Our Hotwives

For those that have been around a while, you may remember my name and my situation. My wife became a hot wife 10 or so years ago and has had three friends-with-benefits. Once before she took a break for about 2 1/2 years and then started her most serious FWB situation that last a couple/few years and after a breakup, she once again has been out of orienting for a little over two years.

In what seems to be a repeat of the first break, now at nearly 2 1/2 years, I get the feeling it’s only a matter of time. Her high school boyfriend has been around a few years and has spent most of them trying to prod her into letting him have her again. He knows she has played in the past and he even had a chance back when we first started this journey but passed. He’s regretted it ever since and has been chasing her. Maybe two months or so ago we had a kid free Friday night and he actually came by after they spent some time chatting. But, while she toyed with the idea, nothing happened. May have been because I was present (she’s never played in front of me). Anyway, long story as short as I can tell it, they’ve recently been texting and as usual it’s turned to him trying to convince her to give him another shot.shes resisted, but playfully and teasingly. They’ve texted about old sex encounters they’ve had, measuring his cock when they were in high school (8”) and other sexual banter.

He knows I’m leaving for three weeks with our kids (a summer dance intensive for three weeks a four hour plane ride away), and if something’s going to happen, it’ll happen then when she’s here by herself and has three weeks on her hands. If nothing happens, then it is just playful teasing. She know he’s hoping for an invitation to come by for drinks.

She hasn’t shared any intentions with me, but I know her well enough to know that she’s at least considering it. I don’t think it would develop into the emotional connection she shared with Jake… too much water under that bridge, but I could see him as an occasional distraction providing a bit of variety.

That or maybe I’m just thinking with the head below my waist and not the one above it…

Do you know if they are still texting? Did your wife tell you they were texting?

Oh yes, they next quite a bit…. Not all of it sexual…. They have a friendship (which, is how my wife has preferred to play… with a friend).

She’s always upfront with me and shared some (though not al of their texts). Sometime she’ll just tell m how he’s trying to sext with her, sometimes she shares her phone and tells me to read it. She hasn’t given me her phone to read recently but did tell me about their exchange over measuring his penis.

I can tell when they’re texting… just the way she reacts… I did it adorable in a way.. the flirtatious nature of it. Though, as our girls become older, she’s gotten better at keeping her face/reaction in check so it’s harder to know when they’re texting.

So great that the things might heat up a bit for you

I recall your story, didn't she go away with the girls, maybe Nashville? Came back and told you over a period of time what really happened? Blonde, tight little body? Would love to see more of her

dpodimple wrote: ↑

Sat May 31, 2025 6:10 am

I recall your story, didn't she go away with the girls, maybe Nashville? Came back and told you over a period of time what really happened? Blonde, tight little body? Would love to see more of her

Nope, that isn’t me… my wife is brunette, some describe as slim thick (small waist, thick hips/ass). She’s had a variety of FWBs over the past 12 years but hasn’t been with anyone in a little over two years after a rough split with her last FWBs that got a bit emotionally attached,

They most recently texted about her toys and he’s asking to see a pic of her dildo. Don’t know if she sent one or not…. She also hasnt told me what her intentions are while I’m gone for those three weeks. That’s not unexpected…. She doesn’t do this just for my sexual thrill and titillation. But I do think she’s setting the stage. (And I have full confidence that she’ll give me a heads up prior to anything actually happening)


He asked her if I know he wants to fuck her and she told him, “of course, I tell my husband everything”

“Does he know you want to fuck me?” He asked.

“Those are your words, not mine. I never said that. I said maybe” she teased…

God I love that woman….

parklife wrote: ↑

Sun Jun 01, 2025 5:34 am

dpodimple wrote: ↑

Sat May 31, 2025 6:10 am

I recall your story, didn't she go away with the girls, maybe Nashville? Came back and told you over a period of time what really happened? Blonde, tight little body? Would love to see more of her

Nope, that isn’t me… my wife is brunette, some describe as slim thick (small waist, thick hips/ass). She’s had a variety of FWBs over the past 12 years but hasn’t been with anyone in a little over two years after a rough split with her last FWBs that got a bit emotionally attached,

They most recently texted about her toys and he’s asking to see a pic of her dildo. Don’t know if she sent one or not…. She also hasnt told me what her intentions are while I’m gone for those three weeks. That’s not unexpected…. She doesn’t do this just for my sexual thrill and titillation. But I do think she’s setting the stage. (And I have full confidence that she’ll give me a heads up prior to anything actually happening)


He asked her if I know he wants to fuck her and she told him, “of course, I tell my husband everything”

“Does he know you want to fuck me?” He asked.

