Trying not to get my hopes up

[ToesInTheWater]

My wife and I have fantasized about her being a hotwife for 10 years at this point.

But it's never happened.

One time she and I went to a club. She danced and made out with a couple of guys, which was incredible to watch. That's the closest we've ever come.

As of this morning, my wife is out of town for a work conference the next couple of days. It's hosted at a very fancy hotel, one she's excited to stay at.

In the weeks leading up to this, when we were fooling around in bed, she was the one who jokingly brought up the idea of finding someone to play with at this conference. We almost always do hotwifing/cuckolding pillow talk while we're intimate. I had frankly forgotten about this conference. But she brought it up a handful of times, which definitely got me going.

She was cool with the idea of me buying a pack of condoms and a small bottle of lube for her. Last night I showed her what I bought, and she suggested I put it in her suitcase for her, which I gladly did.

Then this morning I texted her after she left and asked if she packed anything sexy for her trip. She texted back, "I brought camisoles and lacy thongs."

Wow.

I highly doubt anything happens. I'd say there's a 10% chance at most.

But it's awesome that she's this into the idea. We've talked about hotwifing and cuckolding outside of the bedroom plenty of times. In principle she's open to it. She's just extraordinarily risk averse, so it's really difficult to imagine a scenario where she could meet someone safe in a way that wouldn't impact our lives otherwise.

With all that said, she sure seemed to enjoy the teasing in the lead up to this. And with how cool she was with the idea of me buying and packing condoms and lube for her, and on her own packing some sexy stuff to potentially wear...I won't lie, I'm a bit on fire.

I'll of course post any updates as I get them, though like I said, I'm not really expecting much of anything to actually happen. Even having this as an excuse to get the fantasy wheels turning at full throttle is a blast though.

[venus-can99]

Hopefully she is able to dip more than her toes in the "water" at the conference. Looking forward to updates...

[ToesInTheWater]

No kidding, right? That's very much my hope.

In the past, she's deliberately thrown some cold water on potential opportunities as they've neared. I think part of that was her not being super enthusiastic about actually engaging in real life, and some was to slow my roll in terms of how excited I was.

This time, I've kept a very low profile, again knowing the changes really are low that something would actually happen. But she was the one who brought it up a couple of times, and she was the one who pretty playfully asked me to pack the condoms and lube in her suitcase.

So I'm already over the moon that we've been able to have so much fun with things even as they are with this trip.

All that said, you never know. If the right guy approaches her in the right way, anything's possible.

[parklife]

Just want to say… just remember that whatever happens, you have already won.. you’ve got a wife that loves the fantasy with you, that plays along with it and who is having fun with it and as you said, you’re already on fire.

Enjoy… embrace it.. regardless of what does or doesn’t happen, this is a total win. As you said, anything is possible and someday, right guy, right time..

[rascalnvixen]

In situations like yours, you NEVER know!!!! It sounds like she is much more open to this happening on her trip than she has been in the past. The question in my mind is.... how will you feel if she does have full sex with a man or men at the conference. Is this what you really want??? Will it change anything for you if she does? Did you tell her that if she does have sex to take some pics or even a video for you??

Just random thoughts.

Rascal

[mrs_hotwifecplsa]

I agree you've already won. And I'm suspicious that she brought it up. don't be surprised that she may have someone in mind for this trip.

Just the fact that she made out with guys in a bar while you watched is a BIG deal. I'm hoping for success for you!

[hornedhubby]

My wife has never gone down the hotwife slide.

But for over 40 years some of our best HW role play fun has come while she was planning and while she was on an out of town work trip or conference. We had many a blast playing the fantasy. She also carried condoms, packed sexy panties, bras and outfits, wore her HW pendant around her neck. And we exchanged naughty emails while she was gone. It always felt like if she was going to become a hotwife, it would be while she was solo on the road.

My wife traveled frequently before covid and not at all since. I miss it.

Anyway, enjoy your fun and best luck!

[Gearup]

Here's hoping she has a fucking great time at her conference. It shouldn't take much to find a willing companion - most conferences are full of horny guys looking for some not so innocent fun while away from home

[BrunetteLover]

My wife has been active for about 14 years now, but I am always nearby. The thought of her leaving for a multi-day (and night!) conference without me (and horny, as your wife seems to be) would make me nuts.

