Cuckolding intro for new people
Posted: Fri Jan 03, 2025 2:27 pm
Some people have said they struggle to reach our blog so I'm posting an intro post from there because I think some people will be interested in the content and may want to comment on it.
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2025 will be a special year for us since it’s our 25-year silver anniversary. 25 years of happy, strong marriage. In this blog we hope to share what we’ve learned over those 25 years, what has deepened our love and connection together and to share lessons and secrets that are rarely openly discussed but which have attributed to our strong long-lasting marriage. We feel this is important particularly in a society that is very narrow minded about what a good marriage should be, ignoring high and growing divorce rates and ignoring evidence about what is needed for a modern successful marriage.
To begin with in this first post we will give a brief introduction to who we are, we will set out some views and beliefs on modern society and set out some early insights on how our marriage differs from what is considered a boilerplate marriage.
Introductions
Hello, I’m Mrs J, a very happily married wife living in the UK with my husband and family. I’m degree educated and a career woman, working in a professional science-based industry while also being a wife and mother. I met my husband in my early 20’s through a mutual friend and I fell in love very quickly, we just had a great chemistry and connection from the beginning.
Hello, I’m Mr D, an even more happily married husband who still can’t believe how fortunate I’ve been to spend my life with my beautiful wife who is also my best friend. I’m a proud father and work in a professional industry in management. Also, very career minded but nothing pleases me more than seeing my wife happy and content.
Our early years of marriage
We actually got engaged after just a few months of dating because we both knew that we wanted to spend our lives together. But we waited a few years to marry, using that time to travel the world on vacations when we could, enjoy some nightlife and save for our dream wedding.
We had an active sex life together and we made a promise to be open together and to avoid keeping secrets, particularly since we’d both seen our parents keep secrets that didn’t help with their marriages.
By the time our wedding day came along we both understood each other very well and were well on the way of not only sharing fantasies together of other men in the bedroom but also starting to discuss how we might explore that safely in our married life. We had in fact been to a swinging club and dipped our toes in the swinging lifestyle but had found it really wasn’t what we were looking for.
The problem with swinging for us is that we felt it didn’t add to our relationship but rather it added fun things that didn’t work to draw us closer.
Hotwife and cuckold scene
At its core, these scenes are about recognising that no couple is expert in all the areas necessary for a happy and content marriage. A strong, content marriage should be willing to recognise this reality, be open together about it, and supplement those areas that would benefit from something extra.
It’s sort of like the husband as a chef. Few men are actually chef’s so it’s nice to treat your partner from time to time to a meal out, cooked by a chef who really knows how to work magic in the kitchen. Well, the bedroom is no different, it’s unrealistic to expect the husband to be a good lover, listener, best friend, provider, husband, father and physical pleaser in the bedroom. In fact, this adds pressure to the male to excel in all areas and that creates tension in the home, negative feelings, sometimes resentment, frustration and problems that eat away at the marriage.
There are few things more fun and confidence building than sitting in a restaurant opposite an attractive guy, flirting together sexually, then settling the bill as we look at each other smiling like teenagers and announce it’s time to head to bed for some dessert. Knowing my husband will have changed the sheets and done everything to ensure that the night would be enjoyable for me and this new man.
My husband is happy and full of joy from giving me this or even being there to watch and enjoy the action that follows, I’m happy and full of joy from the new connection and great sex and the bull is happy and full of joy from the special night of great sex without the commitment of marriage.
Roles
To be clear, the roles in this lifestyle of distinct and fit naturally with the personalities of each individual.
Hotwife — The hotwife is the wife who is encouraged to engage in physical fulfilment with men other than her husband. The wifes role is to be “the queen” in the marriage, desirable and fun. Her role is to have fun and pleasure while ensuring bulls are satisfied and their husband is less pressured and freer and more confident to be a lover and best friend.
Cuck or Stag — The husband’s role is to ensure their wife is happy, loved, provided for emotionally and cared for. There’s no pressure to perform physically, the husband is the provider and lover of the heart. The exact nature of physical connection varies in relationships and can evolve over time. Some husbands continue to have sexual relationships with their wives although this can negate some of the benefit of knowing more skilled alpha bulls are able to perform far better. Many husbands abstain from sexual relations altogether, getting a much deeper satisfaction from watching or listening to the act. Women can struggle to understand this, but men’s brains are wired to be excited by images and sounds and so seeing his wife in an act of total pleasure can deliver far more fulfilment than sex itself while removing fears and pressure from the husband. A man who chooses to abstain is called a cuckold and it can be the most fulfilling experience for a man. Feel free to experiment and find what works. Some husbands like to watch respectfully, often husbands enjoy the feelings of humiliation in a very deep and erotic way and having the wife and her bull verbally add to the humiliation can be incredible for all three partners. Mr D loves to have size comparisons and some taunting during sexual acts, it adds to the experience in a very primal way. Having Mrs J tell him that this bull is pleasing her in ways that he never could releases sexual endorphins that leave him wanting more.
