Our Hotwives

As an ex-hotwife I offer advice and guidance to couples and individuals at various stages of their journey. I have been corresponding with a uk couple that recently took the plunge. After a couple of frustrating and disappointing liaisons, they were invited to a 'party', where other couples were planning to have fun. The wife soon found herself with a guy she knew slightly. They had very enjoyable sex, after which he moved on to frolics elsewhere. As she was cooling down, she was presented with a large cock and invited to take it into her mouth. As she was relishing this, someone pushed her legs apart and went down on her. The sensations were so powerful, she quickly lost the ability to concentrate on the cock in her mouth and the owner moved on. Meanwhile, the oral attentions between her thighs brought her to two successive immense orgasms. The owner of this highly skilled tongue turned out to be a young blonde girl who then demanded oral sex from the wife. To her surprise, she found herself very willing to reciprocate. The two women spent the rest of the evening locked in an embrace, and, with the husband's permission, went home and spent the night together.

The wife had never previously had sex with or had even been attracted to a woman, and claims she still never feels an urge to any woman other than this young blonde, who she sees, and has sex with, regularly. She says it doesn't affect her relationship with her husband, and, curiously, it has made her exploits with other FB's much more successful.

I value my husband's input (he is a psychologist). He maintains that women are much more sexually fluid than men, and can have same sex encounters for pure pleasure, unencumbered by any emotional entanglement. I find this fascinating, and can empathise to a degree, as I had a girlfriend during my teenage years and greatly enjoyed what we did together.

My question is, have any of the hotwives here had similar experiences? How do they feel about sex with other women? Does it interest them, or put them off?

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90% of women are bi-curious and the other 10% ain't tellin' the truth.

After she became a hotwife, my wife had sex with several women. One time she even had an FFF threesome.

My wife and I were out for dinner. This was a year or so after she became a hotwife and it was still a new thrill for the both of us. We were having some sex talk, and I asked her if she ever had sex with another woman. She said "no". I then asked her if she ever fantasized about having sex with another woman. T my surprise, she said "yes". So we tried it.

She didn't have bi curious sex very often, but she did so for over twenty years, the last being with her very best girlfriend, who was also heterosexual in real life. Then she stopped, just like that. Her only answer was "Been there, done that".

Not a wife, but a divorcee playmate who told me of her youthful bi experiments and admitting to yearning for more - but she was terribly shy and found herself hesitant, unable to respond to the gentle flirting of her Pilates instructor. It was intriguing to me and I drew her out about her past (being seduced by a girlfriend in high school who took charge and instilled a submissiveness that endured) as well as about the flirting, wanting to help her (for so many reasons!) but not pushing. There were other women she had unspoken yearnings for and talking about them and the mildly kinky things she had fantasized them doing with and to her would arouse her - so I continued. I thought for a while perhaps it would be a petite but feisty little asian friend whom she might first fall into bed with, but I was wrong, it was the Pilates instructor, a firey woman of French descent who helped her over her hesitations.

It was more than a year of those occasional mentions and continued flirting with her Pilates instructor when she told me the instructor had made a new little move - to "stabilize" her during one stretch, her instructor had my playmate put her feet on the instructors chest - and directly on her breasts- she told me she could not keep herself from the erotic thoughts, her bare feet on the breasts of a woman she had so many fantasies of... she knew it showed in her eyes.

I wasn't there to be a part of it, but that little escalation did indeed break the ice, and within a week my playmate was able to indulge many (and probably all) of her fantasy scenes, from being spanked to being "made" to submit to her instructor's feet, pussy and ass. She told me she could not believe it, and loved being told what a "bad" girl she was - and what a "good" girl she was. It was my distinct pleasure to reward her and encourage her to be brave with other women!

My wife had her first bi experience when she was 20 during our first unplanned swinging experience with close friends. She loved it but blamed it on the alcohol and being horny.

After a couple of years of weekly swinging where she was playing with other women she eventually admitted that she was bisexual. Everytime we would swing she would eat pussy and loved it. She also dated women, one for three years before she moved interstate. In her words, "I love cock too much to be a lesbian but I am very bisexual".

