Slow Burn
Posted: Sun Feb 16, 2025 6:02 am
We're all complex creatures; we have deep desires & wants based on our learned sexual preferences- I'm certainly no different.
My proclivities have always revolved around women willing to have their boundaries pushed, or those that push those boundaries themselves. Women who enjoyed being shared, in particular, has always seemed to me to indicate a level of exploration that pushes quite beyond the norm- beyond what's acceptable for a lady to do- for a lady to be. I liked that.
Early on as a teen, I started coming across stories & writings in magazines like Penthouse forum, from married women & their experiences outside of their marriage- at the time I wasn't sure if this was made up fantasy- men ghost writing from the perspective of women to sell magazines- but as I matured a little I realized that there were actually real women that were in fact 'quite slutty' by societal norms. Rack it up to my youthful naiveté, perhaps.
At first I thought these were just women who liked to cheat, but later I learned that there are a relatively small subset of women that really do like this kind of thing & had husbands that also actually enjoyed it. As rare as unicorns, I would think... these women get a lot of scorn in average society, no doubt- but some do really like it, & have husbands that aren't threatened in sharing their women with other guys- now that I found fucking hot!
I was in a long relationship at the time; my partner & I were quite adventurous. We had other women join us (she was bi), we did some swinging / swapping & attended a few clubs & play parties & even had one of her exes join us after a party not far from our place. I'd definitely say we were more adventurous than your average pair.
I ended up at a certain point being brain-drained from the north & took a job in California, in the IP development sector for a niche agriculture startup- the company got me a specialty visa & brought me down to Cali to build a lab & run breeding programs to develop novel plants for this specific industry. It was tough on the relationship, & of course I as a male in my late 30's had my own normal sexual appetites that weren't being satisfied. That led me to finding OHW. I'd read posts & get aroused- that was an relatively easy way to release some of that sexual tension around that fetish, in a smaller city where others interested such a lifestyle weren't so easy to come across.
Through reading these forums, & getting to know people through their public profiles as one does, one lady (couple, rather) in particular really caught my eye. She used to 'blog' (for lack of a better word) about her experiences outside of her marriage; her husband was a real stag- it wasn't really a cuckold thing- he truly loves his wife & wanted her to experience & enjoy herself sexually, to the fullest. True compersion.
She didn't post pictures, but you could tell she was very intelligent by her writings- & she wasn't performing for anyone trying to get views or attention; she was genuinely sharing her own experiences & working her way through her own emotions & feelings about hotwifing through her own forum posts- and what a talented writer she was. So raw, so honest in her words- it wasn't filthy or crass - it was just her sharing real stories & experiences & trying to work out how she felt about it- what it meant to her relationship & marriage, trying to understand her husbands perspective- just trying to figure it all out. She was so honest & real with her blogging & experiences, it surely wasn't for show. It was however very sexy & intimate to follow along with her journey.
One day, she revealed in one of her stories the smaller city she was living in & what do you know, it was the city in which we built the lab; here she was, hotwifing just around the proverbial corner. I took the chance & sent her a DM, telling her a little about myself, how intriguing & real I found her posts & suggested maybe we might chat & get to know each other a little, since we shared common interests. Of course I wanted to meet her - she already had lovers, a husband, a family- so it was a long shot getting her attention it seemed, but she actually wrote back & we exchanged some messages & eventually that led to shared phone numbers, and we started talking maybe once every week or two & sending messages back & forth. It wasn't sexual; she knew that my now-ex was quite experimental, & that she & I had similar proclivities- she had lots of questions for me too, trying to understand her husband's whole take on hotwifing- he really loved to share her- to the point I think that it made her question why; did he really want her to sleep with other men? What was his motive? What did that mean to him about their relationship? I think these are all quite common feelings some hotwives have, trying to wrap their head around the whole thing & what it means. Myself, I was alone & knew few people outside of the folks I knew from work & being new to town, I had no social circle in this weird little ag town & an adjacent city where we had the analytical lab - where she happened to live; so having her company through our messages & calls every week was really quite comforting.
We never hooked up- we really developed more of a friendship- we shared a lot with each other about our personal histories & stories, & came to learn that we had some other common interests, too.
