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My wife has a third that she has been playing with for over 2 years. He's a great third, knows his role, and I trust him enough that every time she plays with him, it's been solo. When she's out, she will usually fuck for 2-3 hours and then head home to me very late at night. She tells me the sex is amazing and it makes me want to tell her to stay the night and keep fucking, especially having morning sex.

I've mentioned this to my wife and the thought turns us both on. But, I'm wondering if this is a case where the fantasy is better than reality? Does anyone else do this?

Overnight is some kind of rule for some couples which have terms of returning home whatever time they finish but she never stays over at his place which we don't follow. If sex is great & the boy toy can stay hard why not do it till next day(obviously give him some breaks, im not a corporate boss to them). Sending the husband photos & short video clips (Josh loves it & keeps edging to them) this is great for his all nighter. It forsure works for us & most of couples we are friends with. Definitely give it a try if she feels safe at his place. Communication is the key keep updating him about your status. As Josh says he loves when i send him voice note saying " Can't type he is going hard" as it has sound of lovers deep thursts & me moaning to it, and go silent with the communication.
-Bri❤

We are fine with solo, and after they’ve fucked several times sleeping over seems to make sense, unless of course there are any indications not to, in which case everything would stop anyways.
It’s all about her comfort level. It of course turns me on incredibly knowing what they’re doing and how much she likes being fucked multiple times, and of course we are liking what each of us gets out of this lifestyle.

Mrs Swanilla has done it - Both enjoyed it (she sent me videos). Just have to be solid in your relationship.

Not in the LS but what occurs to me is:
- Would it be a practical thing to be allowed? Closer to work for her for early morning meetings or if the weather is bad less travelling bad roads etc.
- Is he a FWB or more of a BF? If more of the latter would dating publicly be on the table? As one can certainly understand all the physical activity makes one hungry and not really be inclined to cook.
- Also are you in the same community (though size does matter town vs city), so going out may not matter as much.

I’m allowed to stay overnight, however hubby wants FaceTimed or photos, that turns him on big time. As soon as I come home I tell him how good it was and get into detail and he ravishes me and remarks his territory!!

Why would it be crazy? Many wives do overnights but depends on the couple. My wife usually comes home but doesn't always. With certain guys she does overnight. Other couples have hard rules about the wife coming home.

In our case I've always thought she's got more skin in the game so she should decide the rules for each situation. To be honest while watching and joining in would be my preferred way to play. Interestingly, it turns out her going out alone and her doing overnights have certain erotic elements of their own.

Cdncuck wrote: ↑

Mon Aug 12, 2024 8:23 am

Why would it be crazy? Many wives do overnights but depends on the couple. My wife usually comes home but doesn't always. With certain guys she does overnight. Other couples have hard rules about the wife coming home.

In our case I've always thought she's got more skin in the game so she should decide the rules for each situation. To be honest while watching and joining in would be my preferred way to play. Interestingly, it turns out her going out alone and her doing overnights have certain erotic elements of their own.

Well said that her doing overnights have certain erotic elements of their own. For me it is the extended time while I am at home alone, knowing my wife is in another man's bed, getting her brains fucked out. Then falling asleep in his arms, followed by a repeat fuck when they wake up during the night.

If I've been able to sleep, when I wake up in the morning, I'm immediately hard visualizing how he's again laying pipe in her before she gets up and comes home to me.

It forsure works for us & most of couples we are friends with.

Interesting! Do you socialise with a bunch of other hotwifing couples or are you all swingers as well?

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My wife has been a hotwife for many years, both as part of a MFM or FMF threesome and more frequently as a solo. I used to be an fb. I have had overnight visits with three different women, two of the three being long time relationships and one who visited with me for a week while my wife was away, but with whom both my wife and I had corresponded with previously for a number of months. The idea of my wife going away with an fb for an overnight or a weekend has been a turn on for me. She has had the opportunity to go away with a couple of her fbs for an overnight, or a long weekend, but has shown absolutely no interest in doing so. Having done so myself and found it was no threat to our marriage, I told her to go ahead if she ever wanted to. but her answer was always the same, "not interested".

