A Night of Adventure and Trust

[mrs_reese]

Any updates since last week? I love this thread.

[skoot1958]

I agree, the area I am interested in is the change in Eli and now that Eli sister knows, how that exposure has liber Eli, one less Secret

Is Eli missing her BF after a weekend of hot sex or does Eli still just see him as a sex toy

Or how has the BF changed after the weekend away

[Cuckedoutoflove]

Im so happy for you both. How are you dealing with her younger sister knowing. It was difficult for me when my wife told her sister and i know she needed someone to confide in, its not exactly a small life changing experience. For me it was a bit humiliating for me that her sister knew it took another man to give her what I couldn't. Their whispering to each other in the kitchen and giggling when they looked at me.

[skoot1958]

Any updates, the dynamic’s must have changed since Eli shearing with her sister, what about the BF after the weekend away has he changed in any way, Eli is much more confident and loving being fucked by her BF is she still managing everything ok?

Have you seen your sister in law since, has she said anything to you?

[EliMySexyWife]

Hi everyone,

Sorry for the late update.

Everything is going smoothly. Things are getting organic and part of our daily life. Eli is much more confident, feeling sexy, empowered, and happy.

Her sharing it with her sister was very interesting for me. This is a good sign that she does not have any guilt anymore. The BF asked if Elsis would like to visit him, but it is not going to happen for some reason I don't completely understand. Maybe a bit of shyness: "Let me introduce you. This is Dick, the man with whom I fuck when I like to fuck someone other than Brian (my husband)." LOL

Elsis was first amazed at what her sister is doing. She could not believe how her sister, such a conservative and conformist woman who did not even have sex before marriage (up to 26 years old), could do this! She once praised her: "You don't jump, but when you do, you jump to the highest bar."

Elsis knows that I know that she knows! However, we both pretend otherwise.

[sandy691196]

This is like sizzling!

[skoot1958]

I am sure the BF will meet sis sometime soon

[EliMySexyWife]

They are going to spend the weekend in his cottage again. 3 days and 2 nights.

She is excited. She told me she had the best sex of her life, something she could never have with me.

She said everything was excellent the previous time, on the bed, on the couch and on the porch! She swam fully naked in the indoor pool and also straddled on him while he walked in the pool (She enjoyed that part a lot). Even once he wanted to watch a game on TV and she distracted him by a nice striptease ending in the bed again.

This is the woman who said she may kill herself of guilt after having sex with any man other than me!

[skoot1958]

Let hope the second times is a s good as the first, she is free of social norms so she can just enjoy herself

[EliMySexyWife]

@skoot1958
> Is Eli missing her BF after a weekend of hot sex or does Eli still just see him as a sex toy

Good question. No, she sees him as a human friend first, and that she enjoy having sex with also. She is even kind of engaged on his taking care of his 10yr old son and his ex (only non-professional counselling!). I told her that she should not be too much involved. She agreed but on the other hand she says she cannot just have sex with someone without any kind of emotion. She cannot look at him only as a sex toy .

[EliMySexyWife]

She came back from her two-night trip to her boyfriend's cottage. They had sex eight times, but she was even happier than usual. She said it was less about the quantity and more about the exceptional quality of their sex this time.

At one point, she even called her sister and gave her a tour of the area, the rooms, and her outfit. I asked, "Did you mention anything about the sex?" She laughed and replied, "No, but Elsie isn't naive enough to think I was there just to watch TED Talks!"

I asked, "Were you at the cottage the whole time?"
She nodded, "Yes."
"Didn't you ever get tired of 'giving pussy' so many times?" I asked.
She smiled, "No, never! I wish I could keep giving it for weeks!"

[skoot1958]

So Eli is building a "relationship" with her BF, thats normal, however a HW relationship is not "normal" as Eli will only give he BF small amounts of time, and it is normal for humans to want more

Is the BF looking for a permanent GF? if so what will happened to Eli relationship will they stay a occasion lovers, which is cheating on his new GF, unless she is aware of there relationship

or will, the BF want more and slowly try to pull Eli more towards himself

just all the dynamics you need to manager with in the HW lifestyle, one solution is for Eli to have more than one BF or occasional "lovers" , this dilutes the effect of one BF

[EliMySexyWife]

Yes, this has gone a bit toward polyamory. The BF says: You have a husband and I am your lover.

My wife is not into managing occasional random sex. Maybe in future but for now, if she has any free time, it goes to her BF (2-4 encounter a months and maybe a weekend vacation).

I do not see any issues as of now however your concerns are valid and I am talking to her about them.

[sandy691196]

Eli is into "comfort" rather than adventures. Once she settles down into a stable, comfortable arrangement, she doesn't wanna budge.
That was the dynamic in her marriage with our bro here. She took the longest time to even consider sex outside marriage. Repeatedly told her hubby that "we can do all of this ourselves, the two of us.. Why do I need a new one?"..

But when she started having sex outside she felt that what she had before, comes nowhere near! And to think that she initially insisted that this was ONLY an occasional FWB thing and she cant give the time & attention he is seeking!

Now again, she has settled into comfort with her lover. It will take wild horses to pull her away for a different adventure!

[EliMySexyWife]

Your analysis is correct. She is a conservative woman. Even when going to restaurant, she does not try new food and sticks to her previous favorites.

