Leggysandy Stepping Out

[venus-can99]

Sounds exciting S that you have found an interesting guy perhaps for a long-term relationship. Hopefully he is aware that you are not going to leave Leggysman even if Ethan is hung as a horse and the fucking/lovemaking is off the charts.

[Her number1]

I'd say he's just not a typical guy. He's also not thinking with his lower head. It took him a loooong time to get where he is now and I am the only person he wants to do this with or thought of getting involved in any way in past 4 years. He's had a pretty hard life and I think he just doesn't want to get hurt and wants to take things in speed he's comfortable with. Nevertheless, I told him it was dumb, as it's going to happen anyway But I try to respect how he feels as he's not just a random guy, he's also my friend.

Even though it was slightly frustrating, it was also really nice, steady progress made and I had a lovely evening. I also came home super horny as I had several hours long foreplay And luckily, Leggysman was there to take care of me.

I love how you're staying the course and going after what you want.

[leggysman]

Hopefully he is aware that you are not going to leave Leggysman even if Ethan is hung as a horse and the fucking/lovemaking is off the charts.

That's a bit of an open question, I think. Will he ever be comfortable sharing my wife with me? So far, he seems to struggle with the idea a little bit. He doesn't want to hear about, for example, that she comes home and has sex with me after she sees him. Or about us having a married sex life at all, really.

Hopefully if this does develop into a longer-term thing, he'll get used to the idea that sharing leggysandy with me is the only option on the table. I'm trying to be philosophical about it, rather than seeing it as a red flag. He's a vanilla guy, and this is probably all very foreign to the monogamy-world he (and most of us) grew up in.

Vanilla guys are new territory for us as well, so we'll also have to figure it out.

[FNQLivin]

Hopefully he is aware that you are not going to leave Leggysman even if Ethan is hung as a horse and the fucking/lovemaking is off the charts.

That's a bit of an open question, I think. Will he ever be comfortable sharing my wife with me? So far, he seems to struggle with the idea a little bit. He doesn't want to hear about, for example, that she comes home and has sex with me after she sees him. Or about us having a married sex life at all, really.

Hopefully if this does develop into a longer-term thing, he'll get used to the idea that sharing leggysandy with me is the only option on the table. I'm trying to be philosophical about it, rather than seeing it as a red flag. He's a vanilla guy, and this is probably all very foreign to the monogamy-world he (and most of us) grew up in.

Vanilla guys are new territory for us as well, so we'll also have to figure it out.

I can see how this would be very confusing and potentially hurtful to him.

Your wife looks and sounds awesome and he would naturally develop feelings and a strong emotional bond with her. To him, in his eyes, he'd be investing emotional energy with no prospect of it developing into anything more than FWB's situation. Unless he's looking for a FWB, I can see him not understanding at all and either wanting to have exclusive access to her or becoming depressed and upset when he realises that he can never take this further.

He sounds like an amazing person who seems to have been so hurt by his previous partner that he's not even sought out a sexual partner of any type in the last few years.

Anyway, go to bed, it's late!

[leggysman]

Anyway, go to bed, it's late!

Ha, I come home late from (ice) hockey on Saturday nights, and I'm too wired up to sleep for a couple of hours. Apparently it's the same for the other guys too.

[FNQLivin]

I’m in Cairns, so early afternoon for me. That’s my excuse

[leggysman]

Unless he's looking for a FWB, I can see him not understanding at all and either wanting to have exclusive access to her or becoming depressed and upset when he realises that he can never take this further.

He did say something like this to her tonight in a message; that he feels great when they're together, but then feels a bit depressed. I think he has real feelings for her. And she has some for Ethan as well. That's why this could be really great for a while, or else a total disaster. Ultimately, he probably needs to find someone of his own. But ideally, there can be some romance, sex, and friendship between them in the meantime.

I think, intellectually he understands what this is, and that's all that it is. And he says he wants to sign up. But feelings are feelings.

[fitz_f]

Sorry if I’ve missed you talking about this, but do the two of you see this heading in more of a poly direction? I only ask because I’m wondering if that’s where we’re heading.

My wife has been hotwifing for around five years now, and it’s been NSA with a few (increasingly unreliable) regulars. I’m starting to feel it would be easier and safer (and I would be happier) if she had a regular boyfriend she actually cared about as well as enjoyed sex with.

This is a big turnaround for us as we both very clear about no emotions or feelings at any point and it was the thing I most feared at the start. But now the thought of my wife having a boyfriend feels pretty exciting and saucy.

