Our Hotwives

Dear Hotwives,
When a new partner asks you about your husband, what do you say?
He doesn't know
We have an open marriage
He likes to see me sexually fulfilled.
We're swingers
etc. etc.
My favourite is:
"What if your husband finds out?"
Of course he'll find out. I tell him everything".

What snappy returns have you Hotwives uttered to an inquiring third?

54321

Usually at the start she tells him that she doesn’t go behind my back so tells me everything and I don’t mind because I don’t get jealous. Sometime later she will tell him that it turns me/us on.

My wife simply responds by saying I know about her extra marital ectivities and am ok about them.

This will be helpful. Looking forward to the answers.

Anyone who she meets in a planned way is fully on the page with what we do and what we like.
Anyone who she meets in an unplanned way, like when she is on a night out, is under the belief that she cheating as she can't be bothered to explain it all for a one night stand.

I always let them know up front, that he is a straight stag and enjoys threesomes.

Nikkki started with "he doesn't know" as we enjoyed the cheating kink a lot. Her reply to Isaiah was " I don't hide anything, I just don't feel the need to explain myself unless i want to."

"He'll find out when I'm ready to tell him. He trusts me & i handle things my way"

Now she explicitly tells i am a cuck to her potential bulls. She has started telling them i can't handle watching but enjoy her being pleasured. This gives her converaation a bossy touch where she takes everything in her control be it me or her poteintial toy for the night.

Wife is not on here, but here’s her approach. She is great at flirting and if it gets heated up she tells him she is in an open marriage.

That usually leads to questions, particularly if the guy is vanilla, because most people can’t wrap their head around a married woman being able to have sex with someone other than her husband. They often ask if she’s a swinger and she will tell them “no” that she is a hotwife. Some guys get it and some don’t. If the guy is experienced in the lifestyle (most are not) it’s easier.

We also have good friends in the lifestyle and she’s is a beautiful hotwife. Depending on how she meets them she may tell them she is cheating because she has a cheating fetish. So I guess it’s up to whatever works for each couple.

I tell them I am a HotWife and hubby is a stag. And explain what that means if they have no clue.

That I’m a Hotwife (definition given if needed) and that my husband allows me to see other men, and I have FWB’s.

I also add that there are no secrets between my husband and I, that sometimes he joins or watches, and that he also dates other women occasionally.

That I’m a Hotwife (definition given if needed) and that my husband allows me to see other men, and I have FWB’s.

I also add that there are no secrets between my husband and I, that sometimes he joins or watches, and that he also dates other women occasionally.

Cool, matter of fact and informative. Love it!

54321

As far as my wife is concerned, if the guy can't get with the fact that she's a married woman (and mother) who is looking for sex with her husband's approval, then he can just be gone.

I’ve learned over time that these things never go the way you imagine at the start. Somewhat embarrassed that I had this fantasy in the first place, while I wanted my wife to have sex with other men, I didn’t necessarily want the guys to know that it turned me on i.e. that I wanted to be a cuckold in the traditional sense. Especially if it was someone who I knew.

When my wife finally acted on it, it was with a guy that I did not know. She told him I encouraged her to do it. I really didn’t care as it was a one time thing and I have never met him and likely ever will.

Shortly thereafter however she pursued a relationship with someone I did know and would see socially from time to time. She shared with him that I was ok with it as long as she told me after the fact. They never actually hooked up, but when I found out she told him I was ok with it, I got upset as the guy would now see me as a cuck. In her defense she offered that she didn’t want to be viewed as a cheater and in certain circumstances it would open more possibilities for her to fuck guys that had a moral code of not fucking someone’s wife (without permission that is). Ultimately I knew she was right and although she is not active in the lifestyle, she is now free to tell them ANYTHING that would facilitate it happening again.

My thoughts though are the hotwife thing is difficult for some to grasp. Isn’t it just easier for the wife to say she is in an “open” marriage. At least at the outset. Most guys are more familiar with that concept. Besides, why should her potential lover care if you are fucking another woman or not. If it turns out to be a long term gig, or if you’re involved in the fucking, or want it to go deeper cuckold, then sure, at that point you can educate him on the concept.

