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A question to the couples here. there are pros and cons to playing with married men, we have played with a few, just wondering what the general opinion is on this question.

My wife has always played with married….

The answer to this is going to depend on the ages involved, to a certain extent. In your 20's there's going to be more single men to play with, than there will be in your 60's or 70's.

trecital wrote: ↑

Thu Oct 26, 2023 7:02 am

The answer to this is going to depend on the ages involved, to a certain extent. In your 20's there's going to be more single men to play with, than there will be in your 60's or 70's.

True to some extent, but even if in 60s or 70s the FB/bull could be married n divorced etc. Just wanted to know if couples are open to playing with married guys with wives. We feel playing with married guys have certain pros

My wife used to prefer going with married men and women. She was more turned on, knowing they had someone at home to have sex with yet they still wanted her. I preferred it when they were single as they would have more opportunities to meet up and for longer periods.
I did think there would be less chance of her falling madly in love with a married man but I was wrong. We split up after she fell in love with a married man and when his wife found out, he moved in with her.

Thebestdays1 wrote: ↑

Thu Oct 26, 2023 7:22 am

My wife used to prefer going with married men and women. She was more turned on, knowing they had someone at home to have sex with yet they still wanted her. I preferred it when they were single as they would have more opportunities to meet up and for longer periods.
I did think there would be less chance of her falling madly in love with a married man but I was wrong. We split up after she fell in love with a married man and when his wife found out, he moved in with her.

Thanks for replying. Sorry to hear about your experience. We all have experiences we have learnt from....just goes to show the risk of the LS can be unforgiving and how couples need to be honest and open about feelings

When we started out we were still dating and were quite young. Our original interaction began with mfm play. For the first year or so, all the guys she played with were single. After she had her first married man, something changed for her. She didn't stop playing with single men but she preferred married men whenever possible. She still does. I've asked her about it and her answers are always along the lines of, they don't get clingy or they keep their mouths shut or something like that. This is just speculation on my part but I think she's getting some kind of rush out of doing married men but all I have are the answers she's given and have never pushed her for more.

We don't play with cheaters (male or female). Karma can be a bitch and we aren't ruining ours for them.

Cdncuck wrote: ↑

Thu Oct 26, 2023 8:33 am

When we started out we were still dating and were quite young. Our original interaction began with mfm play. For the first year or so, all the guys she played with were single. After she had her first married man, something changed for her. She didn't stop playing with single men but she preferred married men whenever possible. She still does. I've asked her about it and her answers are always along the lines of, they don't get clingy or they keep their mouths shut or something like that. This is just speculation on my part but I think she's getting some kind of rush out of doing married men but all I have are the answers she's given and have never pushed her for more.

Where are you guys at would love to meet your wife

My wife preferred married men as they were less likely to be carrying an STI which meant she would go bareback without worry.

We prefer single guys, however I had one that was married, but he’s single now. So glad I stuck it out!

She dates both single and married men, and we experienced both have the same advantages and disadvantages as mention here.

She now dates two guys that are in an open relationship (we weren't looking for this) and this works out nicely. They both sleep over sometimes and everything is relaxed cause they're not in a hurry to get home as married guys sometimes are. They love my wife (one is poly, he and my wife are crazy about each other) but in the right amount and not so much we have to brake things of what has happened with single guys. They are careful about std's and after discussing this at home they can now do my wife without a condom.

Thebestdays1 wrote: ↑

Thu Oct 26, 2023 7:22 am

We split up after she fell in love with a married man and when his wife found out, he moved in with her.

Sorry to hear that, we hope you will find a nice lady again.

Its has never bothered my wife, then again before we married her first cheat on me was with a man in his mid 30s, he had a daughter who was 13-14 and my girlfriend was 16 and at the same school, So his daughter wore the same uniform he found my gf so sexy in. She has never regretted this other than she didnt get to fully fuck him.

He would have been an ideal candidate to consummate our marriage two years later.

Her second affair after we married was with my then best friend, we spent years going on holiday with him, his kids and wife, his wife had no idea and neither did i at the time.

All her long term lovers have been married.

If a man isn't single or in an open relationship (playing with permission), then he is not available to play with me.

