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As my wife has been in this lifestyle since our mid 20s and as we are nearing our mid thirties…through this journey she has developed certain standards for herself. At the beginning she would go out with somewhat good looking or any decent hook up that she found attractive…

Now she has developed a standard for herself and she is very picky and she has type of men she dates and have active relationships.

To me that’s what this lifestyle is all about. The wife enjoying something she can’t get at home. That might be too broad of a generalization. Not meant in an offensive way.

I have standards, they must be good looking to me and dress nice. The first thing I notice is their smile and teeth! That is a huge turn on for me. I am 5’9 so I want someone taller than 6’0. My husband is well endowed so I prefer someone smaller in length. That’s one of the first questions I ask. How big is your dick hard! lol I also prefer bearded men.

Massage4Wife72 wrote: ↑

Wed Jan 15, 2025 11:12 am

To me that’s what this lifestyle is all about. The wife enjoying something she can’t get at home. That might be too broad of a generalization. Not meant in an offensive way.

Not offensive at all..that’s why we are in this lifestyle and journey
Your right, she is getting some at home and now she is been deeply into this lifestyle she has gotten better then me and most importantly variety…add fun and being with different men adds spice to both of our life …

Times have changed her attitude, confidence , looks and feelings how good she is …thus she doesn’t go for any simple guys. Basically she has developed a standard of guys she looks for ….based on her desires and needs of men. At the beginning when we started …it began with a thril of being with another man….now she bucket list of things she needs in man…

My wife has more long term friends-with-benefits situations which I think go hand in hand with standards. Granted, what those are how they change is entirely up to her and I can’t say there is a lot of commonality between the guys she’s had those relationships with since she began. She my sure she’d say they were all attractive… but I’m not entirely sure that’s a ‘standard’.

She hasn’t had a FWB in over a year…. So, I guess she has high standards these days.

Most people have standards. My (hot)wife, for example doesn't like men who dress like slobs, doesn't go with men who say in their profile that they want to try anal, and she avoids obvious cheaters. Both of us take the attitude that the guy is making it possible for my wife and I have a fantasy, not that they sure are lucky that my wife may consider them with her favors.

Desiplayer wrote: ↑

Tue Jan 14, 2025 5:48 pm

As my wife has been in this lifestyle since our mid 20s and as we are nearing our mid thirties…through this journey she has developed certain standards for herself. At the beginning she would go out with somewhat good looking or any decent hook up that she found attractive…

Now she has developed a standard for herself and she is very picky and she has type of men she dates and have active relationships.

From a bulls perspective,
That has always been part of my get down as far as this lifestyle,and to really enjoy the experience and have all 3 of the ones sexual desires ,& pleasures fullfilled & satisfied.
It is mandatory and I wouldnt do it any other way as far as standards go! I have a set of standards applied to each couple Ive ever met and to this day still enjoying our friendship,unity,and bond are solid.
I could put them down,I dont mind doing that,but I will say by doing these standards that I have,Ive noticed its Grand Slam & guaranteed success.
1) Always go into it knowing & building a friendship is more important to me along with a respect & honor towards the hubbie & wife,stag & vixen,or cuck & wife,given at all times.
2) Too be patient because it is a process that it needs to go through.
3) Heres a big one is discussing what is expected,wanted,what sexual acts are to be done,which ones are liked & not liked ,makes all the difference because all 3 must be on tbe same page. An example Ill give is all the couples I encounter the hubbie wants me to fuck his wife and the hubbie vrry much wants the clean up me and his wife. So under those circumstances is always pretty much the way it goes being that everyone is so very much pleased and satisfied in their own unique sexual desire and pleasure. For me to be able to fuck his wife and bust a good nut in her and/ or a creampie & upon orgasm the hubbie so ready and willing as I am to enjoy him licking my balls and licking his wifes hot juices off of my hot rod and whats all over me and my balls,for him to so apprecoate doing that and at the sametime me appreciating and enjoying immensely,then after cleaning me up hubbie gets to be with his wife and clean her up which they both lavish in,after its all said & done it feels soooo good and the vibe in the air is complete joy & happiness that we all 3 were satisfied and complete. You just know that you know it was meant to be. We have such a sence of friendship,caring and this unity and bonding amongst us is real & sincere. I tell ya!
And the more ive gotten together the more with these couples the stronger our bond seems to be. And through time that sence of relaxing,comfortability,really opens the door to just loosing and letting your natural innibitions go so freely is awesome. Ive gotten so attached to these couples that when I completely give of myself and have loosened and grown with the couple that knowing when coming to orgasm that it feels spoo much better knowing I can just let go and the release all and everything I have the orgasms rleven feel so much better and lasting knowing we are all in it tovether makes the whole process a complete Win,Win,Win for each and all 3. We're a team & genuine & solid team too!
And it only works with the standards I put down that I use. I actually just thought of 1 more standard that I forgot and that is there must be some kind of attraction also,very important. Sure makes it a lot easier and natural & eazes the mind knowing your attracted to hubbies hotwife.
Yeah,I can say by tbe standards I have set forth for myself it makes for a real unique and special relationship. Ones that Im literfally attached to tbe nipple.(Hahahaha)
Always love to suckle on hotwife upon completion,being so wore out and depleted I get a good rest to suckle down and hubbie cleans me so good to while Im plugged into tbe nipple. Great form of relaxing & comfort-For Real.
A joy & pleasure to be associated with ypu people and lifestyle. I thank-you and very much like and appreciate this site. Thank-you & Cheers...

