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What do you think of the term "Bull"?

My wife hates it. She much prefers boyfriend or fuck buddy. To us, the term bull sounds a little degrading. Is that part of the appeal of using the term? Is the term bull used to signify the animal lust that is going on? Do cucks use the term bull when posting here but, would never use that term in front of their wives? Am I over-thinking this?

Don’t think my wife has ever used the term bull. Like the OP she likes the term Friend with Benefits. Bull just sounds too much like a one and done thing and she’s looking for something more meaningful and ongoing.

We never use it, it sounds goofy to me

My wife and I don't particularly care for it...and don't use it other than our posts on social media. Seems it's "the term" to use

We don’t like the term Bull. My wife either refers to him by his name, or “my boyfriend, a few times “my boy toy” . Although she does not refer to them “as my friend with benefits” that is what she considers them.

When discussing my relationships she and I both refer to her by her name or “my girlfriend”

I think the term 'bull' is mostly used as a sort of shorthand, or as a generic term. It's used in the same way that 'cuck' is used, as a general label.
That's fine when the conversation is just in general terms.
But, when the conversation is more specific, more individual, then neither term might be appropriate.

Personally I find 'bull' to be a bit derogatory, as it conjures up an image of an unsophisticated, big brutish animal. Which is perhaps quite insulting to many people. Then again, it might actually suit some people.

It's not ideal as a term, but with no better one available, then it can serve a purpose.

We've never used the word. It sounds degrading to both parties. I use "fb" when I've referred to a guy in my posts here, or "lover" when describing an action she was involved in. We usually refer to the guy by name in conversation.

I also consider "fuck her brains out" disrespectful. I think if I used that choice of words regarding my wife's hotwife activities, I'd be sleeping on the couch for a long time.

We’ve never used the term “bull” and I don’t even think my wife knows what it means in this respect. I use FWBs most often. My wife would just call them her friends. And when she has anything lined up, we often refer to them as play dates (something that has followed us from her early days when our kids were Youngs and involved in innocent playdates with friends… ). They had playdates and mommy had playdates… only with her last relationship did she ever even get comfortable with me just saying she had a ‘date’s

I find that frequently the term is used by single men and it usually comes off as egotistical. As a man of color the term I really, really have come to despise is BBC!

SCBlknNsty wrote: ↑

Mon Nov 04, 2024 1:24 pm

As a man of color the term I really, really have come to despise is BBC!

Can't say I blame you for that. We don't use it.

We never use the term “bull” either. It strikes us as crude and demeaning of women. My wife prefers to use the term “boyfriend” when referring to her boyfriends. <smile>

As for the “BBC” term we also find that offensive. For over 250+ years many white men had the legal right to rape women of color. The sexual politics of racism is deep. We feel that “BBC” only feeds off that brutal history of sexualized racism.

Agree with everyone here. Additionally, if a couple addresses the wife's side-man a "bull" then by default she becomes a cow.

Don't have a problem with, but then again, we're not PC.

We use the term quite often, but then, we own 15 currently.

Never cared for the term really, we always just called them by name.

Lisa has had several men that I would classify as "bull", but no matter what his status is, she calls them all her boyfriends or fuckfriends.

As a single guy I severely dislike the term "bull", but it's tough when describing myself since that's a word everyone in the lifestyle knows. I don't like the word "bull" because of what it implies in the lifestyle. The lifestyle is far more nuanced than that. I just call myself a third or a stud when talking to couples or setting up posts looking for couples. Being a "third" encapsulates everything. A stud is a horse that is generally brought out for a single purpose: fucking. And, for many couples, that's what us guys are. I've been more than just a stud for many couples, and for them I'm the boyfriend or boytoy.

The word “Bull” is really not used in a lot of cases because of it being “PC”, it’s a term used by sub couples who are looking for a dominant male who is there to help them with that missing dynamic.
This isn’t where are a lot of couples are at but some are

I've answered essentially the same question in an earlier post. My views haven't changed.

I find the animal referents grating. This is because I can't easily throw off the trace of the literal meaning. Bulls are big and muscly but pretty stupid and easily provoked. Not really my wife's type. Vixens - female foxes smell worse than cat pee. Not my wife. And stags - male deer, only in rut once a year? Not me either.

I do use those words, however, because there is a secondary meaning attached to them and, to that extent, the words communicate.

Parsifal wrote: ↑

Sat Nov 09, 2024 12:01 pm

I've answered essentially the same question in an earlier post. My views haven't changed.

I find the animal referents grating. This is because I can't easily throw off the trace of the literal meaning. Bulls are big and muscly but pretty stupid and easily provoked. Not really my wife's type. Vixens - female foxes smell worse than cat pee. Not my wife. And stags - male deer, only in rut once a year? Not me either.

I do use those words, however, because there is a secondary meaning attached to them and, to that extent, the words communicate.

Let's not forget that "stag" can also refer to a calf with one ball after a failed attempt at castration.

Her number1 wrote: ↑

Sat Nov 09, 2024 2:06 pm

Parsifal wrote: ↑

Sat Nov 09, 2024 12:01 pm

I've answered essentially the same question in an earlier post. My views haven't changed.

I find the animal referents grating. This is because I can't easily throw off the trace of the literal meaning. Bulls are big and muscly but pretty stupid and easily provoked. Not really my wife's type. Vixens - female foxes smell worse than cat pee. Not my wife. And stags - male deer, only in rut once a year? Not me either.

I do use those words, however, because there is a secondary meaning attached to them and, to that extent, the words communicate.

Let's not forget that "stag" can also refer to a calf with one ball after a failed attempt at castration.

Thanks, dear friend. That makes the referrent even less organic. At least a stag deer is a noble creature. But a poor half-steer earmarked, literally, for the table? There have to be better ways to talk about these relationships.

Depends on how it is used I suppose. We don’t really like it or use it ourselves. And actually, we dislike when someone uses the term “bull” as part of their screenname. Because it usually is a newbie wannabe guy who wants to be a “bull” or has fantasized about it but hasn’t actually experienced it yet.

I call them my lovers. Bull just seems off to me.

JJinMN wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 10, 2024 5:58 pm

we dislike when someone uses the term “bull” as part of their screenname.

Also 'alpha'. If you feel a need to tell everyone that you're an alpha male, you might not be.

(yes, I can see that you're online now, bradisalpha, and I am pulling your chain )