Happy Hotwife

[foxylcfc]

Hi All,

This may well be covered already on this site but here goes.

Today it somewhat came to mind just how happy my wife is for weeks after a playdate. This does wonders for our marriage for as much as it turns us on to know my wife is getting some serious sexual pleasure I also love to see her happy and excited.
Her last playdate was the 3rd time she met this guy who she really has a thing for, and she went all the way by going bareback and letting him come inside her 3 times. All she spoke about for weeks after was him and what they got up to and even took some great vids which she was happy to share with me.

The downside is that we struggle for time having a young family and both working full time. My question to you all is how do we best overcome this as I'd love to see her happy like this as much as possible?

Last night she spoke about finding a new black guy to play with next (she only has a thing for black guys) so later when we are alone I'm going to discuss with her how happy I notice she is after a playdate and try to encourage more of them. Let's see how that goes

[Her number1]

Hi All,

This may well be covered already on this site but here goes.

Today it somewhat came to mind just how happy my wife is for weeks after a playdate. This does wonders for our marriage for as much as it turns us on to know my wife is getting some serious sexual pleasure I also love to see her happy and excited.
Her last playdate was the 3rd time she met this guy who she really has a thing for, and she went all the way by going bareback and letting him come inside her 3 times. All she spoke about for weeks after was him and what they got up to and even took some great vids which she was happy to share with me.

The downside is that we struggle for time having a young family and both working full time. My question to you all is how do we best overcome this as I'd love to see her happy like this as much as possible?

Last night she spoke about finding a new black guy to play with next (she only has a thing for black guys) so later when we are alone I'm going to discuss with her how happy I notice she is after a playdate and try to encourage more of them. Let's see how that goes

When our kids were young, I took them on outings any time she had a playdate. It gave me extra time with my kids and gave her time to be herself with her lover. It's all pretty easy IF, it's what you both want.

[parklife]

Hi All,

This may well be covered already on this site but here goes.

Today it somewhat came to mind just how happy my wife is for weeks after a playdate. This does wonders for our marriage for as much as it turns us on to know my wife is getting some serious sexual pleasure I also love to see her happy and excited.
Her last playdate was the 3rd time she met this guy who she really has a thing for, and she went all the way by going bareback and letting him come inside her 3 times. All she spoke about for weeks after was him and what they got up to and even took some great vids which she was happy to share with me.

The downside is that we struggle for time having a young family and both working full time. My question to you all is how do we best overcome this as I'd love to see her happy like this as much as possible?

Last night she spoke about finding a new black guy to play with next (she only has a thing for black guys) so later when we are alone I'm going to discuss with her how happy I notice she is after a playdate and try to encourage more of them. Let's see how that goes

When our kids were young, I took them on outings any time she had a playdate. It gave me extra time with my kids and gave her time to be herself with her lover. It's all pretty easy IF, it's what you both want.

Bingo… if it’s what you both want (more outings), then there really isn’t a downside to create the time (provided the third has a flexible schedule as well). My wife worked in outside sales so she often was able to meet during work hours. She also had some evening dates and my kids thought nothing of mommy having an evening out with her friends. Naturally I’d stay home with them. And sometimes, as #1 says, I’d take the kids out or keep them out after picking them up to give her time for a play date. If she’s really happy for weeks afterwards, finding time for a play date o de a month should t be all that difficult if everyone is flexible.

[bbarnsworth]

When my wife and I first started down this path, we had two very young kids at home. Getting a baby sitter was going to be very, very difficult due to a particular circumstance which I can't get into here. The entire time the kids were young, they had a baby sitter just a handful of times outside of daycare. So, when we started considering this lifestyle, we understood that she was going to be playing solo a lot. Before we even got into her playing, I told her that I was very much onboard with the idea of her playing solo, that I recognized that was going to be the case, and that she could play solo as often as she liked and I would be happy for her.

So, play often she did. Not ever week necessarily, but frequently. Each time, I'd watch the kids and it was a good time for me and for her. I got to spend time with the kids, taking them on whatever adventure, all the while imagining what my wife was doing, and my wife got to have a lot of great play dates and lots of great sex. There were a few times my wife got to play here at home as well when the kids weren't there and there was no risk of them showing up. We had a couple of MFMs here as well. Those memories always give me a smile when I think about them happening right there in our marital bed.

We did agree, before ever getting into this, that we weren't going to sacrifice our kids in any way to make this happen. Our focus was on them. We didn't have to have her be a hotwife, but we did have to be great parents. I think we achieved both quite well.

