Age Sexual Beliefs are Developed

[Tank Turner]

After reflecting on my reply to a post on the "Stag & Vixen" forum and reconciling what my wife has told me since I've known her with her expanded sexuality, I began considering that she knew at a young age, possibly during adolescence, that she would enjoy her sex life beyond socially imposed norms. In other words, she knew long before I met her that she could not live within sexual boundaries imposed on her. I'll ask her this evening when she returns from her sister's home.

She's told me that she has had sexual fantasies ever since she could remember. She said it implying that she developed sexual fantasies during her teenage years.

My wife was incredibly sexually experienced when I met her. We had sex on the evening of our first date. She openly, confidently, and intellectually discussed sex. I had never been with a woman who had her sexual knowledge, confidence, and experience. She was beyond sexually enlightened. She knows more about sex than anyone I have ever known. She knows more about men's sexuality than most men.

Does anyone know the age sexual beliefs are developed?

[Tank Turner]

I'll paraphrase what my wife told me while I have time.

She did not know nor could she remember her age when she began fantasizing about sex.

Many of her sexual fantasies were outside of conventional sex, as she termed it, for kids of her age. She did remember fantasizing about having multiple men sex.

She learned at a very young age that she could control boys with her sexuality. When she began having sex, she saw how dudes reacted to her naked body. She said to the effect that her naked body owned dudes.

Her sister has identical beliefs about sex and nudity. While they were growing up, they often discussed sex. Both were sexually active at young ages.

When she was 19 she had a boyfriend who was knowledgeable about sex. He was a few years older than she was. He took her to a nude beach a lot during the summer. They had sex all the time. He shared an apartment with his friend. She and her boyfriend would often spend most of an entire day in his bed having sex and watching porn. He encouraged her to explore her sexuality. They engaged in every sex act imaginable that was not degrading. They would do sex acts they saw on porn. She remembered that watching MFM sex and gang bangs turned her on. She lost her anal sex virginity to him.

She knew that his roommate would watch them fuck. He thought he was sneaky, but she knew he was watching. It turned her on to be watched while she fucked her boyfriend.

When she could, she spent the night with him. They had sex for entire days and nights. He was in his sexual prime. She said that he was always horny. So was she.

She had her first exciting, risky public sex with him. It completely turned her on. That would eventually lead to discretionary exhibitionism. She got off on revealing herself in public. She was careful where she exposed herself and to whom she exposed herself. Her boyfriend encouraged and supported her to expose herself. He was turned on by her exhibitionism. She has not lost her exhibitionist desires. I'm her lookout when she does. I have to make sure that only a dude she wants to expose herself to sees her doing it.

He was the first dude who she masturbated for. They did a lot of mutual masturbation although he would often cum inside of her mouth.

She expanded her sexually during the time they dated. She learned to deeply enjoy, love, and appreciate sex. Sex caused her to feel more self-confident.

During her college years she had many sexual conversations with her sorority sisters about sex. Many of her sorority sisters had no sexual boundaries. Her sorority sisters helped her form her enlightened sexual beliefs.

She believes that sex she had with her college boyfriends shattered any sexual inhibitions she had. During that era, her sexual fantasies became more pronounced. She wanted two dudes to fuck her, but it never happened. Many of her sorority sisters did sex with multiple dudes.

I told her that I thought that her elevated intelligence probably influenced her sexual development. She said that it definitely did.

My wife's sexuality seems to be the product of successive events, conversations with her sister and her sorority sister, her boyfriend when she was 19, and her endocrine system abnormality that caused and continues to cause her sex drive to be stratospheric. She's been constantly horny since puberty. Her boyfriend encouraged, supported, and comforted her to do any sex act she wanted. He motivated her to continue to explore her sexuality and sexual boundaries.

She knew long before I met her that she could never confine her sexuality to traditional sex. She would never permit acceptable sex to be imposed on her. She would determine what acceptable sex for her was.

So there probably wasn't a specific age when she realized that her sexuality motivated her to fantasize about sex.

BTW, she reassured me that she is not unlike most women except she will not permit social norms to restrict her sexual activities.

She loves being naked as much now than she ever has. She's told me that we're doing a nude resort in October or November when weather is more moderate in Southern Mexico. She's told me that she'll worry when dudes no longer check out her naked body.

She reassured me that I'm the best sex she's ever had. As euphoric as sex for physical pleasure is for her, it's nowhere close to the euphoria she feels when she's having sex with a man she's in love with.

[Tank Turner]

BTW, my wife has an absolutely adorable, admirable, and confident demeanor when she's talking about sex. She knows it gets wood out me, yet she reveals her sexual experiences as calmly as she would if she were still working and addressing a staff meeting. She thinks it's immature and irrational for couples to avoid talking about sex. Her boyfriend she had at 19 and her always talked about sex. Talking about sex made sex more enjoyable.

[Cdncuck]

My wife told me she knew she was different sexually or had fantasies beyond her age starting at the age of 11. She said she has always known she would be with a lot of men.

[Farmgirl]

This may not be what you're looking for, but I was sexually aware by age 8.

[Tank Turner]

Hi Farmgirl,

No, but it was close.

My wife began feeling sexual urges during puberty.

Her sexual fantasies developed after. It sounded like conversations she had with her sister while they were maturing inspired her to begin fantasizing about sex.