Eventually, I moved back from the US. We still stayed in touch, some months or longer would pass by, but we'd exchange messages about life, or quick notes on social media, just keeping tabs on each other & our respective paths. She became a friend more than anything, & she was someone that I had never met in person, that I would share things with & she the same- stuff maybe one needs to process outside of our own respective relationships, & I was glad to have her as a sounding board & I know she felt the same way. Oddly, you can develop a certain raw honesty & closeness with people; the anonymity aspect is somewhat freeing without thoughts of judgement, etc. I also found her incredibly sexy in her words, and also when she started opening up to me about her life, us exchanging pics & more personal aspect of our lives & work. We became 'close', for lack of a better word. I really did care for her & her happiness. For a decade we'd pop into each other's lives for support & friendly chat, with no sexual content at all- I mean we'd share experiences within the context of our own relationships, trying to process aspects of our own relationships, but our own interpersonal relationship wasn't sexual. It was just, real. My long term relationship ended about a year after returning from California- she helped me process through some of it & we discussed how/if the lifestyle had played a role in the downfall of the relationship- she was just there for me.
Until life brings me back down to California a decade later & lo & behold I was to find myself in our old city on a quick consult. I shared with her my plans to visit, & she said she was actually going to be in town & available. After a decade, might we actually have a chance to meet? I let her know my plans & she actually seemed interested to finally connect in person. I had been quite private about my work when I lived in Cali- it's a pretty atypical job for Ag one might say, & discretion was important at the time. After moving back home to Canada, I had been more open with her about it- I had less to lose then, and ] seemingly it had piqued her interest as I told her more about myself & my actual work. Through that process I think she became more intrigued as I shared with her public talks I'd given, or panels I'd been invited to come speak on at various conferences, podcasts, or interviews I'd done, & she realized that I had a bit of a unique take on things & there was more to me that I had let on. So here we are, a decade later, I'm coming to the same city & she was going to be back in her hometown too. I asked her if she or she & her husband might like to join me for dinner- to see if she might finally like to meet after all these years. She said yes; we all met for dinner.
She picked a spot at a the local Hyatt; I drove down & met them both in person for the first time. Super nice couple, she was as gorgeous as her pictures- I mean a really, really beautiful woman. She had a natural & happy look, an incredibly kind smile & intoxicating green eyes (trouble!) - just the type of woman that makes you feel comfortable- someone you just want to be around. We sat & had a nice meal together- I wanted to just gaze (stare!) at her but for me it was a bit of a weird dynamic sitting with a married couple, when you know that he likes to share her, and you're trying to be respectful of them both & their relationship, being present with him & getting to know him as well, while having a hard time keeping from blatantly gawking at this beautiful woman; this gorgeous woman making this little black dress just look sooo good. We'd spent so many hours over the last 10 years getting to know each other from afar, & here she was now, sitting next to me, with her husband sitting across the table. Also a really nice guy & we also had some shared interests (aside from wife sharing, haha!), so conversation flowed naturally. They were like old friends in an odd way, although I had just met them in person.
Dinner ended, & they invited me back to their house to see some of historical collections from his career & hobby. He asked her if she would like to ride with me to show me how to get to their place - she agreed & it was going to be the first time we'd actually be alone, in person. While we waited for the valet to bring my car around, I told her how much I enjoyed finally getting to meet her. We held hands a little bit & I had my hand on her lower back, just standing close to each other & having my arm wrapped around her in a very natural way- her head resting against my shoulder.
We drove back to their place, she showed me to the door & before entering, turned around & planted a quick kiss on my lips before we went inside- a kiss I had been thinking about for a decade. She has these incredible soft lips. We came together very naturally, & then turned and walked into her front door to find her husband there waiting for us, seemingly scanning back & forth to judge our shared chemistry. I didn't feel weird at all placing my hand on her back, or holding her hand as we walked thought their collection. What a collection, what a couple, what a woman. She'd brush against my arm, or we'd hold hands for a second- feeling her finger running along my palm as we did... all these little very vanilla interactions, her leaning into my side, or stepping in front or me as I held her hand behind her back, with her husband very happily noticing our chemistry & little brushes against each other. The tension was palpable.