[leggysandy]

I chatted with him some more last night when Leggysman was away. It all started quite depressing, as he really struggles with the idea and doesn't know if he will be able to handle the whole situation. If it affects his mood when he's with his children, this is where he'll put a stop to it.

However, the chat ended up on a happier note with him saying how he really, really wants to do something with me next time, which includes me taking off my trousers and underwear. I just hope after he does it, he picks me up and takes me to the bloody bedroom! Unfortunately, we will have a fairly small window because he's leaving for a holiday next day and we won't have much time, so don't want to get my hopes too high. Either way, could be fun

[skoot1958]

I hope so, he just has to understand this fun for both of you, no more, live sex toy

[Triggershy]

I definitely know that you guys know this young man more than I do but…… there is so many red flags here I feel like he’s gonna be a stage five Klinger, he’s going to fall in love, drama, or just high maintenance.

He’s telling you, he can’t handle it by his actions. All the best to you guys love the story, but real life seems more important.

[leggysman]

Sorry if I’ve missed you talking about this, but do the two of you see this heading in more of a poly direction? I only ask because I’m wondering if that’s where we’re heading.

My wife has been hotwifing for around five years now, and it’s been NSA with a few (increasingly unreliable) regulars. I’m starting to feel it would be easier and safer (and I would be happier) if she had a regular boyfriend she actually cared about as well as enjoyed sex with.

This is a big turnaround for us as we both very clear about no emotions or feelings at any point and it was the thing I most feared at the start. But now the thought of my wife having a boyfriend feels pretty exciting and saucy.

I suppose maybe in this case, you could say it's more in that direction. But I don't see us ever wanting to go too far in that direction, like a triad or something, where he and I are equals. Call me selfish, but I just don't want to give up that much of my gorgeous, amazing leggysandy. And I hope she never feels as strongly about Ethan as she does about me. I want to be her number one, and know it.

With her first guy a couple of years ago, Anthony, it was more than just sex. He was her first, and the NRE was strong. They were in contact all day long, and well into the night. He wanted a girlfriend, and she wasn't resisting too much. It did lead to some discomfort, and some heated discussions between us. We questioned whether we should continue with this. Neither of us handled it perfectly. I certainly wasn't ready for that level of engagement with another man, at the time. But we kept talking, and we did smooth things out relatively quickly.

With a bit more experience, I think we are evolving. Hookups are fun - and I'm sure there will be more of them along the way - but she's been looking for more of a 'regular'. One regular. And then Ethan popped up again.

I've teased her that she wants Ethan to be her boyfriend, which seemed to turn her on, and which she repeated to him. He liked that too. She responds as though she's excited by the notion of the two of us 'sharing' her body and her pussy. Of being a woman with a husband and a boyfriend. Personally, I think I am more relaxed now. And I trust her. So, that seems like the way this could go, and it seems like a fun thing to try ... within reason .

So yeah. Maybe a little bit.

(if he ever gets around to having sex with my hot little wife)

(without pissing her off too much first - which is always a distinct possibility )

[leggysman]

I feel like he’s gonna be a stage five Klinger, he’s going to fall in love, drama, or just high maintenance.

She doesn't seem to think so - at least not the clinging or drama. Love, perhaps. Maybe it's love already. He's an intelligent guy, and he seems quite self-aware. It's probably more likely that he would just shut the whole thing down, if he couldn't keep his emotions in check.

He’s telling you, he can’t handle it by his actions. All the best to you guys love the story, but real life seems more important.

He has told her with his words that he wasn't sure he could handle it. However, he seems to have come a long way in the months since it last fizzled. He understands now that we have a strong marriage, and that leggysandy can't be his lobster. And even if things don't take off this time, I have a feeling that's not the end of it.

We live in the same village, see each other all the time, our kids are at the same school, and she teaches his kid. One way or another, this will likely be a long, slow burn that lasts years. If it's ever off again, there will probably always be the possibility of it being on again. So if we do this, we're all making a sort of commitment that we're all aware of. Nobody is going to just disappear if this doesn't work out. He has lived here his whole life, and we're not planning on going anywhere.

It's slightly risky, but less so if you think that everyone (he) can be grown-up about it. I wasn't so sure before, but I feel better about that now.

[FNQLivin]

I love your updates.

The assumption is that 'he' is the weak link here. What if it's not him but your gorgeous wife? Love does funny things to people.

[leggysman]

I love your updates.

Thank you!

The assumption is that 'he' is the weak link here. What if it's not him but your gorgeous wife? Love does funny things to people.