If he wants to have sex with me without his wife’s knowledge then who else is he having sex with? Believing I am the only one besides his wife he is interested in is just a bit naive. A man who isn't open with his wife might not be taking care of his sexual health by getting tested "don't want her to find out I got a test" or using condoms due to multiple partners "I'm married I don't need to use those".

I am not interested in one night stands and do not agree to last minute plans. If he isn't interested in making plans with me and following through then I'm not interested because frankly I'm worth it I will not drop everything at the last minute because a man wants to fit in some sex with me. Nope, not going to work.

Whether a man my wife played with on a regular basis or a limited amount of time, it did not appear is she cared if he was married or not. I knew some of her lovers and some were happily married as far as I knew, some were single and others just separated. You might say she was an equal opportunity hot wife.

Thanks for the replies......however feel its been voted too low. Have I missed any options??? I can see majority couples don't care. That being said wife and I will soon be meeting a single guy at a hotel, looking forward to it!

leo-cpl wrote: ↑

Thu Oct 26, 2023 4:57 am

A question to the couples here. there are pros and cons to playing with married men, we have played with a few, just wondering what the general opinion is on this question.

What a great idea for a thread!! I am very curious to find out more from people.

leo-cpl wrote: ↑

Wed Nov 15, 2023 10:45 pm

Thanks for the replies......however feel its been voted too low. Have I missed any options??? I can see majority couples don't care. That being said wife and I will soon be meeting a single guy at a hotel, looking forward to it!

I think you've gotten a lot of replies compared to some other polls I've seen. Just me, though. lol

I can't wait to hear about your guys' adventures with this single guy!

Yes, it matters a lot. There's something incredibly unsexy about men who cheat on their wives. And that's especially true of men who want to play with a hotwife couple but can only do so by cheating on their vanilla wives. It's saying "I'm not able to create this dynamic in my own marriage, so I have to find it elsewhere with a couple who has." Many married men have tried to make this case with us, that it shouldn't matter. That sort of anonymous discretion applies to sex workers, not hotwives.

On a practical level, we have no desire to be involved in a messy situation. "Oh, she'll never find out." That's not your risk to take. The last thing we need is a scorned wife having a meltdown on our front yard. In fact, we had an curious situation with a guy's ex-girlfriend (EX!) who we think may have followed him to our home. One of the great advantages to our half-open marriage is that there is zero drama. I could walk in and hear my wife fucking another guy in our bedroom (and I have) and it's merely a welcome surprise. But some guy's former girlfriend feels jealous and now we have to worry about finding dead bunnies in our kitchen.

Being open and relaxed about our play makes the relationship (whatever form it takes) feel more organic and makes fun time more enjoyable: texting or phone calls, dinner, or hanging out at our house. We don't want to deal with the cloak-and-dagger shit that comes with a married man. Using secret messenger apps instead of just texting, or only being able to play at stupid times, or having to sneak around. "Hey, you guys available at 10AM on Tuesday?" No, no one is. We're available on Friday and Saturday nights, like normal people. And married men can't meet at those times because they're married.

For the record, I'm being a bit hypocritical. We have played with a couple of married men in the past, either together or her alone. For the reasons mentioned above, the juice wasn't worth the squeeze. I know this perspective will piss of some people on this forum, but that's our perspective.

I'm morally at peace with it not mattering, and so is my wife. I recognize that in some systems of morality, deceit is evil per se. And hotwifing with married men makes the hotwife, and her husband too, complicit in the other man's adultery. But the system we apply to this situation is pragmatic. The basic premise is that there are times when full disclosure is more harmful than deceit. There are, so to speak, ethical lies. We all tell so-called "white lies" as a matter of social grace. We in this lifestyle who practice marital nonexclusivity tend to appreciate better than the rest how natural it is for people in long term relationships to crave sexual novelty including outside-the-marriage sex. Many marriages are bursting at the seams for that release. Yet not many marriages allow for that kind of craving to be openly acknowledged by the partners. Most couples hide behind masks they wear for one another with respect to those longings.

