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In our experiences we laugh at the men that need to call themselves a bull or stud. from the begining of our sexapades involving me having sex with other men my husband and I think of them just as toys for me to play with while my husband jerks off watching.

I couldn't find the right choice for the two of us. My wife hasn't labeled any of her guys with either term, although I recall her saying something like, "He's a real stud," at times. I like to think of guys as bulls, but neither of us use the term. But, of course, nothing's wrong with anyone's preference for labeling. Judging from the countless contributions at this website, it seems many, maybe most, prefer the term bull for their wives' substitute dicks.

(I like Mgcouplemn's avatar above.... the guy on bottom accurately reflects me when my wife's friends are visiting.)

~ Des

My wife's highest praise for a lover is "He's a real stud."

None of the poll choices work for us. They are men, guys, lovers......
Farmgirl doesn't have sex with farm animals, and she isn't thrilled with toys.

None of the above. They are all friends first and playmates sometimes.

None of the above. We don't try to label it.

My wife only fucks me and her poly boyfriend - so we refer to him as her boyfriend. But neither of us would use any of these 3 terms even if we weren't poly and were just hotwifing. We would probably refer to him as a fwb if he were a regular or a date if it was a hookup.

Her number1 wrote: ↑

Mon Jan 02, 2023 6:08 am

None of the poll choices work for us. They are men, guys, lovers......
Farmgirl doesn't have sex with farm animals, and she isn't thrilled with toys.

I'm in total agreement. I'm not even in this lifestyle, but I dislike such labels.

I'm not into objectifying other human beings like that.

Not hatin, just statin....

I'm in total agreement with those posting above. Labels are usually troublesome and any guy who labels himself as "Bull, Stud, Cocksman, etc, is dealing with some internal stuff.

Cecil just calls her guys by their names, or if speaking generically, "boyfriend". Everyone is an individual and if they are good enough people to be with her, they deserve to be called by their own name.

Someone labeling themselves "bull" or "stud", and have a same type attitude would not get far at all with my wife.

I do not like the term bull. It implies cuckold. I am not a cuck. If my wife is fucking, I have to be in on the action. I call her 3 bulls gigolos or FWBs.

Tank Turner wrote: ↑

Mon Jan 02, 2023 9:22 am

I do not like the term bull. It implies cuckold. I am not a cuck. If my wife is fucking, I have to be in on the action. I call her 3 bulls gigolos or FWBs.

And yet, you use it.

It didn't take us long in this lifestyle to start cringing at these animal labels. Stag, bull, vixen, etc.

I've used the term lover, but to leggysandy that sounds too romantic. For a while she was saying "fuckers" but I explained that that doesn't mean what she thinks it means, in English I guess in English we have FB as an equivalent.

Farmgirl wrote: ↑

Mon Jan 02, 2023 6:28 pm

Tank Turner wrote: ↑

Mon Jan 02, 2023 9:22 am

I do not like the term bull. It implies cuckold. I am not a cuck. If my wife is fucking, I have to be in on the action. I call her 3 bulls gigolos or FWBs.

And yet, you use it.

Gotta admit, that was a nice pickup. Well played.

PBF

Well,

In my wife’s case, she and her first new friend would joke and call him her “bull” on occasion but they weren’t really serious. It was a term that was fun for them. He was also her boyfriend, fuck buddy and a few other things.

Mostly though, we just refer to them as her “new friend” or “playmate”, or “date”. Friend with benefits” also gets thrown into the lexicon on occasion.

Mostly, we avoid labeling people for the most part. She has to know them before having sex with them and therefore she respects them as she wants to be respected.

She doesn’t want to be referred to seriously as a slut or any other derogatory term and as a result would not do likewise.

Playfully referring to Marc as a bull was fun, as was him being turned on by calling her a slut while fucking her…but neither would have used those terms as a serious moniker or to address each other.

JRE2 wrote: ↑

Mon Jan 02, 2023 6:23 am

None of the above. They are all friends first and playmates sometimes.

I don't call myself anything until the relationship is established. Most wives I've slept with frankly just called me a playmate or friend with benefits. I have a poly partner, and she calls me her boyfriend.

I've engaged with a few cuckold couples, but frankly it's not my scene. I'm just there to fuck, and it gets to be too much fucking her and stoking the cuck too. One offs are ok, but I don't do them long term.

JRE2 wrote: ↑

Mon Jan 02, 2023 6:23 am

None of the above. They are all friends first and playmates sometimes.

+1 for us.. always friends, then -with benefits. And she has playdates. Last week she started reminding me about a playdate to make sure I was home and it took me a while to realize she was taking about our daughters actual play date, not hers… caused quite a bit of confusion.

I've never cared much for "bull", and my wife has never used the term. Stud is ok. Sometimes we just say "her guy" or "fuckbuddy" but more often than not we call him by his first name.

Labels make life easier. You can say “I’m a bull” and everyone knows the score, what you want and what they’ll get. It’s just convenient.

LocutusBorg wrote: ↑

Wed Nov 15, 2023 11:58 pm

Labels make life easier. You can say “I’m a bull” and everyone knows the score, what you want and what they’ll get. It’s just convenient.

Agreed, but labels also seem to make people think they should conform to behaviors prescribed by the labels they've chosen. I don't think we've met anyone who called himself a "bull" who didn't also behave like a dimwitted twat, unable to break out of the role long enough to notice it wasn't working.

But IMHO, these animal labels are just dripping with cheese anyway.

leggysman wrote: ↑

Thu Nov 16, 2023 3:18 am

LocutusBorg wrote: ↑

Wed Nov 15, 2023 11:58 pm

Labels make life easier. You can say “I’m a bull” and everyone knows the score, what you want and what they’ll get. It’s just convenient.

Agreed, but labels also seem to make people think they should conform to behaviors prescribed by the labels they've chosen. I don't think we've met anyone who called himself a "bull" who didn't also behave like a dimwitted twat, unable to break out of the role long enough to notice it wasn't working.

But IMHO, these animal labels are just dripping with cheese anyway.

My first wife's boy toy was dominant towards me and very assertive, so where he fits the bull description we just saw him as the Alpha boyfriend

for me it doesn't really matter with the label it's what the relationship dynamic is in the moment and whether its what everyone involved is looking for.

What about an option for "None of the above"? We don't put labels on any of it. We're just having fun. If we refer to another guy it's usually her BF or FWB.

Shadnaster wrote: ↑

Thu Nov 16, 2023 4:33 am

What about an option for "None of the above"? We don't put labels on any of it. We're just having fun. If we refer to another guy it's usually her BF or FWB.

I'd vote for that choice!!

We use the terms BF, or in some cases "lover." To us it seems like the term "bull" was generated by those selling or otherwise hyping porn. Let's face it, "cuckold" and "BBC" obsessions drive huge revenue in the porn business. "Bulls" are used for a very specific purpose on the farm, as my wife pointed out to me.....