One additional observation. Sex is sex, and in highly charged situations, such as a sex party, inhibitions often come down and people - men as well as women - can find themselves doing things they would never have imagined and sometimes deny afterwards. It’s obviously positive if a woman receives and gives oral to another woman for example and then realises it’s ’another String to her bow’.

My current view of sexual orientation isn't binary - hetero or homo - any more than the notion that a person can only be black or white and not some shade of brown in between. That said, my wife has zero interest in copulating with other women. Zero. So fair to say she's on the purist side of hetero, and, Tank, no, I don't believe she's lying.

The consequence of that does cause me to wonder. From what I gather through copious reading of commentaries here and elsewhere, I'm convinced that the bi-curious hotwives are the ones most open to sharing their husbands for the simple reason that they're as turned on by another woman's arousal as they are a man's, or at least turned on enough by the woman as to find herself compersive of the experience. My 100-percent hetero wife has zero capacity for compersion and zero desire to share me with another woman. Ours is a totally asymmetrical arrangement, which is okay. On the other hand, there is a somewhat popular misconception about stag-type husbands being bi-curious, which I know is false. I can't speak for all men, and so I can accept that some stag-husbands may well enjoy MMF with their wives as much or more than MFM. But not me. I'm as hetero as my wife so only MFM can work. Yet I do feel compersion in a way that allows me to project my consciousness into the other man's mind and thus experience him as my avatar in his sexal enjoyment of my wife; but I don't also transfer myself into her to vicariously enjoy her experience of him.

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Wed Apr 09, 2025 9:18 am

My current view of sexual orientation isn't binary - hetero or homo - any more than the notion that a person can only be black or white and not some shade of brown in between. That said, my wife has zero interest in copulating with other women. Zero. So fair to say she's on the purist side of hetero, and, Tank, no, I don't believe she's lying.

The consequence of that does cause me to wonder. From what I gather through copious reading of commentaries here and elsewhere, I'm convinced that the bi-curious hotwives are the ones most open to sharing their husbands for the simple reason that they're as turned on by another woman's arousal as they are a man's, or at least turned on enough by the woman as to find herself compersive of the experience. My 100-percent hetero wife has zero capacity for compersion and zero desire to share me with another woman. Ours is a totally asymmetrical arrangement, which is okay. On the other hand, there is a somewhat popular misconception about stag-type husbands being bi-curious, which I know is false. I can't speak for all men, and so I can accept that some stag-husbands may well enjoy MMF with their wives as much or more than MFM. But not me. I'm as hetero as my wife so only MFM can work. Yet I do feel compersion in a way that allows me to project my consciousness into the other man's mind and thus experience him as my avatar in his sexal enjoyment of my wife; but I don't also transfer myself into her to vicariously enjoy her experience of him.

I agree with all you said, and the part I highlighted is absolutely true for Farmgirl too.
Tank tends to project his beliefs onto everyone else with blanket statements, incorrect as they are.

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Wed Apr 09, 2025 6:17 pm

Parsifal wrote: ↑

Wed Apr 09, 2025 9:18 am

That said, my wife has zero interest in copulating with other women. Zero. So fair to say she's on the purist side of hetero, and, Tank, no, I don't believe she's lying.

I agree with all you said, and the part I highlighted is absolutely true for Farmgirl too.
Tank tends to project his beliefs onto everyone else with blanket statements, incorrect as they are.

That's 100% leggysandy as well, but certain people around here know it all, don't they?

My wife is a fully-committed bisexual woman who loves having sex with other bisexual or lesbian women who she finds appealing and attractive. The problem for her is that the truly bisexual ones are not that easy to find. She has tried joining couples as a unicorn but most often she finds that the other woman is not really into women but is only pretending to please her hubby and that's not what she's looking for.

My wife is situationally bi. Her first experiences were with girls, but once she tried guys, she was hooked. If you asked her on a normal day if she's interested in being with a woman, she'd usually say no. However, if a woman shows interest in her, she gets wetter than an otter's pocket. I think a huge part of that is that she likes being pursued.