“Those are your words, not mine. I never said that. I said maybe” she teased…

God I love that woman….

I get the impression from this post that the phrase "older and wiser" comes to mind (no disrespect intended about the age thing, I'm "older" myself). If it's been more than two years since her last FWB that break up must have had a relevant impact to change her enthusiasm. Clearly she didn't like the way it went down. She's sensitized to what she wants and how she wants it. Now she has more trepidation because she wants to avoid the issues that arose from her last FWB.

It is simple to suggest that she has reached a point where she misses the physicality of the sex. She's missing the sexual high enough to downplay the risks. Do you want her to do it? Do you think she'll ask you what you think?

I am curious as to your part in all this. You said she "doesn’t do this JUST for my sexual thrill and titillation". I can well imagine what she gets out of it. What's your satisfaction and does your wife know what that is? Does she make it seem like your satisfaction is important to her.

You've obviously been together a long while (I know you have posted here since 2014). You didn't get there by marginalizing each other. You've both put in effort to stay together, clearly (well, at least to me).

Love the way you describe how she interacts with her new possible fwb/bf …

coastalkid wrote: ↑

Sun Jun 01, 2025 1:01 pm

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It is simple to suggest that she has reached a point where she misses the physicality of the sex. She's missing the sexual high enough to downplay the risks. Do you want her to do it? Do you think she'll ask you what you think?

I am curious as to your part in all this. You said she "doesn’t do this JUST for my sexual thrill and titillation". I can well imagine what she gets out of it. What's your satisfaction and does your wife know what that is? Does she make it seem like your satisfaction is important to her.

My wife knows my thoughts… that while I want her to, the ball is entirely in her court. She knows she has the freedom to play when the right time, place, guy come along. If she finds it, she can have it. There’s never been any question about that. But, as you mention, her enthusiasm has changed. We know why… I mean, we call them FWB for a reason. They have alll been friends that have morphed into something more… so when they are lost, it impacts more than just a fuck buddy status. She gets her space and frankly, if she never played again, I’d understand.


And look, I’m a simple guy, that for some reason, wants to be chasing my wife, wants to be wanting my wife and wants her to have everything. She knows what makes me tick but at the same time won’t betray her sense of self or her ow integrity to provide for my satisfaction. And that’s how it should be. Yes, my satisfaction is important to her but she doesnt understand it. She takes care of me in so many of the ways I desire. This happens to just be a freedom she can explore at her discretion. She’s knows it but she wouldn’t do it for my satisfaction.

And yes, we’ve spent a lot of time together thy er and it’s important for us and our family. We know where we stand for each other. This is a part of our lives but our priorities remain steadfast.

I always look forward to your updates.

Me too. And your posts in others' threads, in e.g. Wannabes.

Leggysandy took a break of her own, for a little over a year - although not for the same reasons. Now that she is back into it (with renewed vigour, seems like) I appreciate her hotwifing all the more for having had the experience of missing it.

I hope the stars align, and you two get to resume having a bit of naughty fun of your own. An old flame sounds like a promising avenue, and it does sound like she's amenable.

Good luck!!!

Sunday we were in the yard getting some cleanup done. She non-chalantly mentions: “G wants to fuck me while you’re in Pittsburgh.”

“Really? What do you want!”

“I don’t know, I just don’t find him good looking”

“Is his cock good looking?”

Enter mischievous grin…

Guess that’s my wife’s way of saying something may or may not happen but don’t get my hopes up. But that’s not all…. We’ve had this in the past and I’ve mentioned it before… when it rains, it pours. Like, once she is exuding this energy, the universe responds with opportunity.