I’ve told my wife if a man she has any interest in asks if she is married, her response should simply be, “yes, but my husband is very open minded!”

My wife has said different things to different guys. She has primarily played only with male friends that she has had an existing relationship of some sort before. She did briefly flirt and go o a date with a guy she met at a club and she told him that she played with my permission. For another FWB she’s a cheating wife… another has been told that we have a one sided open marriage. I don’t believe she’s ever told someone that I get turned on with sharing her. That’s jus to between us. But, she has explained that I’m not the jealous type and that she is free to express herself in whatever way she chooses. That’s pretty much the closest to the truth. Some male friends she’d never dream of a sexual relationship… others, she’s open to exploring.

And she’s willing to run the gamut of cheating spouse to understanding husband. The only caveat is that she’s clear it’s her choice and this isn’t done for me. (She once had a former boyfriend try to engage with her and he kept suggesting he talk to me about it and ask me…. She kept explaining, I don’t own her, and it’s entirely up to her who and when she engages with other guys and her husband isn’t her gatekeeper. Dude ruined any chance he had because he couldn’t see her as the master of her domain so to speak)

Wife describes that as BFs

Most of C's lovers we've met online, usually through C/L, Doublelist, and Adultfriendfinder....so we're identifying ourselves as a cuckold couple up front. The guys she's met in public she usually just says "I have a open marriage from a sexual standpoint." One married bull told her immediately..."oh, your husband likes to watch you with guys with bigger dicks." So he got it immediately. Fortunately for her, he had the well endowed part covered quite nicely.

The first couple of men my wife went with after we got engaged; she wanted them to think she was cheating as she hated that so many people thought she was a sweet person. Whenever she went with a woman though, she always told them that I knew.
However, once she blew a colleague of hers off in front of me, she admitted to him that I liked her going with other men and after that, she told most of her lovers that I was a cuckold and that I would be eating their cum from her when I next saw her.
She did have one married boyfriend that, for a reason she could never explain, she let believe that I knew nothing about what she was doing. She cheated on me with the last person she went with when we were married and although she told him I knew about her previous lover, she told him that I knew nothing about him, until we decided to split up.

LongTermHubby wrote: ↑

Tue Dec 03, 2024 2:53 am

My wife simply responds by saying I know about her extra marital activities and am ok about them.

This is almost exactly the same as how my wife handles the subject early in the proceedings. "He's fine with it," is her expression, and she's most satisfied if the subject is no longer of interest for a while.

But from there, it can go in a number of directions. Some prospects are scared off by a husband being in the know. My wife once had a wonderful first lunch date with a fellow who was rather adamant that she not tell me. When she revealed that I was aware of their date, it was the last date he made with her.

Others take a keen interest in my knowing and find it somewhere on the spectrum between interesting and a positive turn-on. The degree they want me later involved is something that my wife and he work out.

Finally, when she does start seeing someone regularly, they both might get a thrill out of trysts that they keep to themselves. This also we're "all fine with."

As embarrassing as it maybe, the last 12 years she just says that while she is in a loving relationship with her husband and they have a good marriage, but that he (meaning me) was totally impotent and was incapable of even getting an erection and allows this

Natatude wrote: ↑

Wed Dec 11, 2024 7:56 pm

I tell them I am a HotWife and hubby is a stag. And explain what that means if they have no clue.

That is how Farmgirl does it . She doesn't use "stag", but rather hotwife husband, and explains how it works.

She simply tells her guy I'm her pencil dick cuckold and cannot satisfy her.............She tells them I like to watch and eat her cum filled pussy.
They always smile.............

My wife is very open and rarely goes 1:1 and then only with long-term FBs. So, it hasn't come up.

But one factor to keep in mind in that some extra guys don't want to take any chance at all of being shot if the husband finds out.

Conventional mindsets die slowly if at all.