Girlfriend with kinks

[MartasBoy]

. ....Note I think I'm physically capable i.e. I'm fairly muscular with a medium large cock, large enough to hit cervix, so my physique isn't an issue.

You are thinking like a guy. You are too focused on your cock. About 70% of women do not orgasm from penis and vagina intercourse. They require stimulation of the clitoris and/or the g-spot. (The clitoris and G-spot are now thought to be one connected system, one on the outside, and one being on the inside.)

There are a significant number of women who would be perfectly happy if they never had to have a penis inside of them again, if their partner could just stimulate their G-spot with fingers, at the same time they are stimulating the clitoris with their tongue. For many women, that is their best means to an orgasm.

Viagra will only help you get harder and stay harder longer. Viagra does not increase testosterone, and does not increase your sex drive or desire.

If you have low testosterone, only testosterone replacement therapy will help. (Good sleep, better nutrition, and weight loss can help boost testosterone a little.)

Being overweight can decrease testosterone. So for some overweight guys, losing weight and getting in shape can boost testosterone.

[Shiphead]

She is probably having an orgasm knowing you are done and rolling off of her.
Come on dude. WTF? You won't even try any of the many things experienced people are sharing with you?
So it sounds as though you turn all the lights off so you are in the dark. Completely quiet except for your grunting noises. She sure isn't making any sounds other than most likely faking. You hop on top of her in missionary position because your too tired to kneel behind her and do her doggie style or have her ride you cowboy style. Then you come quickly and are done. I don't imagine you've ever had any foreplay. 100% sure you've never gone down on her and tasted her pussy or had her ride your face.
People have suggested Viagra because we are fairly certain you are a premature ejaculator. Viagra will help keep you hard after your one minute of coitus.
Can you post your address so we can all come steal your woman. Would love to have her sit on my face. Good god dude. You need to see a sex therapist to help you because you are the most boring, selfish person I have ever heard of. Try doggie style and smack her ass. Pull her hair some too. Why are you on this site? You need lessons on sex 101. You already failed basic sex and making a woman feel anything at all. Please find some porn on the internet and if you can find some homemade porn and take notes. There are also videos teaching people about sex. Maybe start by giving her a massage. Then if you haven't cum yet, give her your best 60 seconds.

[Uncertain9901]

So far it sounds like hotwifing or cuckolding isn't for us. I'll see if I can better adapt and maybe try out viagra or something similar.

[MonaLisaOverdrive]

It sounds like there are one of several things going on here.

1) You're a lazy lover
2) You don't really love this girl
3) You have cuckold/hotwife urges and are denying them

All of these are OK. However, you need to figure out what YOUR issue is because, it doesn't sound like it's with her.

You say "it's the way I am, I can't change that." What if she is monogomous? Should she change that, to satisfy your laziness as a lover? Relationships are about give and take, changing for the good of the other and the relationship. In more ways than just sex.

If you attitude is "I won't change, I am the way I am." Then this lady deserves better, because if you won't adapt sexually to please her then you won't adapt in non-sexual ways either.

Sounds like you're young and need to learn a lot more about relationships in general before you try to offload your sexual responsibilities to another man, because she may just decide to up and leave you altogether.

[pixmangurn]

Suggest she wear ear buds with the type of music she likes, then you don't have listen to it. Set aside time for sex and connect. Ask what she wants during sex and DO it. Get your T level checked. Try to compromise and meet her part way if you want your relationship to flourish. You're too young to be so inflexible!

[MartasBoy]

I agree with all of the above, PLUS consider working on your oral sex technique. Read up on it, learn about the clitoris and g-spot. Look up some internet tutorials.

Ask her to give you some directions on what feels good when you try it. Girls are shy about giving guys instructions. They are told that it will hurt our "fragile male ego" for them to coach us on sex, because we all want to think we're automatically good lovers.

Tell her that you want to become a better lover for her. Tell her that you would like to know how to pleasure her with your mouth and tongue. Give her complete permission to guide you through the entire process, and advise you on everything that feels good for her.