New in Montreal
Posted: Sat Dec 28, 2024 5:16 pm
Hello all!
I'm a 47 year-old husband to the most amazing, beautiful, sexy woman in the world - Sara. We've been married 15 years now and have been together for almost twice that. We have everything you would think we could want - great family, income, etc. But the story is an old one - we had gotten lost in our intimate relationship, with a vicious circle of my passive aggressive reaction to the lack of intimacy and (as I found out later) her resentment of my attraction to her while she was losing hers to me. I have always been a big guy but I definitely had let myself go. We were still in love with each other but the spark was dead.
I have been doing much better since Covid to become healthier and take better care of myself. She definitely noticed but we were still only a once every month or three kind of rhythm. Recently two main revelations changed everything, at about the same time.
We were having our Nth discussion about our intimacy issues early this year and she told me about the resentment, after for so long blaming hormones, or potentially perimenopause, or just a lack of interest in sex altogether. I had never realized how hard this was on her, at least to what extent. I decided I needed to make a change - to stop being so passive aggressive and pouty and become a proper partner in our marriage. The other was that I knew going into our relationship she wasn't big on monogamy or even marriage - it was our love that led to our getting married and starting a family, but there was this effect of sidelining an important part of who she is as a woman. I had offered her the chance to explore with another woman but as we were having these frank, honest discussions she asked, "Well, what if I want to explore with a man?" At this point I immediately said that if that was what she needed I would support her.
This was, to put it mildly, shocking to her, but in a great way. While the idea started as a fantastical one divorced from reality, we became closer and closer together. Our sex life, especially as I was meaningfully trying to be a better husband to Sara, went from dead to regular, and then a few months later from regular to almost DAILY. We felt rejuvenated and were connecting on all levels, and I felt so happy, as Sara did as well. We often joked about her desire about a man different from me, which definitely spiced things up in the bedroom. I honestly want her to experience everything she desires, I love it when she cums for me and sometimes I think I enjoy that even more than when I cum, so this seems like a logical extension of that. We've been through the crucible and I feel like we have such a solid, open, transparent, new relationship that I completely trust her no matter what she wants to do - of course staying safe and private.
It also helped that I started running in May and added weight training in September. By now I've shed about 50 pounds.
Come November and Sara confided in me that it was when I told her I would be ok with allowing her to pursue outside sexual relationships (on her terms, with or without me) that she realized how much unconditional love I had for her, which in turn made her love me even more. It was like flipping a switch again and we became even closer and the sex became even better - almost overwhelming! The fantasy started taking shape - she has an attraction for guys who were basically the opposite of me - I'm a big guy, a bit soft (but getting better with the weight training, which she LOVES); but she always had a soft spot for guys who worked out and in great shape.
It became a yin and yang thing - she started fantasizing about having both me and another man, different in many ways. Another thing is I'm the smallest guy she's ever had (she's had about 10 sexual relationships total, me being the last), even though I'm a very average 5.5" (though I'm apparently the thickest as well). She finally admitted she did miss the feel of a bigger dick and that it would be nice to scratch that itch.
All through this I'm sharing resources to her, we're talking about hotwifing and what that could look like for us. As much as I get it for those who enjoy it, we're not interested at all in a cuck dynamic - she has taken to calling me her stag as much as I call her my hotwife. It's important for us that any bull or outsider understand and respects both of us and never puts either of us down.
The last few days have been a complete whirlwind. We had an extra phone after an upgrade and I mentioned I could get a line for her to explore with. She happily agreed and two days ago we set up her new phone line. Last night she plunged in and set up a profile on Feeld on the separate phone (to maintain privacy from our kids and family), but she surprised me in that she wanted to add some pics. We found four great (IMO, she's constantly self-deprecating) pics, three from our weekend trip to Vegas last month (I told you - we're like kids in love again!) where she looked freaking amazing (and wore the anklet I got her, btw!). We covered up the top half of her face but you can see her smile in each picture.