So, in answer to the original question, no, from my personal experience I don't think it is crazy to want her to. From a hotwife's perspective, I can't answer.

BTW, if I ever described her as "having her brains fucked out", I'd be sleeping on the couch for weeks.

My wife has spent the night a few times with her FWB. Here’s her experiences.

One of the best times was with a guy (one of my good friend’s) she really had the hots for. She told me it was amazing. They fucked in all sorts of positions and at her request, he finished off bareback in her doggy.

Another time she had to go out of town. As luck would have it, her old boyfriend was on the way. So she told me she was going to spend the night with him. When she arrived he told her he had a surprise for her. She was expecting flowers . Wrong. No flowers. His new girlfriend (that she didn’t know he even had) was in the house… Drunk! The three of them somehow got along but she sensed the gal was very jealous when he told her they used to date! Not a great experience.

One more. One of her old FWB (that I never met prior to this overnight) came to town and got a room at local 5 star hotel and invited her to dinner and asker her if she wanted to spend the night. She told him yes, and was really excited about it. She dressed very sexy, with a coat and nothing underneath except lingerie. The short version is she had a really great time reconnecting with him and had sex three times, but he snored and wasn’t as good in the sack as he was many years ago and came really fast.

Every couple has their own dynamic and things tend to change over time. I think everyone starts this lifestyle with some set of rules then over time they loosen up. I think the rules start with concerns over protecting the relationship. As thing go on, successful couple continue to communicate and those concerns lessen. Mrs does solo play and does over nights. She doesn't do the bf thing, she has fwb and one offs. Overnights happen either because it's more convenient, less late night driving or easier morning commute etc. The benefit of the over night is more sex and for sure morning sex. She's a hot wife to get fucked however, whenever she wants it. I'm fine with all of it. Love when I'm involved and watching but content with knowing she's having a great time when I'm not there.

I loved it when my wife stayed overnight with someone, to the extent that I've paid for her to stay in a hotel when she was seeing a married man, who was pretending to be working overtime.
She often went away for the weekend with another boyfriend and whilst she was away I'd be constantly imagining what they were doing. Having to wait so long to hear the details was agony and a big thrill for me.
If she played downstairs with them, I'd get to clean her up when she popped upstairs to freshen up, so I knew a little bit about what they'd done but having to wait was even more fun.
During these weekends away they hardly ever got dressed and I loved the thought of them naked together for so long. These weekends were usually when I was working so my MIL would have our kids with her and as all her family knew what was going on, they used to tease me and that was fun too.
Sometimes, she'd spend the day with him at his place and as he lived with his mum, they'd often spend time together, talking and I liked that thought too, as she knew that I knew.
It worked well for us but that's because each person she stayed with was a colleague of hers, so she knew them beforehand, so we were both sure she would be safe.

warmnsalty wrote: ↑

Tue Aug 13, 2024 12:28 am

Every couple has their own dynamic and things tend to change over time. I think everyone starts this lifestyle with some set of rules then over time they loosen up. I think the rules start with concerns over protecting the relationship. As thing go on, successful couple continue to communicate and those concerns lessen. Mrs does solo play and does over nights. She doesn't do the bf thing, she has fwb and one offs. Overnights happen either because it's more convenient, less late night driving or easier morning commute etc. The benefit of the over night is more sex and for sure morning sex. She's a hot wife to get fucked however, whenever she wants it. I'm fine with all of it. Love when I'm involved and watching but content with knowing she's having a great time when I'm not there.

