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Has anyone told their wife …..I’m ok being secondary husband ….giving her permission to have another man take over your wife as primary lover …
During this week, i noticed few changes and hints that wife was all over my cousin and showing sign of being in love with him ….their calls, text become couple conversations more then bf or fuck buddy …..

Yesterday as we had dinner, I told her that I was ok …if she was in love with him and he becomes lover and cohusband …she was shocked it came out of me …I told her i want this to be long term relationship and he will open many other door for other men in your life …as he 23 and we are 33 it will give more access to young sexy hunks ….

I did, I asked her FWB to become the man in her life. That was March 2019. She had his baby this past August. They decided they want another baby so that’s the plan.

sissy pauline

PANTIES wrote: ↑

Fri Oct 04, 2024 12:36 pm

I did, I asked her FWB to become the man in her life. That was March 2019. She had his baby this past August. They decided they want another baby so that’s the plan.

sissy pauline

Ohh wow ..how does the arrangement work

She’s currently living with him.

My wife, Maricel, and I never had this conversation, but her boyfriend, Adam, is definitely her primary sex partner. I’m much older than both Maricel and Adam, and my libido has waned over the years. I’m happy with sex every 2-3 weeks, on average. On the other hand, Maricel and Adam make love almost daily. I’m never denied, as such, since Maricel and I make love as much as I want or am able. Adam merely fills the gap. I’ve never needed to explicitly “give her away,” it’s simply how things have evolved.

DM

Partly.
After my wife fell in love with her steady lover, she told me that "our live would become different from now on".

You become a sister/bff.
Its an upgrade in some ways. But its makes you less sexually interesting- if at all. She won't enjoy anything sexual with you once she crosses it - even if she tries to, its only just for you.

Partially. I knew he was taking over as her primary lover but we still had intimate, orgasmic sex together.

bewareoflizzy wrote: ↑

Mon Oct 07, 2024 1:08 pm

Partially. I knew he was taking over as her primary lover but we still had intimate, orgasmic sex together.

Does your wife’s lover have more frequent sex with her?

My wife has had only one hotwife experience and it was kind of a one off experience. She knows she has complete acceptance and encouragement from me to do it again. She did express some discomfort at the time with having sex with two men on an ongoing basis. Eager for her to continue I assured her that I would have no problem being denied in favor of her new lover. In fact, I think it might be kind of hot (at least for a while).

I don't think it is a bad thing for a husband to be wife's primary emotional partner and her secondary sex partner. You need to have convos and temper your "fantasies" to see if this is something she would like. Set a reasonable minimum for you to be sexually intimate with your wife, such as at least once per week. And you should set a day for that. Not saying you can't have other sex but just that you need to connect sexually at least weekly. I'd recommend that a wife see her primary lover two to three times a week with one overnight per week included. The Ethical Slut is a good book to read together.

luvymayfly2 wrote: ↑

Thu Oct 17, 2024 8:39 am

And you should set a day for that.

Maybe a specific hour and minute. Restrict it to a maximum length of time too.

trecital wrote: ↑

Thu Oct 17, 2024 8:49 am

Maybe a specific hour and minute. Restrict it to a maximum length of time too.

I'd recommend an evening. There is scheduling so everyone knows that Monday night is spouse night. Being replaced as the wife's primary sex partner is enough to me. I don't think it needs to get into scheduling the specific time and duration.