Yesterday. We were in the bedroom and I needed a calculator and my phone was upstairs. So I grabbed hers and opened it. I see a name at the top of her text list. It’s one of her old FWBs that she hasn’t seen in 2 1/2 years. Not the bad breakup, but someone that has been off and on over the past 10 years. The one and only truly sex only connection. For those that may remember, we callled him Korea BBQ when she had food names for her FWB so we could talk openly in front of the kids (Picture, “I think I’m having Korean BBQ at lunch tomorrow”…. Kind of hints across the dinner table)

She knew I noticed but I didn’t say a word. I saw her side eye smile and she liked for a reaction I refused to give.

“Oh yeah, Tony texted me today out of the blue. I think we might get together while you’re gone”

“Oh? He knows I’m leaving town?”


“Yeah, I told him. He bought a house 1/2 mile away, across the canyon.”


And that was it…. Just enough to tell me they had texted and already discussed plans to meet later this month. So, I’m fairly certain she’s jumping back in. This likely is bad news for her former high schoool boyfriend. Doesn’t mean it’s a definite no she won’t do anything, but if Tony re-enters the picture, she’ll have someone to focus that sexual energy on that she knows is a fit. They have a certain sexual energy that just works and there has never been the danger of falling too deep into an emotional connection. That’s why he’s stuck around so long…. They drift in and out of each others’ sexual lives with no one expecting-wanting much more. They’re friends… they’ve done lunch together or gotten drinks, but it’s just a friendship with occasional play involved. She’s always described their time as “fun”, and he’s open to exploring different things with her and she with him. (I.e. - he likes to edge her since she only has one orgasm. If I edge her she goes past the pint of return and just misses out on an orgasm…. He enjoys his cock and balls tied with rope, so she’s played with that…. He likes to alternate fucking her pussy with fucking her mouth; something no other partner has done as she doesn’t like idea of tasting her own pussy juice)

If Tony is back in the picture, it likely means occasional play.. they’ve never had a truly consistent thing and could get together every week for two then not see each for four months. That carry’s its own type of agony for me but if she’s open to play, I’m not complaining.

And having two FWBs isn’t out of the question as she’s done that in the past. So I’m not saying G (her HS boyfriend) is completely out, but he’s definitely at a disadvantage. He’s got the 8” cock going for him, and while she’s definitely into larger cocks, it isn’t the most important thing to her.

leggysman wrote: ↑

Tue Jun 03, 2025 12:46 am

Now that she is back into it (with renewed vigour, seems like) I appreciate her hotwifing all the more for having had the experience of missing it.

Having already dealt with a nearly three year break once before, I totally understand what you’re saying. She these breaks occur, I rarely come here to share anything and often feel awkward as if I’m some kind of rebound wannabe by the feel bad even talking about it because so many here would love to have had the experience even once let alone have it, lose it and complain about missing it.

My wife is 100% in control of her body and makes the decision about when and who she shares it with (me included). Someday she’ll likely just stop and for no other reason than she just done with the extra curricular fun. I never know when that will be and each break she’s been on (and frankly until something actually happens, she’s still ona break) she says she’s done and doesn’t want it anymore. I’ve always said “ok, but don’t ever say never and just know it’s always an option.” Thankfully, she’s game and while telling me to not expect it, she acknowledges it could happen.

Roll on Pittsburgh! A girl needs variety. Both would be a good option.

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If you had a Magic 8-Ball it would read, "The Chances Are Likely"!

It’s a week before our trip and my wife will be be alone for three weeks before meeting up with us in Florida for a family birthday.

I’ve heard nothing more about Tony. And that’s pretty standard. He knows when we leave, they implied getting together and I’m sure once I’m gone, she’ll text during one of those lonely nights. She thinks he may have split from his partner since they last played but isn’t sure. He mentioned “we bought a house” when they texted, so who knows about his availability. They both work in outside sales, so while the lights may stay lonely, it doesn’t mean they won’t have ample daytime hours to re-acquaint themselves.