So, yes, this can work well if you structure your life to accommodate it!

[MistressVixenMrStag]

When our kids were young, I took them on outings any time she had a playdate. It gave me extra time with my kids and gave her time to be herself with her lover. It's all pretty easy IF, it's what you both want.

When we first started, it was always together, I love to watch.

However one time our childcare let us down and we were going to have to cancel, wife was so visibly disappointed i told her to go by herself, she was shocked and asked if I was sure? I told her yes and to enjoy herself, I insisted on timely text updates and sent her on her way.

I took the kids out to a kids restaurant/ play area and had a great time, but my cage was definitely restraining me when I thought about what she was doing.

When she got home she was on cloud nine, even more so that normal after a date, she had been set free. I asked her if she had enjoyed herself more than usual and she sheepishly admitted she had and confessed she had lost herself to the meet.

When I asked her what she meant, she unlocked me and presented me with her soiled knickers, climbed on top and I experienced my first silky seconds.

Although we still normally play together (kids are older and can look after themselves) she still gets a high being let loose by herself, she is on a hyper for over a week sometimes.

MS

[MartasBoy]

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.....The downside is that we struggle for time having a young family and both working full time. My question to you all is how do we best overcome this as I'd love to see her happy like this as much as possible?

Every Woman appreciates husband who takes care of the kids so she can do other things. For women in vanilla marriages, it may be just having her husband watch the kids for an evening while she goes out with the girls for drinks. Or taking the kids while she visits with her family, or goes to a movie.

So you can do the same. You can encourage her to make dates late in the evening, after the kids go to bed. You stay home with the kids, and she can go out and play while they sleep. All she needs to do is be back before they wake up in the morning.

If she needs a Saturday or Sunday to play, you take the kids for a day out with daddy. My wife always loved it when I would take the kids for a day out with daddy, to go to the water park, or a trip to the zoo.

As far as the kids knew, Mommy had a quiet day at home to relax and read.

My wife worked at a professional job that occasionally sent her out of town for business trips or professional conferences. I had the kids to myself for a couple of days, whenever she had to go out of town on business. Those could just as easily be times for her to hook up with someone.

[bewareoflizzy]

I was always at home with the kids while she played at her boyfriend's apartment/house usually late at night.

[ferrisandrews]

yeah that's a great question, kids (especially young!) are tough. Even if you take some / all of her chores she's probably still feeling the stress of being a mom, and stress kills desire.

Some things we tried when our kids were young (about 15 years ago+)

• Babysitting service - usually a young, twenty-something (attractive!) girl we hired through a babysitting service. Couldn't tell you now which we used. But every one of the girls that answered our ad was super hot. I would have never done or said anything inappropriate but by the fourth hot babysitter I was starting to wonder if we were on candid camera or something.

• Drop-in or flexible childcare - hourly and last-minute childcare options

• Obviously hiring a niece or nephew should be mentioned since they don't have to know where you're going. We didn't have any family helping us so this wasn't an option.

• Casinos and other places with child play places (basically their own versions of the flexible or drop-in childcare) - we used these for the initial meet and greet where it was already decided there would be no sex involved.

• Obviously the easiest was to stay home with the kids, but she didn't like doing that, especially on a first date with someone.

Barring the above logistics, just getting her into the proper state of mind can be a real challenge. Guys can get themselves into sex mode quicker than the ladies I feel like, especially in our home.

[Johnann2227]

I was always at home with the kids while she played at her boyfriend's apartment/house usually late at night.

We had this set up for years. Tuesday nights she would go out with her boyfriend for dinner and then back to his apartment for a fuck. She always came home before midnight. We told the kids that "Mum is out with teacher friends for their bookclub night". Friday nights though were different as she would sleepover at her boyfriends place. She always took an overnight bag as we had the rule that she always had to be back for our kids' sporting games. Soe weeks she would meet us at the game as by the look and smell of her she had fucked him before speeding to the game. The kids were told that on Friday nights mummy went out dancing with Aunty Jenny, Fiona, Nicole etc and was sleeping over at their house.

This setup worked well for us for at least 10 years. Eventually it fell apart when our adult daughter put 2 and 2 together and decided her mother was cheating on me. We had to fess up that we were swingers and I encouraged my wife to have boyfriends. Eventually, after hours of honest discussion, our kids came to accept our lifestyle and are now fully supportive. They have welcomed my wife's boyfriend James moving in with us.