Nervous - is this normal
Posted: Wed Oct 18, 2023 2:28 pm
Hello:
I am having a little anxiety here. My wife of 7-years has been very loyal. Though she is an outgoing Asian girl she is very reserved when it comes to sex. She understands that men and women have different sex drives and even gave me permission to cheat with one of her friends who was going through a tough time.
When the opportunity came for me to act on it, the girl had passed out and nothing happened.
Despite this she has never said she was attracted to anyone else other than an two different Hollywood actors, but that is is safe since she will never meet them. One time she was attracted to someone at a group party, and jokingly I told her to hit on him.
It was a safe statement considering I knew she wouldn't, and even if she did nothing would happen. Do not get me wrong regarding that statement. Glenda is a very attractive Asian girl with the rare D-cups. Even being 50-years old, she looks 35-40, and has a perpetual innocent smile glowing.
She almost never drinks, which is what it takes for her to put down the good-girl persona and act on her inner desires – forgetting her cultural upbringing. It is important to point out that the guy she was attracted to also was half her age and being chased by many attractive girls that made me want his left-overs.
CHANGE
Things recently changed, and my certain confidence has eroded. All casual, kinky, fantasy thoughts of actually watching Glenda being pleased by a guy is now causing butterflies. I use to joke and jerk off imagining her cumming from another guy, but never thought she would do it – so it was safe.
I have been going to the gym since high-school, and she will come with me maybe once a week. Recently she came with during chest night when a new spotting partner and I push each other hard on the incline and flat bench.
While I lift with the free weights she is always on the other side of the gym on the treadmill walking while watching TV. Previously she would meet a workout friend of mine and just go to the treadmill.
She just stood there watching and trying to be part of our discussion, with every completely average joke told by Kevin being laughed at hard while gazing at his 6'1'' frame. Way out of character.
LATER THAT NIGHT
On the ride home I asked her, “are you ok?” She was confused, so I pointed out how this is the first time she stayed with me while I was on free weights. She gave a BS explanation saying, “I didn't feel like being on the treadmill, and your friend seems nice. You should hang out with him more”.
A small amount of teasing Glenda ensued before I said “you mean that you want to hang out with Kevin some more? (while laughing)”? Her three word response floored me when she said “He is nice”.
Guys, we all know what that means.
So we had a rare glass of wine for me to get the truth serum going, and she finally admitted that “part of her really wants him, but she would never act on it”.
Jokingly I stated, “Kevin thought you were hot and said if you were not my wife he would want to fuck you”. Now Glenda was asking me a dozen times in two hours, “Did he really say that?” “I couldn't do that, but would you let me?”
BED TIME
Reserved Glenda kept changing the subject back to Kevin with questions like “Do you guys see each other in the showers?” “Is he married?” “Did he really say he wants me?” “Was he saying he wanted to fuck me alone, or with you there?”
What stood out is the usually passive and reserved girl took it upon herself to kneel up in bed and lower her pussy to my face, seemingly in need a immediate relief. Jokingly, I said “pretend this is Kevin licking your pussy and ass”, when she came faster than I have seen previously. In the middle of the night she woke me with a blow job and wanted to be fucked hard.
QUESTION
My gym is closing for 4 days as they are painting and moving equipment around, so Kevin asked if he could come to my house to lift. I have a lot of equipment, but only go to the gym to be motivated. This is an obvious yes, until he then asked “is Glenda working out with us again?”
I told Glenda he is coming over and she said “she will make dinner for after the work out”. She then asked if Kevin and I will be hanging out after, and maybe it will be relaxing to go in the hot tub. Living in Chicago, the 50* nights are perfect for this.
What was once a large fantasy of seeing something like this become a reality, now has me with mixed emotions. Part of it has be excited and to purse something like this, and part of me is nervous as she has not shown this much excitement – even when we first started to date. Perhaps if she was less excited and approached it with a less out-of-character attitude I would feel compelled to turtle walk things in that direction – always with enough rein to stop things if I felt weird.
Maybe I am wrong, but I think it is obvious what both of them have in mind. A week ago I thought I would be fine. I am now excited but reluctant to see where things go. Is this normal?
