POLL— excitement and apprehension in the beginning

For hotwives and the men who adore them.

After original encouragement or green light from husband/partner to explore sexual non-exclusivity:

It felt confusing or diminishing at first
8
7%
It felt immediately exciting and empowering
19
16%
Excitement grew after initial apprehension
20
17%
After initial disinterest, excitement was later triggered by an unexpected attraction
5
4%
Husband/partner was kept in the loop as opportunity/temptation arose
21
18%
It felt too hard or hurtful to disclose arising temptation
1
1%
It felt too hard to disclose first non-exclusive encounter once it happened
1
1%
Husband/partner was aware in advance of first non-exclusive encounter
22
19%
Husband/partner was informed soon afterward
12
10%
Husband/partner was informed or learned of it long afterward
1
1%
Original intention to inform husband/partner of an encounter felt almost impossible once it happened
1
1%
What seemed hot at first felt like it could endanger marriage/relationship once it happened
3
3%
One or more encounters are still a secret
2
2%
 
Total votes: 116

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POLL— excitement and apprehension in the beginning

Unread post by wildrollercoaster » Thu Dec 21, 2023 9:39 am

There are many chronicles here of women who were given a green light by their husband or partner to explore sexual non-exclusivity, and who then felt apprehensive about disclosing actual intimacy once it happened (sometimes leading to very hot lingering secrets). Inevitable questions about the prevalence and nuance of such dynamics...

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Re: POLL— excitement and apprehension in the beginning

Unread post by Tank Turner » Thu Dec 21, 2023 3:13 pm

Sex with a person other than a spouse should be discussed in detail prior. It should be discussed openly, honestly, and without judgment. My wife has friends who are afraid to tell their husbands about their sexuality and fantasies. Husbands and wives should not fear disclosing their sexuality with their spouses. If a wife can't trust her husband, who could she trust?

My wife is the most sexual and sexually enlightened woman I have been with. She is realistic about sex. She told me while I was booty calling her that sex was a normal and natural human activity. She loved sex. She loves it more now than she ever has. Sex made her feel and makes her feel euphoric. As she's matured, she has developed an ego component to her sexuality. She loves young studs hitting on her. She knew and knows the difference between sex for physical euphoria and sex as an expression of love.

We dirty talked during sex about another dude and me working orgasms out of her. It drenched her pussy. I listened to every word of her dirty talk. She told me that MFM was her dominant fantasy.

I knew my wife was extremely sexually experienced before I met her. Throughout years of dating and marriage, she'd augment a sexual topic by explaining what her boyfriends did to her.

I envisioned another man porn starring my wife. I envisioned every conceivable sex act a dude could do to my wife. None of it made me jealous. I had no reason to be jealous. My wife loves our kids and her family more than all other facets of her life combined. She'll never do anything to harm our kids or jeopardize her family.

We knew it would happen. On an evening we were preparing to do a popular nightclub, she confidently told me that she was going to seduce a man and bring him home with us for MFM sex. Obviously, she had thought about it for a long time before telling me she was going to do it. We didn't have a lot of time to talk about it before arriving at the nightclub. She told me that she wouldn't do it if I objected. I reassured her that I'd always love her and be in love with her. I reassured her that I would support her decision.

Women fantasized about fucking men other than their husbands as often as men fantasize about fucking women other than their wives. It's completely normal and natural for women to fantasize about sex.

My advice is if there is any doubt, don't do it until that doubt is gone. If there is doubt that you can't handle another man porn starring your wife, don't do it. If you can accept that your wife is as sexual as you are if not more so and your comfortable with what sex involves, and you know jealously will not be an issue, you could be ready for the most exciting, erotic, and euphoric sex you've ever experience.

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Re: POLL— excitement and apprehension in the beginning

Unread post by wildrollercoaster » Fri Dec 22, 2023 3:21 pm

The questions at hand expand on curiosity arising in and from this poll, which asked merely HOW it started — the original spark:
viewtopic.php?f=5&t=64086

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