Going to “romantic” events

[AgentOrange]

Hi Everyone. So my question for you: My wife is obviously chatting to different guys regularly, some go on to be “short listed” and some don’t. One guy that she is seriously chatting to has asked her what she thinks about going out to events like concerts, hotel nights, fancy meals etc. This isn’t something that I’ve ever thought about and while our rules have touched on not being given gifts, I’d never thought about being bought a ticket for a concert or anything like that. Even if she was paying her own way, I don’t know how to feel about these events. Anyone else had this predicament?

[Bridget_Joshua]

Don't worry if your bond with wife is strong. Generally guys like to take the lady out as it helps them develop chemistry between them & consider it a good sign too as he does want to know your wife as a person. This is just beginning some assholes will try to steal ypur wife away but only your love for each other can help you overcome such situations. Your wife getting attention will increase only with time so make your bond strong as Husband & Wife, nothing shall worry you then.
You can message us anytime we will be happy to help.

[zorro]

When I was the extra guy, the usual arrangement was dutch treat, unless the HWH offered to pick up, which I accepted as a response to their being happy to have me join them in bed. There need not be an obligation to reciprocate if you don't make one.
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Although quite a few husbands here think they can have their wife fuck other men without developing feelings, that is utterly unrealistic escept in a sex club environment. Although some women can do that for a while, my experience is that women prefer to have some fondness, an emotiional connection to make the sex better for them.

Try it and communicate like hell about it affects both of you. The answer will likely be forthcoming if you can both be honest about your reactrions.
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[BT2]

My wife has been a hotwife for years, and I used to be a fb. I don't remember my wife ever being invited to anything more than a lunch or two
(I think her fbs were more interested in taking her to bed.). On the other hand, over the years I had taken dates to the theatre, the symphony, dinner, etc. I had to have developed a friendship before I invited them to such but at no time did I ever transfer my feelings for my wife to them, and I never noticed any of my "friends" ever develop any feelings their significant others had to worry about.

I never regarded it as a "predicament" either for my wife or for me.

[Natatude]

I am allowed to do that with my lover. Grizzly works a lot and can’t take me to events like that much, so my lover does. We go out to dinner, to concerts and movies and so on.

[AgentOrange]

Thanks for the input guys. And yes, to me I feel that going to meet a guy (that is well known at this stage), a few hours of drink and then sex (sometimes with a sleepover) is all fine and about sex, concerts, fancy hotel breaks etc does feel more emotional / romantic and that is where the jealousy kicks in and it does feel like feelings could develop

[zorro]

Thanks for the input guys. And yes, to me I feel that going to meet a guy (that is well known at this stage), a few hours of drink and then sex (sometimes with a sleepover) is all fine and about sex, concerts, fancy hotel breaks etc does feel more emotional / romantic and that is where the jealousy kicks in and it does feel like feelings could develop

As they should. People can and do develop feelings for other people.

Good communication and work on your own insecurity can pay great dividends.
Just sayin'.

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

Hello AgentOrange. Some of my wife and I best sex has been after another man has taken her to a wedding as his date. A man who cares enough to romantically date your wife only leads to better sex between you and your wife. Plus a much happier wife.

[annsman]

Hi Everyone. So my question for you: My wife is obviously chatting to different guys regularly, some go on to be “short listed” and some don’t. One guy that she is seriously chatting to has asked her what she thinks about going out to events like concerts, hotel nights, fancy meals etc. This isn’t something that I’ve ever thought about and while our rules have touched on not being given gifts, I’d never thought about being bought a ticket for a concert or anything like that. Even if she was paying her own way, I don’t know how to feel about these events. Anyone else had this predicament?

It’s not a predicament for us, it’s what we both want and works for us.

We both enjoy her having a proper boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, she wants to know that she means more to him than just someone to have sex with and I am turned on by the intimacy of it all.

[ucaneffher]

My then gf did everything with her lover/boyfriend. As long as your relationship is secure, you have good communication, and are both honest with each other then those outings should not be a problem. It will bond them and lead to better sex through their friendship/connection.

My gf would not have sex with men until they were friends and she felt a connection first, which is why she went to the movies, dancing, to bars, BBQs, and eventually weddings, holidays, and vacations.

Just give it some thought and see what you're comfortable with and what you're not comfortable with so you can find middle ground and compromise. Sit her down and tell her everything so that there's expectations from both sides.

[warmnsalty]

Agree with what others have said, it all depends on your relationship and communication level. Some couples enjoy a bf/long term intimate relationship. Others prefer to sport fuck, nothing more than physical attraction and good sex. If you feel comfortable with your wife going on dates/events then go for it. Give it a try, talk about it afterward and proceed accordingly with what makes you both comfortable. Mrs Warm does a variety of meets. Solo, one offs, I join/watch. She's gone to dinners, drinks, clubs. She's been on a few long distance trips, long weekends out of town, one guy took her as his date to a wedding - she got a kick out of that one. Had fun pretending to be this guys gf. This lifestyle should be fun for all, determine that "fun" is for you both and go for it.