It finally felt like time to get moving towards the door, & hubs was kind (or savvy) enough to give us some space. She came up & leaned into me looking into her eyes & I finally had the chance to pull her close, to look into her eyes & give her a few kisses. It was electric, kissing her & looking into her eyes & feeling a real connection with this beautiful woman. I wanted her so badly (& her husband seemingly wanted me to have her equally) - but we'd come further in the journey over a decade than a quick hookup. We had chemistry. We had shared so much about ourselves with each other over a decade, a quick hookup felt rushed- it just didn't feel like what we had been building towards. I wanted more time with her & she didn't want to rush things either- I was enjoying the slow burn & I think she was equally, so although her husband seemingly wanted us to get together, we decided to put it off & allow the fire to smoulder. Fuck was it hot. We stood at their entrance & shared some very passionate kisses, holding her close to me, brushing the hair away from her beautiful face, my hands on her bare shoulders above her cute little black dress, finding the small of her back- our lips & tongues matching each other in a really nice way - you know how some people just know how to kiss properly- wow did this woman ever have it all. I honestly felt like a high school kid again, our very brief make out was so natural - we just matched- it just felt right. That's an odd thing to feel about another man's wife, but he was seemingly quite happy about the entire thing- I know I was. She whispered that she didn't think he'd be happy about me leaving without a main event, but we both agreed that a slow burn just felt more right for us, and proposed the idea of us seeing each other again before I left town. Hubs had some prior obligations over the next few days, & she would be free. I really wanted to spend more time with her as well, not rushing things... just enjoying her & this slow burn of chemistry we had going. We shared a few more kisses & I got in my car to the hotel in which I was staying. I sent her a text saying how much I enjoyed dinner with them & seeing their place; telling her again what a beautiful woman she was & how much I enjoyed the night.
"I really want to be with you" came the reply "before you go back home".
I had been in California for less than 30 hours, & here this gorgeous woman & I were making plans to spend time together again over the next two days, with expressed consent from the husband! This might just prove to be a fun weekend... it wasn't even about the sex. It was about finding a shared chemistry with someone you have built a relationship with over a decade. Sure, hookups are their own thing- but intimacy built on real connection is so much more intriguing! So where was this trail bringing us? I guess we'd just have to see...
CaliHWluvr
My proclivities have always revolved around women willing to have their boundaries pushed, or those that push those boundaries themselves. Women who enjoyed being shared, in particular, has always seemed to me to indicate a level of exploration that pushes quite beyond the norm- beyond what's acceptable for a lady to do- for a lady to be. I liked that.
Early on as a teen, I started coming across stories & writings in magazines like Penthouse forum, from married women & their experiences outside of their marriage- at the time I wasn't sure if this was made up fantasy- men ghost writing from the perspective of women to sell magazines- but as I matured a little I realized that there were actually real women that were in fact 'quite slutty' by societal norms. Rack it up to my youthful naiveté, perhaps.
At first I thought these were just women who liked to cheat, but later I learned that there are a relatively small subset of women that really do like this kind of thing & had husbands that also actually enjoyed it. As rare as unicorns, I would think... these women get a lot of scorn in average society, no doubt- but some do really like it, & have husbands that aren't threatened in sharing their women with other guys- now that I found fucking hot!
I was in a long relationship at the time; my partner & I were quite adventurous. We had other women join us (she was bi), we did some swinging / swapping & attended a few clubs & play parties & even had one of her exes join us after a party not far from our place. I'd definitely say we were more adventurous than your average pair.
I ended up at a certain point being brain-drained from the north & took a job in California, in the IP development sector for a niche agriculture startup- the company got me a specialty visa & brought me down to Cali to build a lab & run breeding programs to develop novel plants for this specific industry. It was tough on the relationship, & of course I as a male in my late 30's had my own normal sexual appetites that weren't being satisfied. That led me to finding OHW. I'd read posts & get aroused- that was an relatively easy way to release some of that sexual tension around that fetish, in a smaller city where others interested such a lifestyle weren't so easy to come across.
Through reading these forums, & getting to know people through their public profiles as one does, one lady (couple, rather) in particular really caught my eye. She used to 'blog' (for lack of a better word) about her experiences outside of her marriage; her husband was a real stag- it wasn't really a cuckold thing- he truly loves his wife & wanted her to experience & enjoy herself sexually, to the fullest. True compersion.
