Wife Dipping Toe Again After Nine Year Hiatus
Posted: Sun Feb 23, 2025 6:43 am
Background: In 2015-16 and after a decade of marriage, my lovely wife had a consensual affair with a work colleague that totally enhanced our marriage. She was 100% transparent with me as the affair unfolded over six glorious months. It injected passion and vitality into an already beautiful marriage and we both very much enjoyed the experience. We communicate well. Her boyfriend (married), unfortunately, started to become clingy and she ended it abruptly as we moved out of the area (overseas) with my job. He has reached out a few times over the years but, despite liking him very much, found engaging him emotionally tiresome.
Well… he reached out again this week and her tune seems to have changed. She wants to talk to him, catch up, and see where it leads. I’ve been notoriously pushy over the past decade asking her to explore another side relationship and she knows I enjoy it (too much for her taste, perhaps). When she showed me his note and asked me what I thought about re-engaging him, I told her I was 100% supportive (of course) and promised myself to be less pushy should she ever want to play again in the future. She seemed to appreciate that and said she would respond to him in the coming days.
I really don’t want to blow this opportunity by getting overly excited. He’s a really great guy for her and for us. Anyone out there found themselves in a similar situation?
Ladies: any advice on how I should handle this? I so want her to have a boyfriend again. It’s intoxicatingly good for me but I want to avoid coming off as obsessive and overly eager regarding this lifestyle. I genuinely want her to enjoy the experience without the stress of pleasing me — which she does no matter what.
Welcome comments.
LL
Well… he reached out again this week and her tune seems to have changed. She wants to talk to him, catch up, and see where it leads. I’ve been notoriously pushy over the past decade asking her to explore another side relationship and she knows I enjoy it (too much for her taste, perhaps). When she showed me his note and asked me what I thought about re-engaging him, I told her I was 100% supportive (of course) and promised myself to be less pushy should she ever want to play again in the future. She seemed to appreciate that and said she would respond to him in the coming days.
I really don’t want to blow this opportunity by getting overly excited. He’s a really great guy for her and for us. Anyone out there found themselves in a similar situation?
Ladies: any advice on how I should handle this? I so want her to have a boyfriend again. It’s intoxicatingly good for me but I want to avoid coming off as obsessive and overly eager regarding this lifestyle. I genuinely want her to enjoy the experience without the stress of pleasing me — which she does no matter what.
Welcome comments.
LL