I agree with everyone who wrote that it depends on the couple, and especially with warmnsalty's bolded statement that it can change. When my wife and I first started playing, just my wife playing alone would have been a non-starter for us. It still blows my mind that some couples start with that. In the beginning we played together (MFM) or I watched and then joined. We then graduated to her sometimes playing alone, but she always came home when she was done. Those nights stretched longer and longer. Eventually we got to a point where we were both fine with an overnight stay, and we actually preferred overnight stays.

Why? When she was coming home, it was often really, really late. I'd wait up until the wee hours, often to see the sun come up, checking my phone and the clock every five minutes. She'd come home wiped out and I'd be disappointed in the lack of reconnection energy, since she just pulled an all-nighter. An overnight stay was actually better because I just accepted that I wasn't going to see her that night. Practically speaking, she got some sleep. Most importantly, I didn't have to worry about my wife driving while sleep-deprived.

It obviously opens up a different dynamic for her. It's intimate. Sleeping naked, spontaneous sex in the night or morning, and not being rushed in general. With her last boyfriend we designated Thursday nights to be sleepover nights. Not all the time, but enough that she kept a hygiene kit and extra stuff at his place. Since Friday is a work day this felt routine and natural and I didn't dwell on her being gone, though I always miss her and hate the empty bed. When the three of us would hang out at his place I'd sometimes walk into his bathroom and see one of my wife's bathrobes hanging up next to his shower. I'd catch myself and remember, "Oh yeah, my wife sleeps here." Sort of a unique feeling.

My wife has done stayovers with many of her bulls. It turns us both on.

My wife occasionally stays overnight with a boyfriend at his place and a few times they have gone away for a few days together. We both love the increased intimacy this allows, when she tells me about it afterwards she seems to enjoy what she calls the closeness of the experience at least as much as the physical sex.

I enjoy the waiting and anticipation when I know she’s away, but I think my favourite is when it is unplanned and she phones late to ask if she can stay the night, especially if she calls me while she’s in bed with him. She’s usually a bit coy about telling me in front of him what they’ve been doing so just answers my questions with yes or no replies.

I felt real angst before the first night she stayed over at a boyfriend, i didn't sleep very well. But I liked it a lot anyway. I got some hot texts about how much better he is and stuff. It was hot when she came home happy and smelling like him and sex.

She didn't want to stay the night with a boyfriend at all back then, but me and her then boyfriend pursued her in doing so. She liked it a lot and still does if the man is right and nice enough for spending a night. Feels like a little horny holiday for her plus she likes waking up and fucking, something I never do.

annsman wrote: ↑

Tue Aug 13, 2024 10:59 am

My wife occasionally stays overnight with a boyfriend at his place and a few times they have gone away for a few days together. We both love the increased intimacy this allows, when she tells me about it afterwards she seems to enjoy what she calls the closeness of the experience at least as much as the physical sex.

I enjoy the waiting and anticipation when I know she’s away, but I think my favourite is when it is unplanned and she phones late to ask if she can stay the night, especially if she calls me while she’s in bed with him. She’s usually a bit coy about telling me in front of him what they’ve been doing so just answers my questions with yes or no replies.

That is very hot!

I think it's common, but have no real evidence other than conversations with other couples about their preferences.

We started out as a Hot Wife couple, then started swinging. We're now more into our original lifestyle, where Becky has casual sex with other guys.

Initially, the three of us would meet but with only her playing while I watched. We had an idea that it would be hot if I left while they were having sex. I would leave the room for an hour or so and we loved it. Then I started leaving the house and we loved that even more...! ! She'd text me when they had finished and I would collect her and thank him for making her happy.

We started liking the idea of her staying overnight and agreed to try it. We chose a guy she had fucked many times before and one that we felt comfortable with. It was extremely arousing for everyone. Nervous and horny in equal amounts.

It's now normal for her to stay overnight. Mostly with guys she has met previously but occasionally with a new guy.

Overnights with a new guy have to be planned carefully of course, but for us it's one of the most erotic experiences we can have.

So.....the fucking you're totally cool with but it's the sleeping that hangs you up?