She didn't post pictures, but you could tell she was very intelligent by her writings- & she wasn't performing for anyone trying to get views or attention; she was genuinely sharing her own experiences & working her way through her own emotions & feelings about hotwifing through her own forum posts- and what a talented writer she was. So raw, so honest in her words- it wasn't filthy or crass - it was just her sharing real stories & experiences & trying to work out how she felt about it- what it meant to her relationship & marriage, trying to understand her husbands perspective- just trying to figure it all out. She was so honest & real with her blogging & experiences, it surely wasn't for show. It was however very sexy & intimate to follow along with her journey.
One day, she revealed in one of her stories the smaller city she was living in & what do you know, it was the city in which we built the lab; here she was, hotwifing just around the proverbial corner. I took the chance & sent her a DM, telling her a little about myself, how intriguing & real I found her posts & suggested maybe we might chat & get to know each other a little, since we shared common interests. Of course I wanted to meet her - she already had lovers, a husband, a family- so it was a long shot getting her attention it seemed, but she actually wrote back & we exchanged some messages & eventually that led to shared phone numbers, and we started talking maybe once every week or two & sending messages back & forth. It wasn't sexual; she knew that my now-ex was quite experimental, & that she & I had similar proclivities- she had lots of questions for me too, trying to understand her husband's whole take on hotwifing- he really loved to share her- to the point I think that it made her question why; did he really want her to sleep with other men? What was his motive? What did that mean to him about their relationship? I think these are all quite common feelings some hotwives have, trying to wrap their head around the whole thing & what it means. Myself, I was alone & knew few people outside of the folks I knew from work & being new to town, I had no social circle in this weird little ag town & an adjacent city where we had the analytical lab - where she happened to live; so having her company through our messages & calls every week was really quite comforting.
We never hooked up- we really developed more of a friendship- we shared a lot with each other about our personal histories & stories, & came to learn that we had some other common interests, too.
Eventually, I moved back from the US. We still stayed in touch, some months or longer would pass by, but we'd exchange messages about life, or quick notes on social media, just keeping tabs on each other & our respective paths. She became a friend more than anything, & she was someone that I had never met in person, that I would share things with & she the same- stuff maybe one needs to process outside of our own respective relationships, & I was glad to have her as a sounding board & I know she felt the same way. Oddly, you can develop a certain raw honesty & closeness with people; the anonymity aspect is somewhat freeing without thoughts of judgement, etc. I also found her incredibly sexy in her words, and also when she started opening up to me about her life, us exchanging pics & more personal aspect of our lives & work. We became 'close', for lack of a better word. I really did care for her & her happiness. For a decade we'd pop into each other's lives for support & friendly chat, with no sexual content at all- I mean we'd share experiences within the context of our own relationships, trying to process aspects of our own relationships, but our own interpersonal relationship wasn't sexual. It was just, real. My long term relationship ended about a year after returning from California- she helped me process through some of it & we discussed how/if the lifestyle had played a role in the downfall of the relationship- she was just there for me.
Until life brings me back down to California a decade later & lo & behold I was to find myself in our old city on a quick consult. I shared with her my plans to visit, & she said she was actually going to be in town & available. After a decade, might we actually have a chance to meet? I let her know my plans & she actually seemed interested to finally connect in person. I had been quite private about my work when I lived in Cali- it's a pretty atypical job for Ag one might say, & discretion was important at the time. After moving back home to Canada, I had been more open with her about it- I had less to lose then, and ] seemingly it had piqued her interest as I told her more about myself & my actual work. Through that process I think she became more intrigued as I shared with her public talks I'd given, or panels I'd been invited to come speak on at various conferences, podcasts, or interviews I'd done, & she realized that I had a bit of a unique take on things & there was more to me that I had let on. So here we are, a decade later, I'm coming to the same city & she was going to be back in her hometown too. I asked her if she or she & her husband might like to join me for dinner- to see if she might finally like to meet after all these years. She said yes; we all met for dinner.
