“Forgot the condom”

[fireman]

So last week was one of the infrequent occasions when the wife wanted to go play. We had a night away and decided to hop on AFF and look. Took a good few days but we found what seemed like a good fit. We had dinner and then as planned we met up with him. All was going great. She gave me the nod and we went back to the hotel room. Her panties came off and she was enjoying everything. Then she asked him to fuck her, he climbed on top and she immediately stopped him and asked him to put a condom on (we totally discussed this with him). He fumbled with words and then said “I forgot to grab them”! What a douche! That kinda ended it for her. Really pissed her off and I could tell she was not happy about it. So he sheepishly put his clothes back on, sat and had some meaningless conversation for about 5 mins then showed himself out of the room. There is absolutely no way he forgot. We made it very clear a couple of times. I did get to reap the benefits of sexually agitated and slightly pissed off woman though. That was our first experience with something like that. We specifically didn’t stop and buy any because he said he was bringing them. Really not sure what he thinking! The good thing I suppose is that we found a couple guys that are good matches for her. The one she initially really liked and chatted with wasn’t able to meet that night. But can this weekend and for the next few weeks. So hopefully the stars align and we can get away again for a night or two.

[leggysman]

Good for her and both of you holding firm "in the moment" despite the awkwardness. I suppose he assumed you wouldn't.

[sana9889]

They should have done it anyway. I almost never use condoms.

[Long Lurker 34]

So last week was one of the infrequent occasions when the wife wanted to go play. We had a night away and decided to hop on AFF and look. Took a good few days but we found what seemed like a good fit. We had dinner and then as planned we met up with him. All was going great. She gave me the nod and we went back to the hotel room. Her panties came off and she was enjoying everything. Then she asked him to fuck her, he climbed on top and she immediately stopped him and asked him to put a condom on (we totally discussed this with him). He fumbled with words and then said “I forgot to grab them”! What a douche! That kinda ended it for her. Really pissed her off and I could tell she was not happy about it. So he sheepishly put his clothes back on, sat and had some meaningless conversation for about 5 mins then showed himself out of the room. There is absolutely no way he forgot. We made it very clear a couple of times. I did get to reap the benefits of sexually agitated and slightly pissed off woman though. That was our first experience with something like that. We specifically didn’t stop and buy any because he said he was bringing them. Really not sure what he thinking! The good thing I suppose is that we found a couple guys that are good matches for her. The one she initially really liked and chatted with wasn’t able to meet that night. But can this weekend and for the next few weeks. So hopefully the stars align and we can get away again for a night or two.

FM - Like Firemen and Boy Scouts, always be prepared. Make sure your kit is always kept topped up.

[Saskcple]

Good to stick to your rule even in the heat of passion.

[zorro]

Not surprising a new guy "forgot" to bring condoms. Lots of guys love to go bareback if they can get the chance. A woman/couple needs to hold the line or they can really get fucked, albeit not in a good way.

We always kept condoms on hand to protect against being manipulated and taken advantage of. I suggest couples do the same so they can stay in control of the situation.

[adrion_renae]

The couple should bring the condoms. Guys can poke a needle through the package and that’ll cause the condom to break after a few pumps “stealthing”.

[Essteaze]

I always bring a variety of condoms for this specific reason...SM (in our 10yr exp) are going to push their luck. Last time a guy asked us if a condom was necessary, i said yes and then he could not get it up...so he politely excused himself and left, this was at an actual sex club with tons of SM ready to take his place. Its mind boggling...thats why i tell Kay you cant really hope for an awesome connection because at the end of the day these dudes just looking to nut.

[Bridget_Joshua]

I always carry a pack of condoms in my handbag. Guys are generally douches with lame excuses like forgetting, numbness, early ejaculation or whatever. I decide what goes in my pussy.
Condom or no condom its always my call.
-Bridget

[ugcp]

Not surprised. Though I want to point out, women can do similar things, as they also often hate condoms. I recall when a woman I was talking to was rather irritated and insulted when I indicated I would only play with a condom, and even more so when I didn't back down from this attitude as things continued. I guess she assumed I would change my tune when things got more real. She mentioned being shocked/confused because "most guys would jump at the opportunity to go bareback". More and more red flags, I'd say lol.

