Video and Pictures

[DonVito4u]

What are your strategies and tips when filming and taking pictures of your Hotwife in action?

I find myself talking, commenting, or directing while wife is playing. Basically talking to much which kills the mood or annoying to hear when playing back the video. Obviously my OCD takes over as I try to capture the right angles and the hottest moments during the session; close up penetration shots, kissing, eye contact, cumshots, etc...

Looking for best practices and tips on capturing the hottest moments of the sessions.

Maybe it's as simple as shutting the F up and just capturing what happens. Or asking wife or friend to move a certain way? But that might be a mood killer. Anyways I'm sure some of my talking is me being nervous since we're new to the hotwife lifestyle.

Thanks for the suggestions.

[SilverStag]

Yes, STFU. Just let it unfold without your direction. You will remember it better if yo aren't consumed with directing. Let them enjoy themselves, after all, it's about her happiness and pleasure, not yours. If you push or interfere too much she may just withdraw or not allow you to be present. Set the camera on a tripod and let it go. Then sit in a chair and watch. Your memory will fill in any blanks in the video.

I played with a couple once who had a bedroom wired for video. There were cameras in every corner pointed at the bed and even one in the middle of the ceiling for the overhead view. Because they were all running unattended, capturing every angle, we were all free to just be in the moment and enjoy ourselves.

[ugcp]

I don't mean this as an insult to you, as I don't know your individual motivations, backstory, or anything else. But hotwife scenarios where the husband micromanages the action are super unsexy, on camera or not. It cranks up the risk/possibility that someone (usually the wife, though not always) is being influenced, or worse, into sex acts they otherwise may not want to do. At the very least, it objectifies people into props to feed the sexual gratification of some, possibly selfish, horny dude. And one of those people is someone he's supposed to have deep feelings of care and concern for (a major factor in the impactful nature of hotwife relationships).

Of course, there are exceptions. If, for example, a couple set out to "make their own porno", and it was completely understood who was taking which role (director, actor), and everyone has understood that the acts were for production, then I suppose that could be fun. Though certainly not every time.

The sexiest hotwife scenarios are those where there is a natural progression, driven by sexual energy, balanced between the participants (meaning NOT the husband, unless it is an actual threesome), often with more female-pleasure focus than is typical in mainstream porn, that can be allowed to flow without external distraction of any kind, and culminate in whatever new physical and emotional bond that may result.

[Jimbo7giveher]

I appreciate reading what each of you had to say. this is new to me, so im trying to understand myself and my wife better going forward. and while i agree that micromanaging by the husband is probably not the way to go...I'd take it easy on the "some, possibly selfish, horny dude" language. pretty sure every person involved is horny. and selfish to an extent. every one wants to get there's. I don't micro manage, we have one camera, im not present, and i do not interact with her during her date. that being said, she knows there are certain shots i want to see and she trys to get those for me at some point. i selfishly ask for those shots....because I'm horny.

[ProfessorH]

Capture the moment, don’t dictate it.

Hearing her sounds, what she says to the third and what he says to her…I’d much rather have that than my voice chiming in with a suggestion.

You can move to a better angle. If you’ve got a very aware third, they’ll adjust to improve your shot.

And, as a courtesy, be sure whether face capture is okay with thirds. Some are fine, some would prefer not.

Happy recording!!

[Farmgirl]

Maybe it's as simple as shutting the F up and just capturing what happens.

Thanks for the suggestions.

You answered your own question rather well!!

[2inUPMichigan]

If someone told me to move a different way while I was having sex because they wanted to get a better camera angle I would just stop. That would end the connection for that moment and take care of any interest I had in continuing.
To be treated as if I was a character in a movie or a prop in a fantasy to be moved or directed at will for the sole purpose of getting them off has the complete opposite effect of feeling sexy.

If I knew my husband wanted a specific picture before things got started I would make sure it happened. To interrupt the flow to pose people is not sexy in any way. Any requests, limits and boundaries should be discussed prior to clothes coming off or afterwards when regrouping and talking about a potential follow up session.