Bull — The bull is the outsider in the relationship, there to give satisfaction to the hotwife and to ensure the cuckold gets from the experience what he needs also. He’s there to add to the relationship by giving an experience that meets the needs of the couple as well as his own needs. His personality is often confident, dominant, a Master in the bedroom but also someone who doesn’t want to settle for one woman in marriage. He’s an alpha, a bull, there to give and take pleasure.
Finishing thoughts
Hotwifing and cuckolding doesn’t fit every couple but neither does traditional marriage. Every couple should at least consider the relationship dynamic and other relationship dynamics, not just at the start of a relationship but throughout since individual needs change over time. You want the best for your partner and your relationship, so look outwards about how best to deliver that.
Cuckolding is on the rise as a relationship choice for couples brought about from positive stories from friends and in the media about the benefits this lifestyle brings. It builds strong, lasting and very fun marriages full of excitement and adventure.
You will meet attractive, fun bulls who are just ordinary men not looking for marriage but a natural alpha need and tendency towards dominance and pleasure in the bedroom. Cucks make new friends with the bulls and get to admire them.
There are clubs and parties that cater for the lifestyle, there are special cuckolding and hotwife dating sites and apps for meeting bulls. Some choose to only have short term arrangements with bulls, preferring to meet bulls only once or a few times while others like to form long term arrangements that can stretch for years. The benefit of long-term arrangements is it gives more time to learn what each other enjoys and while safe sex is important for short random experiences it becomes optional for longer term arrangements. It’s even possible to make birth control entirely absent but only if all three parties understand the implications.
https://www.quora.com/Is-cuckolding-bec ... re-popular
https://edition.cnn.com/2018/01/25/heal ... index.html
https://www.yahoo.com/news/many-couples ... 00336.html
https://www.apa.org/monitor/2011/10/cuckoldry
https://www.brainzmagazine.com/post/the ... -and-trust
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2025 will be a special year for us since it’s our 25-year silver anniversary. 25 years of happy, strong marriage. In this blog we hope to share what we’ve learned over those 25 years, what has deepened our love and connection together and to share lessons and secrets that are rarely openly discussed but which have attributed to our strong long-lasting marriage. We feel this is important particularly in a society that is very narrow minded about what a good marriage should be, ignoring high and growing divorce rates and ignoring evidence about what is needed for a modern successful marriage.
To begin with in this first post we will give a brief introduction to who we are, we will set out some views and beliefs on modern society and set out some early insights on how our marriage differs from what is considered a boilerplate marriage.
Introductions
Hello, I’m Mrs J, a very happily married wife living in the UK with my husband and family. I’m degree educated and a career woman, working in a professional science-based industry while also being a wife and mother. I met my husband in my early 20’s through a mutual friend and I fell in love very quickly, we just had a great chemistry and connection from the beginning.
Hello, I’m Mr D, an even more happily married husband who still can’t believe how fortunate I’ve been to spend my life with my beautiful wife who is also my best friend. I’m a proud father and work in a professional industry in management. Also, very career minded but nothing pleases me more than seeing my wife happy and content.
Our early years of marriage
We actually got engaged after just a few months of dating because we both knew that we wanted to spend our lives together. But we waited a few years to marry, using that time to travel the world on vacations when we could, enjoy some nightlife and save for our dream wedding.
We had an active sex life together and we made a promise to be open together and to avoid keeping secrets, particularly since we’d both seen our parents keep secrets that didn’t help with their marriages.
Being able to talk together about sexual dreams, fantasies, worries and wants brought us closer. Unlike other couples we knew, we could talk freely together without judgement. That actually made it easier to talk about anything together whether it was work worries, families, friends or anything else on our minds. If you take nothing else away from this blog we would encourage you to be open and honest together about anything on your minds including sex. Keeping things hidden from each other will only push you apart over time, so don’t judge, listen, speak from the heart and be willing to see how you can give each other what you want.Mrs J: One thing I decided to be open about with my husband was that I hadn’t had a lot of partners, not compared to some of my friends. I’d slept with 8 men in total which I felt wasn’t a lot especially considering my high sex drive. But I would be committed to him physically as he wanted.
