Sneaking suspicion she’ll start up again…

[parklife]

For those that have been around a while, you may remember my name and my situation. My wife became a hot wife 10 or so years ago and has had three friends-with-benefits. Once before she took a break for about 2 1/2 years and then started her most serious FWB situation that last a couple/few years and after a breakup, she once again has been out of orienting for a little over two years.

In what seems to be a repeat of the first break, now at nearly 2 1/2 years, I get the feeling it’s only a matter of time. Her high school boyfriend has been around a few years and has spent most of them trying to prod her into letting him have her again. He knows she has played in the past and he even had a chance back when we first started this journey but passed. He’s regretted it ever since and has been chasing her. Maybe two months or so ago we had a kid free Friday night and he actually came by after they spent some time chatting. But, while she toyed with the idea, nothing happened. May have been because I was present (she’s never played in front of me). Anyway, long story as short as I can tell it, they’ve recently been texting and as usual it’s turned to him trying to convince her to give him another shot.shes resisted, but playfully and teasingly. They’ve texted about old sex encounters they’ve had, measuring his cock when they were in high school (8”) and other sexual banter.

He knows I’m leaving for three weeks with our kids (a summer dance intensive for three weeks a four hour plane ride away), and if something’s going to happen, it’ll happen then when she’s here by herself and has three weeks on her hands. If nothing happens, then it is just playful teasing. She know he’s hoping for an invitation to come by for drinks.

She hasn’t shared any intentions with me, but I know her well enough to know that she’s at least considering it. I don’t think it would develop into the emotional connection she shared with Jake… too much water under that bridge, but I could see him as an occasional distraction providing a bit of variety.

That or maybe I’m just thinking with the head below my waist and not the one above it…

[coastalkid]

Do you know if they are still texting? Did your wife tell you they were texting?

[parklife]

Oh yes, they next quite a bit…. Not all of it sexual…. They have a friendship (which, is how my wife has preferred to play… with a friend).

She’s always upfront with me and shared some (though not al of their texts). Sometime she’ll just tell m how he’s trying to sext with her, sometimes she shares her phone and tells me to read it. She hasn’t given me her phone to read recently but did tell me about their exchange over measuring his penis.

I can tell when they’re texting… just the way she reacts… I did it adorable in a way.. the flirtatious nature of it. Though, as our girls become older, she’s gotten better at keeping her face/reaction in check so it’s harder to know when they’re texting.

[Pecannut]

So great that the things might heat up a bit for you

[dpodimple]

I recall your story, didn't she go away with the girls, maybe Nashville? Came back and told you over a period of time what really happened? Blonde, tight little body? Would love to see more of her

[parklife]

I recall your story, didn't she go away with the girls, maybe Nashville? Came back and told you over a period of time what really happened? Blonde, tight little body? Would love to see more of her

Nope, that isn’t me… my wife is brunette, some describe as slim thick (small waist, thick hips/ass). She’s had a variety of FWBs over the past 12 years but hasn’t been with anyone in a little over two years after a rough split with her last FWBs that got a bit emotionally attached,

They most recently texted about her toys and he’s asking to see a pic of her dildo. Don’t know if she sent one or not…. She also hasnt told me what her intentions are while I’m gone for those three weeks. That’s not unexpected…. She doesn’t do this just for my sexual thrill and titillation. But I do think she’s setting the stage. (And I have full confidence that she’ll give me a heads up prior to anything actually happening)


He asked her if I know he wants to fuck her and she told him, “of course, I tell my husband everything”

“Does he know you want to fuck me?” He asked.

“Those are your words, not mine. I never said that. I said maybe” she teased…

God I love that woman….

[coastalkid]

I recall your story, didn't she go away with the girls, maybe Nashville? Came back and told you over a period of time what really happened? Blonde, tight little body? Would love to see more of her

Nope, that isn’t me… my wife is brunette, some describe as slim thick (small waist, thick hips/ass). She’s had a variety of FWBs over the past 12 years but hasn’t been with anyone in a little over two years after a rough split with her last FWBs that got a bit emotionally attached,

They most recently texted about her toys and he’s asking to see a pic of her dildo. Don’t know if she sent one or not…. She also hasnt told me what her intentions are while I’m gone for those three weeks. That’s not unexpected…. She doesn’t do this just for my sexual thrill and titillation. But I do think she’s setting the stage. (And I have full confidence that she’ll give me a heads up prior to anything actually happening)


He asked her if I know he wants to fuck her and she told him, “of course, I tell my husband everything”

“Does he know you want to fuck me?” He asked.

“Those are your words, not mine. I never said that. I said maybe” she teased…

God I love that woman….

I get the impression from this post that the phrase "older and wiser" comes to mind (no disrespect intended about the age thing, I'm "older" myself). If it's been more than two years since her last FWB that break up must have had a relevant impact to change her enthusiasm. Clearly she didn't like the way it went down. She's sensitized to what she wants and how she wants it. Now she has more trepidation because she wants to avoid the issues that arose from her last FWB.

It is simple to suggest that she has reached a point where she misses the physicality of the sex. She's missing the sexual high enough to downplay the risks. Do you want her to do it? Do you think she'll ask you what you think?

I am curious as to your part in all this. You said she "doesn’t do this JUST for my sexual thrill and titillation". I can well imagine what she gets out of it. What's your satisfaction and does your wife know what that is? Does she make it seem like your satisfaction is important to her.

You've obviously been together a long while (I know you have posted here since 2014). You didn't get there by marginalizing each other. You've both put in effort to stay together, clearly (well, at least to me).

[venus-can99]

Love the way you describe how she interacts with her new possible fwb/bf …

[parklife]

…

It is simple to suggest that she has reached a point where she misses the physicality of the sex. She's missing the sexual high enough to downplay the risks. Do you want her to do it? Do you think she'll ask you what you think?

