The 'other' woman

[CaliLondon]

When my wife and I entered this lifestyle, we assumed that most of the men we met would be single/divorced. Far from it, all have been married or in a very long term relationship. My wife now sees on a regular basis three men: one is legally married but has been separated for years; one's wife has a don't ask/don't tell policy; and the third's wife is not pleased with this and has strict rules which her husband follows. Is anyone else experiencing this?

[PlzFuckMyHotwife]

I'll answer from my wife's perspective, where I'm the extra guy joining another couple on a regular basis and she'd be "the other woman".

My hot cutie with a booty and I have an open marriage that allows either of us to engage with others either together or solo in a variety of scenarios and sexual dynamics. We're not poly and that is one of our hard limits. Yes, we can form a "connection" with others, we can feel NRE, etc., but.. it's just that and we would never allow it to develop into "feelings".

I get off on my wife being with others, but my wife doesn't. So... me being with another woman does not do anything for her sexually. She's not turned on at all, but she doesn't mind it either, as long as it's done within the constraints of our open relationship. And just to be clear, open relationship doesn't mean anything goes. We still have rules and guidelines, they're just very loose and flexible to the point where to the external observer they may not even seem to exist.

She's not keen on me responding to "booty calls" and prefers that I schedule my play dates in advance and let her know. So... no last minute play dates! But as long as they're scheduled at least a few days in advance and we didn't have anything planned that day... it's all good! Potentially even the day before if she wasn't going to be home anyway, in other words if it didn't affect her. The only exception to this rule is when I'm travelling on business on my own. In those cases it's understood that I may take advantage of any opportunity to fuck someone else and don't even need to tell her in advance if things just progress naturally. But I'd have to disclose it no later than the next day.

She also doesn't want to hear the details (e.g. what position, for how long, etc.), just the highlights... did I finish, did I have a good time, plus anything else that I may think it's relevant to share.

We also have a habit of "checking-in" after each of my playdates as a form of aftercare. That doesn't have to be right after I get home and typically isn't, especially if I get home late and we just go to bed or maybe neither of us is feeling it. Sometimes we'll chat in a day or two or on the weekend over brunch. And it's always a very cool conversation where we simply analyze and debate the nuances of the playdate with an open mind and without assigning blame. If anything happened that either of us is not 100% okay with, we'll simply discuss it and try to avoid it in the future.

She has "veto" power over my playdates, but in all of these years she's never used it once. She's just an amazing woman who would do anything to see and make me happy, including sending me away to sleep with other women if that's what I want, whether it does anything for her or not. How selfless is that? Naturally, I'd do the same for her and in all of these years have never used my "veto" power.

[Jmoney]

I am going to assume she doesn't know, my wife with her current fwb has never discussed spouses.

[Long Lurker 34]

I'll answer from my wife's perspective, where I'm the extra guy joining another couple on a regular basis and she'd be "the other woman".

My hot cutie with a booty and I have an open marriage that allows either of us to engage with others either together or solo in a variety of scenarios and sexual dynamics. We're not poly and that is one of our hard limits. Yes, we can form a "connection" with others, we can feel NRE, etc., but.. it's just that and we would never allow it to develop into "feelings".

I get off on my wife being with others, but my wife doesn't. So... me being with another woman does not do anything for her sexually. She's not turned on at all, but she doesn't mind it either, as long as it's done within the constraints of our open relationship. And just to be clear, open relationship doesn't mean anything goes. We still have rules and guidelines, they're just very loose and flexible to the point where to the external observer they may not even seem to exist.

She's not keen on me responding to "booty calls" and prefers that I schedule my play dates in advance and let her know. So... no last minute play dates! But as long as they're scheduled at least a few days in advance and we didn't have anything planned that day... it's all good! Potentially even the day before if she wasn't going to be home anyway, in other words if it didn't affect her. The only exception to this rule is when I'm travelling on business on my own. In those cases it's understood that I may take advantage of any opportunity to fuck someone else and don't even need to tell her in advance if things just progress naturally. But I'd have to disclose it no later than the next day.

She also doesn't want to hear the details (e.g. what position, for how long, etc.), just the highlights... did I finish, did I have a good time, plus anything else that I may think it's relevant to share.

We also have a habit of "checking-in" after each of my playdates as a form of aftercare. That doesn't have to be right after I get home and typically isn't, especially if I get home late and we just go to bed or maybe neither of us is feeling it. Sometimes we'll chat in a day or two or on the weekend over brunch. And it's always a very cool conversation where we simply analyze and debate the nuances of the playdate with an open mind and without assigning blame. If anything happened that either of us is not 100% okay with, we'll simply discuss it and try to avoid it in the future.

She has "veto" power over my playdates, but in all of these years she's never used it once. She's just an amazing woman who would do anything to see and make me happy, including sending me away to sleep with other women if that's what I want, whether it does anything for her or not. How selfless is that? Naturally, I'd do the same for her and in all of these years have never used my "veto" power.

PFMH
- Just noticed your yearly "goals". Just wondering if there were no "todays total" for 2023 and if you have one for 2025?

[Tank Turner]

The only woman I fuck and the only woman I want to fuck is my wife.

[PlzFuckMyHotwife]

PFMH
- Just noticed your yearly "goals". Just wondering if there were no "todays total" for 2023 and if you have one for 2025?

I don't want to hijack this thread, but to answer your question... we've kind of moved away from these types of quantitative goals, so these numbers aren't reliable anymore. I've even stopped tracking them and will eventually remove them completely from my signature once I find something better to replace them with.

If we were to still track numbers for 2025, that number would be 1 though.

[BT2]

My wife has been a hotwife for several decades, and I was an fb for many years. We each required prior, informed consent before seeing anybody. And we relied on each other to have common sense, so no need fora long list of rules.

[BT2]

My wife has been a hotwife for several decades, and I was an fb for many years. We each required prior, informed consent before seeing anybody. And we relied on each other to have common sense, so no need fora long list of rules.