[Pufferfish]

I'm the furthest from an "Armchair director" imaginable. I don't want to dictate what she does I just want to capture it as much as possible. But initially, my wife was adamantly opposed to recording. I would ask and she would let me record something but not everything. Or most the time she would just say no outright. She would get upset at my asking all the time. Eventually it grew to letting me record discretely, as long as I wasn't being obvious about it she could just forget about it. But I wasn't allowed to move around and get better angles, as that was too distracting, although I would have loved to.

As more shy type guys got introduced to the scenario they weren't very comfortable with me being in the room. I put up a security camera outside pointing at the back door and the hot tub, and joked about putting one in the living room where she has sex a lot of the time. She joked about being surprised I didn't want to put one in the bedroom too. I said "I didn't think I could justify that one for safety reasons." She said she didn't actually care, so now I have a video camera on a nightstand in our bedroom and our TV stand in the living room. With great views. And we're all happy with it currently. My wife just has to make sure there's enough lighting in the room, which she's been pretty damn awesome about.

[bltn1966]

I'm the furthest from an "Armchair director" imaginable. I don't want to dictate what she does I just want to capture it as much as possible. But initially, my wife was adamantly opposed to recording. I would ask and she would let me record something but not everything. Or most the time she would just say no outright. She would get upset at my asking all the time. Eventually it grew to letting me record discretely, as long as I wasn't being obvious about it she could just forget about it. But I wasn't allowed to move around and get better angles, as that was too distracting, although I would have loved to.

As more shy type guys got introduced to the scenario they weren't very comfortable with me being in the room. I put up a security camera outside pointing at the back door and the hot tub, and joked about putting one in the living room where she has sex a lot of the time. She joked about being surprised I didn't want to put one in the bedroom too. I said "I didn't think I could justify that one for safety reasons." She said she didn't actually care, so now I have a video camera on a nightstand in our bedroom and our TV stand in the living room. With great views. And we're all happy with it currently. My wife just has to make sure there's enough lighting in the room, which she's been pretty damn awesome about.

I’ve been a BBC for a few couples. I hate when the husband constantly interrupt me. It’s very annoying. There was this one guy that kept asking his wife to let me fuck her ass. He wanted to record me putting it in her ass.The lady was scared I might hurt her, but the husband was persistent. He kept trying to insert a finger in her ass while I was fucking her. Finally I put a stop to it. I told him “I don’t do anal”. He asked one more time and I said “Man, sit your ass in the corner and leave us alone”.
I thought he would get mad and make me stop having sex with his wife. He walked back to the corner and didn’t say another word to her. The wife thanked me when the husband returned to his seat.

[SilverStag]

Maybe it's as simple as shutting the F up and just capturing what happens.

Thanks for the suggestions.

You answered your own question rather well!!

Very Well put, Farmgirl!

[Mustang1]

I’d love to have my HW find a guy then they let me video them. I’d have to talk with her first to go over what she wants. She would probably fuck him a few times before asking him about videos. Then they both set up what they want. I would just move around and get the best angles. They can decide on her outfits and toys or things they want to use. I think it would be hot as hell! If they enjoyed it then it might be a regular thing… they can think up of different scenarios and hot outfits…

[trecital]

It depends what you are looking for in the end result.

If you want an artificial performance that conforms only to your fantasies or desires, then carry on as you are. But, I'm not sure for how long your two 'actors' are going to put up with you.

However, if you are trying to capture a naturally sexy event, of your wife and boyfriend/bull doing what they want to do, then you are going to have to be quiet and try to keep out of the way.

By all means try and discuss with them what you would love them to do. But if they don't want to go with your script, then let them just get on with it.

[Yourfirstbull]

A decent amount of the couples I'm with there are times the hubby in the room for a variety of reasons (it's a weekday and he's at work, or she doesn't like an audience, etc.), but of course they often still want pics or video.

I want to accommodate but I also don't really want to risk the possibility that my face could wind up on the internet fucking wives, so the deal I make is I will film it, with their phone. That way they can own all the pics and videos (giving them peace of mind), while I control what's seen (giving me peace of mind). That seems to be a compromise everyone has been happy with.

[Tank Turner]

Hi DonVito4U,

Before videoing, always get permission from men who'll be in videos before videoing. Never post videos without permission of men involved. Sex should be fun, thrilling, exciting, and euphoric. It should never ruin lives.