[fireman]

In the distant past, we learned that we should always have them on hand, otherwise she has the tendency to get a little hot and bothered and hops on, lol. I suppose age and wisdom took over this time and although she hates using them, it’s a required thing until she feels comfortable. She doesn’t use them with her long term boyfriend at all. We definitely do not do one nighters often as she much prefers a connection with a guy and more than one time thing. So lesson learned. Too bad for that guy though, he won’t get another shot!

[ProfessorH]

Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.

Bring backups, in case they don’t. Or they have only one and it’s a dud. Or it’s a pina colada flavored one and she’s not ready for the coconut. Whatever.

A good go bag checklist: condoms, lube and gum.

[annsman]

Not sure if it’s off topic, but when my wife is using birth control she wants the guy to cum inside her.

If she doesn’t think he’s clean and healthy she doesn’t want to have sex with him whether he uses a condom or not.

[Sexilexi]

We have encountered guys forgetting condoms but we always have a stash on hand just in case.

It does take a lot to stop play completely, so kudos to her! We would have done the same thing. Glad you got to reap the benefits of her horniness. Hehe.

There is a debate on who should bring condoms, and I believe both parties should bring them. “If you want to wear them then you provide them.”.

-Lexi

[Cdncuck]

You can't carry your own condoms? My wife never left the house without a dozen in her purse.

[jane]

i would obviously bring some, but that's a bad sign of disrespect, but also stupidity

[Shiphead]

Would a recent clean test suffice? I can't do condoms anymore either. They were fine when I was younger and could stay hard thru a hurricane if I was getting some pussy. But with age, they cause me to lose that feeling of a warm, wet pussy.

[gruenberg]

I wonder how many actually get away with the scam.

[skoot1958]

Next time have your own supply happy wife

[warmnsalty]

As others have mentioned, bring some. We almost always go bare, but we have conversations ahead of time. Mrs always has some in her purse for an unexpected connection. When we go to a party or event I'll have some as well. While we both prefer bare, if the other guy wants to wear a condom we're fine with it. When I meet a woman who wants me to wear one, I wear one, no questions no argument. The "rule" we play by is everyone involved has to be comfortable and having fun. If you come prepared, if he truly forgot and you have some he'd happily put one on, if he balks then you know he's not the kind of guy you want inside your wife. Have fun!

[Tank Turner]

They should have done it anyway. I almost never use condoms.

My wife does not like condoms. She has never liked condoms. She has never fucked anyone who she merely suspected to be positive for any disease. She's been on birth control since she hit puberty. She was diagnosed with an endocrine system abnormality and prescribed the pill in attempt to adjust her hormone system.

We fucked our brains out on the evening of our first date. She told me I could cum inside of her because she was on birth control. She told me that birth control made sex more enjoyable for her. She did not like the feel of latex inside of her pussy. She told me she loved the feeling of a hard cock inside of her pussy. I think I fell in love with her sexual confidence that evening.

[Tank Turner]

I wonder how many actually get away with the scam.

While the dude in question probably did attempt to scam her, many women, my wife included, do not like condoms.

[gruenberg]

I wonder how many actually get away with the scam.

While the dude in question probably did attempt to scam her, many women, my wife included, do not like condoms.

but your wife would not ask in advance for it.

[stubbyhubby]

If condoms are a dealbreaker for you then why wouldn't you keep some with you? Guys always say they forgot to bring one because they want to go raw. It was never an issue for us because Lisa wanted bareback anyway, but I can only recall a handful of times the guy actually had them.

[Tank Turner]

Hi gruenberg,

No. She's told me she has never liked using condoms. She has been on birth control since puberty for endocrine system regulation, so she hasn't had to worry about pregnancy. She's never trusted them for STD protection. She's had a couple break.

If my wife merely suspects a dude has any disease, she will not fuck him.

Right after I met her, she told me she loved the fell of a dude's hard cock inside of her. She did not like the feel of latex.