There are as many standards and favorite things as there are people in the lifestyle. The thing to remember is each do their thing and don’t worry or judge others that may have different standards, opinions, and so forth.

I find older women more attractive in most aspects. I've read the observation that a naked woman in her early 20s may be more physically attractive, but did you ever try to have a conversation with one?

Massage4Wife72 wrote: ↑

Wed Jan 15, 2025 11:12 am

To me that’s what this lifestyle is all about. The wife enjoying something she can’t get at home. That might be too broad of a generalization. Not meant in an offensive way.

That is definitely what I have seen in the evolution of my wife and Her choices of partners. It is very clear that they are guys who can provide excitement for certain reasons, because of certain traits, that I don't possess. I could choose to find your comment offensive, but I have long ago accepted my situation. I work very hard to provide other things of value to my wife. She says that she values me as a husband and domestic partner.

My wife's standards are simple. Be a gentleman, be funny, be naughty and flirty. Never expect anything. Do not treat her or call her a whore a slut or anything demeaning. Never consider yourself a bull. She hates that word. she will decide how far you get. Men we have socialized with that do the above a good chance of exploring her charms if they take it slow. Those that have been successful have the biggest grin on their face after a night of carnal lust with her. They usually head home for a 2 day sleep feeling very drained. One good friend described it as having every last drop drained

I think my wife's standards "evolved" after she joined a gym and we started talking about other men at her gym who she finds attractive. I'm a very average looking guy compared to her so I wanted her to be pleasured by a man who is really fit, and it took some effort to convince her that I was genuinely turned on by the prospect of this. But once she was convinced she became a lot more honest about the standards she would expect from a FWB.

rohan094 wrote: ↑

Mon Jan 20, 2025 7:24 am

I think my wife's standards "evolved" after she joined a gym and we started talking about other men at her gym who she finds attractive. I'm a very average looking guy compared to her so I wanted her to be pleasured by a man who is really fit, and it took some effort to convince her that I was genuinely turned on by the prospect of this. But once she was convinced she became a lot more honest about the standards she would expect from a FWB.

I can so relate to this, past few years all of her lovers or bf are hunks who are well built and hunky looking ….I was also enjoying some of the her lovers as bi …I was beginning to shift my bi needs in certain men as well.

You can’t go wrong with men who are have goals , put looks and health top priority..

This also motivates our lifestyle to stay fit and be in shape as well. I’m average looking semi built guy…but close to her bf/lovers …

Standards vs Preferences

Standards…
- 100% DDF
- impeccable hygiene
- physically in shape (don’t have to be an Adonis, but can’t be sedentary and overweight)
- intelligent (don’t conflate that with education)
- average cock or better (no smalls)

Preferences…
- educated and has a little culture
- quiet confidence (not arrogant)
- dry wit and fluid in sarcasm
- drinks wine but prefers bourbon
- 5”10 or taller,
- really fit
- cock > “6
- adventurous is spirit
- age: early 30’s (the right combination of experience and youth)

Angela Plays wrote: ↑

Thu Jan 23, 2025 3:59 am

- age: early 30’s (the right combination of experience and youth)

I was getting more and more jazzed as I read through that list. Check! Check! .... until I reached the very last one.

leggysman wrote: ↑

Thu Jan 23, 2025 5:10 am

Angela Plays wrote: ↑

Thu Jan 23, 2025 3:59 am

- age: early 30’s (the right combination of experience and youth)

I was getting more and more jazzed as I read through that list. Check! Check! .... until I reached the very last one.

It’s a preference hun…not a standard!

Hello, from hotwife Kelly, married to Wesley

I like and will use Angela Plays‘ format.

Standards vs Preferences

Standards:

Must be handsome, polite, and tall
Cannot have a jealous significant other, (wife or girlfriend)
In shape and a non-smoker
Knows how to date and make a connection
Good communication in and out of the bedroom
Must be good in bed, and knows how to please a woman.
100 % DDF

Preferences:

Must be well endowed, the thicker the better
Able to maintain a long term erection, numerous times
Heavy cummer a huge plus
Although my husband and I are white I prefer black men
Knows how to ride me to multiple orgasms
Younger than myself
A muscular body a huge plus

Just laughing to myself, rules out my husband in quite a few categories……guess that is why I am a Hotwife

Wesley Hudson Valley wrote: ↑

Thu Jan 23, 2025 7:54 am

Hello, from hotwife Kelly, married to Wesley

I like and will use Angela Plays‘ format.

Standards vs Preferences

Standards:

Must be handsome, polite, and tall
Cannot have a jealous significant other, (wife or girlfriend)
In shape and a non-smoker
Knows how to date and make a connection
Good communication in and out of the bedroom
Must be good in bed, and knows how to please a woman.
100 % DDF

Preferences:

Must be well endowed, the thicker the better
Able to maintain a long term erection, numerous times
Heavy cummer a huge plus
Although my husband and I are white I prefer black men
Knows how to ride me to multiple orgasms
Younger than myself
A muscular body a huge plus

Just laughing to myself, rules out my husband in quite a few categories……guess that is why I am a Hotwife

I definitely should have added “Good Communicator”

For my wife first and foremost is a nice smile and impeccable hygiene. A strong lean body (no bodybuilders), NOT HAIRY and of course with a BIG fat cock, minimum 8" with the head of his cock being bigger than the shaft.

My wife's standards always surprise me, most prominently, her "marrying down" for me. Her extramarital choices are almost as surprising.