I am curious as to your part in all this. You said she "doesn’t do this JUST for my sexual thrill and titillation". I can well imagine what she gets out of it. What's your satisfaction and does your wife know what that is? Does she make it seem like your satisfaction is important to her.

My wife knows my thoughts… that while I want her to, the ball is entirely in her court. She knows she has the freedom to play when the right time, place, guy come along. If she finds it, she can have it. There’s never been any question about that. But, as you mention, her enthusiasm has changed. We know why… I mean, we call them FWB for a reason. They have alll been friends that have morphed into something more… so when they are lost, it impacts more than just a fuck buddy status. She gets her space and frankly, if she never played again, I’d understand.


And look, I’m a simple guy, that for some reason, wants to be chasing my wife, wants to be wanting my wife and wants her to have everything. She knows what makes me tick but at the same time won’t betray her sense of self or her ow integrity to provide for my satisfaction. And that’s how it should be. Yes, my satisfaction is important to her but she doesnt understand it. She takes care of me in so many of the ways I desire. This happens to just be a freedom she can explore at her discretion. She’s knows it but she wouldn’t do it for my satisfaction.

And yes, we’ve spent a lot of time together thy er and it’s important for us and our family. We know where we stand for each other. This is a part of our lives but our priorities remain steadfast.

[FNQLivin]

I always look forward to your updates.

[leggysman]

Me too. And your posts in others' threads, in e.g. Wannabes.

Leggysandy took a break of her own, for a little over a year - although not for the same reasons. Now that she is back into it (with renewed vigour, seems like) I appreciate her hotwifing all the more for having had the experience of missing it.

I hope the stars align, and you two get to resume having a bit of naughty fun of your own. An old flame sounds like a promising avenue, and it does sound like she's amenable.

Good luck!!!

[parklife]

Sunday we were in the yard getting some cleanup done. She non-chalantly mentions: “G wants to fuck me while you’re in Pittsburgh.”

“Really? What do you want!”

“I don’t know, I just don’t find him good looking”

“Is his cock good looking?”

Enter mischievous grin…

Guess that’s my wife’s way of saying something may or may not happen but don’t get my hopes up. But that’s not all…. We’ve had this in the past and I’ve mentioned it before… when it rains, it pours. Like, once she is exuding this energy, the universe responds with opportunity.

Yesterday. We were in the bedroom and I needed a calculator and my phone was upstairs. So I grabbed hers and opened it. I see a name at the top of her text list. It’s one of her old FWBs that she hasn’t seen in 2 1/2 years. Not the bad breakup, but someone that has been off and on over the past 10 years. The one and only truly sex only connection. For those that may remember, we callled him Korea BBQ when she had food names for her FWB so we could talk openly in front of the kids (Picture, “I think I’m having Korean BBQ at lunch tomorrow”…. Kind of hints across the dinner table)

She knew I noticed but I didn’t say a word. I saw her side eye smile and she liked for a reaction I refused to give.

“Oh yeah, Tony texted me today out of the blue. I think we might get together while you’re gone”

“Oh? He knows I’m leaving town?”


“Yeah, I told him. He bought a house 1/2 mile away, across the canyon.”


And that was it…. Just enough to tell me they had texted and already discussed plans to meet later this month. So, I’m fairly certain she’s jumping back in. This likely is bad news for her former high schoool boyfriend. Doesn’t mean it’s a definite no she won’t do anything, but if Tony re-enters the picture, she’ll have someone to focus that sexual energy on that she knows is a fit. They have a certain sexual energy that just works and there has never been the danger of falling too deep into an emotional connection. That’s why he’s stuck around so long…. They drift in and out of each others’ sexual lives with no one expecting-wanting much more. They’re friends… they’ve done lunch together or gotten drinks, but it’s just a friendship with occasional play involved. She’s always described their time as “fun”, and he’s open to exploring different things with her and she with him. (I.e. - he likes to edge her since she only has one orgasm. If I edge her she goes past the pint of return and just misses out on an orgasm…. He enjoys his cock and balls tied with rope, so she’s played with that…. He likes to alternate fucking her pussy with fucking her mouth; something no other partner has done as she doesn’t like idea of tasting her own pussy juice)

If Tony is back in the picture, it likely means occasional play.. they’ve never had a truly consistent thing and could get together every week for two then not see each for four months. That carry’s its own type of agony for me but if she’s open to play, I’m not complaining.

And having two FWBs isn’t out of the question as she’s done that in the past. So I’m not saying G (her HS boyfriend) is completely out, but he’s definitely at a disadvantage. He’s got the 8” cock going for him, and while she’s definitely into larger cocks, it isn’t the most important thing to her.

[parklife]

Now that she is back into it (with renewed vigour, seems like) I appreciate her hotwifing all the more for having had the experience of missing it.

Having already dealt with a nearly three year break once before, I totally understand what you’re saying. She these breaks occur, I rarely come here to share anything and often feel awkward as if I’m some kind of rebound wannabe by the feel bad even talking about it because so many here would love to have had the experience even once let alone have it, lose it and complain about missing it.

My wife is 100% in control of her body and makes the decision about when and who she shares it with (me included). Someday she’ll likely just stop and for no other reason than she just done with the extra curricular fun. I never know when that will be and each break she’s been on (and frankly until something actually happens, she’s still ona break) she says she’s done and doesn’t want it anymore. I’ve always said “ok, but don’t ever say never and just know it’s always an option.” Thankfully, she’s game and while telling me to not expect it, she acknowledges it could happen.

[54321]

Roll on Pittsburgh! A girl needs variety. Both would be a good option.

54321

[coastalkid]

If you had a Magic 8-Ball it would read, "The Chances Are Likely"!