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Hi all,

I have a thread in the cuckold forum, although I'm somewhere between the two.

I have a question that I'm hoping anyone with experience can help with.

My wife is about to embark on her first foray into being a hotwife but has insisted that she will only ever do this with one of her exes because she wants it to be someone she knows and is comfortable with. She's happy for it to be a regular thing (if all goes well) but she has said she wouldn't then go on to meet new men.

In your experiences, is it possible/likely that once she's experienced the hot wife feeling that she will adjust her viewpoint?

Don't get me wrong, I'm happy with the situation as it is, but I'd like for her to open her horizons and see the possibilities and the fun & enjoyment she could have if she was became open to "having someone new".

Many thanks!

In our experience, the more your wife fucks another man and enjoys it the easier it gets for her. When she sees how turned on you are and how supportive she will open up to more men.
You will need to step up and do many more chores around the house and look after the kids so that she has time to preen herself and not feel guilty about spending time dating other men.
I book my wife's mani/pedis, hair appointments, fortnightly winter spraytans, weekly day after dates massages etc while she is out having these I am cleaning the bathrooms, doing the grocery shopping, cleaning the house etc. How can a wife feel like a goddess when she has to clean toilets?

Each time she fucks another man buy her a gift. Jewellery and flowers are a good start. Support her by buying her new lingerie each time she is going on a first date with a man. Buy her condoms to put in her purse. Offer to drive her to her date and pick her back up when she is ready to come home. If you get to meet her lover, in front of her, thank him for looking after your wife and for giving her fun, enjoyable times.
If you are truly ready for the hotwife lifestyle you won't find these chores etc hardships but privileges that are your way of contributing to her pleasure.

It sounds to me she wants to be in a relationship with her ex

sana9889 wrote: ↑

Thu Aug 08, 2024 11:11 am

It sounds to me she wants to be in a relationship with her ex

That's not the case. Don't get me wrong, the thought briefly crossed my mind, but knowing the full facts, I disagree.

However, if that was the case (and I'm sure I'll get roasted for this) I'm very much a believer in "what will be will be". I'd not like it, obviously, but in my opinion, she'd probably cheat eventually anyway and that would be worse.

sana9889 wrote: ↑

Thu Aug 08, 2024 11:11 am

It sounds to me she wants to be in a relationship with her ex

That's not the case. Don't get me wrong, the thought briefly crossed my mind, but knowing the full facts, I disagree.

However, if that was the case (and I'm sure I'll get roasted for this) I'm very much a believer in "what will be will be". I'd not like it, obviously, but in my opinion, she'd probably cheat eventually anyway and that would be worse.

She may and may not, just depends on her and her personality. I had a long term lover since 1994 and didn’t know hotwifing was a thing until 2021. Since then I have been with 7 other men after I came here and read online and learned more about it. We are not into the cuckolding. He just like to share me, and have threesomes so I pick a guy who is straight that would let grizzly watch and participate.

Its a tricky situation, I can understand her need to be comfortable with the guy but only meeting exes it unusual. IMO there are more cons in playing with exes than pros!!!
If she's just starting out so NRE is something you guys need to discuss openly or in her case XRE (I do not know your equation stag/cuck/in between) just so that things do not get complicated.
As regards to her being open to trying new men, most likely she will be as you guys move ahead but this also means she could have met new guys to be begin with and get comfortable after meeting casually a few times. For all you know she's enjoys with the ex so much she becomes exclusive to him. Discuss all these possibilities and take things forward. Good Luck

leo-cpl wrote: ↑

Fri Aug 09, 2024 12:16 am

Its a tricky situation, I can understand her need to be comfortable with the guy but only meeting exes it unusual. IMO there are more cons in playing with exes than pros!!!
If she's just starting out so NRE is something you guys need to discuss openly or in her case XRE (I do not know your equation stag/cuck/in between) just so that things do not get complicated.
As regards to her being open to trying new men, most likely she will be as you guys move ahead but this also means she could have met new guys to be begin with and get comfortable after meeting casually a few times. For all you know she's enjoys with the ex so much she becomes exclusive to him. Discuss all these possibilities and take things forward. Good Luck

I didn't fully explain, which is my fault. Saying he's an ex is slightly misleading, they were only ever fuck buddies, never in a relationship. It was a lazy explanation on my part .

If it would have been a true ex then I might have had more concerns, but knowing me, I would have probably wanted her to do it still anyway, such is the urge for me to "reclaim" her after another cock has filled and satisfied her.

Another reason for my original question, is that she has always said that Black men don't do it for her but then whilst watching something on TV the other night, where a white girl was kissing a black guy and she said out of the blue "you know what they say, once you go black you never go back".

Has anyone ever had initial obstacles/objections of this nature, only to eventually reveal that it's a thought and fantasy intrigue that's been nagging away at the back of their mind all along?

sana9889 wrote: ↑

Thu Aug 08, 2024 11:11 am

It sounds to me she wants to be in a relationship with her ex

Absolutely...

I was in a similar situation. She wanted it to he someone known and not a stranger. I asked her about my gym buddy and she was okay with me inviting him over without promising she would do anything. He was attractive, fit, and a few years younger and not aggressive. He was also hung and she knew that going into the first meeting at our place for drinks.

Once she met him, she relaxed and was flirty and we had an amazing 6 months of once a week sex. The first weekend it was 3 times as he came over Friday night, went home Saturday, came back that night for a wild hour experience and finally Sunday for another hot experience.

Great thing was that he texted me only, and we talked at the gym about our Friday night dates. My wife and I talked during the week and made up kinky scenerios for each session. She loved cheating and we worked that kink in as well, only I knew about it and we roleplayed that and I "caught" them cheating in our bed some of the times that was really hot.

The first time we did that was the Sunday where we met at the gym for a workout and Justine told me to send him over to fuck her and I would grab groceries and call her and she lied to me about what she was doing when I could clearly hear my buddy fucking her. She said she was exercising. It was hot as I had headphones in and walked around the store and cashed out listening to her try and talk to me and hearing his hips slap against her and her moaning. As I was heading out of the store, she just hung up the phone.

I got home and put some of the groceries away and could hear them fucking and she was very vocal. I walked onto the bedroom and acted mad but they kept fucking and she told me to sit and watch his big cock fuck her.

It wasn't stressful, but later on when she picked a coworker and was cheating, that ended the marriage.

Peaks23 wrote: ↑

Sat Aug 10, 2024 12:06 am

Another reason for my original question, is that she has always said that Black men don't do it for her but then whilst watching something on TV the other night, where a white girl was kissing a black guy and she said out of the blue "you know what they say, once you go black you never go back".

Has anyone ever had initial obstacles/objections of this nature, only to eventually reveal that it's a thought and fantasy intrigue that's been nagging away at the back of their mind all along?

I would follow Johnann2227's advice! He knows a lot and it's been working for me, too, to do what he says. Make her feel the queen of the house and I'm sure she'll want to do it with other guys, but if not at least you have the one guy who she is willing to do it with!