Our Hotwives

This is a poll, some questions on the topic of “bedroom privileges” and overnighters…

In context, over the span of our hot wife thing, we’ve had very few encounter partners who’ve had what KK and I call “bedroom privileges,” or stayed as overnight guests following an encounter.

Things have changed for us over the last couple of years; KK now has a “steady” boyfriend, a married cheater named Andy. I introduced the two of them.

Since this relationship’s started, Andy’s graduated and earned “bedroom privileges,” and when he can pull it off, stays overnight following an encounter with KK.

“Bedroom privilege” is possibly a shared concept; KK and I define it as a trusted intimate partner that’s afforded opportunity to enjoy our marital bed, from sex to sleeping/cuddling and similar intimacy. Before Andy, there were only two men that attained that level of access to KK.

The situation with Andy isn’t without complexity. He’s married and cheating. Like almost all married cheaters, Andy lives on the edge between discovery and enjoying the fruits of adultery. He has to make excuses, cover his tracks, account for time and absence, and try to balance time with KK against time with his wife, work, and other pursuits.

We’ve developed a sort of routine, a pattern that works, allowing Andy and KK time to enjoy their sexuality and intimacy, while avoiding him getting caught by his wife - at least so far.


Part of that pattern involves Andy visiting our home, usually two, sometimes three mornings a week. He arrives early, usually before 6:00AM - his cover is an early morning workout. At least that’s partially true, although the workout is with my wife.

He’s got his own key at this point, and arrives without an advance call or text. On mornings he shows up, I am usually awakened by the “chirp” of the security system when he lets himself in. I almost always feign sleep to enjoy what follows. The usual routine begins with oral sex.

KK always sleeps fully nude. She’s also a “hot” sleeper, so the majority of the time, she’s kicked the bed covers/sheets off. I often awake to find her splayed out on the bed, naked, inviting. On the mornings Andy visits, he almost always starts out by stripping down, joining us in the bed, followed by an intense session of kissing and licking KK’s pussy until she reaches orgasm. That’s generally the point I “wake up,” to the sounds of her bliss, to see her squirming on the bed, her thighs clamped on Andy’s head.

By that time, Andy’s fully engorged, hard, throbbing… he takes KK, sliding his erect cock balls deep into her, delivering a hot, vigorous fuck, unloading his balls inside her. Then it’s my turn for sloppy seconds.

We sometimes enjoy two to three rounds like this, cuddling, making out, even dozing back to blissful sleep in between fuck and suck sessions. Then Andy’s off to work, leaving behind my sexually satiated wife to go about her day.

Some two to three times a month, we concoct a scenario that allows Andy to stay overnight, so that we can all enjoy an extended encounter. Sometimes that excuses involves Andy’s wife traveling to see family, other times the excuse is built on Andy’s “business travel.” He will front, or back-end a scheduled trip by staying with us overnight on either side, a couple of times both, of his travel.

Most of these overnight sessions are a nuanced blend of pure sex and more emotional intimacy, including sleeping with KK and me in our marital bed.

KK sleeps in between the two of us. One of the special joys of these overnighters is awakening to find KK mounted atop Andy, riding his cock. Other pleasures include the two of us kissing, touching, and focusing on KK’s pleasure, fingering her to orgasm until she’s exhausted, finally drifting off to sleep.

Most of the time, all three of us are exhausted the next day - we can’t seem to stop fucking, and find time to sleep for any length of time. One of the absolute hottest things is awakening to the sound, and sight of KK and Andy making love; kissing, slow, deep fucking, whispers, the sounds of their orgasm…

So, I wonder how may other hot wife / cuckold couples have experiences like this. How do you handle overnights, or the intimacy associated with “bedroom privileges?”

Please share your insgights.

Never in our bed, but she has had many overnights and even a few out of town trips that spanned a few days while I stayed home. So, hotel beds.

My boyfriend does join me in our marital bed for sex and cuddling. He would be welcome to stay over but hasn't yet.

I didn't answer the poll, there was no "As the wife, I do this and like it".

With raising cost of hotels marital bed is comfortable choice. Just actual boyfriend is shy... so both of us co-husband sleep in separate room and reclaim her next day.

