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My early experiences with being a cuckold — in h.s. and college — were very hard for me. I’d cry myself to sleep but I was also incredibly turned on. There were a lot of moments that were purely humiliating, even though my girlfriends weren't intending to be mean. For instance, there was the time the love of my life went to Chicago with her boyfriend for the weekend and brought me back a t-shirt. It really hurt, but I still loved her and accepted it. I’m 68 now and over the years learned that I crave the humiliation that, to me, comes with being cuckolded. How is it for other cuckolds?

I hate the C-word because the definition includes 'unwittingly' and/or 'unfaithful.'

The male counterpart of a hotwife is not a cuck. Its a husband. Living an unconventional lifestyle for sure, but not a cuck.

The female counterpart of a cuck is an adulteress.

BrunetteLover wrote: ↑

Fri Oct 03, 2025 7:49 am

I hate the C-word because the definition includes 'unwittingly' and/or 'unfaithful.'

The male counterpart of a hotwife is not a cuck. Its a husband. Living an unconventional lifestyle for sure, but not a cuck.

The female counterpart of a cuck is an adulteress.

Everyone has their own definitions.

I find it both humiliating and exciting. At times there is embarrassment but, overall, exciting.

JaesCuck wrote: ↑

Fri Oct 03, 2025 9:31 am

I find it both humiliating and exciting. At times there is embarrassment but, overall, exciting.

I agree. The looks of pity I get sometimes from other people who see Ann getting picked up by a guy in a bar while I am standing there can be embarrassing. But to see the look on there faces I can practically read their minds. Sometimes it is "God, look at that slut!"
Or "Didn't she arrive with the guy standing next to her but now she is kissing this other guy?"
Or "OMG she isn't wearing panties".

Now that Ann is open about James being her second husband she is out in the open with PDAs. Standing there talking to people we know and she is holding hands with James is still a bit embarrassing but also extremely erotic and exciting.

My wife had me come over one evening to our neighbors home. I had no idea there were several of her friends there who all wanted to see my panties and cock cage. When I arrived I had to stand in the middle drop my Levi’s revealing my boack panties. It didn’t take long before I had to drop my panties revealing my penis cage.

Several said they had never seen such a small penis. One of the women said she wished she could lock up her husband.

I was completely embarrassed humiliated especially when they told my wife we understand why you have a lover.

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There is a whole forum on OHW dedicated to this kind of topic. Not this forum, mind you

There’s no humiliation in it for us and I’m proud to have a sexy wife.

No humiliation in it for me, I have told people I went to college with, graduate school, even at my current job.

The word "cuckold" has a negative connotation. Somewhat similar to "pussy whipped".

But, on this forum, there are husbands who enjoy hearing about, or seeing, their wife "in action" sexually while he watches. One of the sights I most enjoy is getting up close, but not so close as to be intrusive, and watch an fb's cock slowly penetrate her, watch it go in and (almost) out of her pussy, then watching him cum deep inside her. Yet, for my wife and I, her being a hotwife has always been a shared experience, no cheating, no humiliation, always respectful, and always a shared experience. So, like most husbands on this forum, I don't regard myself as a "cuckold" in the traditional sense of the word. If the word is intended to mean a husband who enjoys the shared experience, then I suppose I am.

Honestly I would would be out the door and never look back if my wife used the hotwifing game to humiliate me. I wasn't raised to be anyone's doormat. Women do have certain advantages over men when it comes to sexual supply and demand; hence, prostitution being the proverbial "world's oldest profession." But men have their own powers too, and one is the power to stand up for yourself. And in saying this, I do get it that masochistic feelings can be libidinized, so for those of you guys who get off on it I'm not judging you as less of a man. However, the whole humiliated husband thing is alien to my sensibilities. The only way it works for me is to feel myself occupying the primary position in her life and my feelings about what she does of primary concern to her, such that she would never want to make me feel the least bit disrespected over this "add on" we play out as a couple to enhance our already rich sex life with each other.

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My wife didn't like the word "humiliation."
"That is something done against your will, and that isn't how we experience our lifestyle," she said. It's the last thing I'd do to you," she explained.