[rogerbaulk]

The first guy my wife wanted to fuck was an ex-boyfriend from university... actually not a boyfriend, she never did anything with him, not even kiss... but he showed her some kindness. He came to visit us for ten days in Korea. She showed him round Korea, even sharing a room. They didn't do anything, but one night she confessed to me her feelings for him. I let her go to his room. They did everything but fuck. After he went back to America, she confessed that he was now her principal sex partner in her mind and heart, and that she wanted to have his baby. She said that if he visited again, she wanted to spend ten days in bed with him just fucking. I'd say she developed feelings for him.

[stonemtncouple]

As the Hubby I would welcome her Bulls treating her to first class entertainment, fine dinning, and top luxury hotels and resorts.
Her typical FWB’s are just interested in fucking her. This is more than acceptable since she is primarily interested in their hard cock but treating her to more than just sex would be a good time.

[wifelver]

I have no problem with this at all, especially if she enjoys it and it helps to strengthen their bond.
If your relationship is time tested and secure then go for it.

[dinoo]

Although quite a few husbands here think they can have their wife fuck other men without developing feelings, that is utterly unrealistic escept in a sex club environment. Although some women can do that for a while, my experience is that women prefer to have some fondness, an emotiional connection to make the sex better for them.

"Although some women can do that for a while, my experience is that women prefer to have some fondness, an emotiional connection to make the sex better for them."
About this you are right.

But I disagree, at least as far as we were concerned, with "Although quite a few husbands here think they can have their wife fuck other men without developing feelings, that is utterly unrealistic escept in a sex club environment."

In what became "our favorite" club, at which single me outnumbered couples by far, there were a lot of men who were aware of the fact that a more "romantic" approach helped them to "conquer" a woman. Having respect for a woman or having some communication helped them too was my experience. Satisfying my wife first was another approach.

For the sake of clarity: this does not mean my wife didn't have sex in this club without these benefits.
An example:
Sometimes we took a break to fill a gap. That was rare. I remember her lying on top of me and us making love for a while. I saw a good-looking man with a very big dick put on a condom, penetrate her without any communication and start fucking her hard and deep. Apparently it was so painful that I asked her if I should stop him.
“No, let him have his way” was her reply.
After he came, he disappeared as suddenly as he had come.
"What did he look like? How old was he?"
Very handsome and about 40 years old was my reply.
She: "I found it incredibly exciting that you had to physically experience every, sometimes painful thrusts. I enjoyed it myself. Isn't it hot to have to experience that you don't know me yet?
This is now the second time you wanted to intervene. Promise me you won't do that again. If necessary, I will make it known."

Dinoo

[dinoo]

Although quite a few husbands here think they can have their wife fuck other men without developing feelings, that is utterly unrealistic escept in a sex club environment.

Another shortened (real) example what can happen in a sex club.

Once in our favorite club, my wife played with a very heavily tattooed guy with a very thick Prince Albert piercing through his glans.
Nor was his appearance exactly the type I had expected from her. On the contrary, in fact.
But their intimate actions made it clear to me that she enjoyed his company. And that is putting it euphemistically.
One day later, when she told me her story, did I understand why.

My wife: ‘Rarely have I felt so comfortable with a complete stranger.
He radiated respect, always asking if I liked what he did to me.
And that sometimes went further than I have ever experienced.

He also allowed me to do everything. He not only showed me that he liked with what I did, he also kept telling me not to be afraid to go further. Like pulling on his piercing, turning it 360 degrees through his glans, sticking my tongue through it.

Rarely have I felt such a sexual connection with someone.
The respect, the unlimited frankness, his naughty games, the way he always kissed me tongue or caressed me. As if he was my most loving admirer. That's how I experienced it.'

[Pufferfish]

My wife often goes to concerts, bars, dinners, and the like. She usually tries to pay her own way, and sometimes does, but she doesn't protest if the guy really wants to pay, which is most of the time. I don't mind one bit. We have a rule that she won't go to their place alone, or sleep overnight, go out of town, etc. But for little in town dates she has a lot of fun.

[mychubbyhotwife]

Hi Everyone. So my question for you: My wife is obviously chatting to different guys regularly, some go on to be “short listed” and some don’t. One guy that she is seriously chatting to has asked her what she thinks about going out to events like concerts, hotel nights, fancy meals etc. This isn’t something that I’ve ever thought about and while our rules have touched on not being given gifts, I’d never thought about being bought a ticket for a concert or anything like that. Even if she was paying her own way, I don’t know how to feel about these events. Anyone else had this predicament?

A "date night" is an excellent way to get to know someone. To feel comfortable with them. Or not. It can be an ice breaker for the three of you. Or the two of them can spend the time at an "event" to have sex.