I am having a little anxiety here. My wife of 7-years has been very loyal. Though she is an outgoing Asian girl she is very reserved when it comes to sex. She understands that men and women have different sex drives and even gave me permission to cheat with one of her friends who was going through a tough time.
When the opportunity came for me to act on it, the girl had passed out and nothing happened.
Despite this she has never said she was attracted to anyone else other than an two different Hollywood actors, but that is is safe since she will never meet them. One time she was attracted to someone at a group party, and jokingly I told her to hit on him.
It was a safe statement considering I knew she wouldn't, and even if she did nothing would happen. Do not get me wrong regarding that statement. Glenda is a very attractive Asian girl with the rare D-cups. Even being 50-years old, she looks 35-40, and has a perpetual innocent smile glowing.
She almost never drinks, which is what it takes for her to put down the good-girl persona and act on her inner desires – forgetting her cultural upbringing. It is important to point out that the guy she was attracted to also was half her age and being chased by many attractive girls that made me want his left-overs.
CHANGE
Things recently changed, and my certain confidence has eroded. All casual, kinky, fantasy thoughts of actually watching Glenda being pleased by a guy is now causing butterflies. I use to joke and jerk off imagining her cumming from another guy, but never thought she would do it – so it was safe.
I have been going to the gym since high-school, and she will come with me maybe once a week. Recently she came with during chest night when a new spotting partner and I push each other hard on the incline and flat bench.
While I lift with the free weights she is always on the other side of the gym on the treadmill walking while watching TV. Previously she would meet a workout friend of mine and just go to the treadmill.
She just stood there watching and trying to be part of our discussion, with every completely average joke told by Kevin being laughed at hard while gazing at his 6'1'' frame. Way out of character.
LATER THAT NIGHT
On the ride home I asked her, “are you ok?” She was confused, so I pointed out how this is the first time she stayed with me while I was on free weights. She gave a BS explanation saying, “I didn't feel like being on the treadmill, and your friend seems nice. You should hang out with him more”.
A small amount of teasing Glenda ensued before I said “you mean that you want to hang out with Kevin some more? (while laughing)”? Her three word response floored me when she said “He is nice”.
Guys, we all know what that means.
So we had a rare glass of wine for me to get the truth serum going, and she finally admitted that “part of her really wants him, but she would never act on it”.
Jokingly I stated, “Kevin thought you were hot and said if you were not my wife he would want to fuck you”. Now Glenda was asking me a dozen times in two hours, “Did he really say that?” “I couldn't do that, but would you let me?”
BED TIME
Reserved Glenda kept changing the subject back to Kevin with questions like “Do you guys see each other in the showers?” “Is he married?” “Did he really say he wants me?” “Was he saying he wanted to fuck me alone, or with you there?”
What stood out is the usually passive and reserved girl took it upon herself to kneel up in bed and lower her pussy to my face, seemingly in need a immediate relief. Jokingly, I said “pretend this is Kevin licking your pussy and ass”, when she came faster than I have seen previously. In the middle of the night she woke me with a blow job and wanted to be fucked hard.
QUESTION
My gym is closing for 4 days as they are painting and moving equipment around, so Kevin asked if he could come to my house to lift. I have a lot of equipment, but only go to the gym to be motivated. This is an obvious yes, until he then asked “is Glenda working out with us again?”
I told Glenda he is coming over and she said “she will make dinner for after the work out”. She then asked if Kevin and I will be hanging out after, and maybe it will be relaxing to go in the hot tub. Living in Chicago, the 50* nights are perfect for this.
What was once a large fantasy of seeing something like this become a reality, now has me with mixed emotions. Part of it has be excited and to purse something like this, and part of me is nervous as she has not shown this much excitement – even when we first started to date. Perhaps if she was less excited and approached it with a less out-of-character attitude I would feel compelled to turtle walk things in that direction – always with enough rein to stop things if I felt weird.
Maybe I am wrong, but I think it is obvious what both of them have in mind. A week ago I thought I would be fine. I am now excited but reluctant to see where things go. Is this normal?