cheekily suggesting ways to meet guys, even offering to pay for a (straight, attractive, single) personal trainer :-D. I've assured her that I'd love to greet her at the door when she comes home with a big smile on her face, cock on her breath, a freshly-fucked pussy ("you're weird!"), and dried cum on her skin, and take her straight to bed. All of these conversations give me fantasy material, so even if she just talks and leads me on, it's hot for me.

We got our first dildo, a fairly large, lifelike one we've named Brad. We're tried out a few 2-cock scenarios. I lean more to the not-being-present (though not cuckold) side of things, but of course I'd love to give her that MMF threesome, in a heartbeat.

But, we haven't crossed the "OK, let's do it" line yet. If ever.

I've only just discovered this forum (yay!) and S agreed to let me write this. Part of my motivation was to get all these thoughts written down, so she can read them.

And of course, any advice or encouragement you guys (particularly ladies) can offer her, might help!

[leggysman]

A minor update

This is A. The leggysandy account is hers now. She does log in and read the forum, and her messages. I'm still hoping she'll start posting, get verified etc., but who knows?! She has said that she plans to.

After my previous posts, the discussion between us heated up considerably, and she got pretty excited about the notion of becoming a hotwife. She got PMs from bulls. She enjoyed them. We were both so randy we might have overdone it a bit.

She decided that the idea of having one or more regular 'bulls'/FBs appeals to her.

And, at some point, she said "I'm going to do it". Hi-fives all around.

She says I have to buy her some sexy underwear for dates. But of course!

She even researched a known local 'swinger' place (an all nude spa with ... y'know ... private rooms) and might go solo to give that a try, get a massage, and sample the vibe. That way there's no pressure to play, but easy opportunity if anyone takes her fancy.

We had a lull in the conversation the last few days, and I wondered whether this was going on the back burner for a while (there's lots of good interesting life stuff going on for her). But tonight she said, "I am still planning to go on dates".

No concrete plans have been made yet, but the dream is alive. I've been wishing for this for a long time, and have advocated for the benefits of jumping in with an experienced bull for her first encounter. She didn't disagree, but obviously this has to happen at her pace, when she wants it to.

Along the way I suggested dipping a toe in - giving someone a blowjob or similar - but she said if she's going to meet up with someone, she wants to fuck. That's my girl!

[PaNic]

The moment where my woman turns to me and says “I’m going to do it!” is the most erotic moment I can imagine; You’re a lucky man!

Please Leggysandy post here about your thoughts and feelings and adventures, we’re all eager to hear your voice in all this...

[leggysman]

The moment where my woman turns to me and says “I’m going to do it!” is the most erotic moment I can imagine

It was quite a moment for me - to hear her say it out loud, just like that. After so many years of beating around the bush, so to speak. We had been building up to it for several days at that point, so it wasn't a shock. More like a confirmation, but quite a rush all the same.

You’re a lucky man!

Thank you, I am indeed. I can't wait to see her blossom into this, assuming she follows through. I think she'll be a killer hotwife once she gets her confidence, and I think she'll love it.

Please Leggysandy post here about your thoughts and feelings and adventures, we’re all eager to hear your voice in all this...

I second that!

[aztd]

Soon?

[leggysman]

Soon?

Can't happen soon enough :-)

She says she's all in. Seems to be ready to move forward! It's so hot.

[leggysandy]

Ok, came here to finally say hello Yes, I think that after years of saying "no way", I finally changed my mind to A's delight! Just joining this forum, reading and learning more about the concept made me start thinking about it. But after receiving couple of messages, I started fantasizing about having sex with men who sent those messages, and that's where things got crazy! Literally I could not think about anything else, the idea was keeping me awake at night and I was horny all the time! So, I guess we are now just looking for the right person, because this IS happening, right A?

[leggysman]

Ladies and gents, my awesome, sexy wife S

we are now just looking for the right person, because this IS happening, right A?

I hope and expect it will happen just as often and as many times as you want it to, my love! Whoever you choose will be a lucky bastard, but not as lucky as me.

Can't wait to ravish you whenever you come home from a hot date.

Fellow wannabes, I think I am one of the fortunate ones who will someday (soon?!) be able to post about my wife's adventure(s). I hope she'll post about them too!