[ToesInTheWater]

You folks are the best. Such excellent comments.

It's definitely right that we've already won. Just having a trip like this to ramp up the intensity of our fantasy scenarios is incredible. And the fact she's leaning so hard into the fantasy? It's amazing.

But yes, she knows just how badly I want her to sleep with another guy. When we have sex, I always pull out and finish myself off with my hand, with her lying next to me. I talk about the mental image of watching her getting fucked while I take care of myself.

I told her today I'd be jerking off like a mad man tonight imagining her getting fucked in her fancy hotel room.

I'm already two rounds in today. And I have at least one more in the chamber before the day's out.

She called briefly to discuss some family logistics. She said she was on her way down to the happy hour now that the conference day was over. That was nearly an hour ago. I'm of course not texting or otherwise bothering her. We'll see if she's able to stumble across any prospects. Who knows.

Regardless, excellent comments all around folks. It's much appreciated.

[Long Lurker 34]

You folks are the best. Such excellent comments.

It's definitely right that we've already won. Just having a trip like this to ramp up the intensity of our fantasy scenarios is incredible. And the fact she's leaning so hard into the fantasy? It's amazing.

But yes, she knows just how badly I want her to sleep with another guy. When we have sex, I always pull out and finish myself off with my hand, with her lying next to me. I talk about the mental image of watching her getting fucked while I take care of myself.

I told her today I'd be jerking off like a mad man tonight imagining her getting fucked in her fancy hotel room.

I'm already two rounds in today. And I have at least one more in the chamber before the day's out.

She called briefly to discuss some family logistics. She said she was on her way down to the happy hour now that the conference day was over. That was nearly an hour ago. I'm of course not texting or otherwise bothering her. We'll see if she's able to stumble across any prospects. Who knows.

Regardless, excellent comments all around folks. It's much appreciated.

TTW
- You will have to ask if she changed into something less business like for happy hour. And at any conference related dinner something a bit "GGrrr" to wear. And if she didn't pack anything like that, suggest she go shopping for something.
- Or if there were any guys she knew were going to be attending that she already had in mind. Though depending on any of your conversations with her go, perhaps wait until she's home. Then if there is it's something to have fun with and build on.

[BrunetteLover]

I worked security a few evenings for a conference that had some valuable doo-dads that had to have an eye kept of them. No one was going to steal anything, but the $$ was good.

What was the amazing part was how as the conference ended after a light afternoon meal, all these stuffed shirts went up to their rooms for a few hours.

A few hours later, similar men emerged (smelling better and without ties) but the WOMEN had undergone a total transformation. They looked like the female equivalent of a pack of hunters on the prowl. They were definitely the hunters, not the prey.

You could tell that the entire purpose of the evening hours was to pair off, and get back upstairs as soon as possible. The only trouble that entire gig was from a few guys who put booze ahead of pussy.

[Pufferfish]

Well, definitely enjoy this exciting adventure and do try not to get your hopes up too high as difficult as that will be. Sounds like it's been an amazing experience so far for the both of you. And the better this adventure goes... who know how much better the next one could. Enjoy the ride.

[Long Lurker 34]

I worked security a few evenings for a conference that had some valuable doo-dads that had to have an eye kept of them. No one was going to steal anything, but the $$ was good.

What was the amazing part was how as the conference ended after a light afternoon meal, all these stuffed shirts went up to their rooms for a few hours.

A few hours later, similar men emerged (smelling better and without ties) but the WOMEN had undergone a total transformation. They looked like the female equivalent of a pack of hunters on the prowl. They were definitely the hunters, not the prey.

You could tell that the entire purpose of the evening hours was to pair off, and get back upstairs as soon as possible. The only trouble that entire gig was from a few guys who put booze ahead of pussy.

BL - Exactly what I was thinking.

[Wantsomefunto]

Any update?

[ToesInTheWater]

Thanks folks for the excellent posts! An awesome combination of humor and wisdom in there.

Unfortunately nothing sexual happened for her at the conference. But she did have a long, drawn out flirting session with a guy her last night there.

He was married. They ended up sitting next to each other during an organized evening event. Then they paired up off to the side for a while.