Because I do worry she’ll sit at home doom scrolling the internet or binge watch dumb tv while we’re gone I put together a three week calendar of things while we’re gone. Every day, 7-days a week, I’ve listed something she could do and then listed a reminder of all the friends she could reach out to to do something with. Like lost two income parent families, it’s easy to get side tracked with activities and life and allow friendships to drift for weeks/months before being to get together. So, I wanted to make sure she is reminded that we do have a lot of friends and anytime she gets lonely in this big house, there’s something to do and someone to do it with.

Anyway, I have her the list (yes, I slid both G and Tony on the friends to call list) and she looked it over. Comedy nights, bar trivia nights, concerts, other activities…. One or two options for every night. Obviously, she’s no t going to do them all, but I just wanted her to see that there are things to do when you’ve got no kids or family commmitments. She perused the list and said, “Oh, I think G is going to this music festival.” She immediately sent him a text and he replied “yes, that’s the plan to hang out with friends.” She essentially invited herself to join them explaining that’s when we’re gone and she’s looking for things to do. She told me he asked if kissing would be involved and I suggested she tease him by saying “depends on how cute your friends are.” But, she didn’t want to say that. I have no idea what she may have replied, but sounds like she’s got that planned for a full day Saturday. It’s one of those music festivals in a park in the city we live in so she can easily uber there and spend the day eating, drinking and listening to live bands.

We’ll see how the rest of her calendar shakes out…

I asked my wife if I should buy her ticket to the music festival. She asked me to hold off until she confirmed being able to meet up with G and his friends before because she didn’t want to have to go to the festival and wander around by herself trying to track them down. So she texts him
About meeting up before the show. He responds “fuck before the show!” She plays it off with an “I didn’t say that.” Turns out he read it as hook up before the show, not meet up. Regardless, it was the opening he was looking for and their talk turned sexual…. ‘If’ anything happens, could he do this or that with her responses short and to the point. At one point his phone autocorrected ‘good’ to goofy when asking how she remembered the sex between them. He saw it and said, “I guess it could have been goofy” and she replied that it wasn’t goofy. He asked what it was and she said she remembered it being good.

He may be a little too eager, which I know she’s not a big fan of, but things are definitely headed in the right direction. He keeps bringing up a threesome and she keeps telling him
She has zero interest in a threesome. He keeps bringing up sex with another girl and whether or not she and her best friend from high school hooked up and she has repeatedly told him no they never did and all they did was as kiss. He’s going down the same rabbit hole with these topics he’s done before and it’s after this that she just stops responding or excuses herself to go do something else.

I feel for the guy… this has happened in the last. He just can’t seem to get out of his own way. I still think something is bound to happen but he’s not doing himself any favors and his focus becomes a big turn off. If he pushes that conversation in person, I’m sure she’ll have no issues just walking away. Crazy how bad people can be be at reading the room….

So it’s been a long slow simmer rather than a full blown boil over this second half of 2025…. I went away to Pittsburgh for those three weeks with my daughters and my wife was home alone and…. Nothing. Not that there wasn’t possibilities. At one point she did ask G to come over for sex, but he happened to be out of town. She barely texted with him those three weeks but has kept up texting the last few months. Tony fizzles out before anything was even relit and I suspect he’s out for good at this point. Neither of them bothering to be the one to push things forward, the smolder eventually burns out.

But G is like a court jester, always there’s for entertainment and seemingly oblivious to the world around him. We took our daughters to see Morrissey at a venue not far away and he happened to be in the law area two rows behind us with a couple of friends. My wife went and talked to him for. About, my daughters too. I didn’t, but did say hello at one point and things have always been cordial between us.

Later, when n September, my wife’s father unexpectedly passed (massive heart attack that suprised eve his doctor). He was like a second father to G during their high school years so of course I said I was fine with it when she told me G was coming to the funeral as well as the gathering at her family home afterwards. I watched as he stepped thru the house clearly reminiscing and reeebrbthat gone back when he was a mid to late teen. I gave both him and her space as they both navigated such an emotional loss. He had lost his own father just a year earlier, so it was something he could relate to that I could not. My wife has told how much she appreciates having someone still in her life that meant so much to her from when she was younger.