Her profile was simple but basically said she was a wife to me, that I had taken to calling her a hotwife and she was definitely new to this but wanted to explore. She set up a bunch of likes (including FF and MFF which surprised me!) and went live around midnight. The likes started coming in. Then the pings. Then pings with messages. It was like a flood. Some guys were not interesting but there were guys who were RIPPED, who were giving her compliments about her amazing smile. She has a great body too - talking 32FF, medium waist, curves in ALL the RIGHT places. She hit it off with two pings in particular - one who was ready to meet her basically right away, a younger guy with a what looks like an eight-pack becuase six-pack didn't do it justice (EDIT A WEEK LATER: THIS IS J!) and another guy more our age who had a great vibe and looked interesting to her (This is Y). To both she explained she was brand new to this and taking it slow, and both guys were gentlemen. The first suggested exchanging pics and she told me that maybe she could take a pic in a bra and panties to send him soon which was a great surprise to me. The second was far more suave, welcomed her to the lifestyle and offered to help guide her through her first steps. She seems more interested in him and I feel more at ease with him too, just looking over her shoulder at this point. I should also mention so far she wants me there, at least at first.
It's now 21 hours later. The woman who always feels she's not beautiful, that she's not sexy or desirable, that maybe I feel that way but no other guys would (and even through our history I've always told her how beautiful and sexy she is, but she's had a lot of Catholic upbringing to get over!) - Sara, my amazing, gorgeous hotwife, has 400 likes!! She is flabbergasted, and I am too a bit, but for a different reason - we have never used apps as our relationship predates almost all of them and I had no idea how many people were on them. It's all very exciting but also very surreal how quickly this is moving.
There's more detail but this is getting long. I have told her about this place and told her I would post to introduce her story, then she'll register later (tonight or tomorrow maybe) so she can get verified and ask the great women here about their experiences, what to look out for, etc...
So Sara and I are not a hotwife and stag YET, but it feels inevitable at this point. As I continue to tell her just because I want her to make this decision as independently as possible - the door is open but it is her choice to go through it, and even if she does it is her choice whether to go through once or make it a part of our life. I'll also say I am so happy we are at this point, because even if she backs out now or later, she finally has proof I wasn't just being a nice guy when I tell her how amazingly sexy and beautiful she is.
I'm a 47 year-old husband to the most amazing, beautiful, sexy woman in the world - Sara. We've been married 15 years now and have been together for almost twice that. We have everything you would think we could want - great family, income, etc. But the story is an old one - we had gotten lost in our intimate relationship, with a vicious circle of my passive aggressive reaction to the lack of intimacy and (as I found out later) her resentment of my attraction to her while she was losing hers to me. I have always been a big guy but I definitely had let myself go. We were still in love with each other but the spark was dead.
I have been doing much better since Covid to become healthier and take better care of myself. She definitely noticed but we were still only a once every month or three kind of rhythm. Recently two main revelations changed everything, at about the same time.
We were having our Nth discussion about our intimacy issues early this year and she told me about the resentment, after for so long blaming hormones, or potentially perimenopause, or just a lack of interest in sex altogether. I had never realized how hard this was on her, at least to what extent. I decided I needed to make a change - to stop being so passive aggressive and pouty and become a proper partner in our marriage. The other was that I knew going into our relationship she wasn't big on monogamy or even marriage - it was our love that led to our getting married and starting a family, but there was this effect of sidelining an important part of who she is as a woman. I had offered her the chance to explore with another woman but as we were having these frank, honest discussions she asked, "Well, what if I want to explore with a man?" At this point I immediately said that if that was what she needed I would support her.
This was, to put it mildly, shocking to her, but in a great way. While the idea started as a fantastical one divorced from reality, we became closer and closer together. Our sex life, especially as I was meaningfully trying to be a better husband to Sara, went from dead to regular, and then a few months later from regular to almost DAILY. We felt rejuvenated and were connecting on all levels, and I felt so happy, as Sara did as well. We often joked about her desire about a man different from me, which definitely spiced things up in the bedroom. I honestly want her to experience everything she desires, I love it when she cums for me and sometimes I think I enjoy that even more than when I cum, so this seems like a logical extension of that. We've been through the crucible and I feel like we have such a solid, open, transparent, new relationship that I completely trust her no matter what she wants to do - of course staying safe and private.