None of the answers applied to our dynamic. We are non relationship swingers. Never had a sleep over, we're in this for the fucking, not the morning after etc. Mrs has been fucked at home in our bed by plenty of men, some one offs, some fwb. It's not a big deal for us either way. We have discussed the possibility of finding a F or M for a poly relationship if we'd find someone who felt like a fit. We'll see what time brings.

Early on when first getting into this life style, my wife who was still a live-in GF she had my my approval and encouragement to often spend the night and weekends with any given BF. It is a a long story how I evolved to love this.
She rarely fucked a guy at our place....at least with my knowledge.

Anyway, she quickly learned how much this turned me on and that I was really serious about this.
So she then often made dates and plans to spend nights and weekends etc with at their places

The only stipulation I had was none of her plans with other men could interfere with any plans we had together.
Other that that there were eventually no restraints on what she could do or where she could go on dates with a BF
Again, her knowing how much it turn me on she took full advantage of it all and eventually openly dated as a single gal when we got a new 2 bedroom apt.
She told her dates that we now just had a marriage of convenience and she was free to date other men.
When they arrived to pick her up for a date, I would then welcome her male visitors and wish them a great time with my (estranged) wife....giving them privacy with her. before they left

This is one of those things that may be more likely once the kids are older and moved out.

My wife has had plenty of sexual encounters in our bed, but I think she’s only had an overnighter at our place once and the kids were extremely young and I was out of town. She’s had other offers extended at appropriate times, but her other overnights have been hotels.

But, in the right circumstances, I don’t see there being any issues. I don’t think either of us ascribe any special significance to a “marital” bed.

Most playmates hang around and often go in for seconds. The party pauses and I have passed out and awoke by her leg bumping against me while he does her one last time before he leaves.

From the very first time we played with others after we were married we never had an issue playing in our bed.

My wife has had a few lovers come to the house and have sex in our bed. I left the house while they were having sex.
Beforehand, she wasn't sure it was a good idea, but it was fine. Neither of us felt any differently about sleeping in the bed or having sex in the bed after.
I guess it gets more in the head of some guys.
I really enjoyed the fresh creampie I got one time when I came home after she had sex with someone in our bed. He just nutted his load into her 10 minutes before I came home, so it was still nice and thick.

My wife hasn't had any sleepovers, but some guys have asked her because they like to snuggle, and I asked her a few times to spend the night with the other guy because she was driving home tired after a long day (she gets up early for work.) She admitted after that she had fallen asleep driving momentarily on one of the hour long drives home. That is pretty scary.
She has said that she feels it is important to come home to me after being with another man.

I find it hot for my wife to be fucked in our marital bed, but I don't want him to stay overnight.

My 36-year-old wife has male friends who stay overnight, either at our home or theirs, as she and he wish. They get our marital bed. I typically sleep in the guest room as is her preference, but I enjoy that also.

I no longer sleep with my wife, when I decided I wanted to be feminine I was told to move into the extra bedroom as the master bedroom was hers and hers alone. I cried for several months trying to accept sleeping alone.

Pauline

My wife has 1 guy that we allow to come and play in our bed. We had talked about it for a while before actually doing this. After she loved it so much we have decided to continue. She has not spent the night yet but that is also on the table for now. We are still deciding if this will work for us. She does not want to be gone that long and enjoys the reclaim sex so much.

I couldn't really select any of the options.

My wife does make love to her boyfriends in our marital bed, but they mostly go home afterwards. They have spent the night in our bed on very few occasions when I've been working away, but normally if she spends the night it is at his place or an hotel.

Our bed means nothing special for her, but it does for me - I just get this thing in my head, in my house, in my bed and in my wife which really turns me on. A surprising kink the first time was to see a dent in the pillow on my side of the bed where his head had been which was even more of a turn on than the dried wet spot on her side.

I guess that we have never really thought of our bed as being a special place and have used it for both threesomes and solo meets right from the start. However I guess the privilege of an overnight stay was something that had to be earned or deserved. Usually we didn't do overnighters until the guy had become a regular visitor and a trusted fwb, although occasionally my wife would be so turned on by a guy on a first date that he could earn this privilege. Of course my wife had an ulterior motive in that she would get some solo sex after I had retired to the guest bed, and perhaps a morning fuck as well.

