It finally happened... I am no longer a wannabe

[tnalphacuck]

My fiance and I were recently on vacation, staying at a nice resort in Florida. We made it a habit of hitting one of the bars in the resort for drinks almost nightly, just getting a decent buzz before heading back to the room for sex and bed. Vacation also tends to bring out deeper conversations. We had already previously discussed the desire I've had for her to sleep with another man, but it only stayed in fantasy because neither of us understood the mechanics behind it. The first night of our trip, I shared with her the breakthrough I had with my therapist regarding this situation and that my desire came from past trauma of being cheated on and having boundaries ignored, causing me to seek out a situation where I could have some control over it.

On night 3, we got down to the bar before I realized I had left my wallet in the room. I'm not sure if this was a subconscious act or just normal forgetfulness. I left her at the bar by herself while I went back to the room. As I got back, I saw her finishing up a conversation with another bar patron. She's naturally friendly, so I thought nothing of it when he left after I got there. We finished our drink date and headed back toward the room. On the elevator, I asked her who that guy was.

"Oh, that's Jack. He gave me his number, but I told him I'm married and that you'd be back any second. He tried being funny and told me that's never mattered before."

I took this as the universe giving me a sign, so I told her she should text him, reassuring her that neither of us had to do anything we weren't comfortable with, essentially giving her a hall pass. After a few texts, he invited the two of us to come down to the hot tub and have some drinks and chill, so she donned her bikini and we headed down.

It was just the 3 of us in the hot tub. We sat for what seemed like hours just chatting and enjoying ourselves. He was a natural flirt, and although she had her hand firmly on my thigh under the water, I could see her making eyes at him. I already knew he was attractive, it was undeniable. After a while (and once I was aroused by my fiance flirting with another man while touching me), I decided to take my leave, telling her she was welcome to stay if she wanted. She obliged and I returned to the room, showered, and got ready for bed.

Not long after, I got a phone call from her stating that Jack had invited her to his room for a nightcap and that she was going. I nervously told her to have fun.

At 3am, I heard the door open and she crawled into the bed and kissed me. Her breath smelled like cock, but not in a bad way. I was aroused immediately. I asked how it was and she would only tell me that she made a mess (she squirts). I crawled between her legs, her pussy was still open and puffy from arousal. The taste was exquisite, as usual, with just a taste of what had been in there (no cum though). I brought her to orgasm with my mouth, then proceeded to bury myself inside of her since he had already done most of the work. Because she was already opened up from arousal and being fucked, I was able to last a little longer than usual.

It was amazing and I'm still processing it.

[Her number1]

Congratulations.

[tnalphacuck]

Congratulations.

Thanks! I'm still unsure as to where it will go from this, but I'm not mad at her about it, so that's good. I'm sure things will change when/if I ever watch or get to actually see the action, but I'll cross those bridges when I get to them.

[Abrandnewstart194]

Congratulations! You’re in for a wild ride, so hold on tight, and have fun!

[Powhound121]

Great post! It's amazing how these little opportunities spring up once you are open to them.

I came to the same conclusion via therapy that the fantasy is a coping mechanism + porn usage. My therapist made no comments or suggestions on what to do about that. I find myself stuck in this place of wanting to focus on 'healing' these past relational traumas and dropping all porn/roleplay to see if the desire to engage in hotwifing goes away.

Did you consider this path or did your therapist make any comments on that sort of approach?

Thanks for sharing your experience and glad it worked out!

[jane]

very interesting, what are you feeling now about it, especially knowing he set out to bed her knowing she was attached?

[philxxo]

It's amazing what can happen when the right guy shows up.Congratulations!

[Dontjudge]

I'm very jelly

[leander99]

Congratulations

[BBCfan]

Wild story! Did they hook up again?

[SilverStag]

Welcome to the adventure! Enjoy your journey.

[glassfull]

"I shared with her the breakthrough I had with my therapist regarding this situation and that my desire came from past trauma of being cheated on and having boundaries ignored, causing me to seek out a situation where I could have some control over it."

Very interesting comment. When I caught (in person) my young and beautiful 1st wife cheating on me, I found to my amazement, after the initial shock, I wasn't angry. I'm supposed to be angry, but I wasn't. I've been a stag type, ever since, with very powerful urges to share my women (2 wives, 3 gfs), but still have some reasonable control and always knowledge. I've often speculated about several possible reasons for why I feel the way I do, but that cheating incident being a direct cause wasn't one of them.

Probably your therapist was correct. Thanks for your interesting and enlightening post....

[tnalphacuck]

Wild story! Did they hook up again?

Nope, just the one time.

[myoralannie]

Did she do anything w/ this guy that she wouldn’t normally do with you (ex. clean his cock after it was in her or swallow his load)? Does it feel like one and done or do you think she is up for more?

[HappyHardHubby]

Thats beautiful

[QueenHedone]

What a hot, hot story.

[AgegapCuck]

Lovely story. I can really identify with the mixed feelings of excitement and anxiety about what comes next. For me all the dilemmas revolve around my control or lack of in the situation. I have learned to be accept and enjoy her sexual adventurousness but it has taken longer to stop interfering and properly surrendering control.

It’s now five years since we start led our journey and currently my wife has several bulls on the go. Every time she fucks I learn something new about myself and I guess my love just gets deeper.

[4herpleasure89]

Sounds like a perfect beginning. He appears experienced. Our start was way more rocky but it got better over time. Congratulations! Do you plan to continue this adventure?

[tit5atat]

Nice story, thanks for sharing. Just curious how things transpired when you returned home from vacation. Probably the best place to start is while away but then when things return to normal it has to come back to reality. Have you discussed continuing?

[Johnann2227]

Congratulations! The key now is communication. Be open about everything you are feeling and urge her to do the same. Go out and buy her a piece of jewellery to celebrate (a gold anklet is a great present for a hotwife). Let her lead for a bit as her mind will be a mess. Her pussy will be saying "more, more, more" but her mind may be convexed by lifelong morals and marital vows. Good luck!

[tnalphacuck]

Great post! It's amazing how these little opportunities spring up once you are open to them.

I came to the same conclusion via therapy that the fantasy is a coping mechanism + porn usage. My therapist made no comments or suggestions on what to do about that. I find myself stuck in this place of wanting to focus on 'healing' these past relational traumas and dropping all porn/roleplay to see if the desire to engage in hotwifing goes away.

Did you consider this path or did your therapist make any comments on that sort of approach?

Thanks for sharing your experience and glad it worked out!

This path was all me. My therapist just recommended trying roleplay as a sort of "at home" exposure therapy.

[tnalphacuck]

Did she do anything w/ this guy that she wouldn’t normally do with you (ex. clean his cock after it was in her or swallow his load)? Does it feel like one and done or do you think she is up for more?

As far as I know, they just fucked and he came on her tits. She's pretty sexual, so there's really not even much she doesn't do with me except for anal play.

[tnalphacuck]

Sounds like a perfect beginning. He appears experienced. Our start was way more rocky but it got better over time. Congratulations! Do you plan to continue this adventure?

I think I want to, but she's still unsure.

[Wantsomefunto]

Ask he rebar she thinks

[BBCfan]

Since it's happened have you guys talked much about it? h
Have you used it in Fantasy play when you screw?

I know I would want to know every little detail... is she fairly forthcoming or more wants to keep it to herself?