Hotwifing with certain married men we think leads to better real world harmony, provided the married man is discreet and doesn't get caught. These are the class of cheating husbands whose marriage is fundamentally sound, but his desire for sexual novelty spurs him to see other women. We ask: - Is it better for him to cheat and preserve an otherwise contented family life, or should he come clean with his wife before he screws my wife for pleasure? In these cases, we believe it's more ethical to offer someone like that a needed outlet that will protect his marriage by allowing for dissipation of lust and yet not alienating his real love and affection from his wife. To be sure, it is wrong that he cheats on her. And in an ideal world, no lies would ever be told and all would live in harmony. But in the grand scheme of things and the real world as we know it, he will do less damage playing on the side for pleasure than it would be were he to dump his marriage because he can't be happy screwing only his wife.

Consent is key.

An angry spouse doesn’t add to the fun for anyone.

Parsifal wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 19, 2023 8:41 pm

I'm morally at peace with it not mattering, and so is my wife. I recognize that in some systems of morality, deceit is evil per se. And hotwifing with married men makes the hotwife, and her husband too, complicit in the other man's adultery. But the system we apply to this situation is pragmatic. The basic premise is that there are times when full disclosure is more harmful than deceit. There are, so to speak, ethical lies. We all tell so-called "white lies" as a matter of social grace. We in this lifestyle who practice marital nonexclusivity tend to appreciate better than the rest how natural it is for people in long term relationships to crave sexual novelty including outside-the-marriage sex. Many marriages are bursting at the seams for that release. Yet not many marriages allow for that kind of craving to be openly acknowledged by the partners. Most couples hide behind masks they wear for one another with respect to those longings.

Hotwifing with certain married men we think leads to better real world harmony, provided the married man is discreet and doesn't get caught. These are the class of cheating husbands whose marriage is fundamentally sound, but his desire for sexual novelty spurs him to see other women. We ask: - Is it better for him to cheat and preserve an otherwise contented family life, or should he come clean with his wife before he screws my wife for pleasure? In these cases, we believe it's more ethical to offer someone like that a needed outlet that will protect his marriage by allowing for dissipation of lust and yet not alienating his real love and affection from his wife. To be sure, it is wrong that he cheats on her. And in an ideal world, no lies would ever be told and all would live in harmony. But in the grand scheme of things and the real world as we know it, he will do less damage playing on the side for pleasure than it would be were he to dump his marriage because he can't be happy screwing only his wife.

parsifal,

Very well said !!

Brad

Parsifal wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 19, 2023 8:41 pm

I'm morally at peace with it not mattering, and so is my wife. I recognize that in some systems of morality, deceit is evil per se. And hotwifing with married men makes the hotwife, and her husband too, complicit in the other man's adultery. But the system we apply to this situation is pragmatic. The basic premise is that there are times when full disclosure is more harmful than deceit. There are, so to speak, ethical lies. We all tell so-called "white lies" as a matter of social grace. We in this lifestyle who practice marital nonexclusivity tend to appreciate better than the rest how natural it is for people in long term relationships to crave sexual novelty including outside-the-marriage sex. Many marriages are bursting at the seams for that release. Yet not many marriages allow for that kind of craving to be openly acknowledged by the partners. Most couples hide behind masks they wear for one another with respect to those longings.

Hotwifing with certain married men we think leads to better real world harmony, provided the married man is discreet and doesn't get caught. These are the class of cheating husbands whose marriage is fundamentally sound, but his desire for sexual novelty spurs him to see other women. We ask: - Is it better for him to cheat and preserve an otherwise contented family life, or should he come clean with his wife before he screws my wife for pleasure? In these cases, we believe it's more ethical to offer someone like that a needed outlet that will protect his marriage by allowing for dissipation of lust and yet not alienating his real love and affection from his wife. To be sure, it is wrong that he cheats on her. And in an ideal world, no lies would ever be told and all would live in harmony. But in the grand scheme of things and the real world as we know it, he will do less damage playing on the side for pleasure than it would be were he to dump his marriage because he can't be happy screwing only his wife.

Very well put! I totally agree with what you have to say. I couldn't have said it any better.

Bump....feel this need more vote!!

leo-cpl wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 04, 2023 1:26 am

Bump....feel this need more vote!!

I totally agree