This same general rule held true if we stayed overnight at a guys place in as much as my wife would only sleep in his bed if he had earned it. I have to be honest and admit I prefer her to share a bed with her lovers as I look forward to fucking her straight after they have had a morning session.

annsman wrote: ↑

Fri Dec 30, 2022 1:30 pm

In my head, in my house, in my bed and in my wife which really turns me on. A surprising kink the first time was to see a dent in the pillow on my side of the bed where his head had been which was even more of a turn on than the dried wet spot on her side.

The 'dried wet spot', for some strange reason, was never on her side, always on mine. And it wasn't always dried. And sometimes on my pillow.

This was something I never had a problem with. My wife's boyfriend would come to our house much more frequently than we would go to his. As the host, I always felt some need to offer him 'privileges'. My wife was offering him her pussy, so it seemed the least I could do was to offer him my place in our bed.

I don't give out my address and no one comes to our house. Neither one of us had any interest from the start in playing in our home. We didn’t want to face someone coming back to find us once things ended with him.

I also wouldn't walk into a man's house and put myself in his home court where he could have anything planned,

Never an overnighter! I am vulnerable in my sleep. How well do I know this man really?
These are the choices that felt safest to us.

We are generally looking for ongoing relationships. So we vet people pretty thoroughly and “date” them for a while before things progress to the bedroom. I guess we are more on the poly spectrum these days. And, I am always near by with a new lover, at least in the beginning. That being said, we have yet to have problem with anyone starting something “not on the agenda “.

We never felt the marital bed was some sort of special place. Through out our marriage she took many people back to our bed, sometimes during the day or the night, depending on my shifts at work.
Once she started bringing men home when I was there, she'd entertain them downstairs whilst I was in the bedroom and they usually stayed there together all night. We did have a few threesomes in the bed but not many.
We had a few foursomes with her sister and her boyfriend and we'd start off in a heap together downstairs then the SIL and I went to the bedroom. The second night my wife and the BIL took the bedroom. The next time it happened, we did the same. We'd have to swap back to our regular beds before the kids woke up though.

Thebestdays1 wrote: ↑

Mon Jul 31, 2023 5:34 am

We never felt the marital bed was some sort of special place. Through out our marriage she took many people back to our bed, sometimes during the day or the night, depending on my shifts at work.
Once she started bringing men home when I was there, she'd entertain them downstairs whilst I was in the bedroom and they usually stayed there together all night. We did have a few threesomes in the bed but not many.
We had a few foursomes with her sister and her boyfriend and we'd start off in a heap together downstairs then the SIL and I went to the bedroom. The second night my wife and the BIL took the bedroom. The next time it happened, we did the same. We'd have to swap back to our regular beds before the kids woke up though.

I have similar memories. My wife had a habit back in the day of bedding friends and coworkers. I was never really sure when I walked in the house who I might find on my side of the bed!

My wife is a hotwife and I was an fb for awhile. Our normal sexual activity is to spend a couple of hours in bed with the other person, either at their place or in our bed. Doesn't really make a difference. My wife has only once contemplated an over night, actually a long weekend away, with a lover whom she had been with for several years, but he jamtarted out the day prior. She was so pissed at him, because she had arranged time off work, that she never saw him again. I had a bit better luck, but only with three women.

I voted for supporting the idea of it.
We have yet to host an overnighter at home though, due to having children.

But we have them at hotels. I either A. Am not present. B. Am there in the beginning and then leave so they can have their time alone. C. We all stay the night, they share the bed, and I sleep somewhere else like in a chair or on the floor at the foot of the bed.

My wife has a steady boyfriend for three years now. He fucks her in our bed, but has never spend a night over with her.
I have suggested he should take her out to a hotel, but for some reason it has never happened. It's like he has no interest.

In two weeks I am going on a small work related trip, so my wife will be alone for two nights.
So I decided to give him a heads up by texting him:

"In two weeks I will be on a three day trip abroad. That means that for two night a gorgeous dark-skinned lady is going to sleep in her bed all alone"

To my surprise he has responded relatively quickly:

"Well, that isn't very nice. Someone should keep her company for minimally one night at least."



It may be that their schedule still wont allow them to meet up during my trip, I don't know.
I have actually asked Mrs Leander not to let me know, but instead only tell me afterwards.

So, maybe this is gonna happen? Or maybe not.
I guess I will have to wait two weeks or more, until she tells me.