It sounded like the boyfriend she had at 19 manipulated her for his sexual benefit which resulted in her developing more sexual fantasies. "Manipulated" might have been the wrong word because she wanted sex as much as he did. He probably helped her to comfortably enjoy sex.

My wife probably has every normal women's sexual fantasy. I was wondering how and when women developed their fantasies. It sounded like sexual conversations she had with her more sexually advanced college girlfriends induced her to broaden her sexual beliefs.

She has had MFM sexual fantasies for as long as she could remember. Those fantasies became an intense desire to experience them during her college years. She was willing and wanted to try MFM during college but never had an opportunity. It was during that time that she knew (not fantasized) that she would never limit her sexuality because of imposed norms.

[Tank Turner]

My wife told me she knew she was different sexually or had fantasies beyond her age starting at the age of 11. She said she has always known she would be with a lot of men.

Hi Cdncuck,

Your post was the essence of my curiosity. Do events that people experience while maturing create fantasies or do sexual fantasies develop naturally based on individual personalities?

[Cdncuck]

Im no expert but from what I've read, sexual fantasies develop in most people to one degree or another. Many of them form naturally.

The other way is your mind locks onto something when a person is aroused and the thing, whatever it might be, is associated with arousal for that person. For example, I have a foot/shoe fetish.

It began to develop when I was in Jr. high school. We had this really hot teacher and she wore different high heels every day. Somehow, my mind focused on her shoes and feet. It wasn't long after that I was masturbating and the image of her feet came into my mind. For whatever reason, it made the experience more intense for me.

Ever after I have been fascinated with women's shoes and feet. I'm sure it's happened differently for other people. The whole thing is likely more complicated than that but that's my take on things.

[Tank Turner]

Im no expert but from what I've read, sexual fantasies develop in most people to one degree or another. Many of them form naturally.

The other way is your mind locks onto something when a person is aroused and the thing, whatever it might be, is associated with arousal for that person. For example, I have a foot/shoe fetish.

It began to develop when I was in Jr. high school. We had this really hot teacher and she wore different high heels every day. Somehow, my mind focused on her shoes and feet. It wasn't long after that I was masturbating and the image of her feet came into my mind. For whatever reason, it made the experience more intense for me.

Ever after I have been fascinated with women's shoes and feet. I'm sure it's happened differently for other people. The whole thing is likely more complicated than that but that's my take on things.

I agree completely. Based on what my wife has told me, her sexual fantasies appear to have begun as thoughts or exposure to stimuli that evolved to become sexual fantasies.

[Farmgirl]

Hi Farmgirl,

No, but it was close.

My wife began feeling sexual urges during puberty.

Her sexual fantasies developed after. It sounded like conversations she had with her sister while they were maturing inspired her to begin fantasizing about sex.

It sounded like the boyfriend she had at 19 manipulated her for his sexual benefit which resulted in her developing more sexual fantasies. "Manipulated" might have been the wrong word because she wanted sex as much as he did. He probably helped her to comfortably enjoy sex.

My wife probably has every normal women's sexual fantasy. I was wondering how and when women developed their fantasies. It sounded like sexual conversations she had with her more sexually advanced college girlfriends induced her to broaden her sexual beliefs.

She has had MFM sexual fantasies for as long as she could remember. Those fantasies became an intense desire to experience them during her college years. She was willing and wanted to try MFM during college but never had an opportunity. It was during that time that she knew (not fantasized) that she would never limit her sexuality because of imposed norms.

I look at things differently than most it seems. I don't have sexual fantasies. A fantasy, to me, is something 'make believe' e.g. fantasy football or having sex with a celebrity.
I prefer to have sexual 'realities', things I plan or want to do. All are in the realm of real possibility, so not a fantasy .

[IndyGreg]

I would like to know a bit more about how the beliefs on sex come about. My guess is that everybody is different and some develop faster than others. My hotwife Becky is several years younger than me and she tells me that she started sucking dick when she was 13, fucking regularly at 14, 3somes at 15 and gang bangs at 16. I think she was on the accelerated side.

[IndyGreg]

I would like to know a bit more about how the beliefs on sex come about. My guess is that everybody is different and some develop faster than others. My hotwife Becky is several years younger than me and she tells me that she started sucking dick when she was 13, fucking regularly at 14, 3somes at 15 and gang bangs at 16. I think she was on the accelerated side.

[Tank Turner]

Hi Farmgirl,

After thinking about your post, I think I understand what you wrote. There's a logical progression that begins with thoughts and exposure to sexual acts that create sexual fantasies. Sexual fantasies are basis for considering sexual possibilities. Sexual possibilities mature to becoming sex acts we have experienced or want to experience. If I have it right, it makes perfect sense.

[Tank Turner]

I would like to know a bit more about how the beliefs on sex come about. My guess is that everybody is different and some develop faster than others. My hotwife Becky is several years younger than me and she tells me that she started sucking dick when she was 13, fucking regularly at 14, 3somes at 15 and gang bangs at 16. I think she was on the accelerated side.

Hi IndyGerg, your response makes sense. Girls grow up in different environments and mature differently and at various ages. Those environments and maturity ages influence their sexual beliefs.

I agree. Becky was on the accelerate path to sexual enlightenment.