She had a few drinks with him, and was waiting to figure out if it was going to go anywhere. He didn't make a move, so she eventually called it a night, telling him it was good to meet him and then heading upstairs.

That flirting session is giving us some fun material for bedroom fantasies.

And each step she takes like this, where she gets attention from an attractive guy and senses some sparks, is a really helpful part of what I imagine will be her ultimate progression to full on hotwifery at some point.

Fun times all around.

[venus-can99]

Thanks for the update. Her time at the conference can definitely be a fodder for your "pillow talk" and perhaps give her the confidence to take the next step.

[isinlarsa]

Although nothing happened, it's exciting to hear her say she was ready to respond if he made a move. Now she needs to meet a man who makes that move.

[ToesInTheWater]

Although nothing happened, it's exciting to hear her say she was ready to respond if he made a move. Now she needs to meet a man who makes that move.

That’s exactly right. Once she meets a man she likes who makes that move, it’ll be on.

She’s reasonably picky with guys, which of course is a good thing. It was cool that she met someone who checked the boxes she cares about. Now it seems like it’s more a matter of time than anything.

[rascalnvixen]

Although nothing happened, it's exciting to hear her say she was ready to respond if he made a move. Now she needs to meet a man who makes that move.

That’s exactly right. Once she meets a man she likes who makes that move, it’ll be on.

She’s reasonably picky with guys, which of course is a good thing. It was cool that she met someone who checked the boxes she cares about. Now it seems like it’s more a matter of time than anything.

And it can happen in a flash!!! You might not see it coming and then BOOM!!! It's all happening.

Rascal

[ToesInTheWater]

And it can happen in a flash!!! You might not see it coming and then BOOM!!! It's all happening.

Rascal

That’s simultaneously EXACTLY what I’m hoping for and trying to prepare myself for.

We’ve lived in fantasy land for so long that I’m sure there will be a transition for me when that switch is flipped in real life.

I’m not at all concerned about not responding well to it. But I know it’ll be a transition. So I’m kind of mentally modeling that all out as we go so I have the best chance possible of responding well to it, given it may happen very quickly and unexpectedly. Particularly given how enthusiastic she’s been about all of this somewhat recently.

[motivated hubby]

And it can happen in a flash!!! You might not see it coming and then BOOM!!! It's all happening.

Rascal

That’s simultaneously EXACTLY what I’m hoping for and trying to prepare myself for.

We’ve lived in fantasy land for so long that I’m sure there will be a transition for me when that switch is flipped in real life.

I’m not at all concerned about not responding well to it. But I know it’ll be a transition. So I’m kind of mentally modeling that all out as we go so I have the best chance possible of responding well to it, given it may happen very quickly and unexpectedly. Particularly given how enthusiastic she’s been about all of this somewhat recently.

Have you heard from her? Did anything happen?

[m030]

Can you encourage her to message the guy she flirted with?

[Fearlesspain]

Thanks for sharing your amazing story. Just the flirting is a big step. You're a lucky hubby!

[frank12]

Oh so many years ago, as my work lead me to attend many related conferences I had flirted only very lightly with one of the owners of a small company that was present at many of the related commercial exhibitions. She was very much the prim-and-proper CEO and very much in charge businesswoman but from time to time would join with a group of other presenters and customers at the conference hotel for a few minutes of drink and conversation after the commercial exhibits closed for the evening.

It was after one of those times that she and I found ourselves alone together in a conference hotel elevator and she mentioned that there were some additional information packets concerning some instrumentation my research group was considering purchasing up in her hotel room. The implications were obvious, and I understood. Some time later we had discovered that this prim-and-proper CEO who seemed aloof and reserved had a well hidden submissiveness that emerged as well as a secretive exhibitionist streak.

It was not an instantaneous decision for her to make that offer to come to her room, but one that had apparently been considered for some months. My very light flirting and gentlemanly behaviors were also a factor. She told me (some moths later when we again met at the next conference) that she was wondering how I would respond to that invitation. We enjoyed each other for many years till our changes in careers gave us no more conference opportunities.

So I would say the conference opportunities are real, and in part because they offer that "away from home" venue as well as some familiarity with the other attendees for some of those sorts of things.

Prof Wood