Not "crazy" at all.
You say she has been seeing him for two years, and that he "knows his role" and that you trust him.

I don't see a problem. It sounds like you are both ok with it.

When my wife first did overnight stays with her long term boyfriend I was a bit bothered by it. But mainly because I just felt that I was missing out. And it wasn't much fun being at home by myself, while she was out playing, me knowing she wasn't returning till the following day.

What about him coming to your house and staying overnight in your bed? Does that idea excite you? That is my preference, but might not work for you.

trecital wrote: ↑

Fri Aug 16, 2024 1:55 am

Not "crazy" at all.
You say she has been seeing him for two years, and that he "knows his role" and that you trust him.

I don't see a problem. It sounds like you are both ok with it.

When my wife first did overnight stays with her long term boyfriend I was a bit bothered by it. But mainly because I just felt that I was missing out. And it wasn't much fun being at home by myself, while she was out playing, me knowing she wasn't returning till the following day.

What about him coming to your house and staying overnight in your bed? Does that idea excite you? That is my preference, but might not work for you.

When her lover stays overnight in your martial bed where are you? In the guest room? On travel?

isinlarsa wrote: ↑

Sat Aug 17, 2024 9:02 am

trecital wrote: ↑

Fri Aug 16, 2024 1:55 am

Not "crazy" at all.
You say she has been seeing him for two years, and that he "knows his role" and that you trust him.

I don't see a problem. It sounds like you are both ok with it.

When my wife first did overnight stays with her long term boyfriend I was a bit bothered by it. But mainly because I just felt that I was missing out. And it wasn't much fun being at home by myself, while she was out playing, me knowing she wasn't returning till the following day.

What about him coming to your house and staying overnight in your bed? Does that idea excite you? That is my preference, but might not work for you.

When her lover stays overnight in your martial bed where are you? In the guest room? On travel?

Spare bedroom/guest room. My wife, in the beginning, wanted both of us in the bed with her, after sex, to sleep. We've always had 6ft wide double beds, so there was space, just. But I value my sleep very highly (bear with sore head otherwise), so preferred to sleep on the sofa downstairs. Later, in a bigger house, I was able to take the guest bedroom.
Plus, as I became more of a cuckold, I was happier letting him have my space in our marital bed.
I preferred that he came to our house for the evening, for or fun. By staying the night he didn't have to worry about drinking then driving home.
Sometimes she goes to his house, and I stay home. These days I've got used to that (it's not too often), and don't have too much 'angst', thinking about what they are up to (I know what they're up to!).

echoplex wrote: ↑

Sun Aug 11, 2024 3:12 pm

My wife has a third that she has been playing with for over 2 years. He's a great third, knows his role, and I trust him enough that every time she plays with him, it's been solo. When she's out, she will usually fuck for 2-3 hours and then head home to me very late at night. She tells me the sex is amazing and it makes me want to tell her to stay the night and keep fucking, especially having morning sex.

I've mentioned this to my wife and the thought turns us both on. But, I'm wondering if this is a case where the fantasy is better than reality? Does anyone else do this?

It's hard but also exciting. I often don't sleep very well, constantly waking up, thinking about whether they are sleeping for a bit, exhausted from earlier sex, or if they are up again doing it again. I get horny thinking about it and play with myself until I dribble cum out.

I know, when my wife is with a real cocksman like her boyfriend, that she will love rolling over on his morning wood, and mounting him to ride him cowgirl style. On an overnight, she has told me that they have done it four to five times, with evening time, and the next morning.

When she gets home, she is completely exhausted and all she wants to do is go back to bed and sleep. I give her a hug, so that I can smell the smell of him and the sex. Then I go to the guest bedroom and play with myself for a while, just thinking about it.

Thank you to everyone who responded. It's encouraging to hear that it has been a positive experience for the people who have tried overnights. I expect my wife will get a chance to try it within the next few months and I feel much better knowing that I'm not crazy for encouraging her!