Mr D: One thing I struggled to be open about and didn’t talk about for the first year was that I had a deep fantasy of seeing my beautiful partner with another man. It was, I think, a result of my submissive nature, I just liked the idea of seeing the most beautiful woman in my life “working her magic” with a more dominant alpha male. Any fantasies I had were of my fiancé, she was the erotic star of my dreams.
By the time our wedding day came along we both understood each other very well and were well on the way of not only sharing fantasies together of other men in the bedroom but also starting to discuss how we might explore that safely in our married life. We had in fact been to a swinging club and dipped our toes in the swinging lifestyle but had found it really wasn’t what we were looking for.
The problem with swinging for us is that we felt it didn’t add to our relationship but rather it added fun things that didn’t work to draw us closer.
We discussed this with some friends in the swinging scene and they directed us to look at the wife and cuckolding scene which might be a better fit for us. These were new terms to us but we went out and read up more and we agreed to explore this scene together, to see if it would add to our relationship.Mrs J: I could never get used to the idea of my man with another woman. I would always get jealous, in part because I felt I was lacking in some physical areas. I’m short at just under 5 foot, I’m not some tall leggy blond but rather a short Asian girl. I told my husband this and was very understanding and appreciative that I was open to him about this.
Mr D: Swinging is fun but I found I actually got most of my enjoyment from seeing my wife with other men. It’s like seeing a porn movie with the dream female star and a cast of expert actors. When my wife told me she was jealous of me with other females I was only too happy to agree to not be with other women, but I was honest and told my wife that I would dearly miss seeing her with other men. That was what I found mentally and physically most enjoyable.
Hotwife and cuckold scene
At its core, these scenes are about recognising that no couple is expert in all the areas necessary for a happy and content marriage. A strong, content marriage should be willing to recognise this reality, be open together about it, and supplement those areas that would benefit from something extra.
It’s sort of like the husband as a chef. Few men are actually chef’s so it’s nice to treat your partner from time to time to a meal out, cooked by a chef who really knows how to work magic in the kitchen. Well, the bedroom is no different, it’s unrealistic to expect the husband to be a good lover, listener, best friend, provider, husband, father and physical pleaser in the bedroom. In fact, this adds pressure to the male to excel in all areas and that creates tension in the home, negative feelings, sometimes resentment, frustration and problems that eat away at the marriage.
A friend said to me that it’s one thing to have your husband tell you that you are sexy and to look at you with hunger in his eyes, it’s another to have another man do that. Your husband is meant to admire you, that’s why he married you, having the affirmation of another man do that keeps it current and genuine.Mr D: After a long day at work, I sometimes remember to bring home flowers or chocolates, but not as often as I should. I take the time to listen to my wife about her day and she listens to me about my day. I’m not a natural listener but it’s a skill I’ve become better at. But I’ve usually not got the energy left for physical passion and when we do have sex I feel I must perform, usually finishing too quickly. I’m not very big down there, and I know I don’t last long and while my wife says she doesn’t mind, I know she is missing out on fulfilment. This makes me feel bad and adds pressure on top of everything else. Knowing that I’m encouraging my wife to have those needs met by alpha males is a gift I can give and definitely leads to a happier, more content wife and a happier home and closer bond between us.
Mrs J: I really wasn’t sure about this when we started, it felt wrong and dirty. In fact, nothing could be further from the truth. It’s our special secret together as a couple, I’ve seen the pressure taken away from my husband to feel he needs to perform physically, and it keeps our marriage fresh and exciting. Whether my husband is there watching and enjoying seeing me in the throws of a genuine orgasm with a skilled bull, whether I’m out alone on a date with a new bull, these things all add to my confidence and joy.
There are few things more fun and confidence building than sitting in a restaurant opposite an attractive guy, flirting together sexually, then settling the bill as we look at each other smiling like teenagers and announce it’s time to head to bed for some dessert. Knowing my husband will have changed the sheets and done everything to ensure that the night would be enjoyable for me and this new man.
My husband is happy and full of joy from giving me this or even being there to watch and enjoy the action that follows, I’m happy and full of joy from the new connection and great sex and the bull is happy and full of joy from the special night of great sex without the commitment of marriage.
Roles
To be clear, the roles in this lifestyle of distinct and fit naturally with the personalities of each individual.