She picked a spot at a the local Hyatt; I drove down & met them both in person for the first time. Super nice couple, she was as gorgeous as her pictures- I mean a really, really beautiful woman. She had a natural & happy look, an incredibly kind smile & intoxicating green eyes (trouble!) - just the type of woman that makes you feel comfortable- someone you just want to be around. We sat & had a nice meal together- I wanted to just gaze (stare!) at her but for me it was a bit of a weird dynamic sitting with a married couple, when you know that he likes to share her, and you're trying to be respectful of them both & their relationship, being present with him & getting to know him as well, while having a hard time keeping from blatantly gawking at this beautiful woman; this gorgeous woman making this little black dress just look sooo good. We'd spent so many hours over the last 10 years getting to know each other from afar, & here she was now, sitting next to me, with her husband sitting across the table. Also a really nice guy & we also had some shared interests (aside from wife sharing, haha!), so conversation flowed naturally. They were like old friends in an odd way, although I had just met them in person.
Dinner ended, & they invited me back to their house to see some of historical collections from his career & hobby. He asked her if she would like to ride with me to show me how to get to their place - she agreed & it was going to be the first time we'd actually be alone, in person. While we waited for the valet to bring my car around, I told her how much I enjoyed finally getting to meet her. We held hands a little bit & I had my hand on her lower back, just standing close to each other & having my arm wrapped around her in a very natural way- her head resting against my shoulder.
We drove back to their place, she showed me to the door & before entering, turned around & planted a quick kiss on my lips before we went inside- a kiss I had been thinking about for a decade. She has these incredible soft lips. We came together very naturally, & then turned and walked into her front door to find her husband there waiting for us, seemingly scanning back & forth to judge our shared chemistry. I didn't feel weird at all placing my hand on her back, or holding her hand as we walked thought their collection. What a collection, what a couple, what a woman. She'd brush against my arm, or we'd hold hands for a second- feeling her finger running along my palm as we did... all these little very vanilla interactions, her leaning into my side, or stepping in front or me as I held her hand behind her back, with her husband very happily noticing our chemistry & little brushes against each other. The tension was palpable.
It finally felt like time to get moving towards the door, & hubs was kind (or savvy) enough to give us some space. She came up & leaned into me looking into her eyes & I finally had the chance to pull her close, to look into her eyes & give her a few kisses. It was electric, kissing her & looking into her eyes & feeling a real connection with this beautiful woman. I wanted her so badly (& her husband seemingly wanted me to have her equally) - but we'd come further in the journey over a decade than a quick hookup. We had chemistry. We had shared so much about ourselves with each other over a decade, a quick hookup felt rushed- it just didn't feel like what we had been building towards. I wanted more time with her & she didn't want to rush things either- I was enjoying the slow burn & I think she was equally, so although her husband seemingly wanted us to get together, we decided to put it off & allow the fire to smoulder. Fuck was it hot. We stood at their entrance & shared some very passionate kisses, holding her close to me, brushing the hair away from her beautiful face, my hands on her bare shoulders above her cute little black dress, finding the small of her back- our lips & tongues matching each other in a really nice way - you know how some people just know how to kiss properly- wow did this woman ever have it all. I honestly felt like a high school kid again, our very brief make out was so natural - we just matched- it just felt right. That's an odd thing to feel about another man's wife, but he was seemingly quite happy about the entire thing- I know I was. She whispered that she didn't think he'd be happy about me leaving without a main event, but we both agreed that a slow burn just felt more right for us, and proposed the idea of us seeing each other again before I left town. Hubs had some prior obligations over the next few days, & she would be free. I really wanted to spend more time with her as well, not rushing things... just enjoying her & this slow burn of chemistry we had going. We shared a few more kisses & I got in my car to the hotel in which I was staying. I sent her a text saying how much I enjoyed dinner with them & seeing their place; telling her again what a beautiful woman she was & how much I enjoyed the night.
"I really want to be with you" came the reply "before you go back home".
I had been in California for less than 30 hours, & here this gorgeous woman & I were making plans to spend time together again over the next two days, with expressed consent from the husband! This might just prove to be a fun weekend... it wasn't even about the sex. It was about finding a shared chemistry with someone you have built a relationship with over a decade. Sure, hookups are their own thing- but intimacy built on real connection is so much more intriguing! So where was this trail bringing us? I guess we'd just have to see...
CaliHWluvr