She is not. To me, it's inconceivable. She does have a crush on Ethan, it's acknowledged, and that's OK. It's fun. She's a very level-headed woman, and we are a great match. I highly doubt many marriages are as solid (or as much fun!). It's true that you can never know another person 100%, but I'm as certain about this as a husband could ever be, in such a circumstance. Plus, I'm just way cooler than that guy.

[FNQLivin]

Thanks again! And man, you need to go to bed!!

[Lookingforadventure]

I think i like him. Something good things are worth waiting for. And I am a fan of a good Makeout session.

As long as he's very clear on what you are offering, and as long as he eventually wants a bit more than groping, I think he could have long term potential. I'm excited for you.

[54321]

'A husband and a boyfriend'... It does sound like fun

54321

[leggysandy]

Thanks again! And man, you need to go to bed!!

I like you. I've been telling him to go to bed early since we started living together. I moved his bed time from 4am to 2am, but that was best I could do.

But perhaps if he hears it from someone else more often, it will move to 1.30am.

But yes, you are talking nonsense if you think I might the weak link.

[FNQLivin]

Thanks again! And man, you need to go to bed!!

I like you. I've been telling him to go to bed early since we started living together. I moved his bed time from 4am to 2am, but that was best I could do.

But perhaps if he hears it from someone else more often, it will move to 1.30am.

But yes, you are talking nonsense if you think I might the weak link.

I’m always happy to talk nonsense! Sorry if I offended you.

[leggysandy]

I think i like him. Something good things are worth waiting for. And I am a fan of a good Makeout session.

As long as he's very clear on what you are offering, and as long as he eventually wants a bit more than groping, I think he could have long term potential. I'm excited for you.

Yes, it's quite different and build up is much slower, but I think it's a good change because clearly going straight for it didn't work best for me. The problem for me so far is that I would get more horny thinking about the actual act with someone else, than right there on the spot, doing it. I also got bored of every guy after 3 dates (with exception of Anthony). He's a great kisser and has a great touch. And I will find out what else he might be good at tomorrow night (so far, none of the men I dated were as Leggysman set standards really high).

I think if there was more time tomorrow, we would have sex. Unless he just breaks anyway He definitely wants to. Unfortunately things will slow down now as he's leaving on a holiday until 24th, and when he comes back, my mum will be staying with us until 7th March, so it will be hard to organize something unless we get creative.

[leggysandy]

Thanks again! And man, you need to go to bed!!

I like you. I've been telling him to go to bed early since we started living together. I moved his bed time from 4am to 2am, but that was best I could do.

But perhaps if he hears it from someone else more often, it will move to 1.30am.

But yes, you are talking nonsense if you think I might the weak link.

I’m always happy to talk nonsense! Sorry if I offended you.

That's ok, not offended at all

[venus-can99]

Goodluck tomorrow Sandy. Looks like you have a wonderful (almost romantic) vibe with him.

[toshare]

I think Sandy will really enjoy having 2 men who care for her in her life. My wife was dating a guy and she told me she wanted me to be open if she falls in love with him. It took time to get use to but she and he have dated now over a year and he makes her very happy and it’s nice to see her happy with him and to buy her nice outfits for her to wear for him Ect . I’ve accepted more of the Cuckold role in our relationship as he’s her primary sexual partner and i do get the added benefit of getting to enjoy licking her creampies as often as she lets me The dynamic can work and I dint think my wife and I would have it any other way. I’m sure Sandy already knows she can develop feelings for him, just communicate with each other as she deepened her feelings for him. I’m sure as they start having sex it will grow more too

[leggysandy]

I think Sandy will really enjoy having 2 men who care for her in her life. My wife was dating a guy and she told me she wanted me to be open if she falls in love with him. It took time to get use to but she and he have dated now over a year and he makes her very happy and it’s nice to see her happy with him and to buy her nice outfits for her to wear for him Ect . I’ve accepted more of the Cuckold role in our relationship as he’s her primary sexual partner and i do get the added benefit of getting to enjoy licking her creampies as often as she lets me The dynamic can work and I dint think my wife and I would have it any other way. I’m sure Sandy already knows she can develop feelings for him, just communicate with each other as she deepened her feelings for him. I’m sure as they start having sex it will grow more too

It is nice that you and your wife found what makes you happy and enjoying it.

However, this is not where we are going. My primary sexual partner will always be Leggysman and that will never change. I love him, sex is great and I like to do it often - with him. Ethan can add an extra session a week which I believe I will enjoy more than with random strangers assuming he's got the right equipment