But she almost always loved for me to watch her, and she did her best to arouse me.
How should we describe this?
After much discussion, we agreed that "sexual" or "erotic" humiliation was very close to what we had in mind.

Parsifal wrote: ↑

Sat Oct 18, 2025 8:12 am

Honestly I would would be out the door and never look back if my wife used the hotwifing game to humiliate me. I wasn't raised to be anyone's doormat. Women do have certain advantages over men when it comes to sexual supply and demand; hence, prostitution being the proverbial "world's oldest profession." But men have their own powers too, and one is the power to stand up for yourself. And in saying this, I do get it that masochistic feelings can be libidinized, so for those of you guys who get off on it I'm not judging you as less of a man. However, the whole humiliated husband thing is alien to my sensibilities. The only way it works for me is to feel myself occupying the primary position in her life and my feelings about what she does of primary concern to her, such that she would never want to make me feel the least bit disrespected over this "add on" we play out as a couple to enhance our already rich sex life with each other.

Well said, and I agree with you.
While Farmgirl and I dabble in a little bit of cuckold play (privately), she would Never consider humiliating me, nor would I be able to stand it. Playing and joking about it privately is one thing, and can be erotic, but a more "real" type is a no-go.
All of her guys have and do treat me wth a great deal of respect, like a reverent fear.

Her number1 wrote: ↑

Sat Oct 25, 2025 5:36 pm

Parsifal wrote: ↑

Sat Oct 18, 2025 8:12 am

Honestly I would would be out the door and never look back if my wife used the hotwifing game to humiliate me. I wasn't raised to be anyone's doormat. Women do have certain advantages over men when it comes to sexual supply and demand; hence, prostitution being the proverbial "world's oldest profession." But men have their own powers too, and one is the power to stand up for yourself. And in saying this, I do get it that masochistic feelings can be libidinized, so for those of you guys who get off on it I'm not judging you as less of a man. However, the whole humiliated husband thing is alien to my sensibilities. The only way it works for me is to feel myself occupying the primary position in her life and my feelings about what she does of primary concern to her, such that she would never want to make me feel the least bit disrespected over this "add on" we play out as a couple to enhance our already rich sex life with each other.

Well said, and I agree with you.
While Farmgirl and I dabble in a little bit of cuckold play (privately), she would Never consider humiliating me, nor would I be able to stand it. Playing and joking about it privately is one thing, and can be erotic, but a more "real" type is a no-go.
All of her guys have and do treat me wth a great deal of respect, like a reverent fear.

I come at some of these issues precisely with your approach in mind. The "Her No. 1" moniker is so meaningful.

We dont' find the work cuckold disrespectful to me, it's just what I am. For eight years now I've watched/cleaned and wouldn't have it ANY OTHER WAY.

It is humiliating to see her make out with another man and enjoy herself in front of me, especially at the club. The humiliation isn’t embarrassment but rather a sense of losing control in those moments. I know I’m not the only one for her sexually; she enjoys a lot of different men, so what we have exclusively is purely emotional. That said, I am also free to play separately but rarely do. It’s really all about her and her pleasure, with mine derived from hers.

It is humiliating to see her make out with another man and enjoy herself in front of me, especially at the club. The humiliation isn’t embarrassment but rather a sense of losing control in those moments. I know I’m not the only one for her sexually; she enjoys a lot of different men, so what we have exclusively is purely emotional. That said, I am also free to play separately but rarely do. It’s really all about her and her pleasure, with mine derived from hers.

It is humiliating to see her make out with another man and enjoy herself in front of me, especially at the club. The humiliation isn’t embarrassment but rather a sense of losing control in those moments. I know I’m not the only one for her sexually; she enjoys a lot of different men, so what we have exclusively is purely emotional. That said, I am also free to play separately but rarely do. It’s really all about her and her pleasure, with mine derived from hers.

I've only been cuckolded once, and that was by my best friend. So I knew that's where it's stay. It went on for almost 2 years and never got too far into cuckolding. The rest were all sharing with a veneer of her cheating.