Circumstances and wives involved should guide you when videoing.

My wife has a huge porn star fantasy. She loves to be videoed and directed while she's porn starring as though she were making a porn film. Bob is our longtime friend. He knows my wife's sexuality, sexual desires, kinks, and fantasies as thoroughly as anyone. He's taken many videos of my wife while directing her sexual actions. It's common for them to discuss what she'll do and what he wants her to do before videoing. I can't fuck her and video at the same time. So he's our videographer when he's not participating.

My biggest regret is not videoing my wife's first time doing MFM sex. I'm not sure if he would have allowed me to video my wife's initiation to MFM sex. Most men did not want to be videoed.

[Threeisacharm]

It is okay for him to ask short burst questions such as "do you like fucking him", but over communication isn't ideal.

I lost all my video with Justine as she took that specific backup storage with her. On vacation, we met a 20 something guy who was there with his grandpa and like all young men kept coming over to the nude side to look at naked women. He placed his beach towel right infront of Justine and dropped his shorts and was hung. I watched Justine's face move from concerned annoyed to eyes wide. She immediately started talking to him and he turned from cute guy trying to creep her to big dick stud. Sometimes it was hard to get Justine to do as suggested, usually taking some convincing. When we were at nude beaches, she would open her legs wide if I asked without question. So the guy turns to the water on his back and now facing away and he has a semi and all we can see is cock. I asked her if she likes him and spread her legs if the answer is yes. She opens them wider as he is flipping over and now is staring at her pretty pussy from 10 feet away.

Justine starts talking to him and I say hi and smile. We continue to talk and the guy has balls and asks her, not me if he can move closer so he doesn't have to talk loud. Justine agreed but told him it was so he could look her over better. They both exchange names and then she introduces me as her cuckold. The young man immediately asked what that meant. Justine said, well my husband is a pervert and likes to film me with young men. He volunteered immediately and we went back to the room and he was hard, 9 inches and thick. Justine laid on the bed and opened her legs and asked if he liked staring at her pussy on the beach. He muffled a yes so she told him to place his cock on her stomach and looked at me and said "omg honey, he is going to stretch your wife out. I found that erotic and decided to object in a whimpy tone. "No baby, you won't be able to feel me after". Justine rubbed his cock against her pussy lips and said "maybe I will just let him put the tip in". Again I objected with "can't you just give him a handjob and not let him ruin your tight pussy". Justine fired back " look at his cock and look at yours, which one do you think I want. Be a good cuckold and cameramen are not supposed to talk". I sat down beside them and had a close up of his fat long cock head at her pussy and she was playing with it running it along her pussy lips until she inserted it and he pushed forward. She looked at me and told me she couldn't hold back and needed to fuck him. While a husband shouldn't be disturbing his wife's love making, when she hadn't said a word in a while, I had short questions that she gave longer answers to. Do you like his cock? Does he fuck you better? Is he going to be fucking you on this trip? Finally when I think he is close to cuming, I object "what if he cums in your pussy". "He is going to cum in my pussy and you will lick it clean as well his cock". This makes it impossible for him to hold back and he shoots his load deep in her. He jumps up and says his grampa will wonder where he was and think he didn't want to have me clean his cock off. Justine asks for a kiss and asks him if he wants to come back tonight and he says he will. He is out the door and Justine asks me for the camera and then films me and commentates on how good he fucked her and for me to make sure I get all of the cum out so we don't have his baby.

We had a knock on our door at 10 p.m. and again at 6 a.m. She also took him alone back to our room the next afternoon and when they were done, he returned to me at the beach and delivered a message "your wife needs you to clean up my cum from her pussy". I thanked him and told him to continue fucking her. When I got back, she was laying spread eagle and played back thier private time and she came on my tounge when we got to the part where she was telling him that my cock was too small to satisfy her and that she loved his big cock. She was way more vocal when I wasn't there and in other adventures later, I would purposely leave the video recording to catch small hot talk. The best videos were when I was away and she filmed her cheating and let me find it on the camera without telling me.

[hotfreaks]

I always ask if pics and vids are ok. I also stay quiet as can be and let it unfold naturally in front of me. I only speak when spoken too.