Maximum Rate Of Sex With New Men

bguitar22 · Unread post by **bguitar22** » Wed Mar 01, 2023 7:24 am

I hope this poll fits with the theme here. Many couples say that their involvement in the HW lifestyle really takes off once they finally get started. Obviously this looks different for each couple, some of the other polls here have touched on different aspects of hotwifing frequency, and here I think it would be fun to know where the peaks is on average (and the extremes)!

So, some stuff on how to answer the poll. I'm thinking on a per month / per year basis to smooth out the occasional hot week. Ideally, this should also probably be the number of new guys actively sought and vetted (whatever that looks like for you) by the hotwife during their most active stretch so far. It would be great to have any additional insight to your response in the comments.

PANTIES · Unread post by **PANTIES** » Wed Mar 01, 2023 11:33 am

As often as her lover can get away to be with her. Thought poll to answer.

Pauline

Unread post by **Farmgirl** » Wed Mar 01, 2023 5:20 pm

I'm not sure how to answer your poll.
I don't have very many "new" men, I prefer regular long-term lovers. I average around two times a week with a lover.

bguitar22 · Unread post by **bguitar22** » Wed Mar 01, 2023 5:54 pm

Ah, so maybe I can clarify, and I think Farmgirl has hit right on the distinction I'm trying to make...Couples often seem to start off super hot with a lot of new guys in a short period of time, maybe because of the novelty, then settle down a bit to seeing a regular or two and only occasionally add a new guy to the mix. I guess I'm interested in that period of time when everything is new and exciting, before couples find their groove I guess, before I try to let the cat of out the proverbial bag.

Unread post by **2inUPMichigan** » Wed Mar 01, 2023 6:59 pm

I was never interested in meeting a bunch of new men. I started out the way I meant to continue, only meeting men I that were interested in being FWB'S and who I saw potential for as an ongoing regular.

It was always about a select few for me.

I also set limits on the frequency of play dates with the same man and play dates in general, and never strayed from those guidelines that I set for men that played with me. They just have to wait

bguitar22 · Unread post by **bguitar22** » Wed Mar 01, 2023 8:00 pm

Thanks for the reply, 2inUPMichigan. It makes things seem a little manageable knowing that a successful couple can find what works from them from the get-go!

ucaneffher · Unread post by **ucaneffher** » Wed Mar 01, 2023 8:55 pm

Kind of hard to out a number on it. In the beginning when we first started the lifestyle she would go out once or twice a week. As she began meeting more men, the frequency went up. 3 to 4 times a week but sometimes she would do at least 4-5.

Once she got a boyfriend, her frequency with him was EVERY SINGLE DAY for over 8 months. Every night from 6pm to sometime past midnight my gf left the house and came back to hop in bed tired and we'll fucked.

leo-cpl · Unread post by **leo-cpl** » Wed Mar 01, 2023 9:45 pm

Wife's never been interested in seeking new guys all the time. Plus we like to take our time to become comfortable, that along with our availability puts a limit to how many times we can meet n play with cpls n single guys. Plus wife likes two guys we have met multiple times for the sheer comfort she shares with them and the fun we have. No one's exclusive!

I guess for someone whose not into numbers its always about finding the perfect balance between guys n cpls we are comfy with (already met for play) and new ppl we are excited to meet to have the first meet play feeling.

We have been active for a little less than 2 years......id say between 3-5 new guys a year would be the number for us.....

BeNatural · Unread post by **BeNatural** » Thu Mar 02, 2023 8:27 am

Guys seem to not break down poll options very good on this forum, but I think the numbers / options are divided nicely here. Good job.

Unread post by **Lookingforadventure** » Thu Mar 02, 2023 8:57 am

Meeting new men is a lot of work, and there is no guarantee that it will be good. I much prefer long-term relationships with a handful of men. So number of new men is probably 0 or maybe 1 per year if I feel a need to scratch a new itch

bguitar22 · Unread post by **bguitar22** » Sun Mar 12, 2023 8:46 am

Thanks for all of the responses so far! It looks like the mode is around the 2-4 per month rate, and this kind of feels like it is in the sweet spot between new guys being hot and exciting, while wanting to put a solid effort into vetting. Also interesting to see the uptick at the 1 per year level. I wonder how many of these couples are the slow and steady type, and have been doing this for countless years.

Unread post by **Pufferfish** » Sun Mar 12, 2023 10:15 am

New men, not so much. She likes 1 or 2 guys on roster. Ideally meeting once a week, maybe every 2 weeks. So 2-4 times a month is the ideal hotwife date number for us.

fredfred2 · Unread post by **fredfred2** » Sun Mar 12, 2023 12:00 pm

My wifes lover visited at weekend. So is that 4 time a mounth or 12 days. Averaging 4 mountings on the first day 3 second and third day

sherulestherooster · Unread post by **sherulestherooster** » Mon Mar 13, 2023 2:52 pm

My ex Hotwife played with six unique men over about 18 months. Maybe only 2 were “one and done”. She considered herself a “two-man hotwife and really just wanted a boyfriend to hook up every other week or so. The hunt was a bit exhausting and she had wanted to “settle down” with one extramarital male partner. Their availability was the limiting factor, along with the flakiness of most men. Once she found a guy she liked, she was very open to playing as often as possible. She did get an STD test and was thankfully clean (so I must be too given I was monogamous) when she called it quits.

DavaoMike · Unread post by **DavaoMike** » Mon Mar 13, 2023 3:45 pm

My Filipina wife, Maricel, has had one boyfriend, Adam, who lives with us. They make love almost daily. I’m over 30 years older than both of them, and I’m happy with sex about every 3 weeks,,as my libido has waned over the years. Thus, Adam is my wife’s primary sex partner by default. I’m never denied, as such, since Maricel is available to me anytime I want.

DM

Tank Turner · Unread post by **Tank Turner** » Mon Mar 13, 2023 4:49 pm

We have kids and family obligations. We can't always do MFM sex. Many times we wanted to enjoy an exciting night of debauchery but couldn't.

We have one remaining steady man who's always willing to come over and join us. He's a longtime friend. We're both completely straight. My wife is completely comfortable fucking him. They know how each other loves sex. I cannot remember a time that I've outlasted him. After two, I'm usually exhausted and will roll over to my side of the bed and fall asleep while they continue fucking.

My wife loves fucking young studs who're half her age. They make her feel young. They can fuck her for hours.

When my wife is exceptionally horny, she could fuck a different guy every night. Our problem is our inability to always get away. Our reliable sitter, my sister-in-law might have a boyfriend. It's too early to tell. She's had dates the last two Sat nights with the same guy. And if my wife can't find a guy she wants to invite back to our house for MFM sex, I'll have full responsibility for satisfying her insatiable sexuality. She has amassed a collection of vibrators.

Des 31 · Unread post by **Des 31** » Mon Mar 13, 2023 5:46 pm

The rate of sex with other men has varied widely over the past eight years, and even any month. She says she now realizes she was insanely active when we started down this path. More recently, it's two to three times a month, but we have learned that circumstances could change at any time. She is now 36 and each of us assumes it will begin to become increasingly less within a few years.

She isn't trying to break some record. Her encounters just work out that way dependent upon whatever circumstances come about.

DedicatedHubby2013 · Unread post by **DedicatedHubby2013** » Mon Mar 13, 2023 6:55 pm

A few times my wife has found two guys in the same month. It is a bit much to juggle multiple guys, work full time, and have time for herself, though.
She most often just has one guy at a time, when she is active.

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