Hotwife — The hotwife is the wife who is encouraged to engage in physical fulfilment with men other than her husband. The wifes role is to be “the queen” in the marriage, desirable and fun. Her role is to have fun and pleasure while ensuring bulls are satisfied and their husband is less pressured and freer and more confident to be a lover and best friend.
Cuck or Stag — The husband’s role is to ensure their wife is happy, loved, provided for emotionally and cared for. There’s no pressure to perform physically, the husband is the provider and lover of the heart. The exact nature of physical connection varies in relationships and can evolve over time. Some husbands continue to have sexual relationships with their wives although this can negate some of the benefit of knowing more skilled alpha bulls are able to perform far better. Many husbands abstain from sexual relations altogether, getting a much deeper satisfaction from watching or listening to the act. Women can struggle to understand this, but men’s brains are wired to be excited by images and sounds and so seeing his wife in an act of total pleasure can deliver far more fulfilment than sex itself while removing fears and pressure from the husband. A man who chooses to abstain is called a cuckold and it can be the most fulfilling experience for a man. Feel free to experiment and find what works. Some husbands like to watch respectfully, often husbands enjoy the feelings of humiliation in a very deep and erotic way and having the wife and her bull verbally add to the humiliation can be incredible for all three partners. Mr D loves to have size comparisons and some taunting during sexual acts, it adds to the experience in a very primal way. Having Mrs J tell him that this bull is pleasing her in ways that he never could releases sexual endorphins that leave him wanting more.
Bull — The bull is the outsider in the relationship, there to give satisfaction to the hotwife and to ensure the cuckold gets from the experience what he needs also. He’s there to add to the relationship by giving an experience that meets the needs of the couple as well as his own needs. His personality is often confident, dominant, a Master in the bedroom but also someone who doesn’t want to settle for one woman in marriage. He’s an alpha, a bull, there to give and take pleasure.
Finishing thoughts
Hotwifing and cuckolding doesn’t fit every couple but neither does traditional marriage. Every couple should at least consider the relationship dynamic and other relationship dynamics, not just at the start of a relationship but throughout since individual needs change over time. You want the best for your partner and your relationship, so look outwards about how best to deliver that.
Cuckolding is on the rise as a relationship choice for couples brought about from positive stories from friends and in the media about the benefits this lifestyle brings. It builds strong, lasting and very fun marriages full of excitement and adventure.
You will meet attractive, fun bulls who are just ordinary men not looking for marriage but a natural alpha need and tendency towards dominance and pleasure in the bedroom. Cucks make new friends with the bulls and get to admire them.
There are clubs and parties that cater for the lifestyle, there are special cuckolding and hotwife dating sites and apps for meeting bulls. Some choose to only have short term arrangements with bulls, preferring to meet bulls only once or a few times while others like to form long term arrangements that can stretch for years. The benefit of long-term arrangements is it gives more time to learn what each other enjoys and while safe sex is important for short random experiences it becomes optional for longer term arrangements. It’s even possible to make birth control entirely absent but only if all three parties understand the implications.
Some things to readMrs J: Looking back I had a lot of nerves and doubts about anything beyond a traditional marriage, there were just so many things I imagined going wrong. What about disease or pregnancy? What if I fell in love with a bull? What if my husband thought less of me? What if someone found out? The list went on and on. But looking back over our marriage I can say that these worries are imagined and easy to deal with, they are just things we tell ourselves to remain constrained to a traditional marriage model. I don’t know if we would be together if we didn’t embrace this lifestyle because I know how much it has brought us closer together and helped us to build a happy home and marriage. I would encourage anybody to at least think about it, research it and sample it because there are just so many benefits.
Mr D: I feel blessed to have a wife who shares the same passion for the lifestyle. It has allowed me to focus on my strengths without worrying about my weaknesses. I can work and study, provide an income, be an emotional support as a good husband should be. I can be a good parent, a best friend and confident to my wonderful wife. And I get to watch the most incredible sex and hear about my wifes wild adventures when I’m not around. I’ve met some wonderful bulls over the years who I will be eternally grateful to for giving my wife and I such fun memories.
https://www.quora.com/Is-cuckolding-bec ... re-popular
https://edition.cnn.com/2018/01/25/heal ... index.html
https://www.yahoo.com/news/many-couples ... 00336.html
https://www.apa.org/monitor/2011/10/cuckoldry
https://www.brainzmagazine.com/post/the ... -and-trust