Having the above said, so far this has been a great step for her and has revolutionized her sexual mind.

Eli is into "comfort" rather than adventures. Once she settles down into a stable, comfortable arrangement, she doesn't wanna budge.
That was the dynamic in her marriage with our bro here. She took the longest time to even consider sex outside marriage. Repeatedly told her hubby that "we can do all of this ourselves, the two of us.. Why do I need a new one?"..

But when she started having sex outside she felt that what she had before, comes nowhere near! And to think that she initially insisted that this was ONLY an occasional FWB thing and she cant give the time & attention he is seeking!

Now again, she has settled into comfort with her lover. It will take wild horses to pull her away for a different adventure!

[skoot1958]

Sometime a woman just finds a new lover and stays with him for years, when he does move on she has to go through all the pain of loss,

Is Eli BF out in the market looking for a regular GF, how will Eli feel about shearing her BF

[EliMySexyWife]

She would definitely feel some great loss. She asked him to inform about her before he starts a new relationship as she will have to cut it off. I asked her to have 2 x BF's so that she does not become dependent too much but she says she cannot be with anyone else because of risk of STD and she does not even have time to do so.

I have warned her enough about the consequences. She is a mature and strong woman and she should be able to manage it.

Sometime a woman just finds a new lover and stays with him for years, when he does move on she has to go through all the pain of loss,

Is Eli BF out in the market looking for a regular GF, how will Eli feel about shearing her BF

[EliMySexyWife]

She is now demonstrating things that is new to her. She was no sex positive (in action) although she believed she is. Previously when I sent her something to read about sex, she was not interested that much. Now she goes to podcasts and learn on things: how do do a nice blow-job, etc!!! LOL.

If you knew her, you were amazed by so much changes. In the past 9 months, she has delivered a new born identity of herself.

[sandy691196]

She would definitely feel some great loss. She asked him to inform about her before he starts a new relationship as she will have to cut it off. I asked her to have 2 x BF's so that she does not become dependent too much but she says she cannot be with anyone else because of risk of STD and she does not even have time to do so.

I have warned her enough about the consequences. She is a mature and strong woman and she should be able to manage it.

Sometime a woman just finds a new lover and stays with him for years, when he does move on she has to go through all the pain of loss,

Is Eli BF out in the market looking for a regular GF, how will Eli feel about shearing her BF

"She is a mature and strong woman" who needed to be sweet talked, cajoled, persuaded and reassured for many years before she did the "right thing" i.e., explored her inherent sexuality. Now too, she would need to be daily reminded of the pay offs from having a second BF.
STD rules are simple. Get tested before playing. Applies to ALL BFs. Don't feel she is being logical on this. Its more her 'status quo fetish' talking!

Bro do consider the enormous advantages of cooling the exclusive infatuation with this dude and getting into the true Hotwife credo.. Hot sex.. More sex! No emotional mess ups.. No heart breaks.. No strain on marriage.

All the best.

[EliMySexyWife]

She is just come back from a sleep-over at her boyfriends. She was very happy and told me everything was perfect. I asked what she means by everything. She said: I mean the sex!
She had two times only, when in the evening and one early morning but each time took 2 hours! Multiple positions that she enjoyed a lot and she said some of them where new to her and she enjoyed them a lot!
One other interesting was that she now enjoys blowjob! Previously she did it only as a kind of favor or return of favor! Now she said she is enjoying herself and felt like she want to eat his dick when I she saw it hard!!!

So much change is really amazing. This is a totally different woman to what I married and what she was last year this time. She enjoys it herself and feels no guilt.

[skoot1958]

Sounds like all is gong well, do they go out as a couple or just stay at home and play, what was the cover story this time,

Any reaction from SIL

[EliMySexyWife]

Sounds like all is gong well, do they go out as a couple or just stay at home and play, what was the cover story this time,
Any reaction from SIL

They planned to go indoor ice skating. They had gone once before and she enjoyed it very much. They act like friends or coach and student. This time, he insisted they go but said I wouldn't be able to drink if we went. Then she drank the whole glass! She definitely liked having sex more than skating!

Eli didn't tell her sister, Elsis, that she had stayed the night. Elsis only knew she would be there Friday afternoon, not all night. So when Eli was driving home in the morning, she called me. She said Elsis was calling and wondered what she should tell her. She was so horrified. I said, "Your sister already knew you spent two nights on vacation with your boyfriend, so I don't understand what you're trying to hide!"

Later, when Eli went to her sister's to pick her up for grocery shopping, Elsis jokingly asked, "Were you naughty again last night?" while laughing. Eli said, "Yes, and half an hour ago with Brian!" Elsis responded, "Two times?!?" Eli said, "Three times: last night, this early morning, and half an hour ago. Now shut up, don't ask more questions, and let's go!"

During shopping, Eli told her sister, "I really enjoy having sex with Dick. It's amazing and I love it. I'm over the moon when I give myself to him. But the main reason I'm doing it is because Brian and I have had the best relationship in the past 10 months. We were never this good, even when we just got married."

[Bovary2012]

Eli's remark about your relationship is so sweet! I'm happy for you both.

[skoot1958]

I think this show Eli deep feelings she loves having BF and loves her hubby, how could it get better, it is nice the Eli can share with her sister

[isinlarsa]

It's nice that your wife has her sister to share things with, even if she won't share details.