There is a bit of a humiliation factor for me in our relationship. It is not anything that my wife subscribes to but that I enjoy. First off, I would never allow any other man dominate me in any way. I'd tear him to pieces if he tried. I like the humiliation in front of my wife or other women that I am familiar with. For instance, I like the thought knowing my MIL knows about her daughters flings and long term BF's. But she is not nearby so, I can't truly experience it. But, what I do know is, that my wife has callers stop by our house when I'm at work. There are (or was until very recently) 3 different guys that would come right to our house during the day for a fuck. The neighbor across the street is a stay at home mom and I know, watches what goes on here with great interest. She also happens to be kinda cute.
The first time my wife had a strange truck parked in the driveway, she called my wife to see if she was alright. My wife told her yes it was a friend visiting. Obviously, she knew what was going on.
One other time, she took a photo of one of the guys standing at our door waiting to be let in and sent it to my wife with a smiley emoji attached.
Honestly, my wife doesn't care that the neighbors see this going on but also doesn't like them to "get in her business" So she texted her back to tell her to stay out of her business.
I'd like to step up this humiliation with the neighbor a bit but we don't really communicate in anyway other than the passing "hi" when we see each other outside.

I like watching my girl with a more capable male. She has one stud that services her on a regular basis (and she him). In addition to the humiliation of having your g/f get naked with someone else, there is some light humiliation just because she can be direct and sometimes say things that are not put as delicate as others might say them. I have come to enjoy this too as part of the kink. But mostly I love watching her when she sees fit to let me. I enjoy her beautiful body in action, her confidence and ability to assert herself with Dave in front of me without inhibition. She clearly wants to do her very best for him in order to keep him coming back. It's amazing every time.

Geev wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 02, 2025 7:17 am

I like watching my girl with a more capable male. She has one stud that services her on a regular basis (and she him). In addition to the humiliation of having your g/f get naked with someone else, there is some light humiliation just because she can be direct and sometimes say things that are not put as delicate as others might say them. I have come to enjoy this too as part of the kink. But mostly I love watching her when she sees fit to let me. I enjoy her beautiful body in action, her confidence and ability to assert herself with Dave in front of me without inhibition. She clearly wants to do her very best for him in order to keep him coming back. It's amazing every time.

Ditto here.

I personally enjoy seeing my wife ecstatically pleasured by a gifted lover, but I don't identify as a "cuckold" or find her activities or degree of pleasure humiliating. Witnessing her cum wildly or saying remarks about how much pleasure he is giving her may invoke a small sense of humiliation, but my pleasure in those moments comes from witnessing the beauty of her pleasure and not pleasure from humiliation itself.

I suspect this poll would get more response if posted in the Cuckold forum.

Greg_N_Shelley wrote: ↑

Tue Nov 04, 2025 9:54 am

Geev wrote: ↑

Sun Nov 02, 2025 7:17 am

I like watching my girl with a more capable male. She has one stud that services her on a regular basis (and she him). In addition to the humiliation of having your g/f get naked with someone else, there is some light humiliation just because she can be direct and sometimes say things that are not put as delicate as others might say them. I have come to enjoy this too as part of the kink. But mostly I love watching her when she sees fit to let me. I enjoy her beautiful body in action, her confidence and ability to assert herself with Dave in front of me without inhibition. She clearly wants to do her very best for him in order to keep him coming back. It's amazing every time.

Ditto here.

I personally enjoy seeing my wife ecstatically pleasured by a gifted lover, but I don't identify as a "cuckold" or find her activities or degree of pleasure humiliating. Witnessing her cum wildly or saying remarks about how much pleasure he is giving her may invoke a small sense of humiliation, but my pleasure in those moments comes from witnessing the beauty of her pleasure and not pleasure from humiliation itself.

I suspect this poll would get more response if posted in the Cuckold forum.

Understand what you're saying completely. I don't identify as a cuck either although at the same time having your exclusive gf or wife get busy with another guy does technically meet the definition. You may be more poly though if it's just a natural expression of lust for her that happens to be outside of the marriage. For me I do feel some of the shame of it because society says it's bad, but it is not a problem, and I do enjoy it. And also like you, the bigger enjoyment for me comes from watching her amazing body, and facial expressions and bedroom skills in action with a more capable partner, not on the "cuck factor" I guess you could call it. In any case no judgement here whatsoever.