It also helped that I started running in May and added weight training in September. By now I've shed about 50 pounds.
Come November and Sara confided in me that it was when I told her I would be ok with allowing her to pursue outside sexual relationships (on her terms, with or without me) that she realized how much unconditional love I had for her, which in turn made her love me even more. It was like flipping a switch again and we became even closer and the sex became even better - almost overwhelming! The fantasy started taking shape - she has an attraction for guys who were basically the opposite of me - I'm a big guy, a bit soft (but getting better with the weight training, which she LOVES); but she always had a soft spot for guys who worked out and in great shape.
It became a yin and yang thing - she started fantasizing about having both me and another man, different in many ways. Another thing is I'm the smallest guy she's ever had (she's had about 10 sexual relationships total, me being the last), even though I'm a very average 5.5" (though I'm apparently the thickest as well). She finally admitted she did miss the feel of a bigger dick and that it would be nice to scratch that itch.
All through this I'm sharing resources to her, we're talking about hotwifing and what that could look like for us. As much as I get it for those who enjoy it, we're not interested at all in a cuck dynamic - she has taken to calling me her stag as much as I call her my hotwife. It's important for us that any bull or outsider understand and respects both of us and never puts either of us down.
The last few days have been a complete whirlwind. We had an extra phone after an upgrade and I mentioned I could get a line for her to explore with. She happily agreed and two days ago we set up her new phone line. Last night she plunged in and set up a profile on Feeld on the separate phone (to maintain privacy from our kids and family), but she surprised me in that she wanted to add some pics. We found four great (IMO, she's constantly self-deprecating) pics, three from our weekend trip to Vegas last month (I told you - we're like kids in love again!) where she looked freaking amazing (and wore the anklet I got her, btw!). We covered up the top half of her face but you can see her smile in each picture.
Her profile was simple but basically said she was a wife to me, that I had taken to calling her a hotwife and she was definitely new to this but wanted to explore. She set up a bunch of likes (including FF and MFF which surprised me!) and went live around midnight. The likes started coming in. Then the pings. Then pings with messages. It was like a flood. Some guys were not interesting but there were guys who were RIPPED, who were giving her compliments about her amazing smile. She has a great body too - talking 32FF, medium waist, curves in ALL the RIGHT places. She hit it off with two pings in particular - one who was ready to meet her basically right away, a younger guy with a what looks like an eight-pack becuase six-pack didn't do it justice (EDIT A WEEK LATER: THIS IS J!) and another guy more our age who had a great vibe and looked interesting to her (This is Y). To both she explained she was brand new to this and taking it slow, and both guys were gentlemen. The first suggested exchanging pics and she told me that maybe she could take a pic in a bra and panties to send him soon which was a great surprise to me. The second was far more suave, welcomed her to the lifestyle and offered to help guide her through her first steps. She seems more interested in him and I feel more at ease with him too, just looking over her shoulder at this point. I should also mention so far she wants me there, at least at first.
It's now 21 hours later. The woman who always feels she's not beautiful, that she's not sexy or desirable, that maybe I feel that way but no other guys would (and even through our history I've always told her how beautiful and sexy she is, but she's had a lot of Catholic upbringing to get over!) - Sara, my amazing, gorgeous hotwife, has 400 likes!! She is flabbergasted, and I am too a bit, but for a different reason - we have never used apps as our relationship predates almost all of them and I had no idea how many people were on them. It's all very exciting but also very surreal how quickly this is moving.
There's more detail but this is getting long. I have told her about this place and told her I would post to introduce her story, then she'll register later (tonight or tomorrow maybe) so she can get verified and ask the great women here about their experiences, what to look out for, etc...
So Sara and I are not a hotwife and stag YET, but it feels inevitable at this point. As I continue to tell her just because I want her to make this decision as independently as possible - the door is open but it is her choice to go through it, and even if she does it is her choice whether to go through once or make it a part of our life. I'll also say I am so happy we are at this point, because even if she backs out now or later, she finally has proof I wasn't just being a nice guy when I tell her how amazingly sexy and beautiful she is.
