Wife's first time with new BF. To be there or not?

[rm_andromeda694]

First hotwife experience and first sex other than me in basically 35 years.

She's had three friendly dates with him and they've really hit it off. Lots in common, spark, and a good connection.

Now he wants to see her Saturday to finish what they started with heavy petting at the movies last night.

The plan was always for me to watch and take video and pictures, but not participate.

When Saturday was mentioned I wasn't specifically mentioned, although details aren't finalized.

Thing is, I'm kinda torn about being there for their first time. Almost like I'd be intruding in something special.

So should I insist on being there as planned? Or let them have a special moment?

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum rm_andromeda694. All depends on what you and wife are comfortable with. Everyone is different.

[Bryce 69]

Is she safe with him and he knows her limits if she is then let her worship his cock
what sort of relationship do the three of you want , are you looking to become a cuck third wheel or are you just sharing your wife sexually
i enjoy fucking Hannah with her Bulls but also am ok with her Bulls fucking her alone
Hannah's Bulls are Dominate as I am she is submissive so our relationship and sexual proclivities are founded around us
You need to understand who you are before you give other men her pussy

[rm_andromeda694]

While I'm not particularly dominant, I'm definitely not submissive. The whole cuckold submission/disrespect/humiliation thing has -0- appeal to me. I just want to share her pussy with others.

The whole thing is, I want to watch her be pleasured and enjoy herself sexually. By potentially not being there I feel left out, and at the same time like the idea of giving them a special moment alone.

Ultimately I think I could deal with not being there. Just the knowledge of where she is and what she's doing is a turn on.

And there are other candidates that she doesn't have such a bond with that I wouldn't feel like an intruder with.

[Ready_to_Share]

Her safety is obviously most important. If you are sure that is not an issue, and you obviously recognize this as a special moment, you need to have a serious talk with her. One thing to remember, there is only one chance at the first time.

[ShyWife60]

I personally would be there as planned at least the first-time, make sure she's safe and comfortable with him. After that it would be up to her

[rm_andromeda694]

Well, it happened. Let them have the first time solo because they had such a strong connection.

Long story short, we have some communication issues that have now been resolved and it was a net positive experience.

Got the complete story whispered into my ear in bed last night, and yeah, it was hot.

I've told her it was OK to continue as long as I got regular updates, pics, and a retelling afterwards, but next time I'll probably be in the same room with a video camera.

[CuckedbyNikki]

Good choice. though i was always very excited to see her fuck other men, it all changed when i was present in the room on the cuck chair watching two of them on bed & i left the very moment emotiins overwhelmed me.

[masculinecuck]

First time I did it for safety reasons you can never be too careful. I watched and cleaned and it turned all 3 of us on so that's the way we roll.

[rm_andromeda694]

That's where our communication issue came into play. We both had a pretty good feel for the guy and I/we *thought* he was safe, but there was that lingering doubt. She was waiting too long between check ins (worry), and then her phone went into do not disturb mode at 11:30 when she plugged it in to charge (major worry because then she wasn't responding at all). So I worked up a major case of anxiety and called her home as soon as she woke up and contacted me. Only got one pic because the morning sex that was called off was going to be where the pics, vid and audio were taken.

[SammySigns]

Set up a tripod and a camera. Win win

[sana9889]

Depends on the relationships. And the type of girl she is. And also on your own risk appetite for her emotionally.

I personally think letting her go alone will let her enjoy the experience better. Women enjoy the connection and intimacy more than the act of sex- usually more so if she is generally more shy.
Not being there allows her to surrender more of herself in the relationship with her new man. Again, it depends if you actually want this because it can effect her relationship and feelings for you.

[rm_andromeda694]

Honestly, the idea of her having a "friend with benefits" who really is a good friend or maybe more only adds an extra edge to the experience. I've been calling him her boyfriend in conversation. We've been married 32 years, love one another deeply, and have never had any conflict in the marriage. I'm really not concerned with her leaving me for him. That may be nudging into the poly realm though.