She still insists nothing will happen despite the fact that she invited him over while I was gone. That seems to be the current pattern…. “It’s never going to happen again” until she feels like she wants it to happen and the timing just hasn’t clicked in those moments yet.

A couple of days before thanksgiving, as is our usual morning routine, I got a text at 7am “Morgen”, from my wife a floor below me. I got her coffee and brand it down to bed where enjoyed a cup together as she woke up. She didn’t have pants on, having lost them after Geri gout of bed to go to the restroom after waking. My hand touched her thigh and she asked if I wanted to have sex. It had been almost three weeks as things have been stressful and she was just getting over a bout of the flu the previous week. I expressed a desire to go down on her and she suggested I lock the door (as if our two teenage daughters would ever be in danger n the 7:00 hour during thanksgiving break from school). As I got down between her legs I mentioned how wet she was.. she feigned surprise. I loved it. I devoured her… teasing her clit like she enjoys, lapping at her wetness and moaning into her body. Normally, she’d ask me to get the big dick (the oversized dildo she loves inside of her while I lick her clot) but in that moment, no mention of it. Oh but was she verbal…. Expressing a desire to fuck a big cock, but then a new twist, something long, but not thick… how she just wants to feel it deep inside her. She quickly came to orgasm and as she’s one and done, I soon stopped licking and digging at her hole trying to tongue the last remnants of her orgasm.

“Are you going to fuck me” she asked. In some sense it was the last thing I wanted to do in that moment but I also know it means a lot to her to feel like she’s given me something pleasure as well. So, I pulled down my pajama bottoms, entered her and…. after three slow strokes with her whispering I my ear she wanted to fuck a big cock, I exploded. I literaly lasted 15 seconds before I lost it. She didn’t mind (she had had her orgasm already) but I slumped into her body crushed and yearning to feel the arousal I had lost in an instant.

My drop was sudden, my mood internally shifted and soon we were back to having coffee in bed. It was days later on thanksgiving morning that she asked me to look for something on her phone. I don’t recall what but I do vividly remember seeing her text with G that started at 6:30am that same morning we had sex. They spoke of sex, remembering a specific gem when they were teenagers, of what would happen if they were together…

“You should just stick it in me” my wife said at one point.

“You’d like that wouldn’t you,” he teased in reply.

“I just wonder if it’s the same as I remember it”

“Would you suck my dick”

“IDK, maybe”

“Fuck that pretty pussy?”

“Yes, but you have to wear a condom”

“But I want cum on your tits”

“You can pull out and take it off”

“Your face?”

“No, but you can cum all over my breasts”

“Go down on your ass?”

“I don’t know. Not the first time, but maybe later”

“I’ve been there before”

“Oh I know how much you like it”

They went on and it was clear he was in the bathroom of his house jerking off. He asked about the last time she played with herself and she explained she’d been sick for over a week. He suggested she start and she said, “I’ll just fuck my husband”. It was shortly after that when she said her good morning. So clearly, no wonder why she was so wet first thing in the morning. It was also evident that she we were done and Latin next to each other having our coffee she continued their texts.

“I just got laid” she proudly texted back.

“I hope you didn’t scream my name,” he teased.

“I didn’t but I came hard”

“I’ll take credit for some of that” he proudly exclaimed.

“Did you jerk off”

“No, but I’m so fucking hard”

Not sure how I was so clueless to their exchange as I was literally laying next to her… maybe I drifted back to sleep.

Anyway, as I read, my eyes opened to what really had occurred. I don’t make a habit of reading my wife’s phone but she had asked me to look at it and her texts were open. She still doesn’t know that I’m aware of why she became somhorny that morning and that m more than happy to let her keeep her little secret. But as I sit back and think of that morning delight, I remember her comments about cumming on a long cock that wasn’t thick and also know that’s how she’s always described his cock… on the longer side but thin. She used to say she liked girth which was why I was so surprised when she talked about length and specifically called out not being thick right before she came. There are very few times that I know, without a doubt that my wife’s mind has been on someone else while she’s been with me but this was one of those moments. There’s no doubt I was the one physically giving her an orgasm but someone else was the one pulling her over the edge in her mind.

God I fucking love this woman.