They may be alone together again this weekend. It's still in the planning stage, but this time I'll get more texts, pics, video, and audio. That was a major point of contention the last/first time.

[venus-can99]

Hope things work out for her meeting with her "bf" for the weekend rm_a. If both of you feel safe with the guy and she loves the connection will this be a log-term possibility? It ofcourse depends on all 3 of you

[rm_andromeda694]

Yeah, I'm thinking this could be long term. They (we, kinda) have a bunch of stuff and interests in common and they really seem to have clicked so far.

I work shift work with nights. I wouldn't mind her spending time with him while I'm at work, but she's still mine when I'm home. Unless he's there too, then I guess she's "ours". But that's still for the future.

[namitha157]

Do you worry that she might become his if you aren't there?
Or she may not come back?

I have not been doing this for long. And my boyfriend does not know about my other boyfriends or my hookups.
But I can share my own experience with feelings and about privacy.

Personally, I like that my main bf does not know or gets involved with the other men. I like keeping my relations and encounters personal. Especially with the other boyfriends. And only two of the other bfs know about the main one existing.

One of the other bfs is my fav to be with- he does not know. Its a very meaningful relationship to me. Not knowing about my main bf allows me to fully enjoy it. It is a very sexual relationship. There is a real sense of fulfilment in being his girl.

Having these relations however, make me feel less sexual with my main bf. Maybe if he was involved this would be different. I feel like i am ok with this as we never had sex before and I get plenty of sexual attention and release from the other guys. It is good that our relationship is not sexual, a we have a different depth. I still kiss him and let him jerk off in front of me, but its all for him mostly. I do not want him touching me with his little thing.

Him not knowing, let alone not being there, lets me open up my feeling and embrace the situation fully without having to loom over my shoulder or consider how he is feeling or thinking about any part. Be it s dinner date or me on all fours gettring my ass filled with mans hot sperm.

[rm_andromeda694]

Do you worry that she might become his if you aren't there?
Or she may not come back?

I have not been doing this for long. And my boyfriend does not know about my other boyfriends or my hookups.
But I can share my own experience with feelings and about privacy.

Personally, I like that my main bf does not know or gets involved with the other men. I like keeping my relations and encounters personal. Especially with the other boyfriends. And only two of the other bfs know about the main one existing.

One of the other bfs is my fav to be with- he does not know. Its a very meaningful relationship to me. Not knowing about my main bf allows me to fully enjoy it. It is a very sexual relationship. There is a real sense of fulfilment in being his girl.

Having these relations however, make me feel less sexual with my main bf. Maybe if he was involved this would be different. I feel like i am ok with this as we never had sex before and I get plenty of sexual attention and release from the other guys. It is good that our relationship is not sexual, a we have a different depth. I still kiss him and let him jerk off in front of me, but its all for him mostly. I do not want him touching me with his little thing.

Him not knowing, let alone not being there, lets me open up my feeling and embrace the situation fully without having to loom over my shoulder or consider how he is feeling or thinking about any part. Be it s dinner date or me on all fours gettring my ass filled with mans hot sperm.

That's a lot to consider, but no, I don't really worry about her not coming back or becoming "his."

We've been married 32 years, and I love her a little more every day. I'm sure she feels the same. Our sex is still good and exciting. Probably more so since we've begun this trip.

Now, that being said, I can't say she won't develop feelings for him over the long term. She's a very caring person and I don't think she could not.

But no, this is an exciting adventure we're on. Together. And we'll be together wherever it leads.

[irishstag41]

Her safety is obviously most important. If you are sure that is not an issue, and you obviously recognize this as a special moment, you need to have a serious talk with her. One thing to remember, there is only one chance at the first time.

Just let her enjoy whatever she wants

[Wifelovessex]

Like a lot of people who have answered I like both. I find watching enhances the excitement of when I stay home and hear about it later. Hearing about it increases the excitement when I get to watch.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Wifelovessex.

[Harleyriders99]

We have been doing this for 11 years. I'm always there the first time. Once she is comfortable with a new guy she decides if they will be alone or not after the first time. Not being there can be as exciting as being there for me.